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This is call "the mechanism of invalidation". People try to harm the self esteem of other people to improve their own self esteem.
You should buy this book and give her a copy: Nasty people
Isolation is a classic invalidation technique. This book has helped friends and me tremendously. The people you really have to worry about are the people who do it intentionally.
http://www.amazon.com/Nasty-People-Being-without-Stooping/dp/0071410228/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1278085217&sr=8-1
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Nasty People: How to Stop Being Hurt by Them without Stooping to Their Level by Jay Carter
https://www.amazon.com/Nasty-People-Being-without-Stooping/dp/0071410228
Curiously enough, if I recall correctly, immediately walking away and disengaging upon certain behaviors like name-calling was one of the recommended calm and non-threatening actions that instantly tells the invalidator that they cannot treat you that way and that they do not have control over you.
The good news is that many invalidators are not maliciously, intentionally, consciously behaving this way. They are just imitating behavior that they have witnessed or experienced. It's a learned behavior and/or a self-defense type of thing. And they are usually sad. But, that behavior can be altered. There is, however, a very small percentage of the population that probably can't. Hopefully, the techniques will improve your relationship, or at least make you aware of what is happening so that you can prevent it from affecting you so much.
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Nasty People: How to Stop Being Hurt by Them without Stooping to Their Level https://www.amazon.com/dp/0071410228/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_84RszbFD86HAT
I'd like to recommend the book Nasty People. [Book!]( http://www.amazon.com/Nasty-People-Being-without-Stooping/dp/0071410228
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I wish I'd read it earlier in my life. From the description: " With straight-talking advice, real-life anecdotes, and psychology that makes sense, Carter explains how to handle and stop painful behavior that harms both the perpetrator and the victim."
Thanks, but I didn't coin the term. It came from Chapter One of this book: http://www.amazon.com/Nasty-People-Jay-Carter/dp/0071410228 (I have some real winners in my family.)
Nasty People: How to Stop Being Hurt by Them without Stooping to Their Level
>Fourteen years since its first publication, the bestsellerNasty People has been revised and updated to cover the motivations of nasty people, how to avoid confrontation with a nasty boss, how to handle a nasty spouse, and much more, including:
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> - How to break the cycle of nastiness
> - A new understanding of personality disorders and depression
> - Narcissism, nasty behavior, and self-doubt
> - Nasty people and self-validation
> - The role adrenaline plays in nasty behavior and our responses to it.
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>Everyone knows a person who has been hurt, betrayed, or degraded by nasty individuals or has experienced it themselves. In three books, Jay Carter, Psy. D., shows readers how to stop this cycle of overt and covert abuse, without resorting to nasty tactics. Now for the first time, this series is released together to cover all areas of dealing with difficult people. With straight-talking advice, real-life anecdotes, and psychology that makes sense, Carter explains how to handle and stop painful behavior that harms both the perpetrator and the victim.