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Reddit reviews on Never Eat Alone: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time

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We found 21 Reddit mentions of Never Eat Alone: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time. Here are the top ones.

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u/bombeater · 15 pointsr/ZenHabits

If you aren't being facetious... start with these books:

  • The Compassionate Life, by Marc Ian Barasch

  • Never Eat Alone, by Keith Ferrazzi.

  • Anger, by Thich Nhat Hanh.

    These are all easy books to blow off. You can dismiss The Compassionate Life as a guidebook for letting other people take advantage of you. You can dismiss Never Eat Alone as the egotistical scrambling of a sleazy salesman. You can dismiss Anger as a hand-wavey tome of feel good nonsense. If you're tempted to do so, I urge you to suspend your judgment and pour yourself into them. Here's why:

    From Anger, I learned not to let my fear of feeling and sharing emotions prevent me from opening myself up to other people. The book is about anger, but it applies to everything: jealousy, fear, anxiety, confusion, even joy. It taught me to treat my negative feelings as a part of myself that deserved compassion and nurturing just like anything or anyone else I care about.

    From Never Eat Alone, I learned the value of trust and openness. The point of "networking" isn't to collect business cards and shine your teeth at people; it's to establish an extended family of people who you genuinely care about, and thus, through inevitable cause and effect, who genuinely care about you. You don't have to be married to someone or see them every day to love and care about them. You just have to treat them like a human being, and not hide the truth of your human-ness out of fear of being judged.

    Finally, from The Compassionate Life, I learned that I'm not the only one walking this path. It gave me the determination to continue walking, even in the face of judgment, ridicule, and skepticism from many people around me. It solidified my hunch that, in the right hands, compassion is a great strength, and not a weakness. It helped me learn to forgive myself and others, even for what felt like irrecoverable wounds or betrayals. More than that, it helped me learn from those wounds, and it helped me learn from the forgiveness. It gave me strength.

    That's all I've got for the moment!
u/mykart · 7 pointsr/seduction

The basics for guy friendships are the same for relationship building in general: Do things that puts you in close proximity of other people, approach by sparking up random conversations (sports, girls, whatever), and add value to their lives in some way.


If you want something more in depth then I can recommend the following books which have helped me immensely on having more friendships and connections:

Never Eat Alone


How to Win Friends & Influence People

u/TheSojourner · 5 pointsr/sysadmin

There is no "right way". Our field isn't a trade (yet), but because it changes so often, it's hard to teach in school.

He should be networking and meeting people in the industry. Read the book Never Eat Alone.

While he's building a network, he should be studying for certs. A good way to get some real-world experience and network at the same time is to volunteer at a nonprofit to do IT stuff. NPO directors and board members are typically well-connected. People in high places love to help other people they see potential in.

A saw a few studies a while back that found that 80% of people got their jobs through networking of some sort, while only 20% found them through a job posting. That means there's a whole lot of jobs that are unlisted and the only way to get them is to build a network.

u/friendlyhuman · 4 pointsr/AskReddit

Wow, I wish I would have had your insight to ask this question 9 years ago. Spend your first week reading three books (four if you come from an upper-middle-class or wealthier family).

  • How to Win Friends and Influence People
  • How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less. (Not gonna lie, this has a lot of bull shit in it, but the good parts are really practical.)
  • Never Eat Alone
  • The Millionaire Next Door (optional. Read it when I was your age, and it got my ass in gear.)

    Once you finish Never Eat Alone, start reaching out to people. Start spending your money on having conversations over coffee. Yes, some call this "networking," but don't think of it that way. You're making friends. For the next 5 months, you don't have any needs, so now is the perfect time to put others first. My life is currently full of awesome friends, and it's all because I took the time to give a shit about them. Be sure to take notes and have some sort of contact list (highrise is free). It's not romantic, but if you genuinely want to make friends, it's the way to do it. The more people you meet, the easier time you'll have of helping them by making introductions.

    I've been doing this for a couple years now, and it has literally changed my life. I'm friends with people I never even dreamed of knowing. I'm a freelancer, and I literally have more work than I know what to do with. I'm throwing a big party in a couple weeks for all my friends, and I'm shocked at who all has said "yes."

    tl;dr Meet all the people you can, think of others first, and someday they'll likely return the favor.
u/sikosmurf · 4 pointsr/programming

Glad to help :-) And yes, a picture of yourself is very important. It doesn't have to be a super high quality professionally taken headshot. Just go somewhere outside while wearing a polo and have a friend take a picture, then crop to just your head. It will be good enough.

If you are interested in improving your general networking skills, I'd recommend the book Never Eat Alone. It's not perfect, but there are a lot of good ideas and general tips.

u/xasper8 · 3 pointsr/Frugal

I'm with you - If I'm eating alone, I'm eating on the cheap... but then again I view eating as either; a mandatory, physiological need (an annoying interruption to my current task at hand) or 2. a networking opportunity.


In my experience, if you can arrange most of your meals around option 2 - the value of the relationship (business or otherwise) will far out weigh the cost of the meal.

