(Part 4) Best products from r/seduction
We found 37 comments on r/seduction discussing the most recommended products. We ran sentiment analysis on each of these comments to determine how redditors feel about different products. We found 355 products and ranked them based on the amount of positive reactions they received. Here are the products ranked 61-80. You can also go back to the previous section.
61. You Are Not Your Brain: The 4-Step Solution for Changing Bad Habits, Ending Unhealthy Thinking, and Taking Control of Your Life
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64. What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People
66. 10 Simple Solutions for Building Self-Esteem: How to End Self-Doubt, Gain Confidence, & Create a Positive Self-Image (The New Harbinger Ten Simple Solutions Series)
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67. No More Mr. Nice Guy
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69. The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right
THE RULES, BOOK
70. Tranquil Mind: An Introduction to Buddhism & Meditation
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72. Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion
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76. NLP: The New Technology of Achievement
NLP: The New Technology of Achievement
77. The Art of Seduction
Every bit as essential as The 48 Laws of Power, The Art of Seduction is an indispensable primer of persuasion that reveals one of history's greatest weapons and the ultimate form of power.
>I have decided that there is no use just being on the sideline and complaining about all the 'Chads' get the girls so easily.
Fuck ya. The "chads" are guys like you who just decide to take action and responsibility.
Based on how you described yourself, I already have a bunch of advice I could give you for general development. I'll finish with that but address some of your specifics first.
>Bystanders might think that I am a creep, and call the police on me. Even if they don't call the police, they might still judge me for my actions.
If you approach women in a dangerous, manipulative, or frightening way, sure. I'd happily call the police if I were witnessing a girl being sexually assaulted. Fortunately for you, this doesn't sound like your goal. If what you want to learn is how to boldly and honestly meet interesting women, nobody is going to call the police or label you a creep. Their judgments mean nothing, and once you get good at this, their judgments are usually formed out of respect or jealousy more than anything else.
>Her boyfriend might show up, and beat me up in rage.
If you simply introduce yourself to a girl and honestly express your interest, her boyfriend would have to be a fucking agro psychopath to beat you up over that. People say "hello" to other people all the time and it usually doesn't end in a fistfight unless you're hitting on some frat bro's girlfriend in the middle of his house during a kegstand.
>She might make fun of me, and she just so happens to be friends with people that I know.
I understand where you're coming from, but this is nonsense. Once again, especially once you get good at this, being able to boldly and honestly approach women will get you more respect than anything. This only tarnishes your reputation if you try to hurt people or manipulate them. Even when you start out and don't have a fucking clue what you're doing, the worst that will happen is some girl will think for maybe a few minutes about how you approached her, then forget about it and go on with her day. You still come out with a victory, because you'll be practicing and learning, and ultimately the "loss" doesn't mean anything at all.
>She might not reject me, and I wouldn't know what to do when that happens.
A great concern to have and this is the most fun to work on. We'll get there.
To summarize why you shouldn't have these worries: virtually all of the negative consequences are either wildly unrealistic or entirely imaginary. This understanding will be solidified through experience. On to point 2.
>There is a lot of debate of whether looks matter or not
There's not. They do matter, but some debate how much and in what capacity.
>This nose is the biggest thing that brings my confidence down.
I won't lie man, that really sucks. The thing is, and this translates to all manner of things, you shouldn't worry about it for another moment if you can't change it (until you get the surgery). Until you can do something about it, you should only be focusing on the rest of your appearance in regards to what you can control. Your worries about your mouth and eye symmetry are a bit silly. Trust me, they don't mean as much as you think. Like I said, you can't do anything about it, so it's time to stop worrying about it.
>What can I do to improve my looks?
Lucky for you, us guys have it much easier than girls. Your foundation will be good exercise/diet to get your body in order, a wardrobe of stylish and most importantly well-fitting clothing, and good hygiene/personal care (i.e. good haircut, clean body, etc). There are entire posts on all of these subjects and we can get more specific as necessary.
>How do I improve my confidence?
This is the simplest but also the most difficult part of the journey. No matter what the marketers try to tell you, there is no magic bullet for confidence, and it's not some kind of aura that you get before you start your development.
Confidence comes from Competence.
