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u/favourthebold · 766 pointsr/AskReddit

Well this seems like a good opportunity to post a few of the lessons I learned in my 20s.

To my former self:

If you're depressed, here's how to turn it around

  • Stop drinking, this is the main cause.

  • Lift weights. This alone could also stop depression. It's likely related to low testosterone levels

  • Fapping too much makes the depression worse

    Fap less, and never to porn

  • Ejaculating too often removed your motivation to take actions and start tasks. You can consider porn like a poison for the mind. Pleasurable but it desensitizes you to all other pleasures, making life seem bland and boring. Until the only thing you want is porn. It perpetuates itself.


  • Whatever you are grateful for will grow

  • Gratitude is the only way to be happy. If you think about what happiness is, it's appreciating what you have. When you think of something that would make you happy, you are imagining yourself appreciating it when you get it.


  • You can have anything you want, as long as you create enough value for others first.

  • To be wealthy, don't try and do tomorrow's work today, just have a successful day each day. If you have more successful days than unsuccessful days, your wealth will grow. As you have successful and productive days, opportunities will be attracted to you.


  • The key to success in any area is having the right theory. A small amount of work, or a massive amount of work, with the wrong theory, won't lead to success.

  • With the right theory, success will be relatively straight forward. When you do the thing, it will basically work every time. Anything that has been done many times before, can be done yourself with the correct theory

  • When most people speak of the 'years of hard work' they put in before they 'cracked the game', usually means they were laboring under the wrong theory, and then one day they found the correct theory, and when they applied it, it worked. (excluding world class athletes, talking about common things like starting a business or growing muscles)

  • Theories can be gathered by spending tens of thousands of dollars on seminars or tens of dollars on books. Both can contain theories that work and theories that don't work. Higher cost definitely does not mean they have the right theory

  • Some theories can seem like they are guaranteed to work, but on testing, actually don't. When someone says they have the right theory, it will seem worth any price. Often they actually don't. Beware. If possible buy their book and test it for yourself, it's just as good in book form.

  • This whole list is a list of theories, as you can see, they are usually quite simple and easy to understand. Complexity is usually a sign the person doesn't really know how things work


  • You cannot make a girl like you, you can however find a girl who likes you

  • They key to getting girls is to get in excellent shape (lift weights), dress well, and talk to girls until you find one that likes you

  • If a girl is unsure if she you likes you, won't go on a date with you, or doesn't let you touch her in anyway. She doesn't like you. Find one that wants all those things. Don't be fooled by girls who seem to REALLY like you but doesn't have time to meet, or won't let you touch her. They do not like you like that.

  • Hot girls are just as likely to like you as not hot girls

  • If you like a girl more than she likes you, and she doesn't want to meet up/hang out/have sex. Let her go and move on


  • It's very easy to get ahead if you just try, most people don’t

  • You career will naturally progress just through normal learning, don't worry about it


  • If you want things to happen without effort and struggle, live a life with gratitude and presence. Things will seem to happen easily and naturally.


  • Mediation gives you the ability to be your best. Very handy for improving at anything, particularly gaming, as you see more and learn more. It gives you access to creativity in solving problems and improving your performance

  • Mediation allows you to 'stop the mind'. Do this if you're stuck in over-analysis

  • To meditate, set a time on your phone for 20 minutes, sit still and don't move a muscle, and focus on your breath as often as you can. Your mind will try to stray, just focus on your breath as much as able. This is how you quiet the mind


    To answer some requests, here's my list of resources.


    This audiobook has the best summary I've found of how wealth works






    How Procrastination works:



    How Business works


    What innovation actually is and how to do it:


    How economics works:


    How to get things done:


    Task Management tool:


    Spiritual Books

  • Spiritual books won't make sense unless you've had an awakening, and you can't make this happen, it happens by chance/grace. If you have, anything by Eckhart Tolle will be amazing.

    How to be a man:



    Audiobooks (most of these can be found on audiobook):


    Frame Control (Anytime you feel like you're trying too hard or begging for something, you lost the frame)


    This is my favourite book of all. They talk about the new type of conscousness which is really really interesting to me. May not apply to all people.
    If anyone find this book interesting I'd love to talk about it:

    How the world works:



u/shaykai · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Not sure if this will help, but a bit about my life:

I was a late bloomer, when I was in 8th grade I looked like I was in 5th and this trend continued until I was around age 21 when a job doing physical labor helped to spark some testosterone in me and build a few muscles (not many, but my bicep was no longer as thin as my wrist).

All through the last half of jr. High and high school I thought to myself, "I'm sort of a geek, I want the girls, cool guys get girls, what would a cool guy be doing?". Cool guys played guitar, so I started playing. Cool guys ride motorcycles, so I started riding. Cool guys throw knives, so I learned to throw knives. Cool guys can fight, I took up a variety of martial arts. By the time I was around 22-23 I had a bunch of skills that your generic action hero or movie protagonist might. I also took great pains to build skills in the social arts. Charm, like any other skill, can be learned (a great starter book on this is How to Win Friend's and Influence People). I feel like I achieved my cool guy status when I went to a party only knowing one person, and I left knowing every single person's name and at least a bit about them. The art of genuine conversation is probably the most important skill you can get. The trick is the 'genuine' part, people can spot fake interest a mile away.

Somewhere between my mid teens and my early 20's I became the cool guy I always wanted to be. The funny thing is I don't feel a whole lot different. Sure I have confidence, but confidence builds naturally through success, and the foundation of success is failure. If you can summon up the courage to put yourself out there I guarantee you will fail, but you will also succeed. Soon the failures will barely be a blip on the radar towards your successes. One of my favorite quotes is by Henry Emerson Fosdick who said,

"Happiness is not mostly pleasure; it is mostly victory."

I find that to be more true each day I live.

Now I'm in my mid 20's and being 'cool' or a 'man' means something else to me. To me a man is someone who sticks to his morals and ethics even when it is uncomfortable or even deadly. A man tries to improve himself as well as the souls around him, not only through example, but also through kindness and compassion. I can't say I'm the best at this, but I do make a conscience effort every day. Some books I would recommend on your journey (I used to be a self help nut!).

How to Win Friends and Influence People - Dale Carnegie

The Hagakure - Yamamota Tsunetomo

The Emperor's Handbook / Meditations - Marcus Aurelius

Zen Mind, Beginners Mind - Shunryu Suzuki (this one doesn't really pertain to being a man, but I find meditation to be particularly helpful in being mindful and focused during daily life).

