Reddit mentions of All About Love: New Visions

Hey Amber! I'm 26 too and have been happily single for almost 3 years. It took me a while to get to that point, and it took a full year of me being "intentionally single" (no dating, no pursuing anyone etc)to be comfortable with where I am!

I've tried my best to focus on spending time with my friends and family and doing exciting things with them. Seeing live music, going to nature spots/beaches, making food together, going out for drinks and dancing, planning activities, getting involved in the community, etc. I've spent extra care and time getting to know how wonderful non-romantic love can be, and this is extremely fulfilling! By enhancing my platonic relationships and making them closer, I feel less time and energy is spent on trying to attract romantic or sexual attention. I feel more loved than I did when I had a romantic partner.

Going to a therapist really helped me too, if that's something you have access to I would recommend it to anyone. Having an objective voice who can help you build your confidence is invaluable!

Working on growing and exploring your passions is also paramount to being intentionally or happily single. I read a lot, listen to tons of podcast and radio, love to travel, cook, try new foods, I got into doing aquafit and water aerobics, cannabis, and I spend a lot of time researching subjects that fascinate me and learning as much as I can about them. Keeping your mind busy and fully entrenched in things you care about, combined with trying new things, is how to kick-start your self growth.

Here are a couple of books that came to mind that have helped me open my mind about love, relationships and singleness and whatnot:

https://www.amazon.ca/All-About-Love-New-Visions/dp/0060959479/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=all+about+love&qid=1566177095&s=gateway&sr=8-1

https://www.amazon.ca/All-Single-Ladies-Unmarried-Independent/dp/1476716579/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=all+the+single+ladies&qid=1566177116&s=gateway&sr=8-1

good luck and enjoy :)

The Orthodox Heretic by Peter Rollins

All About Love by bell hooks

EDIT: I also have a few poetry books that I love, but I can't remember the names of them, so I'll post again later when I'm in my room.

For 'radical' interventions on the notion of love, I would look into Alain Badiou's In Praise of Love, or bell hooks's All About Love.

Thanks. I'm sure the same thing has been said a thousand better ways in a thousand more languages.

I credit Bell Hooks for educating me about love. What a damn fool I was, for so long. I recommend all humans read it a few times.

Her book on love is maybe the best book I’ve ever read. I’ve given it to like five people and I found it so helpful in my healing journey. Also, this quote is from that book. Ha. :)

Here’s the link:
https://www.amazon.com/All-About-Love-New-Visions/dp/0060959479