Try this one! It's vegan but delicious enough that plenty of omnivores love it. The noodles are also very chewy :)

My mom bought me "The Period Book," (link below), told me to read it and then come ask her anything else. She then taught me how to use a condom with a banana, and talked to me many times about sex. She was very open. My dad to some extent. I was lucky.

I am now a science teacher, and my students will ask me questions that I answer as clinically, factually, appropriately and technically as possible (if it is wildly inappropriate, I tell them so) about sex, the reproductive cycle, gestation, etc. My kids are really good about asking appropriate stuff, and I answer them. I have had multiple female students over the years tell me, "Wow! I wouldn't have gotten/be pregnant if I had known that before!" And multiple male students tell me that some of what I told them grosses them out, makes them not want to have kids right now, or how to be safe.

I wish more parents would talk about sex to their kids. The truth is that it is going to happen. You are not planting the idea. It is in our biology to reproduce and life will find a way. So, instead of making it mysterious and creating misconceptions and so on, tell them straight, tell them the facts.

Edit: forgot link. Here you go! https://smile.amazon.com/Period-Book-Everything-Dont-Want/dp/0749917059/ref=sr_1_2?keywords=the+period+book&qid=1563564796&s=gateway&sr=8-2

Edit 2: NTA

YTA - Think about someone who isn't you for a moment. imagine being a 5 year old trying to sleep in a bed and your wall is shaking. you're a little scared, annoyed, tired and cranky.

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Yes you paid extra for a mechanics parking place so that you can wrench on your car. what you didn't buy was a pass to keep kids up at night.

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Everyone values their sleep.

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Amazing car choice btw, I love Subaru's and STIs in particular. I was also very very into car audio. even wrote my own speaker enclosure design software and built all my own boxes.

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I've also worked on a lot of cars, and even in parking lots. bump your tunes until 8, and then switch to a set of wireless headphones.

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I've been very happy with these : https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01C22IJV0/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o09__o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

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a bit pricey (to me) but the battery life is amazing, also has a good blue tooth range.

Man, so much this. Like, I 100% think its going to suck...but its going to be an absolutely *fascinating* amount of suck.

You could not go out of protest (though given your family's attitude, it doesn't sound like that will accomplish much)...OR you can get your parents off your back, and pick up one of the best "train crash/rubber necking" stories of all time, in one go.

Bonus points if you make your gift a $300 version of something super absurd, like this professional concessions nacho cheese pump,

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https://www.amazon.com/Paragon-2028C-Professional-Concessionaires-Construction/dp/B009AUGCM6/ref=sr_1_1?crid=HC51QSZWU3XD&keywords=nacho+cheese+warmer+with+pump&qid=1555530136&s=gateway&sprefix=nacho+cheese+war%2Caps%2C138&sr=8-1

Yes you are the asshole.

First off, he has every right to protect himself in an abusive relationship. His snooping was CAUSED by your behavior, not the other way around. You ARE abusing him by lieing and manipulating him every single day for years. Don't even kid yourself that you are not. You are most likely causing him to lose his self-esteem and confidence which could take him a life time to regain. His ability to trust will be destroyed. Happens all the time to partners to porn addicts.

Second, you are a porn addict. Nobody CAUSES you to BECOME an addict. This is completely on your shoulders. To blame someone else it typical of an addict no matter what they are addicted to. Take ownership of your addiction, and the consequences of it.

I realize that you will never seek recovery and sobriety until you hit your personal rock bottom, that may take a lifetime, or it could start today...but here is a butt load of information that can help you if you decide to do something to to make a better life for yourself.

I would suggest that you give your partner the info for S-anon. It is a 12 step group for the partners of sexaholics. It saved me and my relationship. It is inclusive of all genders and there will be no judgements.

First try to see a CSAT counsler, a specialist in addiction therapy, for both the addict and the partner of the addict. Having someone explain the intricacies of the disease, how it effects the brain, and what it takes to beat it is they only way to understand what you both are faced with. https://www.sexhelp.com/am-i-a-sex-addict/

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A recovery treatment center: http://www.lifestarnetwork.com/

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There are SAA meetings for your partner if they wants to quit or control their habit https://saa-recovery.org/Meetings/UnitedStates/

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On-line here is a recovery worksheet for your partner: https://www.smartrecovery.org/smart-recovery-toolbox/ On-line program for the SA: https://www.drglover.com/tpi-university/sons-of-ulysses.html

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Here is a good article about 12 step programs, it talks about AA and drug programs, but sexaholism is right there with them: http://www.foxnews.com/opinion/2018/08/24/to-ben-affleck-and-other-addicts-heres-my-message-to-from-one-alcoholic-to-another.html

