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I don't really know how I could change your mind honestly, because it's just my own personal experience, but I'll give it a go.

I am your height, I am slightly younger than you, 19. I grew up homeschooled, so I didn't have my first kiss till I was 18, I held my first hand at 18 too lmao, safe to say I just didn't interact with girls basically my whole adolescences. Lost my virginity at 19 to my current girlfriend.

So to summarize I am a short homeschooled kid, who has an average face and a skinny fat build, I have literally every excuse to be like you.

But I'm not, I've now had two girlfriends since I started actually trying to date in 2018, and my current girlfriend without a shadow of a doubt is extremely sexually attracted to me. Again, can't prove it to you, but you'll have to trust me.

Honestly I firmly believe most women don't care about height as much as people on the internet would have you believe.

If you're 5'11" and up, your height is an attractive feature, just like a nice face or big muscles. If you're 5'9"-5'7", your height might affect you in your dealings with other men, but I don't give a fuck about other men, to women, your height won't really play a role, except you will be taller than most women, which is attractive. and finally, our height, 5'6"-5'5", our height is for some people, an unattractive feature, but not everyone, and, the best part, we're still taller than most women, at least in america where average female height is 5'4", which again, is what most women care about, their partner being taller or as tall as them. Not to say it's impossible or even hard to date a women who is taller than you, just that many women do find it attractive if their partner is taller than them.

But again, I suppose this is all just based off my own experiences, I've never been turned down for my height, but, to be fair, I am a naturally social and charismatic person, this is an advantage that I was given, as a short guy you do in some ways have to make up for it, and work a bit harder, that's just how it is, fair? no, reality? yes.

And to my final point, I don't know shit, I'm 19, so take my advice with a grain of salt, but oh yeah, you don't know shit either you're TWENTY TWO, do you know how young that is? We're basically still kids man, in the grand scheme of things either of us trying to say anything about life with any extreme degree of certainty like "I've tried everything I could to get a girlfriend, from grooming to lifting weights to getting hobbies" is folly.

Live life and all that shit, we only get one, legit everyone in your ancestral line somehow fucked a girl, I highly doubt you'll be the end of it.

I highly recommend Models, and The subtitle art of not giving a fuck, both are fantastic and great books to read when you don't know what to do with yourself.

Good luck buddy, hope this was at least somewhat helpful.

Sure as long as I can trade you with the fact the world was made for the average/short height of a majority of people, no legroom in back of most cars, airplanes, desks, a sometimes legitimate fear of hitting your head on the short door frame .. especially when people point out how I'm only an inch at most away from the door frame then my entire day is paranoid for me since I'm looking at the top of door frames and just realizing how close I am to the top and sadly still growing.


On top of legroom issues, head-hitting issues, and back issues, I'd also like to trade you being extorted on clothing, albeit while it requires more fabric for longer pants, it doesn't require 5-15$ more of said fabric, likewise the jeans you buy when you are a tall male may be long enough for the legs themselves, but sometimes the inside pant leg up to the zipper may feel a bit short as the top of inside pant leg is against a flaccid tip because pants manufacturers overlook that when they add leg length, they should try to add length to the zipper region too.. otherwise it's only like 4" below the groin and hitting the tip.

• Not being able to ride some roller coasters, not because of minimum height but because people can't design for everyone for some reason and I'd have to sit in the middle of two seats to have my legs even fit.. and that's fitting in like squatting. (Proof: "The Wild Lightning" at Lake Winnepesaukah.)
  
  
  
• Not being able to double-ride a raft down a water slide with my best friend due to the fact my legs are "too long."
  
  
  
• Not being able to enjoy monkey bars with my little cousin since I'd be walking with my hands up at most playgrounds.
  
  
  
• Not being able to readily try out chairs that fit me before buying them as most stores around me don't have chairs in physical stock that don't just end right in the middle of my shoulder blades.
  
  
  
• Having tee shirts sleeves be a bit too small even though the rest of the sizing is okay. (Like the roller coaster, and like the pants thing.. people can't design with everyone in mind it seems.
  
