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You are gorgeous girl! Keep your head up, you can get through this. Dry shampoo can help spruce up your hair besides washing it. I also suffer from eczema. Besides using over the counter hydrocortisone (steroid cream) for breakouts, here's a few things I've done that help me:

Only wash your clothes with scent free detergent. I currently use Arm & Hammer Sensitive skin free and clear. For fabric softener in the wash I use white vinegar. (It does not make your clothes smell and for bonus points it helps clean your washing machine)

For showers, invest in a shower filter. I know it sounds high maintenance but it helps filter out the chlorine in tap water. This results in healthier skin and hair. They sell some that attach to your current showerhead and some that replace your shower head.
Also scent free soaps. Aveeno or dove original works for me.
The last advice is drink more water! Good luck OP, have a wonderful day!

Shower filter link

Showerhead with filter link

Edit: link issue
Edit 2: And lots of moisturizers! Such as Lubriderm, Curel or Cetaphil. Rub it 2-3 times a day head to toe. Once your eczema starts getting better, use it after you shower. As much needed.

You look like the kind of guy I would be happy to have date my teen daughter. You appear kind and respectful. 16 sucks for just about everyone, it will get better and you will live your dreams. Just don’t give up and you’ll see- this life has a lot to offer you.

With maturity comes an ever increasing ability to not give a fuck what other people think of you. In fact, do you like to read? Check out this book:

https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive/dp/0062457713

Good luck son, you’re gonna do great. ❤️

Edit: You are certainly not a Luzer and might I suggest you make a new username so as not to reinforce that idea in your mind. You want to try to focus on positive things about yourself, not drill home the negative things your brain invents.

I’m very similar, actually; if you’re a reader, I suggest Braving the Wilderness by Brené Brown.

Regardless, the best advice anyone has ever given me is that you have to fail in order to grow. You have to do the stuff that makes you feel uncomfortable and awkward or whatever, because the only way you get better at that (or anything) is by trying things until you find the thing that works for you. You have to be able to be proud of yourself for making the effort, even if it takes awhile to get to the end result.

I think you’re going to do just fine, for whatever it’s worth. You’re super cute and you seem genuine and friendly; you’ll find your people in your new place for sure, and you’ll find the best people by being as authentic as you can be.

Good luck!!

I wrote my first novel while working at Target. I had just left the air force and had been writing fanfiction for a while so i had an idea and i went for it.

I later read on a few forums "know your audience" that was my mistake, I would call my book YA similar to 'Fault in our stars' meets 'Fight club' (some weird stuff happens)
https://www.amazon.com/Dakota-Son-Mary-Ramsey/dp/1546233075

I tried to go about querying agents and even paid a life coach to help with my letter but nothing came of it.
Not that you shouldn't try; you lose 100% of shots you don't take.

After a year I assumed that self-publishing meant that i would have to devote a huge amount of time and money (i went with Authorhouse, another famous one is Iuniverse.)

they help but they are not necessary.

i entered a few contests and won a spot in 1 anthology.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B076VK27M1/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i0

this gives me a monthly payout.
(at this point i must also check my privilege since I live rent free in property owned by my family.)

I quit my job at Target to work less hours at a grocery store.
but i continue to write.

my advise is maker a blog. mine is:
http://www.dourdan.wordpress.com

wordpress is free and full of templates that make posting a breeze.

i discovered 'amazon kindle direct' and cut ties with authorhouse.
I'm not successful by any means but I'm glad that I found a place to put my stories that does not cost thousands of dollars.
And when i want actual feedback I post to reddit in places like
r/Wholesomenosleep/
(horror with more of a YA feel)
r/nosleep/
(more horror movie type horror)
r/thelongsleep/
(a very open subreddit for any and all fiction)
and
r/SLEEPSPELL/
(fantasy/drama/scifi)

just to name a few.

I was diagnosed with Crohn’s at 16, too. I’m now 37. You can do it. My best advice to you is focus on living better and taking care of yourself.

I wish I could tell you all of the things I wish someone would’ve told me 20 years ago. The one thing I’ll say is that changing your diet can completely change your life.

the Paleo Approach changed my life. I recommend buying a copy. If you can’t afford it, DM me and I’ll buy you a copy.

