Reddit mentions of The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability: For All of Us Who Live with Disabilities, Chronic Pain and Illness (Paperback) - Common

Sexplanations is a great channel and I'm so excited to see Dr. Doe make a video about Disability and Sex. It's a pretty giant overview, but hits a lot of important points that are applicable to CFS. This is a topic that's come up repeatedly on the chat groups and I thought it might be nice to bring here.

I especially liked her clarification that people with disabilities can be gay/straight/bi/poly/trans/asexual/kinky/vanilla/whatever - that sexuality is not defined by disability. As I've gotten to know people from this community (r/cfs) I've met people with many different sexual orientations and preferences.

Dr. Doe also talks about how people with disabilities are often desexualized which is something I certainly found as I got sicker.

And I appreciated her mention that some people fetishize disabilities in a harmful way. When I first started dating post-cfs I found this quite a bit (ick!)

I wish she had talked a little bit more about tactics for us to work around our physical limitations in our love lives. I've found this community very helpful in that area but haven't seen it talked about publicly very much. Perhaps in a future video.

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As an aside, the book that Dr. Doe recommends at 5:50 (The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability) was actually shown to me by someone on here a while back. It's a good book and does a nice job of including energy disabilities. If you're starting to figure out how sexuality/dating/sex works with CFS it's worth checking out.

Links to the book:

• US Amazon
  
• UK Amazon new or used
  
  edit: words brain hard fog GAH

I'm not the OP but I am someone with CP himself and I've had to research this sort of thing for myself. I completly agree with her, though the disability does create issues not typically covered in able-bodied resources. The best overview I've read both as a 'how-to' guide and the mental/emotional overlap between sex and disability is The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability. Written by 3 sex educators, two of whom are disabled themselves. I wouldn't pass out the whole book to everyone you teach, but maybe get a copy for yourself and incorporate elements of it in your lessons. http://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Guide-Sex-Disability-Disabilities/dp/B00FFBGURQ

I don't believe it would bother me. You know what you can do, how to move yourself around etc. As long as you're savvy enough to get creative with body positioning, things would be great.

I have non-visible disabilities, including two muscular skeletal conditions and chronic pain. My back is different and certain things are not possible for me. I'm still learning to accept this, so I picked up this book at my local sex shop. It's called "The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability". https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00FFBGURQ/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1495272055&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65&keywords=the+ultimate+guide+to+sex+and+disability&dpPl=1&dpID=41quZKrWieL&ref=plSrch
It's candid, thoughtful, and is written by people who are and/or work with people with disabilities. There is indeed a section about wheelchairs and some tips on positioning and ergonomics. Perhaps you know these tips already, but I thought I would throw it out there!

You're welcome! It's not my YouTube but both speakers deal with these topics very well and both are real things that will factor in to his life. If you have any other questions I'm here.

Oh, it's very far off of course- but theirs not much on sex and disability. This book really helped once I got a copy at 17. Even as a nondisabled person this book may help you to know just because he has a disability; he doesn't have to be single forever.

https://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Guide-Sex-Disability-Disabilities/dp/B00FFBGURQ/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1492808187&sr=8-1&keywords=the+ultimate+guide+to+sex+and+disability