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Found 23 comments on Chimp Paradox: How Our Impulses and Emotions Can Determine Success and Happiness and How We Can Control Them:

u/jboyd88 · 13 pointsr/GetStudying

I'll share my reading list for the next 12 months as it's how I plan to become a better learner:


 

Learning

u/hammerheadzoid · 7 pointsr/aoe2

I recommend read a book called The Chimp Paradox. In this book the author explains how the mind could be looked at like it is in 3 different parts.

The first part is the Human, which is the person that you want to be. You want to nice, happy and in control just playing Age of Empires in this case.

The second part is the chimp... this part of you represents your more basic needs. Anger, needing respect, seeing things in black and white all come from the chimp inside you.

The third part is the computer. The computer contains pre-programmed almost like "macros". The human in you and the chimp in you first refer to the computer as a frame of reference as to what to do. So for example... if every time I ate an apple and got wildly sick after eating it, it would be programmed into my computer that apples make me sick. If there was a child who had an abusive child hood because her dad beat her might see all father figures in a negative light because of her terrible past in this regard.

I say this because it sounds to me like in the past maybe some kids bullied you or picked on you and maybe you played Age of Empires as a release from them or from whom ever it was you might have had negative associations with.

When you play age of Empires the human in you is going "Age Of Empires... Great fun game. The chimp in you refers to the computer as you do and both of you find that the computer says "Age of Empires equals Fun!". You play the game and you enjoy it. The chimp relaxes as you having fun gives him nothing to do but relax and chill the beans.

But then someone flames you, shouts abuse, just says negative silly stuff. Both your human and your chimp are alerted to this negativity. Here is the thing though, the chimp reads from the computer ALWAYS before you do. This is simply a feature of the chimp. So the chimp sees that the computer says "Flaming, trolling, picking on me equals negative". On seeing this the chimp goes wild. The chimp is offeneded. The chimp is screaming "who are these people thinking that they are better than me", or "they have no right to say that to me". The chimp in you looks at the screen and figured "the best way to stop all this is to stop the game... i want to put my fist through the screen to end the game".

Now of course, you do not put your fist through the screen because your human not kicks in and is rational, and nice. Your human says "no I will not put my fist through the screen as i need the screen for more than just Age of Empires. I need it for email, work and music etc." Your human is rational and writes to Reddit to look for an answer. That is where I come in writing this. I hope you read it, and keep and open mind to it. I do not know you but I know something about you. You are a kind, understanding, loving, smart and amazing person. You dealt with silly fools on the internet thats all. You are wondering why you reacted with the thoughts and feelings you did.

I would advise you to read the book below. I read it and lets just say it helped me too.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Chimp-Paradox-Management-Programme-Confidence/dp/009193558X

TL:DR
You dealt with silly people whilst playing a childhood game that triggered some feelings from your childhood I think.

u/GitGudDandy · 7 pointsr/motogp

There’s a book that many racers on both 2 wheels and 4 have used to sort their heads out, I’m grabbing a copy for Xmas because I need to sort my head out too.

Bradley Smith used it to great effect, as did Guy Martin, both of whom I identify with quite significantly.

[https://www.amazon.co.uk/Chimp-Paradox-Management-Programme-Confidence/dp/009193558X](The Chimp Paradox)

It identifies your worst qualities as being controlled by your ‘inner chimp’, mines called Kevin, and what you need to do to control them when all they want to do is scream at people from trees and fling shit.

I really hope Bradley can use his developmental skills to improve the Aprilia (if they’ll fucking listen) and that it’ll help the whole team to better results, including Bradley’s wildcards.

u/soutioirsim · 6 pointsr/Velo

The Confidence Gap

The Chimp Paradox

Mindfulness

These are some great books, by some fantastic psychiatrists. All these can help with anxiety. The Chimp Paradox book especially is written by Dr Steve Peters, who worked with the British Cycling track team and helped Chris Hoy, Victoria Pendleton, etc become the top in their sport (though his book is not specifically for cycling).