  
  
• Oh, also finding gloves that fit my hands, not saying all tall people have big hands, but.. limbs are proportionate, so like our legs, necks, and arms are proportionate to our torso, our hands would be proportionate to our long arms., My hand size stretches out "food safety" plastic XL Gloves, and also warehouse gloves from Amazon Fulfillment Center went up to "large" and those things fit on me, but it was a stretchy tight fit., likewise for ["ESD Gloves"] (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01DP6RQYI/) that are Large also are stretching tight over my hand.
  
  
  
• And finally getting dumb clueless rude obnoxious people asking "Do you play basketball?"...
  
  
  but to respond back on topic..
  
  
  > lol fucker. I'm a 5"3' 6'6" male. I'll trade you bodies and take all that awful self-conscious pain off your hands.
  
  
  Wanna trade self-conscious issues for actual physical issues? I don't mean to say being self-conscious doesn't matter, but it's able to be taken care of by you, just become more confident in your step and you might not be so self-conscious to think that trading height would be a good thing for you.
  
  
  Edit: forgot to mention gloves, was going to mention shoe sizes but 16 is a bit big even for tall people I know, the common size is 13-15 it seems.

I'll preface this by saying I'm not in business, but I used to be a military officer and know quite a bit about leadership. I will point you to the example of one of the greatest leaders in modern culture. In all seriousness, Captain James T. Kirk.

While admittedly not that short (I think Shatner is like 5'10?), he was shorter than the rest of his team. Randy Pausch has written one of the best descriptions of his leadership style (or any leadership style I've come across) in his book The Last Lecture:

“Kirk was not the smartest guy on the ship. Mr. Spock, his First Officer, was the always logical intellect onboard. Dr. McCoy had all the medical knowledge available to mankind in the 2260s. Scotty was the Chief Engineer who had the technical know-how to keep that ship running, even when it was under attack by aliens. So what was Kirk’s skillset? Why did he get to climb onboard the Enterprise and run it? The answer: there is this skill set called “leadership”. ...He was the distilled essence of the dynamic manager. A guy who knew how to delegate, had the passion to inspire, and looked good in what he wore to work. He never professed to have skills greater than his subordinates. He acknowledged that they knew what they were doing in their domains, but he established the vision, the tone. He was in charge of morale.”

No, its from a pop-science book:

http://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Choice-Womans-Decision-Partners/dp/0595092160

That alone doesnt make it true or false, but this isnt peer-reviewed research either.

There were shit ton of reasearch on this and women and men alike put more importance to face than body for long or short term relationships alike:

http://planetearth.nerc.ac.uk/news/story.aspx?id=544&cookieConsent=A

For example here is a good paper on the role of smell which also references some previous research:

http://people.cst.cmich.edu/swans1bj/Herz%20Inzlicht%2002%20matechoice%20smell.pdf

"In one influential study, Buss (1989) compared the self-reports of male and female
mate preferences along various physical and social factors in 37 different countries. Results
demonstrated that good looks were the primary physical criterion in mate choice for both men
and women."


I cant find the best research on this which showed that women usually put facial/physical attractiveness lower on a scale of importance, but if you analyze their choices it turns out for both men and women physical/facial attractiveness was the main factor.



edit: Here is an article on this:

http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2012/01/17/physical-attraction-matters-%E2%80%93-to-women-too/#.VMzmZy5ecjw

Also it turns out people who are more attractive prefer physical attractiveness while choosing a partner, while less attractive people put emphasis on other things as well:

http://www.livescience.com/2307-romance-matters-beautiful.html

After giving this a lot of thought over the years I've come to the conclusion that the key to what we call "confidence" is really satisfaction. Now, what I mean by satisfaction is a complete acceptance and embrace of all the things that are outside of your control, this is a very hard thing to do because it means that you MUST abandon ALL hope that you can ever change these.

Epictetus said it best:

>Some things are in our control and others not. Things in our control are opinion, pursuit, desire, aversion, and, in a word, whatever are our own actions. Things not in our control are body, property, reputation, command, and, in one word, whatever are not our own actions.