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There are S-Anon meetings for the partners or family members of addicts, very helpful in getting you over your self doubt. http://www.sanon.org/find-a-meeting/s-anon-meeting-locations-united-states/ OR SLAA https://slaafws.org/

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Also do a little reading, get the book Out of the Shadows, by Patrick Carnes. It will give you a real life view of what a sexaholic faces on the road to recovery. Another good book: https://www.amazon.com/What-Can-Do-About-Me-ebook/dp/B00AVBERGG

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If you want to block XXX sites from your computer Here is a simple way to do so: https://cleanbrowsing.org/for-adults Or this is considered the best: K9 Web Protection: http://www1.k9webprotection.com

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Here is an app for your partners phone: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.androidapp.watchme

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Here is a good resource for learning about stopping this in in your life. https://www.reddit.com/r/pornfree/comments/2mfxyi/concrete_tips_for_staying_away_from_porn/

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Here is a reddit sub for addicts r/pornfree Podcasts: https://recoveredman.com/category/pfr/ Magazine for addicts: The Fix https://www.thefix.com/search/site/porn?page=11 Porn Reboot: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbqaPKeiNW6R6LECHwQkRug Hypnosis for porn: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lmpwZf5Rono

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If i were you i would run... Your body your choice mate.. Tell her that..Turn the table and pay her with the same feministic language. She is trying to control the narrative and a few months down the pike she will put a lead on you. Or let me put it this way, she will wear the pants in that relationship.

By the same token you can ask her to get chemically castrated herself if she doesn't want to have any kids. It is feasible now days. Your girlfriend has been spoon-fed a lot of bullshit.

If she is giving you ultimatums like that and you submit to them you have lost the game already. You need to be ready to walk away from her as well. I am sure you can get better quality woman elsewhere. These kinds of demands are a massive red flag. Somethings is really off...She might divorce you one day and you will be left with a massive bill and a vasectomy. Dude you have to think on many levels.

If you genuinely want kids don't have a vasectomy, and dont stay with that woman. If you don't want any kids then by all means do it, but not with that woman either. She is delusional to ask you such things.

And by the way you gotta read a book. It is called the Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Rational-Male-Rollo-Tomassi/dp/1492777862

I would also watch his podcasts as they are invaluable for men at this point in time.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZSm-D_9rSRY

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CUlC1daVtvM

Good luck to you and thing with the big head, not the small head.

YES YES you WBTHA, or YTA. DO not drag them into this life shattering reality. YOU are grieving and no doubt feel angry everytime someone says something positive, because you feel like the floor has been ripped out from underneath you. DO not tell your children about this. PLEASE find a trusted counselor to talk to about this.

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Esther Perel has a great chapter in her book on this same situation, except it was the wife who found out after her husband died after 50 or so years of marriage. He actually had a second life.

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Heres a link to that book if interested, but do get a therapist now to help safely walk thru the emotions.

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https://www.amazon.com/State-Affairs-Rethinking-Infidelity/dp/0062322583

Even without an official diagnosis there are workbooks and such that can help with some skills if you need them! This is the book my therapist had me purchase and work through (even though I was older than a teen, it was super helpful): https://amazon.com/Social-Success-Workbook-Teens/dp/1572246146/ref=sr_1_6?keywords=social+skills+for+teens&qid=1562702515&s=gateway&sr=8-6

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I wish you all the luck in talking to your parents about this.

NTA. but if for some reason you do decide to compromise, you could try the [infinity](IWEMEK Women Transformer Infinity Evening Dress Multi-Way Wrap Convertible Halter Maxi Floor Long Dress High Elasticity,Burgundy,Large https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0734TJVMZ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_HtGTDb1BXSR4M) dress. that’s what my bridesmaids wore for our wedding. it’s super comfy, the “straps” can be worn countless ways and the height can even be adjusted. it’s inexpensive, and my bridesmaids were happy, as it was a dress they all wanted to still wear for occasions after the wedding.

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IWEMEK Women Transformer Infinity Evening Dress Multi-Way Wrap Convertible Halter Maxi Floor Long Dress High Elasticity,Burgundy,Large https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0734TJVMZ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_HtGTDb1BXSR4M

NTA.

>\>he was pleasant and was being very complimentary about my home, asking about the furniture etc, a perfectly normal interaction.

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He was casing the place and seeing how well you'd respond to it. Plain and simple. Please listen to the Podcast 'My Favorite Murder', so KillHard can illustrate to you that being polite is what gets women killed. Don't be polite and don't be afraid to be rude to someone like this. You did the right thing. Please read the Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker.

