Reddit mentions of Aeotec Z-Wave Micro Dimmer, 2nd edition

SmartThings and Alex work very well together. Not to mention SmartThings automation is second to none as far as I have experienced with other hubs. This prevents you from having all those apps as you mentioned. All you have to do is add zwave or zigbee devices to your hub and you can control them from one place.
In your case, especially with the outside lights, I would just install one of these Aeontec microswitches. They come in dimmers too. You can hide them in the walls and your switches still work just as they did before, with the exception that you can now control them wirelessly. Just be sure to watch your draw. A lot of outdoor flood lights might be too much wattage for them. I installed a Lutron Caseta switch and hub for my father and quickly brushed up against the 650 Watt limit of those switches with all his outdoor flood lights. I'll be honest I don't know the limit of these switches and I can't find it on Aeontec's website, but you should be fine bellow 700 watts per switch.
With SmartThings you can set up timers for devices, link them to motion detectors, and even check on their power consumption if you have the right kind of switch.

Aeotech makes the micro dimmer and newer nano dimmer that do the same thing, but using the zwave protocol.

http://www.amazon.com/Aeon-Labs-DSC18103-ZWUS-White-AL001/dp/B008VWAPU4

or for dimmer :
http://www.amazon.com/Aeon-Labs-DSC27103-ZWUS-White-AL001/dp/B00IRI1CEK/ref=pd_sim_60_1?ie=UTF8&dpID=31seJADBH5L&dpSrc=sims&preST=_AC_UL160_SR160%2C160_&refRID=0328RRAJWFQ5PZM7CJGB

I've never seen a bulb like that... You might be able to put an in wall switch inside the junction box where the power comes into the hood. Would require some wiring know-how, so only try this if you're comfortable with that kind of thing.

What about putting these behind each light fixture? http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00IRI1CEK/ref=s9_simh_gw_g60_i16_r?ie=UTF8&fpl=fresh&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_s=desktop-1&pf_rd_r=188KJ4F4SWSHAZZX1WH4&pf_rd_t=36701&pf_rd_p=5d23eaf6-6278-49c1-b6df-7de0cb9b3a26&pf_rd_i=desktop

This is what's popular in the US for your exact situation: https://www.amazon.com/Aeon-Labs-DSC27103-ZWUS-White-AL001/dp/B00IRI1CEK/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1478869361&sr=8-1&keywords=aeon+labs+micro+switch

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00IRI1CEK

They also have a newer nano dimmer

I literally just installed one of these 15 minutes ago. It works great, I can control it via Amazon Echo through my hub, but it maintains the look and feel of the original light switch.

The micro switch just sits inside the gangbox.

https://www.amazon.com/Aeotec-Z-Wave-Micro-Dimmer-2nd/dp/B00IRI1CEK/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1483133953&sr=8-2&keywords=aeotec+micro+smart+switch

I've got the exact same switch.... Having done the same research as you, the simple answer is, there isn't a device that will duplicate that.

The closest solution I have come up with is to put 2 of these in the ceiling fan https://www.amazon.com/Aeotec-Z-Wave-Micro-Dimmer-2nd/dp/B00IRI1CEK/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1482251383&sr=8-1&keywords=z+wave+micro+switch. One to control the light and one to control the fan. Unfortunatly, you will lose control of the switch (other than on/off) at the physical switch itself. You would be able to both the light and fan on/off, but not just the light or the fan, you would need to use a smart device to do that.

Seriously... don't do this... This is an excellent way to burn down your house/apartment, or electrocute yourself. Yes, commercial products are a little more expensive, but that's because they have to meet actual quality standards and are rigorously tested (assuming you buy something that is UL rated).

Look in to a product like this: https://www.amazon.com/Aeotec-Z-Wave-Micro-Dimmer-2nd/dp/B00IRI1CEK/

That little "UL" in the top right corner means it is certified to not burn your house down (used properly)...

They also make 'double' versions of these to control two switches. I wish i'd understood more before converting the house over to GE/Jasco.

https://www.amazon.com/Vision-Z-Wave-Micro-Switch-relay/dp/B00R883YKU

Dimmer versions:

https://www.amazon.com/Aeotec-Z-Wave-Micro-Dimmer-2nd/dp/B00IRI1CEK/ref=sr_1_3?s=hi&ie=UTF8&qid=1486063509&sr=1-3&keywords=zwave+in+wall

second 2 gang option: https://www.amazon.com/Aeon-Labs-Aeotec-DSC-17103/dp/B01DDQS07W/ref=pd_sim_60_1?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=B01DDQS07W&pd_rd_r=YFHWK6KFSSQT2MNBSMT7&pd_rd_w=ahlIA&pd_rd_wg=Oo1Qn&psc=1&refRID=YFHWK6KFSSQT2MNBSMT7

I doubt you'll find an all-in-one product to accomplish this. Best bet is probably a fan/light control and a separate dimmer for the up-lighting. You would probably need to check if you can access the existing control module to bypass in order to connect up the new controls.

Something like this: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00IRI1CEK/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_t1_ltxLBbBTYB6D4

I use Aeon Labs micro dimmer modules on 3/4 way switches: https://www.amazon.com/Aeotec-Z-Wave-Micro-Dimmer-2nd/dp/B00IRI1CEK/ it wires between a 3&4 way circuit and the load. You keep the standard switch hardware and wiring, and just put one of these in the electrical box that feeds the load. It's much cheaper than putting lots of satellite switches on your complex circuits.

One of these should do the trick. Not a switch, but an in-line module that will connect to your hub. Oh yeah, you're gonna need a hub.

I hear you. I'm finding that smart outlets may not be the answer to most of what I want to do. I'm thinking I'm going be tucking a few of these in some boxes.

http://www.amazon.com/Aeon-Labs-DSC27103-ZWUS-White-AL001/dp/B00IRI1CEK/

When it says "in wall", they mean it needs to be in an electrical box.

You might try a normal switch connected to an
Aeon Labs Z-Wave Micro Smart Energy Switch
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B008VWAPU4/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_0gD-zbVX154GH

Turns your dumb switch smart :)

There's also a dimmer module:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00IRI1CEK/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_PiD-zbWY6WYJM

I did this with GE Switches in the wall wired up with no load. I Direct wired my ceiling fans and rewired their light kits with the Aeotec Micro Dimmer 2nd Edition
Then use Smart Lighting in Smartthings to tell the dimmer to turn on/off depending on the on/off status of the GE Switch in the wall. I have 4 ceiling fans setup like this. Works well. Would probably work even better if the GE Switches I used were ZWave +.

This nice thing about this module is it still has a provision for the pull chain. So the switch and the pull chain are functional in my setup.