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u/ftmichael · 2 pointsr/trans

There's no such thing as too early to get a binder. If you don't have breast growth, you don't need one. If you have enough growth that you need one, you're old enough to have one. Nor are you too young to go on T, but given that your family is both unsupportive and completely clueless, you should be pushing for blockers, not T.

The books The Transgender Child and The Transgender Teen by Stephanie Brill are the two halves of your new bible, seriously. Read them, then give them to your parents. (Never give or recommend anything you haven't read yourself!) There's also a new book out for Trans teens and their families, called Where's MY Book? by Linda Gromko, MD. I haven't read it yet, but it looks well worth a look.

Watch this great video too. It's about Trans kids and it's really good. (Ignore the line from one mom about how blockers are "brand new". They aren't. They've been used for decades. The books I mentioned above explain a lot more about all that.)

Check out Camp Aranu'tiq. You'd love it.

Your parents should run, not walk, to http://groups.yahoo.com/group/tyfa_talk/ and join it when they're ready. It's a wonderful parents-only group specifically for parents of Trans and gender-questioning kids who are 18 and under. (If you're 18+ by the time they're ready, have them join http://groups.yahoo.com/group/transkidsfamily/ , which is for parents of Trans folks of all ages.) There's a lot more to it than "you should support your kid". There's lots for them there, even if they think they're already supportive. On Facebook, they can join these great groups for parents of Trans and gender-expansive kids: here and here. And here on Reddit, they can check out /r/cisparenttranskid. Frame it in terms of them getting their needs met, not a means to an end where you get your needs met. They're a lot more likely to be receptive to the idea if they don't think it's just a ploy to get them to give you what you want. It's hugely important for them to talk to other parents, just as important as it is for you to talk to other Trans guys. It's not healthy for you or for them if you're their only connection to what, to them, is a very foreign and possibly very frightening world. They need to hear other parents - NOT just you - tell them that you should be trusted to know yourself, and that you are not doomed because you're Trans. Yes, you will find love, yes, you will find a job/career, yes, you will be happy; no, you will not be outcast from society, no, you will not be looked at as a freak wherever you go, no, you will not be alone and miserable forever. Parents worry about that stuff. You can reassure them, but ultimately it's reassurance from other parents whose kids have transitioned and (miraculously!) turned out fine and live happy lives that's going to convince them.

Trans Youth Family Allies, Gender Spectrum (and their fantastic conference), the Gender Odyssey conference, and the Trans Health conference, among other resources, will help your whole family a lot.

To find a therapist who gets Trans issues (most don't, and are unhelpful at best and actively harmful at worst), see http://t-vox.org/medical and http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/ . For the second link, enter your location and then select Transgender from the Issues list on the left.

The nice folks at the Genecis clinic at Children's Medical Center Dallas, the Gender Development clinic at Lurie Children's Hospital in Chicago, the Gender Management Services (GeMS) clinic at Boston Children's Hospital, The Center for Trans Youth Health and Development at Los Angeles Children's Hospital, the Center for Gender-Affirming Care at Rady Children's Hospital San Diego, the Gender Management Service clinic at Phoenix Children's Hospital, the Transgender Center at St. Louis Children's Hospital, the gender clinic at Seattle Children's Hospital, BC Children's Hospital in Vancouver, and/or the Trans youth clinic at SickKids in Toronto can help your family connect with more providers and support networks in your area for Trans children and their families, even if you aren't near any of those clinics. They do a lot of networking with groups and providers across North America and around the world.

u/Vax_Me_Daddy · 1 pointr/trans

Hey OP,

So I'm a trans male who's been on HRT for almost a year and I was the same as you. The first two ish months it took me 3 hours to do my shot and I was given sedatives by my psychiatrist to try and help with my anxiety. I slowly got better at it and I think it's cause I'm the one who's in control of the needle and when it goes in.

Something I used to help was taking a hot shower or just sitting in the steamy bathroom to get the skin warmed up so it would go in easier. There's also this cool things my doctor told me about that put a sensation all around the area that you need to have injected to make you not focus on that one area, but you'd need someone else there to hold onto it for you.

I used to almost faint and had to lie down after my injections and now I can take a few minutes to do it and get it out of the way.

The doctors also show you how to inject it and make sure you know how to pinch your leg or wherever you inject to get it right and that helps a little too. Another thing that helps me is putting a pillow under my leg to push the fat up and having a you tube video playing that makes me laugh so that I'm not completely freaking out.