You can find support at r/autoimmuneprotocol

Yeah, you'd probably be surprised if you knew how many have been interested but never spoke up. I certainly am. Friends always tell me "x likes you" but it's weird because 90% of the time it's someone I barely know, or haven't even met. How do they even know me? It must be my sexy propeller hat in my Facebook profile picture that attracts them. Here it is if you want to try it lol

I totally agree. With your beard and facial bone structure, you'd be a handsome man with a clean shaved head. I started going bald just this year when I noticed a thinning on the top. I went out and bought the right kind of shaver and have been INTENTIONALLY bald ever since. If want a recommendation, here's what I use and they work great in the shower.


Pitbull Silver Shaver https://www.amazon.com/dp/B076GR634L/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apip_l7hyIWVVCax4k


Men’s Soap Company Shaving Soap... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06XRYLNB9?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

Don't let it get you down. Your confidence takes a hot only because you think hair makes you something different than what you are. You're the same guy bald but this way it's on your own terms. Good luck!

I developed thinning hair at 24. Most genetic hair loss is totally reversible now-a-days.

Genetic hair loss is usually related to an accumulation of DHT in your scalp. You treat it with Propecia and a red laser hat. Super simple. I reversed mine within 6 months. I’m 31 now and my hair looks like it did at 16. It’s really a nonissue.

The study of hair is called Trichology. You can probably look up a place around you to get the prescription from an MD, and the laser hat is now around $600 on Amazon. I paid $1200 for a hat like this about 3 years ago. Your doctor may recommend you their own brand.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B079K2NQNV/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_oTtXCbSE3NXSF

About your heart and the girlfriend, sometimes life gives you shit. Take a breath and steady yourself. Work on one issue at a time. You’re going to live another 80-100 years. If you focus on one thing at a time, you’ll soon find you run out of problems and work your way to improvements. It’s all going to be ok.

P.S. We’re pretty damn close to just 3D printing a new heart for you. An Israeli company just demonstrated a proof of concept last month. That’ll also be a nonissue soon.

I’ve been reading a book called The Courage to be Disliked get it here - it’s pretty easy to read, and I have gleaned a lot of valuable advice from it... especially learning to let go of relying on what others think of me and live more for myself. It’s more complicated than just that, but I think it could be really helpful! (: your freckles are envy-worthy btw

Don’t worry, college doesn’t work out well for everyone. I’m that one.

You won’t be forced to bend over if you don’t have a degree. Find something that matters to you and get out there.

Bonus: I don’t know if you’re a reader, but there is a good book I recommend. If you’re a podcast (audio) person, there’s this show called “The Ken Coleman Show”. Many people are under the same boat as you and this guy gives SOLID advice.

Link to book: The Proximity Principle: The Proven Strategy That Will Lead to a Career You Love

Podcast: The Ken Coleman Show

I know that you might feel undateable, and that’s understandable. But, realistically, there are tons of women out there who’d love to date you. I suggest this book. It’s called “Models: Attract Women Through Honesty.” You’re not deformed or anything; you haven’t been on a date in almost 2 years probably because you need to change your strategy. Which is easily done.

Thanks sir! I've already purchased your book and will start it tonight.

First non-fiction book in a series around making chainmail Chainmail Made Easy

And a scifi/fantasy short story collection I published with a friend Tales of Fantasy, Fables, and Fiction

Girl, you are beautiful

I highly recommend reading What a Time to be Alone: The Slumflower's bestselling guide to why you are already enough by Chidera Eggerue aka The Slumflower, it spoke to me at a time when I felt as you are feeling now. You can get through this and realise your worth. You've got this beaut! xxx

Have you looked at getting professional help? (Meds/therapy/both)

There is some weird stigma about people who need help dealing with life, which is completely ridiculous. No one tells the dude with a broken leg to 'just think positive'

Even something as basic as getting a workbook for cognitive behavior therapy or dialectic behavior therapy may be a good starting point

You might want to try

https://www.amazon.com/Vitafusion-Sleep-Gummy-Support-melatonin/dp/B006GIYTRU

You can find them at Walmart, Target and Walgreens. I promise you, they work. Chew two, brush your teeth and play a mindless game on your phone. 20 minutes and you're not going to wake up for a good 6-7 hours. No after effects.

I couldn't find the exact one. here is a similar pair https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07G5MTS1R/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_Xb4UDbS7ABZAP
all I know is that the ones I got were from a seller on Amazon named "E-ForPretty" and it came in a 3 pack with red and purple striped ones as well.

I appreciate the feedback.

Microphone: https://www.amazon.com/Blue-Yeti-USB-Microphone-Silver/dp/B002VA464S

I use Audacity for editing: http://www.audacityteam.org/download/