Welp, here my stupid question of the day, since you’re gender fluid, and Bi are you only attracted to girls and boys, or other gender fluid people as well, or is that even how that works?

Genuinely curious, I’ll admit I’m fairly ignorant on a lot of that stuff.

Anywho, NTA. I’m sure she’s having trouble dealing with it/hasn’t accepted it yet. That doesn’t excuse how she’s acted. However the fact that she hasn’t disowned you or kicked you out is promising, because unfortunately that is a very real outcome for a lot of the lgbt community.

As always with this kinda stuff, I recommend getting your mom How We Sleep at Night it was a huge help when my brother came out.

I know it's a month later but I'm currently wearing these right now and I can't feel ANYTHING at all, they're amazing and cheap: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07SJ9WJNG/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&th=1

I usually pair those with a cami though, since there's no support.

I tried the bunny ears ones since they offer some support but the adhesive bothers me a lot during the day.

Unfortunately I’m not too familiar with them, but looks like amazon has a fairly cheap one that works for all sizes: https://www.amazon.com/Refrigerator-Door-Lock-Padlock-White/dp/B00722OIJI


Yeah it seems like she’s crazy wasteful, I’d suggest getting ready for a confrontation (before installing the fridge lock if you’re up to it, otherwise she’s likely to bring it up afterwards). She sounds like a huge mooch

NTA. She's basically decided to raise her kids homophobic in a passive sort of way. You should feel free to not hold back next time this comes up and give a polite, kid-friendly explanation.

Also, I have some gift ideas come Christmastime:

https://www.amazon.com/Worm-Loves-J-Austrian/dp/0062386336

https://www.amazon.com/King-Linda-Haan/dp/1582460612

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00WEZR0KC/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1

(Why yes, I've bought all these and more for my niece and nephew, fortunately their parents don't object to me indoctrinating them into the gay agenda).

ESH. You because even though your heart is in the right place, this is wasteful and a great way to get your cat used to only getting water from the shower and refusing it in any other form. Your husband because even though he's right that this is wasteful, it doesn't seem like he's open to other methods of dealing with this issue, since you said he refuses to get another cat and threw out the fountain you tried after a few days.

Try a different fountain. https://www.amazon.com/PetSafe-Drinkwell-Fountain-Filtered-BPA-Free/dp/B001NIZAH6 is the one I have; It comes with five spout options so maybe if you switched them up regularly, it'd hold her interest longer.

They can even put a timer directly on the power outlet (something like this: https://www.amazon.com/Digital-Programmable-Timer%EF%BC%8C7-Programs-Electrical/dp/B07HH39V97/ref=asc_df_B07HH39V97/) that the machines are plugged into - pretty easy to circumvent by unplugging it, but if the outlets are hidden behind the washing machines, that might be good enough.

Honestly, specs aren't everything. I bought my husband a number of laptops for his company, using "essentially" the specs on my own and OMG they sucked. I thought he was exaggerating but when he got back to the states, I was pissed. No matter what I didn't they simply crawled. They were essentially lemons and out of the return window. The above specs look good, and specifically the SSD, you will notice a HUGE difference from what you have now. I'm a Lenovo fan, myself.

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This one runs beautifully :

https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B079W4F84R/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Lenovo Flex 15 2-in-1 Convertible Laptop, 15.6 inch FHD Touchscreen Display, Intel Core i7-8550U, NVIDIA GeForce MX130, 8GB RAM, 256GB SSD, 81CA000UUS, Onyx Black

Hijacking top comment to recommend this product.
https://www.amazon.com/Urnex-Professional-Grinder-Cleaning-Tablets/dp/B0014J7FUY/ref=asc_df_B0014J7FUY/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=309735741984&hvpos=1o3&hvnetw=g&hvrand=2266436962078040546&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9004361&hvtargid=aud-800703102928:pla-347658283862&psc=1

If OP wants to keep the coffee maker in good condition this is necessary anyway.

I used to work in coffee and this is the industry standard.

Just so you know, you can cut off amazon links after the /dp/###### part

https://www.amazon.com/Urnex-Professional-Grinder-Cleaning-Tablets/dp/B0014J7FUY

You can even remove the description line, if you really decide to care.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0014J7FUY

the solution is locks

https://www.amazon.com/Refrigerator-Door-Lock-Padlock-White/dp/B00722OIJI

You can also eliminate the url altogether. Put what ever text you want in brackets in front of the url info, then parentheses around the link:

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0014J7FUY
[amazon link](url address)
amazon link

ESH, but you could have worked around the problem for $19.95.