It's still a little hard for me but it gets so much easier I promise!! If you want any more help I'd love to help :)

Here's the pad thingy my doctor recommended: https://www.amazon.com/Bionix-Health-Shotblocker-Insulin-Injection/dp/B00B2GI3TG

u/ZePartySquirrel · 3 pointsr/trans

Sporty as in stylish and not as in workout clothes, right? Realistically what you're looking for is clothing that's form-fitting but isn't skin-tight right between your legs.

Skinny jeans, for example, should work great; they're tight all the way up yo. Though I typically buy men's jeans anyway because they're basically the same with more pocket space (but minus cute designs on the pockets). Women's jeans might be tighter in the groin so I'm not positive. You can always try them on in the store if you're unsure, but I can confirm men's skinny jeans work well: they're tight all the way up your legs and hug your hips, but have enough slack underneath that they don't show any crotch bulges.

You can also try tops that go lower down around the hips if you want extra reassurance that your groin area is covered. For an example, I bought this sweater recently and it's super comfy and super cute! (Downside, it can't go in the dryer and you should lay it flat to dry, but w/e, worth it!)

u/ProbablyUncleJesse · 1 pointr/trans

Can see the freedom of happiness in your eyes. Keep going!

Also, would love to introduce you to my best friend I found for brows when I was 17. Set me right forever on my makeup practice: e.l.f. Cosmetics Eyebrow Stencil Kit for Perfectly Shaped Brows, Contains 4 Reusable Stencils https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00373FE76/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_uF.RCbCKQ8X8H

u/ardamass · 1 pointr/trans

The best book ever I think for trans is "Trans bodies trans selves" http://www.amazon.com/Trans-Bodies-Selves-Transgender-Community/dp/0199325359
Its kind of like the bible of transition.

If you think he is still suicidal there is the Trevor line http://www.thetrevorproject.org/section/donate?gclid=COKv-OPRxsQCFdcSgQod5mkAdA
There number is 1-866-488-7386 and you can call text or chat with them.

The following sub reddits are good r/ftm r/asktransgender r/transeducate and r/TransCommunity

For his parents http://transparenthood.net/

Sorry I don't have more for you. I know he's family to you and Im sure you would never consider otherwise but thank you for helping him. Thank you for taking the time out to prepare. The next year is going to be really hard, probably the hardest in his life and he's going to need every bit of support from everywhere he can get it.
While I'm not FTM I am MTF and if you or he want to talk or need some general pointers Im happy to help just shoot me a pm.

u/illogicalcapt · 2 pointsr/trans

I've been crazy surprised by how great this wig is. For only $20 i was expecting something i wouldn't leave the house in, but it's seriously the bomb, I love the way it looks, and fits really well on gals with a bigger head.

https://www.amazon.com/Asifen-Charming-Straight-Natural-Healthy/dp/B074L25WT8

u/RigilNebula · 3 pointsr/trans

What to do next:

Buy tinfoil and make hats to protect your thoughts, in case they can read minds.

Read How to Defend Yourself Against Alien Abduction

Be very careful to only speak positively of your new alien overlords when in hearing range of this employee. And as you don't know how powerful their hearing is, assume everywhere is in hearing range.

Try to figure out what gifts your employee and their alien friends like, so you can purchase those gifts to curry favour with them.

u/cadeofthewoods · 1 pointr/trans

There is a really good book full of resources here: https://www.amazon.com/This-Book-Parents-Gay-Kids/dp/1452127530

They use the term 'gay' in the title, but it's a catch-all term. They have a whole section on trans issues. I got it for my parents and it's a great help!

u/CD_A-Mandy-A · 1 pointr/trans

I’m in the USA. This is the wig I ordered, you can see how it looks on my posts. I really like the quality and feel of it, especially for the price. When I eventually order a second one, it’ll be that brand again.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B07D3625FN?psc=1&ref=ppx_pop_mob_b_asin_title
As far as ordering clothes, I use amazon. I found that for US sizes, women’s run one size larger, so I buy large women’s clothes since I’m a medium and they have fit me well. I’m still very much in the closest and have opened up to very few people, so I found amazon to be the best option for myself.

u/ohfudgeit · 2 pointsr/trans

You can also get inserts for regular speed to achieve the same effect. I've not used them myself but I know people who have. I think they work best with slightly taller shoes.
Assuming you're in the us. This is the first us link that came up in my search :

https://www.amazon.com/SOL3-Premium-Height-Increase-Inserts-7-5-11-5/dp/B07F9NXLLN

