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u/canned_goodness · 1 pointr/askseddit

Ah that’s great, mate. So pleased to hear that. 👏🏻


MENTAL FOCUS

Most guys don’t know this, but your vibe & frame of mind (Vin DiCarlo calls this “your (mental) focus”) on the initial approach/meeting is SO important.
A girl totally knows, within the first few seconds of meeting a guy, if a guy is a potential Lover, or a definite Provider/Friend

If you have stayed in the same frame of mind throughout your relationship, then I dare say you are a potential Lover for her.
The hugging though, it sounds like more of a friend hugging, than a lover hugging. But best to be cool, while you guys are still friends.

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THE SITUATION

  • She sees you as a potential Lover who is her friend now (I’m 50-70% sure).
  • She doesn’t seem open to a relationship between the two of you currently.
  • Therefore, you should:
    • Be a cool guy friend of hers (ie. Don’t be too forward with her romantically. Give her some space.), and
    • Start dating other women — this has many benefits:
    1. increase your attractiveness to women in general,
    2. Improve your skills with dating women, and
    3. Cultivate an Abundance mentality (instead of the Scarcity mentality/neediness most average guys have)

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      WHAT TO DO FROM HERE: SOME SUGGESTIONS

      To keep you on the (potential) Lover side, I suggest

  • CHIVALRY: being/continuing to be chivalrous when you’re out with her.
    • eg. open doors for her in a Prince Charming way, not in a supplicating way.
    • eg2. When walking side-by-side next to her on the sidewalks, and she’s on the edge of the sidewalk — gently redirect her so you swap spots with her
    • Little things like that.
  • ABUNDANCE MENTALITY: Be her friend, but continue meeting other new women. If you dare, you could even ask her for recommendations (anyone amongst her friends she could introduce you to).
  • HAVE HIGH STANDARDS: Be a good friend, but never supplicate to her. Hold her to the same high standards (for choosing a friend) you use for all your other friends.
  • HAVE FUN: Keep teasing her, flirting with her, when it feels right. Calibration is key. Be a cool guy in her life. 😎
  • IMPROVE YOUR SKILLS WITH WOMEN: If you are interested in women, go read up more on how to improve your life & lifestyle, to:
    1. Be attractive to women you like
    2. Meet more women on a regular basis (eg. joining a social Tennis/Netball club)
    • Book suggestion: Stephen Nash’s How to Get a Girlfriend Amazon link here — Note: I don’t receive any commissions, I’m recommending it coz it’s a good book if you’re genuinely looking to improve with women
    • Free resource: The Book of Pook

      Hope this helps

      P.s. My brief background: I’m a 33yo man, happily married.
      I was very shy in my teenage years and had to learn how to get good at dating with women.
      It was a scary but fantastically fun adventure dating some beautiful women, and I gained some valuable social skills & social confidence. Life is good now.