Althought some people will be saying 'don't worry about it' or 'just enjoy it', these are particularly useless statements and (through not fault of their own) generally come from people who have never delt with mental help issues. If it was as easy as 'don't think about it', then you wouldn't have made this thread. These books are based on real scientific evidence and help you deal with the anxiety and not just push it away.

I would say that The Chimp Paradox is best for understanding why you're feeling anxious and the other two books are really good for practising how to deal with the anxiety.

u/festivalgoer · 5 pointsr/explainlikeimfive

The Chimp Paradox By Prof. Steve Peters explains this nicely. I've had the pleasure of working with him a few times, and he explains the animal-primitive tendencies that we still have in our brain today. It's truly a great read... recommended.

u/BigFriendlyDragon · 5 pointsr/fatlogic

That's the silver lining, you can develop this control at any time, it's just very unlikely to happen spontaneously. But it already did for whatever reason, which is why you're here. Your prefrontal cortex is literally getting stronger, sending out stronger neural signals and developing neurons and connections to the rest of your brain. I found that this book, [The Chimp Paradox] (https://www.amazon.co.uk/Chimp-Paradox-Management-Programme-Confidence/dp/009193558X) framed all of this in a wonderfully well constructed and elegant model that could really help you with unwanted emotions and urges.

You gon b ok :).

u/lonelyinacrowd · 5 pointsr/unitedkingdom

The thing that's holding you back isn't the job market or being over qualified - it's your lack of direction, passion, interest and determination to go out there and stamp your mark on the world.

If there's something you want to do, just go and do it. Read 'The Chimp Paradox' - Amazon link - to sort your head out and get cracking.

u/PissStick · 4 pointsr/spinalcordinjuries

Some practical points now some for the future:

Avoid indulging the temptation of the "I will never list"
Make a new bucket list

Change your self talk: " you can do it, you can do it, you can do it"

Mantras work: "every day in every way, I'm getting better and better" (Google Emile Coue)

Conscious Gratitude: before you go to sleep each night, run through your mind and try and think of 3 things (literally anything big or small) that you are grateful for right now. (Seriously try this)

Do things that make you happy

Chase down friends and family experiences proactively

Get outside and exercise in any small way.
Best thing I invested in was an electric bike
Swimming pool is a must

Write a journal: Learn Dragon dictate for the PC
Invest in a decent touch screen phone, tablet/laptop, Bluetooth headset

Get some therapy asap

Listen to your body. Don't try to do things it can't.

Listen to your physio they are magicians

Understand the drugs (nerve pain) are essential early on but you are going to want to keep an eye on them and try to get off them some day (took me 4 yrs, still on bladder pills)

Get serious about your diet. Bladder and bowels are the hardest thing to contend with. Fresh fuit n veg.

If possible get or maintain your career

One last thing: read this book The Chimp Paradox
The Chimp Paradox: The Mind Management Programme to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence and Happiness https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/009193558X/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_uOCRCb2BJFG8X

This is a very personal list. As practical as it may be for me. 90% of what's going to help you understand what works for you will be hard earned through your own experiences.
You can do it! 🤓

u/TheGraycat · 4 pointsr/sysadmin

Have a read of The Chimp Paradox by Prof Steve Peters. It deals directly with that instant rage response and explains why it happens along with some tactics to deal with it.

u/tanissturm · 3 pointsr/northernireland

The Chimp Paradox: The Mind Management Programme to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence and Happiness https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/009193558X/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_-sqRCbJGENBWH

u/smcicr · 3 pointsr/DestinyTheGame

My 2p:

  • A new anything will always be harder initially - you have to learn new stuff and build new routines. No autopilot to start with.
  • If you're sure that you are asking clearly for direction and it's not forthcoming then you may just have to accept that you aren't going to get any and will need to look elsewhere for it / advice. Can you go to colleagues - is there a support system you can create there or already in place that you can join?
  • Do you know what it is that's causing you the stress - ie: have you had a chance to sit down and work out the specific things that are the triggers? It's much easier to address and make plans when you know that. (Also - I found The Chimp Paradox by Steve Peters really helpful in terms of understanding myself and managing stress amongst other things - recommended - http://www.amazon.co.uk/Chimp-Paradox-Management-Programme-Confidence/dp/009193558X/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1449850102&sr=1-1&keywords=the+chimps+paradox)
  • It's great that Destiny can be a distraction and a positive but if there are elements of it that don't help then for the time being - don't play them or find a way to remove the stress from them - again this comes back to knowing exactly what it is about crucible causes the stress. If it's something you can address then great - if it's not, leave it until your head is a little less full of the new work demands and keep using the bits of Destiny that help.

    I hope the racing is good for you ;)

    Hang in there ref the new job - it will absolutely get better and easier as time goes by.
u/Olentxero · 3 pointsr/Stoicism

This is an easy one!
You need to go speak to your boss. You need to leave all thoughts of self-justification behind. You can only speak to your actions and your feelings about them. You do not expect anything from your boss - abandon all feelings that he should also want to apologise. Your conversation should go something like this:

Boss, I want to speak to you about the other day. You were joking around and I got mad. I upset you and I want you to know that this was not my intention. I have been suffering because of this. I know that you care about me; I know that you have been a unique help to me. I feel really bad that I offended you and I really wanted you to know this

The exemplary Chimp Paradox points out the obvious fact that if we want to build bridges, we need to be prepare to build the bridge ourselves. Expecting the other party to join in may well be a reasonable expectation, but is also likely to lead to disappointment. In fact, one of the surest ways to happiness is to free ourselves of any expectations we might have of other people.

If you need the joking around to be a thing of the past, then be assertive. The common model for assertiveness has three parts:

  1. Point to an instance that you didn't like;
  2. Say how that made you feel;
  3. Tell the other person what you want to happen.

    eg When you made that comment about X, it made me feel embarrassed and belittled. I want to be able to work in a place where people don't talk about X.

    If you get want you want, job's a good un. If not, you need to go somewhere where you are more likely to be happy.
u/[deleted] · 2 pointsr/Buddhism

How would you define happiness?
Happiness is -imho- different to what most people seem to have said already. I see it as a temporary state that is dependent upon certain characteristics and which is part of the same ongoing cycle of suffering that we are trying to liberate ourselves from. It can be contrasted against peace which, once again imho, is what we are trying to cultivate.

What qualities make a person successful in life?
The successful cultivation of equanimity.

What qualities make a person a good person?
All people are neither good nor bad.

Are there any absolute or objective standards of right and wrong? If so, what are they?
There is no such thing as right or wrong. There are things that can help you achieve a state of liberation from suffering and things that contribute towards the prolonging of your suffering.

At this point, what is the highest priority of your life?
The search for peace.

If someone asked you to explain to them your philosophy of life (what you live by), what would you say? What reasons would you give to justify your answer?
Uuff! This is a long one. I developed a stone of life - see The Chimp Paradox. My Stone of Life is as follows:

>My name is u/Olentxero and I will very soon be dead. It will do no harm to remember the following:

>Firstly, everything in life is changing and nothing ever stays the same. Good and bad come and go. The greatest joy will never last for ever and the worst suffering will end one day.

>Secondly, the past is a fiction and the future does not exist. All that I have right here and right now is all that there is. Nothing else matters.

>Thirdly, the self that we think we know is an illusion. Its memories, its opinions, its needs and wants are nothing more than products of the mind. They are not real; they are not reliable; they are not me.

>Fourthly, pain is real; reactions are natural; mistakes are inevitable. But suffering is a choice; responses are a choice; putting things right is a choice.

>Fifthly, we all get things wrong, we all do things badly, we all say stupid things. We are not gods.

