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Reddit mentions of My New Gender Workbook: A Step-by-Step Guide to Achieving World Peace Through Gender Anarchy and Sex Positivity
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Nope, it's real, and mandatory. http://www.amazon.com/New-Gender-Workbook-Step-Step/dp/0415538653/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top
Feminism is for Everybody, bell hooks
Politics of Reality, Marilyn Frye
Feminist Theory, From Margin to Center, bell hooks
Ain't I a Woman, bell hooks
The Second Sex, Simone de Beauvoir
Borderlands/La Frontera, Gloria Anzaldua
Nickel and Dimed, Barbara Ehrenreich
Sister Outsider, Audre Lorde
Men Explain Things to Me, Rebecca Solnit
The Feminine Mystique, Betty Fridan
Women, Race, and Class by Angela Davis
Gender Trouble, Judith Butler
Capitalism, a Ghost Story, Arundhati Roy
Sex and Social Justice, Martha Nussbaum
Persepolis by Marjane Satrapi
We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
Snow Flower and the Secret Fan by Lisa See
The Color Purple by Alice Walker
This Bridge Called My Back: Writings by Radical Women of Color
The New Gender Workbook by Kate Bornstein
Whipping Girl by Julia Serrano
edit: Taking on the Big Boys by Ellen Bravo, too, though not publically available that I can find.
Not doing summaries/reviews, cause it's late and I'm tired. On request, I suppose. Mostly books, with a couple docs and a few blogs.
Less theory, more personal experiences:
Actually Theory:
And a couple links I make it a point to share whenever I can:
First of all, thank you for being a cool mom. We need more like you in this world.
Second, a qualified gender therapist, asap. WPATH is a good place to start looking for resources.
Lastly, this book. I read the first edition and it had a lot of great insights. Of the half-dozen or so trans books I read (which is by no means comprehensive) this was the most helpful.
This sounds a lot like how I identify. I label myself agendered, because most of the time, I don't like being gendered one way or the other, but if I have to be gendered, I prefer feminine pronouns to masculine pronouns. I also went through a stage thinking I was MtF trans, which eventually helped me realise that I didn't want to be identified as either.
As others have said, it's basically up to you how you identify. Ultimately, it's just a label to communicate with others roughly where you're at with gender, not a definition you have to fit into. What you should do really depends on how you want to express yourself and how important it is to you that others recognise your identity.
I found it useful to talk to people about my experiences, as the questions they brought up I often hadn't asked myself. I also found the My New Gender Workbook to be a helpful exercise in figuring myself out.
I was on hormones on the time, which resulted in a bit of consternation on my part, but I've decided that if I have to be one way or the other, I'd rather be in a feminine body with varying expression than in a masculine one. I'm going to talk to my endocrinologist next time I see him about non-binary/androgynous hormone options.
PM me if you need someone to talk to about it.
I've heard that this helped for some people:
https://www.amazon.com/New-Gender-Workbook-Step-Step/dp/0415538653
It didn't do much for me because I was way beyond that point, but it was comforting to know that many others had the same opinion on gender I did (that it's confusing and unhelpful)
Besides what the other poster said about experimentation, I'd like to say that "depression/anxiety" and "trans identity" co-occur a lot and you can easily have both. Gender dysphoria can manifest like--or in some cases, exacerbate--depression symptoms.
Zinnia Jone's articles about dysphoria and depression might be useful here.
The biggest hurdle I overcame was my shame about the way I felt about gender. The second biggest hurdle was doubt--I felt that I couldn't tell anyone about my feelings until I had everything "figured out"
Once I realized that these were obstacles and that I was probably suppressing something, I made an effort to talk more about how I felt and express myself freely, even if all I had to say was "I'm not sure." And the more I did it, the better I felt and the easier it got.
A good reference, Q and A, and all around interesting read is: My New Gender Workbook: A Step-by-Step Guide to Achieving World Peace Through Gender Anarchy and Sex Positivity
No affiliation - I just read it (and lots of other things) because I had to figure if I was a non-conforming man or genderqueer, or transgender. - I'm transgender. :)
https://www.amazon.com/New-Gender-Workbook-Step-Step/dp/0415538653/ref=pd_sbs_14_img_0?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=BHG8DVB1NCYQG5KAGDF3
^it's a long link but a great book to help figure things out. It really helped me and it's pretty fun. I did the first one a long time ago, didn't even know there was a new one..
Yes! Honestly I think the only men that don't like tall women are insecure short men. Not to say short women aren't attractive but there is a false stigma that tall girls are unattractive. (key word: false)
Yes, waiting can be hard. It took 4 months to get into a gender therapist in Boston. It is worth it though. In the meantime there are some books that may help them to better understand their feelings and options. There are two workbooks that I read that were okay:
A Guide to Gender - The Social Justice Advocate's Handbook and the author is great and this Ted Talk he did is awesome.
Some others are:
Perhaps these will help them and even yourself find your answers.
The book that catalyzed my gender questioning and discovery was My Gender Workbook , which it seems now has an updated sequel .
Another very good trans memoir is Janet Mock's
If you have had these thoughts for a long time, which it sounds like then I would go to a therapist at the least. If you aren't willing to do that, take it a step further, and see what like and dislike. There is no right or wrong answer to what your gender should be, or how that should outwardly come to fruition. It is about finding what is comfortable for yourself. Take a day in the next week to get a few feminine items if you can, a cheap wig, a little make up, and a dress. Put them on and see how you feel presentation wise. Regardless of how you choose to present yourself in the world, your insides, your true self will always be the same. The great thing about doing about messing around to start in the privacy of your home is that it can all come off it isn't right. I would also suggest looking into Kate Borenstein's " My Gender Workbook" [http://www.amazon.com/New-Gender-Workbook-Step-Step/dp/0415538653]. I personally didn't use it, but I know of people who have, and said it really helped them figure out where they were on the spectrum of gender. Just remember there is no right or wrong.
Hrm. I would love to write a guidebook for this stuff...a humorous one.
Come to think of it there is a work book for gender stuff, I hope the link is ok:
My New Gender Workbook: A Step-by-Step Guide to Achieving World Peace Through Gender Anarchy and Sex Positivity https://www.amazon.com/dp/0415538653/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_ZNZqDbKPE01R9