I think the most important thing to remember is that becoming the person you want to be is a gradual process that takes time. Something almost as important to realize is that all those people you think have it all together (be they some popular jock or long dead philosophers), struggle with the same sort of things you do. We all want to live up to our potential, we all want to make as few mistakes as possible, we all worry about what others think of us to some degree. Keep living life and don't give up, you can be as awesome as you want to be, just takes a little thought and some active choices.


u/[deleted] · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

Procrastination to me has been a combination of two problems.

First is motivation. You need to be healthy (physically and mentally). Make sure you are not depressed. Eat healthy things, get enough sleep, and wake up at a reasonable hour. Also, check do you really like TV? I hate television generally because (1) commercials, (2) most shows are not on my schedule and (3) my couch is comfy and I spend more time than I wan to there. If you spend a lot of evenings watching TV and regretting it, put away your TV. I use Netflix for watching stuff, and don't miss TV at all really.

The second factor is having an organized system to take your goals/wants/desires and turn them into a list of things for you to do. Read this book and implement the ideas you see fit. I'm rather scatterbrained so I needed a good system to organize my life and spoonfeed me tasks to do, and I found it here. TL;DR below, but you should still read the book for extra tips/ideas.

The best things I've learned are:

  • You need one place where you maintain your todo list. Don't have notes on paper and an online list. You won't trust your system and you will stop using it. I use a physical ring-bound notebook (can give refs if you want). You can get a Moleskine but you probably won't use it because it was too expensive and it looks pretty.
  • Get an inbox set up. A physical inbox, that is. New mail? Goes into the inbox. Took notes from a phone call? Inbox. The latest Netflix DVD you want to watch. Inbox as well.

  • Process the inbox as often as you can. The best item to have in there is garbage-- you just get rid of it. This includes todo items that are too old or that you have re-evaluated as unimportant. This may include long-standing hobbies/projects of yours that you were not doing anyway. Don't feel guilt; just reassess and move on. The next thing to look for is reference material. These are bits and pieces you want to hold on to but have no action associated with them. Notes you took on a project, datasheets, research papers, etc. These go into your filing system (more on this later). Finally, are the actionable items. These are things that need something to happen. Go through them and decide will it take 5 minutes or less. (This time will take calibration. It took a rather ADHD person like myself some time to realize how long some things took as well as how easy other things were.) More than 5 minutes? Put it on your todo list and keep it in the inbox. Less than 5 minutes? Do it immediately! I swear your motivation goes as the inverse of the square of the number of todo items. Knocking these unimportant quick tasks out of the way frees more of your mind and builds momentum.

  • Set up a filing system. You need to have a safe place to store papers, and even if you have one now, it's probably not optimal. Don't think about this, just do it: buy a (minimum) 2 door file cabinet, plenty of manilla folders, and a labeler. But what if I have nice handwriting?, you say? Get a labeler anyway! Seriously psychological magic there. A pretty, professional label will make you take the filing system seriously, you'll feel happy to open your filing cabinet, and it will make you enjoy filing. It sounds dumb but it works. Plus you look super professional bringing in clearly labeled manilla folders to work. And if anything needs filing-- do it immediately!

  • Use your email to your advantage. I use Gmail, as does 95% of everyone these days. You can set it up to present multiple inboxes, which really just displays different folders you have selected. I use the following folders: INBOX, HOLD, ATTEND, TODO, TRAVEL. The first is the normal inbox, Hold has reference emails I am waiting for a response for or are short term reference (A bit sloppy-- I need to fix this aspect), Attend are emails about meetings, parties, conferences, etc. Todo are emails awaiting a response and Travel are flight confirmations, hotel bookings, etc. Adapt this to your own life, but this is what works for me! When you check your email, use the same rule as your inbox. Delete garbage. Do things < 5 min. Add things >5 min to your todo list. I like to handle as many todo items as possible (these are usually just lengthier emails), but any other type of action should go to your todo list (I keep a physical one as my main one). Same with the Attend-- add this to your one and only calendar (Google Calendar synced with my phone and computer).

  • Finally, use the system! When you get up, scan the to-do list. Check your inbox and email. Anything urgent? Deal with it. Then go on to the first important project you want to work on and start working on the first item you can do. The GTD book is much better at outlining how to break down a large project into action items, and how to define them in such a way that a clear, physical action is obvious. ('report' is bad, 'brainstorm topics for report' is good). Defining clear items to do is probably the deepest topic of the book, and I refer you to there.

    BONUS ADVANCED TOPIC This sounds like a really goofy idea but it has come in very useful before for me, and it's extremely useful if you oversee many long-term projects. Get 43 folders. Label one for each month and one for the numbers 1-31. This will be a bit hard to explain, but I will try. Set up the folders so the numbers are in ascending order in front of the months in ascending order. Take the numbered folders up to and including the current date and move them to the back. Now take the folders from next month up to December and move them to the back. Now, why would I do this silly thing? Because it's a super way to be chronologically organized! Everyday, take out the contents of the front day folder and move it to the back. You are now holding in your hands things you wanted you to see in the past on this very day! When you hit a new month, take out its contents and move it to the back. Sort the contents day by day for the next month.

    When is this useful? Your W2s come in? Stick them in the month you want to do your taxes (February for me usually.) Got tickets to a concert? Put them in on the day you're going. Going on a trip and you want to save maps of the area you printed off? Ditto. Get an idea for a project you want to do outside when it gets warm? Write it on a piece of paper and stick it in June.

    Extra things to check out: Whiteboards are great. So is a program called Notational Velocity, if you have a mac. Also, read this site

    TL;DR: Kill lame things you dislike in your life. Set up a system for accomplishing stuff. Whenever you think, Gee, it'd be nice to blah, write blah on your list. Then get to it with the extra time you create/ set aside for yourself. Your to-do list is more than just chores and groceries, it's a list of fun projects, vacations, and goals you want to accomplish.

    Edits: fixed my formatting
u/SkyMarshal · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

It's really hard to make the best decision when you're personally involved, and seeking advice from a diverse community like Reddit was a good idea (you can easily filter the trolls and idiots). Without reading all of either thread, I do hope someone with a strong pscyhology background and experience posted some advice. Your sister is not the first to have this problem, won't be the last, and I'm sure the field has dissected it enough to have some insight on the issue.

However, personally, I like a different tack for situations like this. Sometimes, when there's no way out of a problem, the only solution is to go further in. In this case, use a 'jiu-jitsu' or 'aikido' solution - don't oppose your adversary, redirect her.

