Reddit mentions of All the Single Ladies: Unmarried Women and the Rise of an Independent Nation

Hey Amber! I'm 26 too and have been happily single for almost 3 years. It took me a while to get to that point, and it took a full year of me being "intentionally single" (no dating, no pursuing anyone etc)to be comfortable with where I am!

I've tried my best to focus on spending time with my friends and family and doing exciting things with them. Seeing live music, going to nature spots/beaches, making food together, going out for drinks and dancing, planning activities, getting involved in the community, etc. I've spent extra care and time getting to know how wonderful non-romantic love can be, and this is extremely fulfilling! By enhancing my platonic relationships and making them closer, I feel less time and energy is spent on trying to attract romantic or sexual attention. I feel more loved than I did when I had a romantic partner.

Going to a therapist really helped me too, if that's something you have access to I would recommend it to anyone. Having an objective voice who can help you build your confidence is invaluable!

Working on growing and exploring your passions is also paramount to being intentionally or happily single. I read a lot, listen to tons of podcast and radio, love to travel, cook, try new foods, I got into doing aquafit and water aerobics, cannabis, and I spend a lot of time researching subjects that fascinate me and learning as much as I can about them. Keeping your mind busy and fully entrenched in things you care about, combined with trying new things, is how to kick-start your self growth.

Here are a couple of books that came to mind that have helped me open my mind about love, relationships and singleness and whatnot:

https://www.amazon.ca/All-About-Love-New-Visions/dp/0060959479/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=all+about+love&qid=1566177095&s=gateway&sr=8-1

https://www.amazon.ca/All-Single-Ladies-Unmarried-Independent/dp/1476716579/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=all+the+single+ladies&qid=1566177116&s=gateway&sr=8-1

good luck and enjoy :)

Ooh, I'm gonna check that one out! I'm currently reading All the Single Ladies, and it's a fantastic look at bucking the system, taking care of oneself, maybe marrying, maybe not, etc.