>And so, in the time that remains, I want to live my life according to the values of:

>acceptance: remembering all the time that this too shall pass and also that what is is all that can be;

>appreciation: remembering that each and every moment could be the last and should be enjoyed;

>humility: remembering that I am not as smart as I might think and that my mind can fool me without even trying;

>humour: remembering that life is an absurd endeavour and does not deserve to be taken too seriously;

>patience: remembering that time, distance and other perspectives are always helpful;

>compassion: remembering that other people are also suffering and that their suffering arises from the same delusions that mine does;

>forgiveness: remembering that though we all hurt each other, we almost always do so because our minds are playing tricks on us;

>compromise: remembering that life is not a game to be won, but an experience that we share;

>determination: recognising that effort is needed to live life according to these values.

>In the hope that when I die, I will have lived my life at peace and have enriched the lives of others.

To justify this, I would say that I recite it to myself daily in the hope that through processing it auditorily, the brain will keep at least some of it in mind throughout the day and that over time, the SoL will act as a stabilising force.

What is your view concerning the existence of God or the nature of ultimate reality? What reasons would you give to justify your answer?
The existence of a god is an irrelevance to me. The nature of ultimate reality can be explained by the self-obvious fact that This is it [gestures expansively].

In your view, what is the most basic, fundamental human problem?
Ignorance. We are homo insapiens insapiens (the creature that does not know that it does not know).

Is there a solution to the most basic human problem? If so, what is it?
Yes. Critical thought and education.

If you knew you could get the answer to one question in your life, what would the question be?
What are the names of the horses who will win the UK Grand National for the next 150 years?

u/putoption15 · 2 pointsr/pakistan

Happy to share my thoughts as this is something that interests me greatly. When not busy with mundane business stuff, I'm always thinking about how to get the best out of my team.

>Really what just scares me is that I panic easily

Well, fear triggers the primitive part of the brain which very quickly suppresses your PFC. Unfortunately, this is exactly the bit of the brain that you need to be working at its best. And the way to make your brain understand that the world will not end if the threat is realised is by experiencing it. For instance, deliberately failing an assessment that doesn't count towards the final score.

And shifting one's perspective on performance is critical to managing the amygdala. Therefore rather than saying "I must get an A grade" to yourself, it needs to be "I'll do the very best I can and will continuously improve." This way exam is not a threat but rather an opportunity to improve.

Good read: Chimp Paradox.

u/acp_rdit · 2 pointsr/JordanPeterson

every few mins stop what you are doing, close your eyes and just take a couple of deep breaths, a mini-meditation break emptying your mind except for your concentration on breathing

when you "come back" you ask yourself what you are doing, and why you are doing it

this will align your actions to your purpose as you continue your task, or you might decide that the current task isn't your highest priority and go on to something else

either way you are acting with conscious intention and not on instinctual auto-pilot

this book has some good metaphors for how consciousness interacts with our instinctual behaviors https://www.amazon.com/Chimp-Paradox-Management-Programme-Confidence/dp/009193558X

u/Say_Nowt · 1 pointr/IWantToLearn

I have the same problem as you. I'm currently reading a book called The Chimp Paradox and it really seems as though it could help me. Give it a try!

u/IneptSamurai · 1 pointr/explainlikeimfive

The Chimp Paradox has a great way of explaining this feeling. I'd recommend simply because it's written in a way that's easy to understand (as I often find myself getting bored and sidetracked in a book with fancy neuro-jargon I don't understand due to my lack of a degree in brain science) but it also doesn't dumb it down and treat you like a child.

u/crazyunicorntamer · 1 pointr/DeadBedrooms

It’s a really good read to understand how your brain works and what causes you to have emotional reactions and the way you think and it’s in a simplified manner too so even a biff like me can understand it!


https://www.amazon.co.uk/Chimp-Paradox-Management-Programme-Confidence/dp/009193558X/ref=nodl_

u/Clive_Pringles_Head · 1 pointr/loseit

I have an insane sugar/fat addiction (especially chocolate) and I believe that if I would give it up for good, I could theoretically be supermodel skinny! I did temporarily give it up for 2/3 months as I had a wedding to go to as an incentive, but soon afterwards I fell off the wagon and began binging on it.