The problem seems to be that she has both a strong libido and low self-esteem due to that rape (and perhaps just being a young girl in a world that seems specifically designed to twist and distort young women's sense of self worth). Hence she's seeking attention and validation from any old asshole on the Internet. The libido is natural, the low self-esteem is what needs to be solved. (PUtting her in a mental hospital already has one major strike against it in that respect, the very act of being committed is a self-esteem hit, so even if the place is really good, they're already starting at a deficit).

Before talking about the means to that end, lets identify the ideal end. I'm sure you've met women who have it together, smart, have a life, who are spontaneous, flirtatious, happy, and (for lack of an uncliched description) completely comfortable with their femininity and sexuality, and - most importantly - confidently in control. Regardless of their physical beauty, they have a strong sense of their emotional worth to the opposite sex, and no hangups. That's ideally where you'd want her to end up.

So how to get her there? You say she's attractive. In that case, instead of turning her in, it might have been better to sit her down and say something along the lines of 'look, you can do better than needy pervy Internet assholes. There are guys out there who are hot, rich, accomplished, socially skilled, discerning, and amazing in bed. You may not feel you're in their league, and right now you'd be correct. You've got the looks and the libido, but no skills at seduction. And you're certainly not going to learn any from these losers. Worse, you're going to learn bad habits from them, that all you need to do is flash your tits to have them eating out of your hand. But that only works on idiots. There's no challenge, or reward in that, and if you keep at it you'll spend your entire life chasing fulfillment from men from whom it will never come. They'll play mind games with you your entire life, treating you like garbage so you don't realize you can do better, and constantly come back to them for scraps of validation. Real seduction is emotional, psychological (the strongest erogenous zone is the mind). You can do better, but you have to learn how. Heres how'

Eg, speak to her on her own level, and guide her, don't rat her out. And from that point, show her the world of seduction artists, both men and women. All over the Internet now, easy to find. I say show her men's seduction communities b/c it's fascinating to see what the opposite sex is up to, and to understand the 'game' from their point of view. The Attraction Forums are probably the place to start, as is The Game and Mystery Method (although there is better, more natural, less canned/rote/routine stuff, those are good to start with since they've deconstructed the psychology of seduction very clearly, it's a fascinating read even if you never intend to learn and do it).

There are plenty of guides for women too, Mimi Tanner and Amy Waterman being the first two that come to mind (though Mimi is a little more old-fashioned, 'The Rules'-oriented), since I'm on both their email newsletter lists. The point being, all of this can be learned, it's not just some people who have it and some don't. Your sister's libido is never going away unless you med her up her whole life, which really isn't a solution. But if you can redirect her libido, and give it a healthier outlet that helps her feel like an attractive woman with high value to the opposite sex, and puts her in control of her sexuality, her wild emotions, and her relationships with men, I think that would be the best possible outcome for her.

This may have arrived too late, but hopefully it gives you something new to think about. If she hates you now, I'm not sure if you can help her in this way. But if she's still talking and listening to you, maybe you can try something like this. I assume she's got plenty of time to read books now in the hospital.

u/Dirk_Gently · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

I switched to a Merkur safty razor about 3 months ago (I used the same vibrating nonsense Fusion razor previously). I've been very happy with it. Shaving takes longer, but I get a better shave, and it's more enjoyable. I think I've nicked my face twice since I started. If you go slow you'll be fine.

I'd recommend checking out some of the forums like Badger and Blade and some youtube videos like mantic59's

Keep in mind, especially on the forums, there are some self righteous nuts who take themselves and their shaving method a little too seriously. It's not a big problem, but be aware so you don't get put off by it.

I got all my stuff on amazon (because I have a prime membership), But west coast shaving is a favorite of many. A usual recommendation is to get one of their blade samplers, so you can see what works for you. I like Derby extras, but blades are a personal preference thing. Most people will tell you to stay away from feather blades when you're first starting. I haven't had a problem with them, but my razor isn't super aggressive and my face isn't overly sensitive.

You have to get your technique down before you'll get good shaves, and that takes a while. The most helpful advice I got was to lock your wrist and make all the movement with your upper arm. This helps you to keep a consistent angle, and was really helpful for me.

Is it more economical? It can be, blades are much cheaper than modern cartridges. Especially once you figure out what type of blades you like, you can buy in larger quantities and get a better discount. The initial outlay is higher though, you'll need shaving soap or cream, a razor, blades, and a decent brush.

On the subject of shaving brushes, most people will recommend you get a badger hair brush. I have both a moderate quality badger brush and a cheap boar brush, and really, I like both. One of the good things about using a shave brush is that it scrubs your face, and a boar brush will do this far more aggressively. feels good man. The badger brushes are softer, and hold more water for a nicer lather. So it's something you'll have to try for yourself.

So if you have $100 to spend, I'd probably go:

cream (if you're not opposed to menthol, proraso if very nice)

So it's not super cheap to get into, but the razor will last forever unless you take an angle grinder to it, the brush will last pretty much forever if you treat it right. You get 40 blades for $16 (compare to 4 blades for the same price for a cartridge) and the proraso is a big ass tube that will last you a long time.

Hopefully that was all coherent enough to be useful.

Also, Buying shaving stuff can be addicting. Looking around at this stuff makes me want to spend at least $400,000 on razors and brushes and shaving creams. beware.

u/Lereas · 12 pointsr/AskReddit

I've been shaving with a very similar one (the "hefty classic", it has a shorter, thicker handle but is otherwise the same) for the last 10 years, having learned about them from a youtube video about why they're better.

After that initial investment, I get blades for like 20 bucks for a lot of 100 on ebay or amazon which last me the whole year...with a mach3 or whatever, it's 14 dollars for 4 cartridges, if I'm lucky.

I also have a badger hair brush that I got for pretty cheap...there are super super expensive ones, but this one and a couple similar ones are great if you don't have the disposable income for a 200 dollar vintage restored brush with an ivory handle or something like that.

The shaving soaps and creams smell tons of times better than the aerosol goops you find, and last way way longer.

There is a learning curve, and you will cut yourself at first a little. I highly recommend watching a bunch of videos, and heading over to Badger & Blade and joining the forums. They will answer any and all questions you have, and most of the time won't even tell you to search first...they'll just reanswer them or direct you to the right post without a single complaint.

I've recently bought a straight razor and I'm still working on the technique. When I shave with my DE (double edge, or safety razor) like the one in the link, I can get a baby butt smooth face that I don't have to reshave for two days or so, because the second morning it feels like I just shaved with a regular gillette. With the straight, I can get a pretty good, very close shave...but I still razor burn the crap out of my goatee area cause my technique sucks. Still, drinking a dram of scotch and then shaving with a bare blade against your face makes me feel so goddamn manly.

