Reddit mentions of Making Work Work for the Highly Sensitive Person

Well, you can start by not throwing books in the trash. That is not where they go. I'll assume he gave you the core HSP book. Suggest to him that he read the book on HSPs in the workplace and create a list of suggestions that the two of you can discuss and implement.

Don't come in here and tell us we have an "affliction". It's rude, and oh yeah, insensitive.

> I have adopted the following managerial operating system for him.

If it's for him, he's better suited to tell you if it's useful than we are. But fine, since you want our input...

1. This is mostly good, although it comes off as condescending.
   
2. "what I would have done differently" As long as the end result meets/exceeds goals, it doesn't matter that you would have done it differently. As for putting him on the defensive, as an HSP this is probably the exact opposite of what I would want.
   
3. You didn't provide enough context for why you want to implement this rule. If by no music you mean no audible music is allowed in the office, then yes I agree. But I often use headphones with music to block out the annoying office noises around me with something I enjoy, and if you told me that was "not allowed" I would hate you.
   
4. HSPs make better figures of authority. You should probably just switch jobs with him. Again, I don't know where principle #4 came from. Is this a current problem for him? What solution would he prefer? You might be better off providing a clear set of priorities and the resources to get things done, rather than whatever "limiting his authority" might mean.
   
   Bottom line though, it will benefit both you and your employees if instead of just skimming the book on the topic, you develop an honest desire to actually understand the HSP characteristic.