Anyway, I'm reading The Chimp Paradox at the moment, which basically helps you to deal with that uncontrollable/emotional part of your brain that doesn't think logically. I'm hopeful that this may help me battle my sugar demon in the new year, so it's worth a look.

u/zoooface · 1 pointr/ADHD

The almost euphoric experience was interpreted by OP to be that his Mother had chosen to believe the lie about any productive progress to complete the goal of "reaserched, drafted, checked, finished, re-checked gammer and spelling, and handed-in assignment paper by a certain set date".

I believe that recalled memories by people with ADD, like myself, of frankly awful moments and times whereby I have been stumped and flumuxed by prior tasks occur with greater ease than any fantastic positive memories of any prior goals. I became overwhelmed with simple tasks, that the only way to complete productive tasks is to be in a state of fear and anxiety with an almost unmeatable deadline.

Also, when my mind has an ideal version of the final perfect document and I can't plan on how to achieve it, I switch to not doing anything; it's not worth the mental anguish.

This felt papaple relief was that OP with an ADD brain had not been forced by a trusted loved one to have to explain and justify his perceived fear of doing, offer bizarre and very boring tasks, that nurotypical people seem to complete with ease. For example:

  • try all cushions to make seat comfy again.
  • what was that noise outside ... it remind of that time on the beach with ... ohh forgot her name, let's check Facebook...
  • my left armpit smells, I must have forgot to put deodorant on it, I need another shower and clean T-shirt, oh no...need to do washing.
  • etc.

    This is all before a PC has been switched on, and half of day gone !!

    The fear of doing something constructive for OPs future, like completion of all tasks required to finish assignment in time, outweighed the need to confront the complex reasons for a mindset laced with these complex fears.

    The very complex mindset, laced with fear, of OP, in effect, lied its own self. Whereby, any future costs to lost of trust within the inter-personal relationship with Mother was less than having to confront the fear mindset that has to date seemingly hobbled OP.

    I would argue, that the lie was not actually to Mother, but, as the cost was to great to confront own fear mindset, was direct lie to OP's own self !! The euphoria experience was because OP had not had to confront complex fears of angush and failure; not because Mother believed OP story.

    This situation is a complex version of Loss Aversion.

    From wiki(Loss Aversion): Note that whether a transaction is framed as a loss or as a gain is very important to this calculation: would you rather get a $5 discount, or avoid a $5 surcharge? The same change in price framed differently has a significant effect on consumer behavior.

    I have recently graduated with a PhD and have battled, mostly unrecognised, with ADD my entire life.

    One strategy to overcome the first rush to negative memories is it to surround your work environment with bright fun physical evidence of prior completed goals. Mount those returned papers, whatever the grade they were still completed, and photos of you achieving daring adventures.

    Also, I can not more highly recommend this book:

    The Chimp Paradox: The Mind Management Programme to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence and Happiness https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/009193558X/ref=cm_sw_r_fm_apa_i_BOlIDbCHNSGH
u/TallyMay · 1 pointr/NoFap

If you want to explore it more and learn about balancing that part of yourself with other parts, read this book


The Chimp Paradox: The Mind Management Programme to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence and Happiness Paperback – 5 Jan 2012
by Prof Steve Peters (Author)


I won't give any more motivations, comments here should be enough

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Chimp-Paradox-Management-Programme-Confidence/dp/009193558X

u/neptunium · 0 pointsr/hearthstone

Sounds like you need to learn to handle your inner chimp.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/The-Chimp-Paradox-Management-Confidence/dp/009193558X