Edit: the B&B forums are your best bet for questions, but I"m happy to answer anything here if you've got a couple.

u/mahonster · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

Congrats on getting out of that bad foster situation man. I might have a few tips and tricks I haven't seen getting put out yet for you.

  1. I second what some people are saying, take as many showers as you want. Something I did find, however, is that if I only shampooed my hair every other day, eventually my hair wouldn't get oily. I've found that something like a Head and Shoulders shampoo/conditioner all in one cleans and keeps the white flakies off.

  2. Those razor burn bumps were the bane of my existence, 'till I discovered the old-school double bladed safety razors (like this one and learned how to use one. For the shaving cream I alternate between Shave Secret (you can find it at Wal-Mart for a couple bucks) and a Gillette sensitive skin gel. No more bumps.

  3. I am one hairy dude. I even have hair on the backs of my fingers. Mostly what I do is keep my pubes trimmed up (helps keep down body odor), and every once in a while use a trimmer with a guard to trim up my eyebrows and get rid of the uni-brow. They would look like caterpillars having sex on my face otherwise. I wouldn't recommend the eyebrow trimming unless it noticeably gets out of hand, but definitely take care of the uni-brow, if you're cursed with that. Otherwise, lots and lots of chicks dig a hairy-chested (fit) dude.

  4. T-shirts get one use from me. Button downs, one to three uses, depending on if I've sweated. Jeans... if it looks or smells dirty, wash them. Otherwise, just hang them up at the end of the day and you're good to go. If it looks dirty or smells like anything other than your deodorant/cologne, wash it. I just use liquid detergent and about 2 cups of vinegar in the wash. The vinegar actually helps get rid of odors and stains. Also, use unscented fabric softener sheets. It helps keep your clothes looking nice, and there won't be any scent to clash with whatever you're wearing.

    Also, I highly recommend sticking with something like an Old Spice deodorant and no cologne, unless you can ask a girl that you trust what cologne would smell good on you. And then only use a spray or two under your shirt for the day.

    Biotene mouthwash (from Wal-Mart again) dissolves the gunk that is left on your teeth after eating, makes brushing your teeth much more effective. It's a bit more expensive than Listerine, but I've only had a couple cavities in my entire life.

    A good, comfortable pair of shoes will make you feel and look better. If your feet hurt, then you will hurt all over. My personal favorite for everyday wear is Macbeths (you can find them at Journeys in the mall). Good foot support, they look great, and they're (relatively) inexpensive. I was without a vehicle in California for about 6 months, wore a pair out walking everywhere in them without a single problem.

    I know I'm late to the party, but I hope these help!
u/hydroxy · 52 pointsr/AskReddit

Ideas I've had or seen in the thread thus far:

u/diabloenfuego · 1 pointr/AskReddit

If you like to read about stuff like this, try "How to talk to anyone" by Lyle Lowndes. The title and premise/self-help style may seem kind of cheesy, but it's really useful if only so that it helps point out the things you may have noticed but don't keep in mind during day-to-day conversations.

I'm not sure if you ever have moments where you can ramble away a perfectly cogent thought, but pay attention to those times when you stop 'thinking' and put those words together in a smooth, receptive manner that is very much in context with the current scenario. If you can do that all the time, or very frequently, then I think that will help you the most. Two things that may help you:

  1. Best advice I've ever gotten from a lady-friend and this is her advice to all men everywhere: Take it down a notch. Just one. So however/whatever you were planning on doing/saying to that girl? Just take it down one notch (there are times such as big events one-time-scenarios where you can maintain normal notch capacity)

  2. Sometimes the most important thing is not saying something, or stopping to formulate your thoughts for a moment. There are times I'll want to burst out into conversation with the immediate response that comes to mind...over time I've learned to sort of filter myself unless I'm a bit excited. Sometimes, it's classier to say nothing or to do something subtle rather than say the first thing that comes to mind. Sometimes it's good to store that thought for a later moment in time when it's better formulated or when it is even more prevalent in a conversation. This can make circular conversation far easier and it's always impressive to link the current topic with a previous one with said audience (it shows you pay attention, that the discussion is more relevant than they possibly realized, and that engages people).

    P.S. Engage.

    Also, a current book I'm reading to sort of see the patterns people play out is "The Games People Play" by Eric Bernes (I think I got his name right). This book was sort of a breakthrough on psychology and the way we interact with each other. At the very least, these two books can give you ample information to communicate with people about human communication.
u/Thiox · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

Rules of the Game - by Neil Strauss

I can't believe noone has mentioned it yet. If you want to finally start having relationships with people, getting girls this is the way to go. It takes you through the steps required to interact meaningfully with people (the basis of relationships) and takes you through the basics involved from meeting someone to taking them on a date. (It's a well known idea that there are a number of stages involved in for lack of a better word the courting process, eg. first meeting someone and connecting on some level, building comfort- so that you are both comfortable around each other etc. - this book takes you through the basics)

And the best thing is its not written by some douche- this guy is genuine. The reason he wrote the book was to help guys like me and you who are trying to figure out how to start being social, dating girls and having alot of sex. He's the author of The Game

a great adventure into the world of pickup, it's an absolute blast to read!!! (if you really want check it out quick without buying just yet, you can torrent it hint hint*) Anyway so he has some mad adventures, he went from this normal average guy to this guy thats irresistable to women, bedding many, MANY of them. Its hard to describe this without making him or me sound like a douche but he's awesome and genuine, he frikkin wrote a book to help guys out damnit!!!

Anyway the reason I'm saying all of this is well, I went through the exact same thing. I'm 22 now. About a year ago now I had enough of the bull$hit and decided to figure out how to get with girls and be social, figure all that shit out. Well, I succeeded. Life is better than ever, I have no problems talking to girls, dating them and fucking the hell out of them ^.^ Also figured out who (well still working on it) are the people in my life I can trust, who will help me and who want me to succeed and who are the fucking deadweights holding me back that I have to forget. Ain't being no douche but about a month ago I was seeing 3 girls every week regularly to fuck and I accidentally made one of them fall in love with me >.<, fuck I wasn't prepared for that considering I didn't lay down the groundwork for our relationship n' stuff.

In the end, I realized who I was (still on the journey) and this is the basis of social interaction. The ideal world should be inter-dependant, each person knows what they wants and interact with each other in that respect. Having a laugh with someone is fun, thats why we do it! But we should never give up who we are in order to do it.
Fuck lol, that's way too little words to explain that idea, but the idea comes from Stephen Covey's 7 habits of highly effective people (EPIC BOOK)- which lays the groundwork out on how to live life.