You can ONLY find "confidence" through complete acceptance of these things! you MUST abandon ALL hope, hope that you will grow taller, hope that other people will like you, hope that you will have good fortune. Relinquish this hope from your mind, recognize that you are powerless and thus there is no point in "hoping" or grieving about these thing. Put your mind and efforts into the things you can fully control and be the best you can be, embrace the discipline to be true to yourself! you owe it to yourself, consider this your purpose in life, to be in absolute control of all the things you can control.

Once you realize this you will find satisfaction because you are no longer bound by the things you have no control over!.

I absolutely hate the common fake it till you make it advice! I say do not fake anything, be true to yourself, because only you can and you owe it to yourself, it is your purpose.

Do not waste effort and time being envious of the fortune of others, they may have been blessed by the gods, the universe, whatever, It doesn't matter you have no control over it!. Do not waste effort and time being angry at your misfortune, recognize that the world is not "fair" or "unfair", that the world has no concept of "owing" someone anything, but that the world is absurd and that you must not give up the struggle! you MUST face it because its the only way to live life to the fullest.

Camus says that we must accept that life is devoid of meaning and purpose, but I challenge that assertion. Our purpose is to recognize that which we can control and be masters of everything in our domain, by striving for greatness in these things we will find satisfaction, and no one or anything will ever be able to take that away from you.

Keep in mind that all of this is definitely more easily said that done. This is an incredibly hard thing to do, it will take a lot from you, believe me I am still going through it. There will be relapses and moments of weakness but you must embrace this and keep going.

As a side note I recommend everyone here to read up on stoicism and taoism.

Start here:

http://www.amazon.com/Guide-Good-Life-Ancient-Stoic/dp/0195374614 (I cannot recommend this book enough!)


and here:

http://www.amazon.com/The-Tao-Pooh-Benjamin-Hoff/dp/0140067477


Then move on to the classics: Marcus Aurelius, Epictetus and Lao Zhu.

And finally, whenever you feel like giving up read this: http://www.amazon.com/The-Myth-Sisyphus-Other-Essays/dp/0679733736

I'm guessing you are looking for more for boots that are every day boots right?

Just in case you ever are looking for some that are great for cold, these are my favorite boots. They come in size 7, which if you wear a 6.5 (that's actually more my true size I think) 7 works well especially if you are using heavy socks. The toebox is wide enough so it doesn't scrunch your toes up uncomfortably and the tread on them is great for traction.

Yeah, not really a "every day" boot, but they are amazing when you have to be outside in insanely cold temperatures for long periods of time.

By cold I mean outside in -20 (or -30) Fahrenheit temps. The lining on the inside is awesome at keeping you warm. Saved my ass last year and likely will many times this year. No more frozen toes!

Now for every day good looking boots I don't have a clue. Go with what others have said.

Sort of by definition they are. Because the ones I've noticed people wearing were incredibly obvious.

If there were ones that were't obvious I didn't notice them. Which is kind of the point...

So all I know for sure is that sometimes they are incredibly noticable.

Although the one time I saw them the guy was wearing sneakers that had a sole that was like 3 inches. So it looked stupid.

It was something like https://www.amazon.com/Maxstar-Womens-Platform-Canvas-Sneakers/dp/B00CHZUVQY/ref=br_lf_m_d4tjnt4zo54t39u_img?_encoding=UTF8&s=shoes&th=1 But thicker.

If I was short, and I cared about gaining a little extra height I would probably go with https://www.amazon.com/Hi-Tec-Bandera-Low-Waterproof-Mustard/dp/B00H5H2LVW/ref=sr_1_89?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1519252776&sr=1-89&nodeID=7141123011&psd=1&keywords=hiking+boots+male

Then add an insole to get another inch.

I like the feel of heavy duty shoes. The grip is really nice. Particularly since I'm a burly gentleman, If i step off to run its nice to have a solid grip on the earth.