I always explain it like this. When you first got your permit (or license, or whatever you need to start driving where you live), you were likely not confident with your driving skills at all. Trying to "get confident" before actually getting in the car simply doesn't work. You had to get in the car, which probably made you anxious, you had to drive it around, which was probably nerve-wracking, you probably did a bunch of things wrong, and you likely sucked at driving for some time. Even still, you continued to drive, learn, and practice. A year or two down the road, you became confident in your driving ability. You can now get in a car without immediately fearing death or worrying about the laws and rules and where the controls are, and you know without much worry at all that you can get yourself from point A to B.
I could use similar examples for learning sports, instruments, whatever. I hope you get the idea.
Confidence is earned through consistent practice. If you want to be confident in your appearance, you need to put some work into your health/fitness, wardrobe, and body language. If you want to feel confident in your ability to approach girls that you've never met, you need to practice approaching girls you've never met. If you want to feel confident in bed, you'll need to get laid.
Hope this is a good jumping-off point. I really despise the /r/ForeverAlone and /r/Incels communities for their relentless bullshit and I love helping people escape those groups.
I'm happy to get more specific with anything, so let me know if you want me to continue with something in particular.
Here's some other material to get you started that I very highly recommend you check out:
There's plenty more you can get into, but what's more important than the material is starting to actually work on yourself. Lots of beginners get so bogged-down in readings and even in the subs that they don't actually put any work into their development, so don't forget to start the processes.
I am obsessed. Here is my current collection:
Most of these you can find on thepiratebay / etc, but I own a hard copy of all of these except for The Mystery Method, which I read probably 5 times before I found Magic Bullets (actually don't own that either, just the pdf). I'll add to this list if I think of more.
Must Reads:
Magic Bullets - Savoy ==>> [Torrent] it's expensive!
Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion - Robert Cialdini
The Art of Seduction - Robert Greene
How to Win Friends & Influence People - Dale Carnegie
Should reads:
The Game - Neil Strauss
The Mystery Method : How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed - Mystery, Chris Odom, Neil Strauss
How to Get the Women You Desire into Bed - Ross Jeffries
Truth in Comedy: The Manual of Improvisation - Charna Halpern, Del Close, Kim Johnson
Meh, they're alright:
The Pickup Artist: The New and Improved Art of Seduction - Mystery, Neil Strauss
Rules of the Game - Neil Strauss
Haven't read yet:
What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People - Joe Navarro, Marvin Karlins
NLP: The New Technology of Achievement - NLP Comprehensive
Easy Mind-Reading Tricks - Robert Mandelberg, Ferruccio Sardella
Palm Reading for Beginners: Find Your Future in the Palm of Your Hand (For Beginners (Llewellyn's)) - Richard Webster
There are also some good videos out there (links are to torrents. these are all several hundred $$):
Excellent Videos
The Annihilation Method - Neil Strauss
Mystery and Style
Decent Videos
Psychic Influence - Ross Jeffries
Try this one:
https://www.amazon.ca/You-Are-Not-Your-Brain/dp/1583334831
It helped me a lot, and at the same time I was starting to use Headspace, an app to learn mindfulness meditation.
One good trick I did: AudioBooks while training. I train for marathon so that means I have a lot of time to listen to those kind of things, might as well use this time to grow!
I've seen "Influence" recommended by someone else, it is a great book also! A lot of book on influence, selling tactics and the ilk are really good, as long as they are used in the right way; It’s not meant to “manipulate” someone into something, but for you to put yourself in the shoes of the “potential client”, understand her needs and try to fulfil them. It’s all about getting a win-win for everyone (sometimes, a win-win situation is also not wasting your time with someone!)
I also read a lot about the difference in male and female. The psychology of both genres differs in some key points that are real logical when you understand them! Like the need to feel safe, for instance, before a woman will “connect” and before you even think of escalating.
One last book I highly recommend, “Emotions Revealed” by Paul Ekman, about recognizing emotions (in yourself as well as the others). Dr Ekman is well renowned on the subject of psychology and the research of emotional intelligence.