Anyway, PLEASE, PLEASE have a look into The Rules of the Game, I think this is exactly what you're looking for.

Send me a message- I'm here to help a fellow man who needs help out :)

u/Doc_Strangeluv · 1 pointr/AskReddit

You can reformat your hard drive! It sounds like you have some real positive motivators in your life, too.

I think you're looking for some form of re-imprint/cognitive behavioral therapy to help set your mind on the right track, much like the brainwashing the army likely put you through, but to your own advantage. Many recovering alcoholics find this refuge in religion. A church might actually be a good bet for you, but as an avid redditor, you may be more geared towards finding your own solution. Counseling is helpful, but it sounds as if you want to set your own direction.

In the meantime, you want to avoid stress and lower your cortisol levels. A few ways to do this besides prescription drugs would be:

  • restful nights' sleep (8 hours is just a guess)

  • maintain a nutritious diet

  • Omega 3s (eat fish)

  • daily exercise (to a certain level)

  • massage

  • pranayama yoga (this is, in my opinion, the best technique you can learn to reduce stress)

    the mind is a powerful tool, but for many of us, (especially those predisposed to addiction and depression) it can be a challenge to control.

    Maybe try some self help books for some good mind control techniques. I don't particularly agree with the philosophies of all of these, but there are good things to be gleaned from each; (Tony Robbins, Deepak Choprah, Richard Warren, Christopher Hyatt, Viktor Frankl, Feeling Good, Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Art of War, Tao of Pooh, 48 Laws of Power, The Secret, Prometheus Rising).

    However you DECIDE TO PROGRESS, have fun!
u/qwicksilfer · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

Oh god. Okay. I feel like I've been preparing for this post my whole life (or at least since I found these awesome things on amazon):

u/Imagist · -6 pointsr/AskReddit

The entire purpose of your best man speech is to get you laid. Wedding Crashers was a mediocre movie, but the basic premise was spot-on: nothing kicks a woman's sex drive into higher gear than a public display of commitment. The evolutionary purpose of selecting a best man is to allow one to pick an unrelated set of genes which you approve of to promote for intermingling with genes similar to yours (your family's). Basically, your friend has put the spotlight on one man in a crowd of horny women.

So here's how you do it: pick up The Game and Rules of the Game before writing your speech. Practice beforehand. Your goal is to exude confidence. The wedding traditions will practically force you to interact with women: do so with gusto, but make a point of completely ignoring the girl you want to hook up with (make it obvious). Then go do your speech. You want to subtly insult the happy couple but do so in a way that's joking so it's not offensive. This will make you come across as bold and likable. Then go for the gusto and request that they give a round of applause for the couple (which, to the subconscious, is about the same as a round of applause for you). While the focus of the room is still centered on you, but there's a little confusion as they transition to the next event, make a beeline to your target woman. You'll be at the height of your social attractiveness and she won't be able to resist you.

u/ballpein · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

See if your school has any counselling available that might be free. Failing that, many psychologists and therapists work on a sliding scale and you might be able to find someone affordable. You should only need a few sessions with a good psychologist to see some real progress.

As far as pills go, something like Atavan might help you manage the panic attacks, but it is habit forming, no matter what any dr. tells you. I don't normally advocate medication, but in this case it sounds like you're in an urgent situation and need whatever help you can get to finish up the semester. The good thing about Atavan (the generic is lorazepam) is that you only take it when you're having a panic attack, and it works really fast. If you do get pills, just make sure that once you get through this crisis you make some time for yourself to get off them and deal with your issues - pills are a bandaid, not a cure.

Just be honest with your profs about the situation. You're not the first person to have this problem and I highly doubt they'll think you're just lazy. They will either be understanding and grant you extensions, or tell you to pound sand - either way, nothing lost. I struggled with depression after the passing of my father as I was finishing up my BA... like you, I got all angsty about going to my profs for extensions, but when I finally did they were all understanding and helpful. One prof even confided in me that she was a sufferer of depression and we actually bonded a bit.

I highly recommend the book "feeling good" by David Burns. It's focused on depression, but I guarantee there will be useful techniques for you in this book. It's based on cognitive behavioral therapy which is fast, relatively simple, and effective. If you end up going to a shrink (please do) I recommend seeing someone who employs CBT.

good luck, and please feel free to PM me if I can be of any help at all.

u/bookishboy · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

With regards to shaving: You can get a fantastic shave without relying on the overpriced multi-blade cartridge razors so popular these days. I'd recommend the following as you can acquire them:

  1. A reasonably priced stainless steel old fashioned double-edged razor handle. Here is one example on Amazon that is cheap with good reviews

  2. A brush for lather, especially badger hair. I use this one by Tweezerman, also on Amazon

  3. A decent shaving soap/cream. I use the Bigelowe brand from Bath and Body works, which is often on a Buy 2, Get 1 sale and a $10 tube of this stuff will last you a LONG time. As a matter of fact, I have an extra tube of the stuff at the moment. If you think you're going to spring for the razor and brush, PM me with your address and if you're in the US I'll send it to you. You only need a toothpaste-sided dab of this stuff to work into a lather, and it had an excellent minty feeling against your face.

  4. Double-edged razor-blades, and you can get sampler packs in order to try different ones and see what you like best. Check in at /r/wicked_edge for opinions of different brands. Most are very economical on a per-blade basis compared to the multi-blade cartridges so many people use these days.

    A few additional helpful hints:

  • Shave right after a hot shower, it wets the hair, opens up the hair follicles and removes dirt and debris from your face that otherwise might detract from your shave.

  • The red "bumps" on your face may well be shaving bumps. Quick question: do you have curly, kinky or "nappy" hair? Many seem to be of the opinion that double(or more)-bladed razors exacerbate this, because when you pull the cartridge across your face, the first blade snags many hairs, pulling them out slightly from the follicle, and the next blade cuts the hair, which then drops below the surface of the skin. This results in a seemingly very clean smooth shave.... for the first day. If your hair is tightly curled as it grows out though, some of the hairs will grow into the skin instead of smoothly out the follicle, resulting in shaving bumps during the days after your shave. Using razors with single blades, and shaving right after a hot shower should reduce this.

  • If you're using an old-fashioned shave with lather that you work up with a brush instead of from a can, you don't need a shaving bowl. If you're right handed, use your left hand as a paddle surface to work up a lather on, kind of like Bob Ross and his paint palette.