But I'm sure if you look around you'll find plenty of results

u/_Vaporeon_ · 2 pointsr/trans

It’s not a dumb question. You don’t have to if you don’t want to. If you do, though, I’d recommend something like this(link at the end of the reply). They can be used wet or dry(and without shave foam), are rechargeable, and their blade lasts a year before needing to be replaced. I use one and it’s incredibly reliable. It may take your skin a few uses to get used to it, though. If this one is outside your budget, there are cheaper ones with the same head style. Hope this helps! https://www.amazon.com/Philips-Norelco-Bodygroomer-BG5025-49/dp/B078G9BKBW/ref=mp_s_a_1_8?keywords=body+trimmer&qid=1571885358&sr=8-8

u/gnurdette · 4 pointsr/trans

I think your best chance with your crush is to separate your self-education on trans questions from your (hopefully) budding relationship with her (good luck). If you try to learn about trans people through her, she might feel on the spot / awkward and that doesn't go well with romance.

There are a ton of websites and books you could read, but I'm going to suggest Becoming Nicole just because I read it lately and really liked it.

u/key_concept · 2 pointsr/trans

I'm reading You and Your Gender Identity: A Guide to Discovery. I bought this today.

I'm questioning MtF .... today I just epilated my leg hair. I've had it most of my life I've always hated it, and ... the skin without the hair feels fucking amazing. It feels like how I would want my body to feel. It's a surreal feeling.

I've always been jealous of ladies being able to shave the leg hair, so I went and did it.

I think this is a good small step today. I think if the step feels good, it's a good direction to go in.

I made my cis/trans list. You have two columns, reasons you think you are cis and reasons you think you are trans.

For me: Cis - 4, Trans - 43.

I don't feel trans, but ... admittedly I don't know what it would feel like, it might feel exactly like this. What I am allowing myself to do, which I never allow myself to do is have the fantasy and allow the possibility that ... I could ... transition.

u/LuminousRabbit · 1 pointr/trans

We checked out this book from the library. It breaks down gender identity in an easy-to-read way. It talks about it in language kids can understand and works for whatever gender your child is.

For reference, I have a 6-year-old gender-nonconforming child who has loved makeup, dresses, and heels since he could get his hands on them, while I’m a low maintenance cis-woman. I own one pair of heels. I think he has three (for dress ups).

This book has helped him articulate where he is (sometimes boy/sometimes girl/sometimes boy that just likes dresses). It’s been really helpful.

u/collinjackson · 1 pointr/trans

I think you have to let go trying to create a perfect trans narrative from your past. If you want the transgender label, you've earned it, but the real question is whether transitioning will make you happier. This book has some tips for how to not transition if that's what you decide to do:

http://www.amazon.com/Autogynephilia-Everymans-autogynephilia-crossdreaming-transsexualism-ebook/dp/B00U2RWYT6

u/following_my_heart · 3 pointsr/trans

I don't see a conflict between those statements. The fact is that for nearly everyone, gender identity is not a choice. I would put the few for whom it seems a choice in the category of unspecified gender.

Kind of the right handed, left handed, ambidextrous. If you are ambidextrous, you can choose if you want to use your left or your right hand. But you can't choose to be ambidextrous: You are, or you are not. The fact is, most people can't choose their gender identity. A very few people, without that internal drumbeat telling them what gender they are, can. But that ability is still an innate thing.

Can someone who isn't 'unspecified gender' choose to present as a different gender than their internal identity? Sure. At great personal risk. Experiments in that direction (See "Self-Made Man" and of course the whole shitshow that is 'reparative therapy') have produced the strong result that you are risking suicidal depression by doing so. Even when done voluntarily. Gender identity is a powerful force - you screw with it at your own risk.

u/linusshlab · 2 pointsr/trans

Two Spirits, One Heart

I heard the mother and son give a talk, and they were great. I haven't read the book, but they did a particularly good job discussing the emotions that held them back and how they learned to deal with them.

u/Taredis · 1 pointr/trans

Trans bodies trans selves is a pretty good resource for trans folk and allies alike. There is a lot in there and can be a bit dense but it's really informative. https://www.amazon.com/Trans-Bodies-Selves-Transgender-Community/dp/0199325359