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Reddit mentions of What Makes Your Brain Happy and Why You Should Do the Opposite
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Yes, yes yes.
The problem is that, compared to us, that the child having a temper tantrum over feeling inconvenienced and uncomfortable is 10 times taller than us, and can wipe us out with a single swing of its arm.
It's like the way school integration is happening in Hartford, Connecticut. It simply didn't work to make white families integrate schools through busing.They get "uncomfortable," cite something like test scores, and move farther away.
In Hartford, they used the money won in court over segregated schools to remake their schools into specialized magnet schools and marketing the hell out of them, so white suburban families would choose to send their kids into the city, achieving the goal of integration in an indirect but effective way.
With most people, we have to find the indirect way to effect change. There are few people in this world who can face their deepest flaws and have the courage to change. The number 1 response to a challenge of our beliefs is defensiveness and withdrawal. (I think I found that in [this book about the brain] (https://www.amazon.com/Makes-Brain-Happy-Should-Opposite/dp/1616144831/?_encoding=UTF8&tag=sharpbrains-20&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325), but it was from the library and it's been awhile.)
Although my experience so far has actually been different from what you've seen--in a super liberal area of a blue city in a blue state, white people I know have been trying to figure out what to do non-stop, and there were walk-outs at several majority high schools and universities.
> my brain hates it when I'm any type of happy
That reminds me of a book I read called What Makes Your Brain Happy and Why You Should Do the Opposite. It's a great read, and gives some good insight into why we do this to ourselves.
> “Do YOU take the effort to try and understand the reasons why people disagree with you and regularly use critical thinking to refine your own opinions, even entertaining ideas you strongly disagree on in your gut in order to evaluate if part of them connects to your existing knowledge?”
I’m fairly confident I do a better job of that than most average people (not saying I’m perfect at it, and its some I try to keep in my mind on a daily basis and something I try to practice in a daily basis).
I have an entire bookshelf at home that has all sorts of “brain” and psychology books on it (again, not saying that to brag, because I’m definitely not perfect at it). I just try to build up a wide enough variety of resources so any time I’m struggling with something I can use the resources I have to brainstorm innovative or alternative approaches or different understandings of an issue.
Books like:
(theres alot more but to be honest I’m already in bed and its been a long day and I’m to lazy to get up and skim across my bookshelf).
> “Listening to people we disagree with is HARD. “
Its not hard if the person is respectful and can back up their different opinion or preference with good legit factual evidence and common sense reasoning. Its one thing to say:
Thats a completely logical and purpose-driven choice that makes sense.
But if a person says:...
I’m not going to waste my time “trying to understand” that persons point of view. Sorry, I’m just not. Its not worth my time.
> “ something as trivial as if you prefer dogs or cats or neither.”
I generaly try to completely avoid those conversations. People can have different preferences. That typically doesnt effect me. So I dont care. Whether someone prefers chocolate ice cream or sunny days over rainy days,.. is entirely irrelevant to me.
> “Maybe it's just plain time to retire the idea of "us vs them" and recognize that there's just "us" in a wide range of configurations.”
Totally agree. Although I’m not sure thats an issue of “not understanding each other”. Thats certainly 1 aspect of it,.. but I can help other people without understanding them. (Hell, I can help complete strangers without even knowing a single thing about them).
Societies problems these days have a lot more to do with narrowmindedness, selfishness and laziness. “Whats in it for me?” is heard a lot more often than “What can I do to help?”