    Best of luck!
u/winnen · 1 pointr/AskReddit

I can't offer you a lot in the way of non-fiction. If you haven't read it, Gödel, Escher, Bach by Douglas Hofstadter is a good read. It is very dense and slow reading, but can be rewarding. If you like computer science, biology, math, or music in any combination, this could be a good book for you.

The secret to picking good non-fiction is to find something you're interested in or curious about and read a book about it. Things like neuro-linguistic programming, cryptography, riding horses, biking, running, cacti of the saguaro desert, Trees of the Eastern Forests, Scuba diving, Lockpicking, Prestidigitation (aka "magic tricks"), etc.

Of other books I've loved but could not mention in my top 3, I include:

  • Kushiel's Dart by Jacqueline Carey
  • Black Sun Rising by C.S. Friedman
  • Cryptonomicon by Neal Stephenson
  • Slaughterhouse Five by Kurt Vonnegut (or any book by Kurt Vonnegut)

    That's all I can think of right now at work, but if you want more, PM me and I'll see what I can dig up.
u/jaystop · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

Identify things about yourself that you would like to improve.

For example, are you happy with the way you look? Change what you can through exercise and healthy eating. Not sure if you exercise much, but, if not, you would be surprised how much better you feel after a good run, bike, weight room session. Endorphins, man!

It's also more than just being happy about how you look.

Identify aspects of your personality that you would like to improve. Awkward talking to girls? There are tons of books to help with that. The Game by Neil Strauss helped my when I was your age. Don't be put off by it's douchebaggy appearance.

Maybe if you gave some specific examples of what exactly you want to improve.

u/pwndepot · 3 pointsr/AskReddit

I'm in my 20s. I like the headphone idea. Someone suggested Sennheisers and I totally second that motion. I went with a more expensive model ( and I LOVE them. If he's into music and gaming, these are a godsend.

Not sure exactly your son's living situation, but I live on my own and I tend to err on the side of lazy. Because of this, I'm almost always running low on basic bathroom supplies. New toothbrushes, new razors, shampoo, soap, extra bath towels, those kinds of things. Heck, when I first moved out, I went without a shower mat for almost a year. And ceramic tiles are freaking cold.

As I hit my 20's I discovered coffee and all it's amazing wonder. If your son did too, he may like getting a legitimate coffee making kit. I'm talking a decent french press, a ceramic burr grinder, and a kettle (I just use a pot for now, so I don't have any specific suggestions yet). If you really wanna get fancy and you have the money, you could even get him an electric kettle so he has complete temperature control. And if you're ordering that stuff on amazon, I would get a bag of some well reviewed whole beans. I like the Kicking Horse roasting company, but that's just me.

I also wanted to take a moment and suggest basic kitchen supplies. Like the bathroom supplies, these things tend to go unstocked or simply ignored in my house. Things like a good frying pan or a nice sized pot for making pasta. A brita filter with a few extra cartridges. Extra dish soap. Extra sponges. Even kitchen towels for drying hands/dishes (I currently use an old shirt :/ ). I also would suggest things that make cheap food taste better. I'm talking a pepper mill, some garlic salt, onion salt, basic herbs, and a good hot sauce. My brother was always partial to Chulula, but I tend to just go with whatever Trader Joe's has.

Hope this helps!

u/Seoul_Train · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

Seeking help is obviously a good thing for you to do...or simply having a good friend who'll listen to you vent is also really helpful.

Certain vitamins and minerals can help lessen the effects of depression like Vitamin E. Also exercise!

Finally, a book I read that helped me out this past year after I got out of college and was very disillusioned with my post grad life/depressed about personal issues was Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy. Written by a doctor, it has some really great tips on written exercises to help you get out of the cycle of negative/depressed thinking. Give it a try, and if you don't want to buy it just go chill in a Barnes and Noble for a while and read it! It was in the bestselling paperbacks section when I found it. Hope this helps!

u/lookslikespeed · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Just finished reading "Truth About Addiction and Recovery" (amazon link), and it was fantastic.

I'm 27, and (with the exception of a 2 year sober period) have abused alcohol pretty consistently since I was a teen. Not in the outlandish braggadocios way, I was just drunk a lot, and used it to escape -- social situations, romantic situations, painful situations, boredom, lack of substantial goals, and just as a time filler.

The book basically called out the whole 'Addiction is a Disease(tm)' mentality perpetuated by a lot of doctors, counselors and especially AA. They argue very effectively against the whole concept that 'ZOMG you have a disease, and are powerless against it, and will ALWAYS be an alcoholic!!'.

I can't summarize the book very effectively in a short post, but it has really changed my approach. Instead of constantly struggling in my head against the urge to drink, and having ample opportunities to overdrink, I fill the gaps in my life up with positive things that don't really tolerate overindulgence. A healthy life & support structure simply doesn't have room for substance abuse.

I still go out on weekends and have a few (sometimes more than a few), but I know I have to wake up in the morning to go hiking with friends, or work out at the gym. I'm slowly replacing 'normal fun = drunk' with 'normal fun = clearheaded'.

I'd also recommend 'Feeling Good' (amazon link), because it kind of sounds like you allow yourself to drift into depressive thoughts.

Anyway, good luck.

u/hippopippopotamus · 4 pointsr/AskReddit

I'm sorry you've got SAD - it's horrid. I've had it for 10 years, so I have a few suggestions that work for me.

  • Light therapy is probably the most effective thing you can do. 30-60 minutes first thing in the morning. 10,000 lux at 12-18" from your face (yes, it's incredibly bright and really close). If you get a prescription for it, your insurance should cover part or all of the cost of the lamp. If you can't get a prescription, they're available online, and $100-200 is a low price to pay to combat worsening and reccurent depression. Just make sure the one you buy gives off 10,000 lux at 12-18".

  • Cognitive behavioral therapy could be helpful, even if your SAD doesn't reach clinical degrees of depression. Feeling Good by David Burns is popular and has been really helpful for me. You can also go see a therapist.

  • Regular aerobic exercise has been repeatedly shown to be highly effective at reducing symptoms of depression and anxiety. While it's best to get your heart rate up, at the very least take a brisk 20 minute walk every day. Get outside, every day.

  • Fish oil and folic acid were recommended to me by multiple psychiatrists because they support the production of neurotransmitters. 1000mg/day fish oil (I take Spectrum Brand fish oils because they're made from fish very low on the food chain, which minimizes the levels of mercury and PCBs in the oil). 1000mcg/day folic acid, but be sure to get enough B12.