Last one, for the road, cause I tought of it while I was writing: The Emotional Life of your Brain By Richard J. Davidson. A neuroscientist approach on how you can take control of your brain, how you can shape it for your needs and reprogram your “filter” to enable you to go further!
Hope this helps!
Yessir, that's a good way of putting it.
>May I ask how you worked on your social skills and networking?
Absolutely! First I read a bunch of books and articles, which I'll list for you below. Second I got a job that requires a lot of social interaction. And third I made a very dedicated effort to do more social things.
(Wow, I didn't realize how large this list was going to be. So I'm going to very highly recommend the first three books and just say that everything else is going to be beneficial, but not really necessary. You don't have to go nearly as deep as I did to get good results.)
How to Win Friends and Influence People
How to Talk to Anyone
What EveryBODY is Saying
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Never Eat Alone
The Gentle Art of Verbal Self Defense
Argumentation and Debate
What to Say When You're Dying on the Platform
The Quick and Easy Way to Effective Speaking
The Art of Framing
This article
This documentary on body language
This video on body language
This ebook
/r/socialskills
This website
This video
This video
This video
A lot of Craig Ferguson interviews (especially the lady ones)
Etiquette
To be honest: I'm not a great fan of weed. It amplifies psychological problems like anxiety or depression. I had my fair share of them and one important step to recovery was to quit (If you are interested r/leaves).
If it hinders the process? I don't know to be honest and frankly there could be no answer on this question, because it could depend on the person.
What you could do about your thoughts is pausing Transformation Mastery for a while and reading this book: Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy .
This book will help you get rid of these thoughts and will give you a jump start.
Another one, which is not nearly as important as this amazing book is: You Are Not Your Brain.
And if you're really really ambitious this one The Happiness Trap too.
If you can't afford these books pm me.
You probably should forget about pickup until you fix your inner issues. I'd recommend checking out books on self-improvement, maybe like this and following their advice. Get yourself into situations that help you build self esteem and rapport with both sexes, like maybe a casual coed sports league.
Good luck man, from the sounds of it you still have a pretty long journey ahead of you. I started from a point similar to yours and overcame it, so it's definitely doable.
Be worth trying to establish if she’s found her ‘quiet’ confidence. I wrote this with women in mind but I think it’s equally relevant to men. Good luck https://www.amazon.co.uk/ENCHANTING-ME-Romantic-Emotional-Intelligence-ebook/dp/B07SKGB3WZ/
What helped me a great deal about paying attention to small thing is actually really meditation. If you want a good introduction to meditation, I can recommend you this book:
https://www.amazon.com/Tranquil-Mind-Introduction-Buddhism-Meditation/dp/0958416613/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1536056406&sr=8-2&keywords=nairn+tranquil+mind
I was incredibly shy, insecure, needy. But then I saw a documentary around 2006 about dating coaches called "Charm School." I was fascinated. I moved to Montreal and practiced 7 nights a week for about a 2 years. Then I returned to Vancouver and worked for a local coaching company. Today I still am a coach for my own company.
The whole story is in my book.
I started with Ross Jeffrie's Speed Seduction. Then Mystery, and pretty much everything I could get my hands on. I tried a few routines but mostly it was the epiphany that the more I practiced, the better I got. Experience was the key. I practiced hard and never quit.
Mostly I used improv ability, and am a big fan of Tyler and RSD.
I read this a few years ago. It's excellent and very entertaining (I actually read this somewhat abridged version).
However, keep in mind that this guy frequently ended up in prison, got kicked out of pretty much every country in Europe, had sex with little girls, almost had sex with his 6-year-old daughter, almost had sex with his daughter who was of legal age at the time, kidnapped a married couple with his band and stranded the man on an island, then took the wife and gangbanged her, and other questionable activities.
He's obviously a great person to read about, but it's hard to see how one can draw inspiration from him.
I know one called "The rules," but haven't read it. Does anyone want to write a review?
Homepage,
Wiki of the book,
Amazon
It would be interesting to see what would happen if a girl was playing by the rules and a guy was playing the game.
a good book for mens clothes is
The Handbook of Style from Esquire
Its cheap, comprehensive, and easier than educating yourself by reading random articles on a subreddit or a forum.
I know 2 that are worth the read.
This this and this, if you ever want some more reading material.