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Reddit mentions of Bye-Bye Time (Toddler Tools®)

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Bye-Bye Time (Toddler Tools®)
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    Features:
  • Author: Elizabeth Verdick
  • Illustrator: Marieka Heinlen
  • Board book
Specs:
Height7 Inches
Length7 Inches
Number of items1
Release dateAugust 2008
Weight0.52 Pounds
Width0.5709 Inches

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Found 2 comments on Bye-Bye Time (Toddler Tools®):

u/Pterodactylgoat · 42 pointsr/funny

You're in the First 100 Days of Darkness https://www.scarymommy.com/100-days-darkness-new-baby/

Today, my 2 year old told me she loved me, that she wanted to hug and cuddle me. She also practiced for 20 straight minutes all of the emotional regulation techniques I've taught her (embrace Daniel Tiger for toddlers, omg it's the best tool). She said how she felt, why she felt that way, started singing the relevant song, and did breathing exercises, and declared that she felt better. All on her own.

It does get better, little by little. It's all really freaking hard but one day you are able to sleep in increments of more than an hour, live in moments of more than 10 minutes at a time, and eat hot food and drink hot beverages without being interrupted. There will be a day where you're not touched out.

You've got this. You may not feel like it but you've got this. You're not alone.

And in case no one has told you, invasive thoughts are common. If you get them, you can go "hello thought, fuck you" or think the opposite of the thought. Or notice things around your room using all of your senses.

One thing that helped me get through the first two years is Pokémon Go on my phone for making sure I get outside. (I'm sure this is probably harder with twins)

Hugs and love to you. You'll get through this.

Edit: c&p from my comment below:
Sure! First of all, I got these books:

  • Little Monkey Calms Down https://www.amazon.com/Little-Monkey-Calms-Hello-Genius/dp/1479522864

  • Calm Down Time https://www.amazon.com/Calm-Down-Toddler-Tools-Elizabeth-Verdick/dp/1575423162/

  • Bye Bye Time https://www.amazon.com/Bye-Bye-Toddler-Tools-Elizabeth-Verdick/dp/1575422999/



    Daniel Tiger, the show, is on Prime Video, but there's DT apps for iOS and android. I highly recommend the Daniel Tiger Parents app as it has all the songs/episode clips. We embraced the ipad long ago so she can use it independently and will go to that app and play the songs.

    I tried to memorize the DT songs for different emotions like mad, frustrated, and sad. Then when she's feeling a certain way, I would ask her how she feels, then say "Are you feeling mad/sad/frustrated/etc?" then sing the song, and say something like "let's reset", "how many blows do you think you would need to blow out...4 candles?" and held up 4 fingers. If she's feeling uncooperative, I'll go "can you help me blow out the candles?" and then we count as we blow them out. Or I'll ask her to help a stuffed animal.



    We also talk about choices a lot, good and bad choices. When she's making a bad choice, I tell her that she's making a bad choice and needs to reset herself and make good choices. "Kicking me is a bad choice. It hurts me. I cannot allow you to kick me or kick people. Are we allowed to kick others? Let's reset and take big breaths"

    I ask her a lot of open-ended questions, how are you feeling, what kind of choice are you making/was that, what was the bad choice, what can you do to make good choices next time? What can you do to reset?

    This morning, what she was doing was bringing me magnetic blocks, saying I needed to make a ladder or a house for a giraffe. Then it broke as she grabbed it. "I'm mad! Roar! I do breathing exercises." then she blew out several times, got off the couch, said something about how the blocks broke and she could make something else (I've reiterated to her that "The best thing about blocks breaking apart is that you get to make something new") and said she felt better and happy.



    Hope this helps! Sometimes it helps to have something physical for them to do when regulating. Or like, having them notice something around the room using their five senses. Oh! And you could have them hold their bellies and breathe in and out and notice how big their bellies get (I talk to her about how lungs work)

u/wanderer333 · 2 pointsr/Parenting

Yep, that sounds entirely possible. There are some great resources here from the Sesame Street Foundation on separation anxiety during school drop-off, and if he's a fan of Daniel Tiger you could also try the Grown-ups Come Back song. There are some great picture books on these themes as well such as The Kissing Hand, Llama Llama Misses Mama, Bye Bye Time, and Daniel Goes to School. Help him connect the character's experience to his own experiences, and talk about what strategies the characters use to feel better when they're sad about mom/dad leaving, and which ones your family might want to try.

The main thing is to validate his feelings and reassure him that you love him and will be back, rather than punishing his behavior. You can still set firm limits (I can't let you hit me; I have to leave now; etc) but by doing so in a calm, empathetic way, you will de-escalate the situation rather than escalating it further. Punishments aren't useful when he's so emotionally dysregulated that he's not even in control of his behavior. You need to help him learn to self-regulate and manage his anxiety before you can expect the behavior to improve.

I might suggest eliminating the bedtime battle entirely for now by just sitting in his room as he falls asleep - 3 years old is still quite young to be going to bed independently, and he will probably get to sleep more quickly and with less stress for everyone if you just sit in his room quietly for a few minutes after putting him to bed. You also never want to take away "bedtime privileges" that help him self-soothe, such as stuffed animals or familiar routines. Once he comes to trust that you're there for him at bedtime, that may make school drop-offs go a bit more smoothly as well. And you can always start phasing yourself out again once he's over this period of separation anxiety.