I am not endorsing this book - I have never read it - however, "judging the book by it's cover" I subscribe to the philosophy.

Never Eat Alone
*edited for speln

u/BridgetteBane · 3 pointsr/jobs

If you haven't yet, try reading "What Color is your Parachute". It offers lots of career changing advice, guidance on finding out what sort of work you'd really like to do, and also tons of great resources that you can pursue, including some lesser known job hunting sources like job search groups, which I'd never heard of before. It also just sorta gets you into a more optimistic mindset, I think.

Another one I would recommend would be "Never Eat Alone", which is about meeting and cultivating a great network. As we all know, an awesome network can be a huge asset.

u/niton · 3 pointsr/AskReddit

Alright. This is going to be hard for you but with a little initiative and courage, you can become the individual you want to be. Here are a few resources to get you started:

  • TED Talk: The power of vulnerability - Don't be afraid to make yourself look bad. You will only learn societal conventions and form your own responses to them by expanding your comfort zone.

  • Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway! by Susan Jeffers - A book based on the same principle of "put yourself out there!" Doing crazy things also means you get stories to tell when talking to others.

  • Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferrazi - All about networking and building relationships.

    I used to be very shy and pretty awful at partying, interacting with women or just basically having a life. I now work at a job where my ability to communicate (and generally be interesting) is my chief marketable skill (no small feat for someone who was shy and boring). All the resources I suggested above were integral in helping me translate my desires into action. You already know what you want to achieve. It's just a matter of actually getting out of your comfort zone.

    Good luck!
u/[deleted] · 2 pointsr/investing

Seconded.

The recommended reading list is fantastic.

I would also recommend you read the following books

Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferrazzi

The Greatest Salesman in the World by Og Mandino

Edit - Point is, invest in yourself and the relationships with people around you. That will pay dividend in the long-term.

u/likebuttermilk · 2 pointsr/IWantToLearn

Specific to professional events and conferences, this is a pretty decent article: http://www.frannyoxford.com/wordpress/2011/08/how-to-meet-people-at-professional-conferences/

If you're at events that are specifically for networking like a professional mixer, I would not hesitate to approach people even more liberally. Everyone is there to meet people. They will appreciate you breaking the ice.

In general, you may want to check out Never Eat Alone. Detailed review/summary here.

u/creatineboss · 2 pointsr/asktrp

http://www.amazon.com/Never-Eat-Alone-Secrets-Relationship/dp/0385512058

although I haven't read it, its on my booklist and its pretty highly recommended

u/troyfawkes · 2 pointsr/askseddit

Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferrazzi and I wish I had started with it. Seduction is soooo much easier to learn when you have tons of people to practice on without having to cold approach 3 nights/week.

Combine this book with some of the advice from the short articles you're reading and you'll be a better gamer than 90% of the guys here - and you'll have friends, fame and fortune to boot.

Oh and if you remember me once you're done, send me a message with how it worked out for you.

u/lazyant · 2 pointsr/kitchener

some random advice:

u/Kressious · 2 pointsr/freelance

If you can't tell from the responses, networking (building relationships) is very important.

Being social, helping others, and letting others know specifically what you do and for whom is very beneficial. I've gotten a lot of referrals from my network.

You never know when someone that's a relatively weak tie in your network has an opportunity to refer business to you or send you introductions to others. If you can stay top of mind with those people, then you'll have access to more opportunities.

Here are some books worth reading if you haven't read them before:


u/jl4855 · 1 pointr/PersonalFinanceCanada

pack a lunch every single day.

then again i'm reading 'never eat alone' right now.

u/nick632 · 1 pointr/AskReddit

You know those books that make people lots of money?

They're called best-sellers. Not best-written, but best-sellers.

Think about that.

Also, read http://www.amazon.com/Sharks-Without-Being-Eaten-Alive/dp/0449911489 and http://www.amazon.com/Never-Eat-Alone-Secrets-Relationship/dp/0385512058 and treat this job as your chance to learn how to fill people's needs. Yes, you're selling car chargers and blue tooth headsets, but someday those skills could go to schmoozing with business owners/decision makers to land a job or project.

Not that you aren't, but the sooner you treat everydays' experiences as learning exercises towards greater goals, the more awesomer your life will be.

u/H3lius · 1 pointr/asktrp

Before we talk about girls, let's talk about you. "Alpha" men don't exist, it's a mindset anyone can have.

"I get awkward as fuck in social gatherings and would rather just spend my time by myself." -- This indicates to me that this should be your area of focus. Force yourself into awkward situations until they aren't awkward anymore. Your emotional immune system is a muscle, you need to flex it. I argue that success is the 80/20 rule, 80% social skills, and 20% intelligence/knowledge in the field.

