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Ok, if you're breastfeeding, you kind of are a human pacifier. This feeling passes eventually, but that is totally normal! Since your little one is only a month old, it might not be too late to introduce the bottle (if you want/need to pump) if you haven't already. My daughter accepted both breast and bottle (Dr. Browns, and Munchkin), and that was a big help.

Concerning Waking to Feed: As far as waking to feed, my philosophy was always "Never wake a sleeping baby!". The exception for this was if she turned herself to where I thought her breathing was obstructed. If Baby is hungry, they will wake themselves up. However, if your pediatrician feels your little one isn't gaining enough weight or getting sufficient nutrition from baby-led only feedings, then that's where you might consider scheduling some feedings. One of the things I'm thinking is whether or not your doctor is from an older generation. It used to be the recommendation for moms to put their kids on a feeding schedule--especially when formula was the most recommended form of infant diet. Since then, research has shown that a schedule isn't necessarily better for kids, and for some it can be detrimental (at least from what I've read).

Concerning Pacifier: I've never heard of a pacifier giving a baby gas, and pacifiers don't affect teeth until the kid has enough to affect. Usually about a year or older, which is when you'd have similar issues with thumb-sucking, too. When she took pacifiers, my daughter liked the Soothie and MAM brands. Then she started refusing the pacifiers to the point where she'd throw it across the room and suck her thumb instead. The MAM brand is praised for being the choice of orthodontists, while the Soothie brand is used/given at most hospitals. My girl was in the NICU for a little bit and we used those, so I think that's part of why she liked them, they were just familiar. In the end, it comes down to what Baby likes--some are more picky than others.

Concerning Waking after de-latch: Hooooooo boy. This is common. Welcome to the trenches, Mama. The solution that worked for me was I would break the seal (sometimes slow, sometimes fast), and pop a pacifier in right away. Usually she fussed a little, so I held the pacifier in and snuggled her close so she could tell I was still there with her. Then she usually fell back asleep after holding that position for a bit. Transitioning her into the crib was a whole other set of skills, though....

This is what has worked for me and my daughter. I have a son on the way, and it would be I need different stuff and strategies for him simply because he is a different person. You and your child are different people, so there might be things that work better for you.The most important thing is that you survive, and that your baby knows you love them--and it sounds like you're doing a great job at both of those already! Best of luck!

Edit: spelling