Reddit mentions of 22 Things a Woman with Asperger's Syndrome Wants Her Partner to Know

THIS: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1849058830/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

I've started reading it. It's only 140 pages, easy and quick to read--important because Husband has been working 60 hour weeks for months.

But, as I commented, there are things in it that I never recognized as being other than "just me." I used to joke that I missed out on a lot of the auxiliary female genes.

I was diagnosed at 23, I felt more relief than anger. I could stop being so hard on myself for failing where my peers seemed to succeed with ease. I could, with the help of professionals, find new ways to tackle anxiety that actually worked, and new ways to deal with situations that worked for me rather than against me.

It helps if both you and your partner can have some humour with your behaviour (when you behave childishly, or 'throw a tantrum'). It also helps if you can pick up on the signs leading up to, or causes and situations that may trigger you, so you can anticipate and accommodate for them.

My partner found books like this helped him get some perspective.

You'll find it hard to explain what it means to be on the spectrum unless you explain you're on, or suspect you're on, the spectrum. Having her understand that will provide a solid foundation for further discussion. It doesn't have to be earth-shattering: 'You know how some people by way of their genetic make-up are colour-blind - well some people are empathy blind...' is how one can begin a conversation.

These are quick, simple reads:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Things-Woman-Aspergers-Syndrome-Partner/dp/1849058830/

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Things-Woman-Must-Know-Aspergers/dp/1849058032/

This blogger writes eloquently. Advice applies to all relationships:

http://musingsofanaspie.com/aspergers-and-marriage/

22 Things a Woman with Asperger's Syndrome Wants Her Partner to Know https://www.amazon.com/dp/1849058830/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_7X.KDbB788W1J

22 Things a Woman Must Know If She Loves a Man with Asperger's Syndrome https://www.amazon.com/dp/1849058032/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_-Y.KDb1E3SXX8

I've read the first one and thought it gave a nice overview. I haven't read the second one but it is the one that is for if the male is autistic rather than the female.

If you are a girl, This is a great book. Granted it is for significant others of girls and women with Aspergers. If your bestie is able to look past the information specific to significant others it will do a good job of educating someone who is curious. I gave it to my last significant other as kind of a user guide for me.

This is so helpful, and they have one for men.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1849058830/ref=ox_sc_act_title_1?ie=UTF8&psc=1&smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER

I have my wife two books about autistic partners and they've helped us immensely. Here are the links:

https://www.amazon.com/Things-Woman-Aspergers-Syndrome-Partner/dp/1849058830/ref=pd_sim_14_12?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=1849058830&pd_rd_r=H6QFSVBBKGD9WMFP9QXM&pd_rd_w=ROcnM&pd_rd_wg=cJCIh&psc=1&refRID=H6QFSVBBKGD9WMFP9QXM

https://www.amazon.com/Asperger-Syndrome-Autism-Spectrum-Disorder/dp/1849054983/ref=pd_sim_14_5?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=1849054983&pd_rd_r=H6QFSVBBKGD9WMFP9QXM&pd_rd_w=ROcnM&pd_rd_wg=cJCIh&psc=1&refRID=H6QFSVBBKGD9WMFP9QXM

The first book also has another version for partners of autistic men.

There are a few books out there about being in a relationship with someone who has Aspergers, such as the one in the url below. Rudy Simone and Liane Holiday Wiley have written extensively about women with Aspergers. Good luck!

https://www.amazon.ca/Things-Woman-Aspergers-Syndrome-Partner/dp/1849058830/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1499642859&sr=8-3&keywords=rudy+simone