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Reddit mentions of Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man (Kerner)
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Reddit mentions: 7
We found 7 Reddit mentions of Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man (Kerner). Here are the top ones.
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Release date | January 2008 |
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Buy a copy of this book and read it together. Then try some things.
Then, just for the fun of it, get this book too and explore some more.
Have fun!
It does sound like you and your husband may be sexually incompatible, but possibly you're just both just inexperienced and unmotivated to develop the skills to be great lovers to each other. There are lots of books and tutorials that you could both use to make your sex life really mind-blowing and passionate, but you'd both need to be willing to work on it. It (probably) won't get better if you are the only one who's willing.
If you want to go that route, She Comes First (for him) and Passionista (for you) are two books that get good reviews.
If you communicate your concerns, but your husband really isn't on board with working on this, you still might be able to make some progress by being more dominant in bed. You've been very vague and hesitant in expressing what you need up til now, and it sounds like your husband is on the submissive side. He may respond really well to you taking charge, if you can overcome your inhibitions (or not, it's impossible to know until you try). But it's also possible that you and he are sexually incompatible, and that he just doesn't want the rougher, more passionate sex that would be satisfying for you.
Try this book - it rocked my SOs world: Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man.
This is a really helpful book!
https://www.amazon.com/Passionista-Empowered-Womans-Pleasuring-Kerner/dp/0060834390/ref=sr_1_2?keywords=Fellatio&qid=1551233717&s=gateway&sr=8-2
To be honest I learned a lot from reading She Comes First, the first half of the book is about your anatomy and the second half is about potential approaches you might enjoy :)
Conversely, he made another book for pleasuring the penis called Passionista with a similar layout.
If you like reading about sex, this one is pretty damn good too: Bonk
Reading about sex is fun because you not only do you get to learn more about yourself and/or your partner, but also some fun mechanics and potential exposure to things you might like to try.
Ok, can we do this book next? Although we can to this one or this one too!
You're right, there's a definite disparity. I think the problem is that you can cover giving a good blowjob pretty well in an article, and there are thousands of blog posts online already on the subject, not to mention the thousands of porn videos.
I haven't read it, but you could try Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man by the same author as She Comes First.
Hmmm.... Now that I look, there are actually quite a few titles on Amazon about giving blowjobs & handjobs, but reading some of the negative reviews isn't encouraging. The only one I can recommend from personal experience is a DVD called Blow Him Away!. I reviewed it here.
I think the biggest problem with giving recommendations is not knowing how experienced the reader is. If you're a virgin with little experience, a good guide has to be one that starts at a very basic level. If you're experienced and looking for expert-level tips, the same beginner's guide is going to be a waste of time.
Besides oral, I think the areas that most women need the most help with are cowgirl position, anal sex, and edging (making a guy last a long time at a really high level of arousal, so his orgasms are extra intense). Here are some things to help:
by Tristan Taormino. It will help you enjoy it more and avoid painful beginner's mistakes.
The r/sex FAQ also has some good sections on oral sex and handjobs.
And if you want to take things to a whole extra level, this is a complete guide for couples who want to learn tantric sex together: Extraordinary Passion: The Art and Science of Modern Tantric Sex.
Hope this helps!