Reddit mentions of The Now Habit: A Strategic Program for Overcoming Procrastination and Enjoying Guilt-Free Play

This is supposed to be a very good book: http://www.amazon.com/Now-Habit-Overcoming-Procrastination-Guilt-Free/dp/0874775043

Of course, if you're like me, you will buy it and never get around to reading it.

The Now Habit by Neil Fiore is pretty awesome.

This review on Amazon pretty much nails it.

Ok, so I don't know if this will help, but for texting the friend, type up the text then save it. Then at a later time, when you think you really want to text that friend again, send the text immediately without thinking more about it. Then what's done is done and everything is in the wind and let the chips fall where they may. Another thing that may help is imagining the worst thing that could happen. This is where I can help you: she says no. Will that crush your soul and your will to live? no. You'll be sad for a little bit, but you still have your friends and now you know and you can move on. That's the worst thing that could happen. You can survive that. I guess I'm just trying to put things in perspective. Ask yourself, would you rather be mauled by a bear or ask someone out for dinner. If the bear seems more attractive, I'd suggest going for a hike every now and then. It'll help clear your mind and increase your chances of crossing a bear.

As for paying bills and getting work done, I'd say start off with telling yourself that you're only going to do ten minutes of work. That's not a long time. Then you are going to give yourself ten minutes or maybe even half an hour of justified goof off time. This is key. It has to be justified goof off time.

What most people find is that starting is the hardest part. Once you start, it is orders of magnitude easier to continue for longer than the ten minutes that you set for yourself. This is basically what is promoted in the book The Now Habit.

As for anxiety and depression, I hope you've seen a doctor or someone qualified to tell you whether or not it's serious.

I suffered from depression all through high school and college. I felt like I didn't deserve to be part of anything or worthy of attention. One of the things that helped me was realizing that we are all made of stars. Every atom other than hydrogen was once a part of a star. That means you and me, we both came from the same stuffs and we both have a right to be where we are doing what we're doing. From there, I extrapolated that life is all about making ourselves happy without hurting other people in the process. So now the difficult part for me is figuring out what makes me happy. It's actually kind of fun. It has led me to new hobbies and new friends.

I hope this helps!

TL;DR Text the girl before you even think about it. Read The Now Habit. We are all made of stars.

There certainly is no easy answer, but there is much more to say to someone who procrastinates than "get to work".
I can suggest a very good read on that matter : The Now Habit.
Some ideas you can find in the book:

• Stop feeling guilty, you procrastinate only because you have very good reasons to do so.
  
  
• YOU decide what you want to do, nobody else.
  
  
• change the way you talk to yourself, say "I will" instead of "I have to". (try it, it is not as easy as it sounds)
  
  
• ...

WTF would you want to be? Bit of a clue in the name... anything-aholic BAD. Be a highly motivated high performing individual. Don't be a workaholic. Being a Workaholic means opting to be at work over going home, avoiding holidays and socialising and choosing to be working instead, OR fear or your work not being good enough and live in a permanent state of discomfort scared that you'll be sacked any second.

OR

read this book... backwards... http://www.amazon.co.uk/Now-Habit-Overcoming-Procrastination-Guilt-free/dp/0874775043

I hope this gets upvoted so it can help more people.

Let me save you some time, read the book THE NOW HABIT by Neil Fiore.
http://www.amazon.com/The-Now-Habit-Overcoming-Procrastination/dp/0874775043

It's the fucking ultimate weapon against procrastination. Everything else is useless.

This is the story of my (academic) life. Add in being bullied (abused, actually) at home and at school, very low self-esteem, and concomitant social skills. Never learned how to study, but was always the top of the class until university. Admitted to private, competitive university in the engineering school. Utterly crashed and burned.

Something I discovered just last week that's been helping me in my quest to re-learn/learn-for-the-first-time calculus and physics is this book on procrastination, the Now Habit. It was recommended on reddit; it's different from most stop-procrastinating books. It emphasizes behavioral modification, not just a get-tough approach that fails to understand why smart people procrastinate.

I'm presently not in school; working as an electrician apprentice. I would recommend staying in college and staying on track, if you can. If you can't, there is no shame in taking a year off to learn what you didn't learn in high school. But, you'll have to be very disciplined to not let it degrade into a situation where you tell yourself that you're working on this, but really are just fooling yourself with behavior that fails to address and rectify the crux of the problem.

Make sure you are being honest with yourself. I would also recommend meditating (Full-Catastrophe Living). This book literally changed my life. Also, think about doing a 10-day silent retreat. You'll finally have to actually see yourself without distraction.

Edit: Don't be shy about trying other textbooks, reading about the topics that you're having trouble with in Wikipedia, posting questions on forums like physicsforums.com. I'm presently working through Michael Spivak's Calculus. It's working for me better than the standard university textbooks (like Thomas, for instance), because it is more in-depth and relies less on hand-waving to prove the material. I have trust issues, so hand-waving doesn't work with me. :)

Edit: markdown.

The Now Habit

Don't whip yourself.

If you're serious, then this will be the best $5.75 that you've ever spent.

The Now Habit.
It's a book about and for overcoming procrastination and for me it's the first that's working.

> Have you found a cure?

I found the "The Now Habit" by Neil Fiore to be a good book.