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I'm not sure if there would be a couples therapist who would do online counseling with two people in different locations. I don't think this issue is common enough for you to be able to find a therapist who advertises such a service. You maaaay be able to find an therapist who does therapy through video chat and ask if this would be possible, but it would take a willing therapist and a therapist with some tech know-how (able to use Google Hangouts or something else for 3-person video chat).

But yeah, as you're already aware, the distance is a big barrier. I'd second the suggestion another person made about both of you starting individual therapy in your own home locations to work out issues.

Another idea I'd suggest is for the both of you to buy this book, read it on your own, and discuss it regularly by phone or videochat: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert https://www.amazon.com/dp/0553447718/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_Dy9hzbWSKC8WS

There are a ton of relationship books out there, but Gottman is one of the major authorities in the field of couples therapy. I used it a lot with my couples in therapy with good feedback.

Good luck and hope you're able to work out the best decision that works for you both.

1. Schedule time to personally care for yourself. Literally write it into your planner. Or you won't do it. You need regularly scheduled time to do things for yourself that aren't related to school, to keep yourself calm, confident, and healthy. Whatever it is - exercise, yoga, bubble baths, bowling, reading (material unrelated to school), a craft night, etc. - will be your lifeline throughout the program.
   
2. Use Google Drive for everything, because you can access it anywhere with internet access.
   
3. Save all of your syllabi and course readers and go through them after graduation. Organize into sections that are relevant to the tests you have to take post-grad for your credentialing. This will make it easy to study for those exams when the time comes, instead of having to stress about that. Seriously, save everything until graduation, then only get rid of duplicates. I just passed my postgrad Law & Ethics exam without buying any of the practice exam books, just made flashcards from my course syllabus.
   
4. You are about to be exposed to, and absorb, an almost impossible amount of information, a lot of which is opinions. Your morals and personal opinions might start to change as a result of this. Some of this change is wonderful and will help you grow. Some of it may give you the sense that you are losing yourself. To regain independence and remember who you are, why you chose this career path, etc., read Carl Jung's last book: https://www.amazon.com/Undiscovered-Self-Dilemma-Individual-Society/dp/0451217322/ref=sr_1_9?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1537773124&sr=1-9&keywords=Carl+Jung
   
5. GO TO THERAPY. Feeling like you don't need it is probably a sign that you do. Depending on what specific career path you chose, you might even be able to count the hours towards your clinical hours necessary for credentialing. Even if you were in therapy before, and are feeling grounded and healthy right now, go to therapy while you are in school, and probably after you finish.
   
6. If you are a perfectionist, learn to be okay with not getting As on everything. Unless you want to pursue a doctorate level degree after this one, the only grades that matter are the ones that keep you in good academic standing. You will learn more by making mistakes than you will by avoiding them, so learning how to accept a less-than-perfect grade will prepare you for accepting feedback from your supervisor once you start seeing clients. Remember that it is not only normal, but NECESSARY, for you to make some mistakes, both at school and with clients, because this is how you will become a better counselor. * This was the most important thing for me, because I am very self-critical and also very sensitive. I am still learning how to not take offense to feedback and instead focus on how it helps me.

I have found Children's Solution Work (solution-focused therapy) and Playful Approaches to Serious Problems (narrative therapy) to be helpful! This online training for trauma-focused CBT is free, comprehensive, and provides a lot of sample scripts for conversations with kids and parents, which I love.

Dr. Kristin Neff's book "Self-Compassion" is really good for self-esteem/efficacy. It has been helpful for both myself and my clients. Each chapter also has exercises that you could easily do as a group activity or "homework" assignment. It's a fairly easy read too.

http://www.amazon.com/Self-Compassion-Proven-Power-Being-Yourself/dp/0061733512/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1427558729&sr=1-1&keywords=self+compassion

I am so sorry to hear that you have experienced the most awful loss of your son. You have carried your child for 33 weeks and given birth, then suffered a devastating bereavement. From what you say, it seems that you are not yet emotionally fit enough to return to work. I think it is important that you take as much time off work as you need to recover both physically and emotionally. Why can you not take maternity leave, since you have still given birth to a baby, even though tragically you now do not have him to care for. In the UK you are entitled to maternity leave and maternity pay (if you qualify for it) if you give birth after the end of the 24th week of pregnancy. In the UK you would also qualify for compassionate leave.

As therapists, we need to be mindful of our own self care and we need also to be in a fit enough place to offer our clients an effective service. What if a client wants to talk about their own loss or something that can trigger your own pain? You can't be present with your clients if you are worried about whether you are always going to be strong enough. It is still very early days after your loss, so you can't expect to be as strong as you would like to be yet. You need time to heal.

When you feel fit enough to see clients, then you can give a brief statement about your time off work in a way that you feel is most comfortable for you and appropriate for each client, reassuring them that you are now fit enough to return to work and offer them a therapeutic service.

For now, you may find the following helpful and supportive:

• SANDS Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Society. Website www.uk-sands.org.
  This organisation offers support and information for anyone affected by the death of a baby before, during or shortly after birth.
  
• 'A Candle for Lisa' by Debbie Ruskin. This book is about the loss of a child and the journey of recovery. Available from Amazon: Website www.amazon.co.uk . The link to the book is https://www.amazon.co.uk/Candle-Lisa-Debbie-Ruskin/dp/1873378785/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1549322728&sr=8-1&keywords=debbie+ruskin
  
  As you say, it is likely to be a long, tough road. It is a road that we cannot hurry but it is a path that can bring healing and growth as we journey along it. Wishing you my thoughts and all my wishes on your journey of healing.

I am studying for that currently. A friend recommended the NCMHCE Secrets book, and I feel like that is useful. It has a lot of practice tests in it. https://www.amazon.com/NCMHCE-Secrets-Study-Guide-Examination/dp/1610722434

There is also a DBT in schools book I've found useful. I've linked it here. I think the concept of Walking the Middle Path is helpful with adolescents. They are very extreme thinkers. It's either all or nothing and DBT concepts can help with balancing their thinking.

The treatment planner books are great for helping with this. Here's a link: https://www.amazon.com/Complete-Adult-Psychotherapy-Treatment-Planner/dp/111806786X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1479863730&sr=8-1&keywords=treatment+planner

This one

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01MRMZGW8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_CNJEzbKKQQ41J

There's this book

and this one- Both are on my 'to-read' list that seems to grow longer every year I'm in practice.

Sim’s Symptoms of the Mind

Tear Soup: A Recipe for Healing After Loss https://www.amazon.com/dp/0961519762/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_5jPNAbK53WTBT