  • Deplin is a prescription form of folic acid for those people whose bodies are highly inefficient at metabolizing folic acid. People who suffer from depression are more likely to have the mutation that reduces metabolism efficiency. Probably not something to try right away, but something to keep in mind.

  • Dawn Simulators like this one can help you wake up in the morning.

  • Meditation can help reduce your symptoms, especially if you can get into a regular practice of it. NYTimes article about it here.

  • Sleep hygiene is especially critical. Go to bed at the same time every day, and get up early enough to maximize the hours you're awake during daylight.

  • Socializing can be tough if you go through social withdrawal in the winter, but you'll probably feel better after hanging out with friends.

  • Anti-depressants are an option, but if you're hesitant about them, there is a lot you can do to treat your SAD aside from anti-depressants.

  • Winter Blues is a pretty comprehensive book about SAD.

    It's only November, so there's a long stretch of winter ahead. Feel free to PM if you ever start feeling down. Seriously, any time.

    Good luck, and I hope that you have a good winter!

    edit: formatting
u/lxmorj · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

Been there and it's actually fairly depressing / draining. I had about 3 - 4 hours of work per day, but needed to be there for 8 hours. Here is how to get the most out of the situation:

1: Learn about automation. I'm certain that AutoHotKey for Windows can replace 20% of all office workers in the US. You have 4 hours a day to get great at it. Do so, and make the 4 hours you used to spend on actual work take 2 hours. It'll come in handy later.

2: Perfect your finance automation, since credit card sites and such don't LOOK like screwing around, you likely won't have any trouble. Get auto deposit set up, figure out your benefits and maximize them. 401k match? Automatically max it. Direct deposit, auto-pay on your credit cards, etc. Reduce the number of things you ever have to worry about again. Ramit Sethi's book will walk you through this shit and costs like $10.

3: Now you have even more free time at work, and you SHOULD be increasing your nest egg because once everything is automated it's really hard to fuck it up. You've now got 6 hours a day to explore new jobs, learn new skills, start a side business, or research something until you're an expert.

OK, so not everyone wants to do step 3. If you aren't over-supervised, you can plan vacations, your meals and groceries, activities for after work, etc.

u/Ryguythescienceguy · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

Sorry this is a big post, but you've asked a big question

If you want a full and complete (but lengthy) answer, you need to read Guns, Germs, and Steel by Jared Diamond

I'll sum up some of his main points to give you an answer here. It all began with food production. There are many different parts of the world that independently "invented" the farming of many different local crops, but it was mainly the Fertile Crescent area that really began having agriculture on a large enough scale to support enough people in a small enough area to form cities. Why? Well, long story short, they had the right types of indigenous plants for farming. The same goes with the domestication of animals. There are many types of wild cattle, horses, and sheep in the middle east/fertile crescent region. What did north/south america have? They did domesticate animals, but mainly dogs, chicken-like birds, and alpacas. They had no large animals to break the land and increase the productivity/acre. All of this began in the fertile crescent and eventually was imported into Europe.

Another obvious advantage Europeans had was resource allocation. Iron and copper (along with other elements) were readily available throughout Europe, and other less obvious but equally vital resources such as rivers and wild animals were easier to navigate/hunt. The geography of Europe is also such that it isn't too difficult building roads that can carry goods quickly and efficiently from point A to B. Trying building/maintaining a road in the Amazon.

Next germs. As I'm sure you were taught in history class, Europeans wiped out most native americans in North and South America with several diseases, mainly smallpox but also the flu, malaria and others. What you probably weren't taught was just how massive this die off was. Tens of millions of native North/South Americans were killed off decades before whites even made it to most areas. The devastation that smallpox wreaked on these native populations was massive, swift, and in some cases, total. Whole societies were wiped off the map in a matter of months, so invading whites didn't really have to complete (ie go to war) with millions of natives. So why was it Europeans giving diseases and not the other way around? Once again he answer lies with livestock. Many of these diseases were a result of either humans living in very close contact and constantly spreading them around (the flu), or they were diseases in livestock that "jumped" to humans, like the cowpox virus. After thousands of generations of battling these diseases, Europeans became (comparatively) immune but Native Americans were left with no defense. This doesn't really answer why Europe was "ahead" of the Americas, but it certainly is telling when it comes to wondering why it was seemingly so easy to colonize the New World and subjugate the natives.

Another huge reason (perhaps the largest one you could actually point to) was that Europe became organized socially much sooner than anyplace else in the world. I mean this in terms of religion, class, and especially government. All other places in the world had these ideas at some level or another, but it seems that in Europe it reached a sort of critical mass where all of these institutions fed one another to form a stratified and organized culture. Once you have specific classes of people that are either on top or the bottom, the "ruling class" and run the land, making laws and a government that funds things like infrastructure and trips around the world looking for gold to steal.

Finally a more minor point, but one that I found most interesting. Look at a world map. All the continents except Eurasia are "tall" and not "long". In theory, being "long" is much much better for the transmission of crops and livestock because when you move longitudinally the climate changes rapidly, but when you move along a latitude line the climate doesn't change nearly as much. All livestock, and especially crops are very sensitive to the climate they live in. If it's too cold or too hot or too wet or the season isn't the right length, your crops won't grow well. Therefore it's much easier to spread agriculture and crops east west instead of north south.

u/MachNeu · 4 pointsr/AskReddit

Not buds nor are they small but I love my Sennheiser 555s. I got them for around $90. Great build quality. I've had them for awhile now and no signs of wear or tear.

Koss PortaPro are loved by pretty much everyone for their incredibly low price and great sound quality. They fall under "small cans."

u/real_nice_guy · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Here's the thing:

You have to be doing things all the time, it doesn't matter too much what, but preferably things that are in the direction you want to head, and you just loose yourself in it, and being so positive and involved in something attracts positive situations and chances to you. You then meet people, and opportunities present themselves, then you grab them by the horns and there you go.

This isn't to say, "well things will just happen!" Luck is only part of it, a very small part, the other part is meeting everyone, and making sure to leave a good impression, get coffee with people, get them talking about themselves.

if you fail, don't think about it, you get up and you keep going and going and going until you succeed.

Also, no "what ifs," you have to not think, but do. The mind can be man's best friend, or his worst enemy, and by being active and not in your own head all the time, you'll master the mind.


u/FatalErection · 0 pointsr/AskReddit

This is going to sound completely random but hear me out.

Remote Control Helicopter. Just a little indoor one.

If likes video games I know he likes controllers, keyboards and electronic stuff.

I got one last year from my sister as kind of a joke gift. Jokes on her, I maybe 27 and too old for toys, but I love it so much I broke it when it got out of control and fell in my dogs water dish and now have another 6 various models.