Maybe something like https://www.amazon.com/Hi-Tec-Mens-Mount-Diablo-Charcoal/dp/B01A0HRPUA/ref=sr_1_83?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1519252964&sr=1-83&nodeID=7141123011&psd=1&keywords=hiking+boots+male

That said I think a lot of short guys that lack self confidence are the small thin guys, and they might not look so good with heavy duty shoes. So something more stylish would probably be better
like https://www.amazon.com/Rockport-Classic-Break-Chukka-Leather-12/dp/B01AB8JBTG/ref=sr_1_148?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1519253314&sr=1-148&nodeID=679307011&psd=1

I have a tiny head. I bought these: http://www.amazon.com/Ray-Ban-RB2132-Wayfarer-Sunglasses-G-15-XLT/dp/B001UQ71G4/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1377656846&sr=8-1&keywords=ray+ban+wayfarer

Original Wayfarers will look oversized on your small face. However, New Wayfarers are smaller, and won't make you look goofy. Make sure that - whatever color you pick - you get the 52mm frames, not the 55mm ones.

I have the New Wayfarers, 52mm frames, in black with green lenses. They fit my small face perfectly, and they look great. Best of luck.

I would love love love to find a pair of black slingback heels! Just like these :)

Edit: Note the small piece of elastic on the back part, which makes them more comfortable to wear for extended periods of time (as my feet get tired, they swell up a tad).

I have a plastic bin under my desk that I rest my feet on most of the time, but I like my feet up high. My feet dangle too (like you mentioned - I have to keep my chair high enough that I can comfortably use the keyboard and mouse). You can find step stools of different sizes at HomeGoods, Marshalls, etc, or Walmart/Target. It doesn't have to be something fancy and expensive. This cushion looks comfy.

Good luck! I know it's a pain. It's something I don't even think about anymore b/c I've had the same set-up for so long, but it was really tough when I was pregnant to find a comfortable solution.

Hello! I was in the same situation as you this summer! I'm 4'11" too and had to get an ergonomic desk setup following my physical therapist's recommendations.

I ended up buying this chair from amazon. The back support is adjustable which I found really nice. You can also adjust the seat depth which is suuper helpful. I use it with a footrest so that my hands are almost in my lap when I type which is what was recommended to me. It made a huge difference with the neck and arm pain. I'm still looking for a good footrest. The one I bought was kinda cheap and broke, so I'm back to using old textbooks.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B006TILUBU/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o03_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

My physical therapist also suggested a rolled up towel at the back for proper support if I was desperate.


Whatever you end up doing, good luck!

For belts, have you considered ordering custom-made ones such as from this site? Alternatively there are guides for making your own that can be found in /r/malefashionadvice and it seems to be pretty easy and cost-effective. I also love my leather hole punch, which I got for less than $10 on Amazon. Hope you find that helpful!

>Because OK Cupid is definitely the best measure for dating right?

Uh, yeah. It's the only measure we have.

>I still haven't seen a source.

Since you're too lazy to type a few words into google:

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-looks-and-online-dating/

There was even a book published by the guy who founded OKC who talks about dating and dating trends like this:

http://www.amazon.com/Dataclysm-Identity--What-Online-Offline-Selves/dp/0385347391/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1462480969&sr=8-2&keywords=ok+cupid

It's pretty common knowledge at this point. Surprised you haven't heard about this until now.

If it wasn't for some of the less pleasant social aspects, there are some definite advantages to be shorter, particularly if you are near average human (i.e. male and female combined) height.

Socially speaking, I like being able to blend in and NOT draw attention to myself.

This is a good book to read: The Truth About Height

http://www.amazon.com/WSWS-3-Layer-Increase-Cushion-approximately/dp/B005JQYKJW

I've been wearing these for a year or so now and they've worked like a charm for me. Really comfortable, and with moderately thick shoes they'll give you about two extra inches, perfect amount for me.

Depends ... I have one pair of shoe lift which is adjustable. Like this

2 layers and the insole is kinda comfortable,you don't feel muchh.that's how I wear them with my high top sneakers mostly.but with stiff boots like timberland 6 inches,I find I can use all the layers.however it's kinda uncomfortable to wear them a long period of time and you can't run or walk fast with them..you only can walk at a normal speed.but be careful cause a wrong step can twist your ankle.like a bump on the land.also you have to cover up your ankle with your jeans,because of the shoe lift your leg is on an angle and your ankle is where your calf should be.you have to lace it tight to prevent the shoe from falling which can be painful after few hours.I would recommend you would buy just an adjustable one and try which suits you. it's kinda painful but to me the confidence boot when I'm towering over another guy or girl I feel worth it so much