A book to help:
http://www.amazon.com/Never-Eat-Alone-Secrets-Relationship/dp/0385512058

Think of it has a game. You're awkward in social situations because either you're not turning it into a game and you don't know the rules, or you're too concerned about what people will think about what you say. If you're genuinely just really bad at talking to people, take the former perspective and start reading books on influencing people or becoming a good story teller: http://www.dangerandplay.com/2014/07/28/how-to-tell-interesting-stories/. Then start executing them in situations. Force yourself into meetups for things you like.

Also, RSDTyler has some really good videos recently about all of this. Check out his youtube channel.
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCD4xqm6vJ3K4ntppsE1jL4g

Check out TRT too: http://www.dangerandplay.com/trt-testosterone-replacement-therapy/

Reminder: You have a need to be loved, for emotional connection, etc. You DON'T need this specific girl for this, but she can meet your needs IF YOU'RE SETTING EXPECTATIONS for the relationship.

Before I got into my current LTR with a really RP woman, I asked her where it was going. I expressed my needs, and got hers. I set expectations, but remained as confident as I could with "outcome independence" as some call it. This might be unattractive to some women, but REALLY attractive to some. I don't like people wasting my time, so I started doing this. I can get a random hookup if I want to get laid, I don't concern myself with what a girl thinks about how I set expectations for a LTR. They want it or they don't, period. "I'm the catch" mindset helps here.

See, love goes away. Once the initial rush of a relationship is gone, if you two cannot meet eachother's needs, than the relationship falls apart. Just like you couldn't meet your X's sexual needs while you were deployed. She had someone else meet that need.

It's hard, and you might risk losing this girl. She may say "I'm just looking for something for the next few years, then I'm planning on moving to X, etc" (filling her need for a fuck or emotional connection). Are you willing to move with her or not? Are you sure you'd like to follow and not lead? Is she willing to sacrifice her goals in life to settle down and have a family with you? If she can't meet your needs, why keep her around? There are PLENTY of other girls out there that can meet your needs.

I'd argue that girls don't realize that they aren't going to be happy pursuing their goals in life that aren't related to having kids and raising happy and healthy kids. Getting a nursing degree, sure, go for it babe. But at the end of the day, I'm going to want kids in the future and you better be ready to drop EVERYTHING for us to do that. Again, "love" is relative and meaningless in the long term. You can either show her over time by being a really confident leader (alpha), or find someone that wants to have kids and stuff right now and not waste your time. The former is in my opinion not the right option.

Write down a list of YOUR needs. Narrow them down to their root needs. For example, you don't have a need for X to love you, you have a need for LOVE (ignore the fact that love is subjective for this example). Or take it further and write you have a need for physical closeness or trust with someone instead of "love". That you consider that to be part of love as it makes you feel good. Regardless of length, get it down on paper or in Evernote. If you're not willing to confront this new girl with your list of needs and ask her for hers, than just observe her actions and figure out her needs on your own (this wastes time, and it seems like you've spent plenty of time already on girls). If she's not right, MOVE ON. It sucks, I totally get it. But at the end of the day you are still the "gorilla", just smarter and more motivated/clear with intent.

Summary: Focus on you, your needs, and stop looking for a magic pill or the right advice from other men. Figure out what YOU want in life, and be a man that sets expectations and leads the direction of his life.

u/iddoy · 1 pointr/IAmA

First of all, are you actually a writer or not? Figure this out. Are you writing right now? Do you like it? Do you like to express ideas, etc? This is a big part of it. Find that out now by doing a lot of work-- I wish I had figured this out long ago.

Once you have this done, then it's about connecting to existing networks of people. Everyone that I met that helped me out, I met online. I began knowing no one, in another country (Canada), with no education or anything. So honestly, this sounds impossible but it's actually quite easy.

Build a network of valuable people around you. Here, read this book. It's not bullshit.

u/jurl · 1 pointr/nba

The two most important things to do to break into the industry is to network and to build a portfolio of tangible work. And when I say networking I don't mean sending out resumes and business cards but rather building relationships. I highly recommend reading Keith Ferrazzi's "Never Eat Alone" http://www.amazon.com/Never-Eat-Alone-Secrets-Relationship/dp/0385512058#. True relationship building is essential in such an insular industry as most opportunities are not listed publicly. It is through your relationships that you learn of most opportunities and it is through those same relationships where you can get credibility via recommendations. And whether you want to go into coaching, scouting, or even analytics you are best served by actively doing those things. Even if it is just summer basketball or middle school any coaching is experience that can help you get better. If you want to be a scout go scout the high schools and colleges near you. You will improve as a talent evaluator while simultaneously building up a portfolio of tangible proof of your knowledge, skills, and abilities. If you want to do analytics then start running studies on various things that could help a team improve. I hope this helps.

u/line10gotoline10 · 0 pointsr/AskReddit

Also, re: lunch hours.

Read Never Eat Alone, and live by the advice in there.

Read The Simple Dollar and live by the advice in there.

For an added bonus, follow The Simple Dollar's Never Eat Alone book club.

Also, if you don't want to go through the time to actually read the book, you can pick up the basics by just reading a book review, such as this one from The Simple Dollar. (I swear I don't work for that blog, I just heartily recommend it.)