Reddit mentions of Sexuality in Greek and Roman Culture

Check out Marilyn Skinner's "Sexuality in Greek and Roman Culture". I just did an IS on gender and sexuality in antiquity and that was the most useful and comprehensive text that I came across. In fact, I just wrote a syllabus for a 3000 level course on the topic which centered around her text.

Also, don't forget that Greece is not a state until somewhere around 1830 and that women were treated differently and held different roles in different poleis at different time periods. There are major differences between Athenian Upper class Wives and Hellenistic Queens or Spartan wives. Often slaves (particularly in Rome) could hold positions of power and certain classes of women had much more independence that you might think. Don't try to judge them with your own cultural morals. The key is to examine Greek concepts of ethnicity, class, and gender as part of the same picture. Hope that helps :)