If you consider it, the Syma S107 is probably the best and most affordable starter. Just keep it away from water.

u/Katherine_the_Great · 1 pointr/AskReddit

"I met [our host] through [mutual activity]. What about you?"

This book is a tad corny, but it changed me from a socially awkward penguin into a socially awesome penguin.

Also, BODY LANGUAGE IS KEY. If you are nervous, you will tend to 'close yourself' by crossing your arms, tightening your shoulders, looking away from people, etc. To 'open' your body language, think about the movements you make when you hug someone you like. You open your arms, turn your body and head toward them, smile a little, and turn your hands and palms a little more outward, exposing the palms. This is a 'vulnerable' position that shows you are not a threat.

Finally, make eye contact and smile, not awkwardly, but a little, to show you are happy to be there. Eye contact: if you haven't met someone yet, make eye contact for two seconds. If you are talking with someone, make more eye contact.

u/ibleedblu7 · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

My list:

u/MonkeyMachine · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

Learn how your brain and body effect your behavior subconsciously.

The first step in learning any practical skill is to familiarize yourself with your tools, if you want to be a woodworker, you need to understand how a saw, hammer and nails work, if you want to be a programmer, you need to understand how to type and how to use your IDE and compiler.

It's surprising to me that so few people take the time to examine how their automatic responses dictate their behavior, when it really is such a fundamental building block for any sort of mental/emotional development.

Here's a few books to get you started (you'll probably be able to find all of these at your local library as well):

How to Win Friends and Influence People

Predictably Irrational

Influence: the Psychology of Persuasion

Also, an oddly insightful series of fiction books, The War against the Chtorr series by David Gerrold expands upon the idea of treating your brain like a machine that you're been programming without knowing it since birth and how to become consiously aware of your 'programming' so that you can better direct your actions. The thought exercises he invents in the stories presents some intriguing ideas.

The point of all these books would be to help you build a base of understanding of the tools that we are ALL working with, and from there you can much more easily, and consciously work toward becoming the kind of person you want to be, whatever specific form that takes is up to you.

I think it's important to approach personal development like this, in the same way that it is important to understand how addition and subtraction work before you try to understand how calculus works :)

u/poonky · 4 pointsr/AskReddit

I suffered with it for a long time and I saw a cognitive behavioural therapist.
It worked great, best thing I ever went through with all my life. On my final session with him he suggested I buy this book.

Reading this book is the nearest thing he could suggest to me to actually seeing a therapist in person, you have to make sure you do the exercises in the book also to learn how to change and improve your thinking patterns.

I bought the book twice. One to read every day and one on standby in case I lose the 1st book! Awesome book, and I sincerely hope my suggestion helps some of the people in here to move forward.

u/bigkegabeer · 3 pointsr/AskReddit

Switching to a safety razor literally changed my outlook on the world in the morning. Much better shave, not a lot more time, no ingrown hairs, smells a lot nicer. Here's what I would recommend for starters:

  • Merkur razor. There are many models, so pick one you like the price/look of

  • Tweezerman brush

  • Colonel Conk shaving soap. Again, many kinds but I like this one.

  • Feather blades

    You can shop around and see if anything suits you better, but I highly recommend all of these. Also, this video is a good starter if you've never used a safety razor before. I've never seriously nicked myself, but I have with a Mach 3 (which I still use to shave my head).
u/Kminardo · 1 pointr/AskReddit

As I posted above my idea of creating a list and working my way through it is based on the GTD method:

Its a technique to help simplify your life, but the parts I stress are: create an image (again, figure out how YOU want to introduce yourself to people. What sounds impressive to you? What would you enjoy?) now break it down into steps and how to achieve it. You should have long term, short term, things that will require skills, etc. Just make your way through the list!

Good luck :)

u/heytherejesus · 3 pointsr/AskReddit

Not a biography but How to Win Friends and Influence People is a good read. It's more about self-improvement than inspiration, though.

u/fancycat · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

Dale Carnegie has a book called How to Stop Worrying and Start Living. I admit I haven't read it yet, but I got huge value out of his other book How to Win Friends and Influence People, so I expect this one is also good. Maybe some other redditors know more?

u/thegrinchwhostoleyou · 6 pointsr/AskReddit

Scalp Massager. I'd consider it more of a mini gift/ stocking stuffer. It was part of the gift I got for my conservative Catholic father's birthday. The man tells his children to just get him golf balls for every gifting occasion, which gets old after awhile and does his other passions a disservice (like his love for novelty items/gadgets). This item was the jumping off point for my new golf ball supplementing gift strategy and he enjoyed it so much that he even gave it as a gift for a few of his coworkers.

u/seeker135 · 3 pointsr/AskReddit

One day at a time. Plan as best you can, but you are adjusting to a different way of looking at the world. Take it slow, give yourself a chance.

See if you can get to the library and read this book. It was recommended to me by my therapist. It helped me by the time I finished the first chapter. Read the reviews on Amazon. If the library doesn't have it, used copies are really inexpensive.

Keep your dog. There is housing for both of you, somewhere. Best of luck.

u/jsmayne · 1 pointr/AskReddit

How to Win Friends and Influence people simple tips on how to be a better human being

The Richest Man in Babylon Simple tips to keep and grow the money you have

Factory Girls true stories of the modern Chinese migration of young women from rural farm areas to cites to work in factories

Hyperspace "Wil Wheaton recommended" blow your mind with science!

u/acepincter · 1 pointr/AskReddit

This book is exactly that story, in multiple threads of time. I thought it a good read, although it hovers between Sci-Fi and romance, it was an amazing thought experiment.

Basically, he takes one life and becomes an amazing investor and gambler-millionaire (a la "Grey's sports almanac-style prediction). He ends up repeating another life and swoons the girl that got away. In his third life he retires to the farms of Oregon and lives in solitude. Then, he begins to notice that the history he remembers is not what seems to be happening, someone else is changing history alongside him - and that's when it becomes really fascinating.

u/jhaddon · 1 pointr/AskReddit

There are people who teach seduction tips. I'm warning you now though, I probably know just enough to make an ass out of myself by talking about it. It's not something that I've invested a lot of time in, myself. From my extremely uninformed understanding, there tend to be two major points of view:

  1. Being a man of "value". This is the theory that most people I know have looked into. Bettering yourself, building confidence, and then being proactive.

  2. Peacocking. From what I understand this is wearing something ridiculous so that woman have a reason to come up to you, versus you cold approaching them. While I know that this theory works (I go out dressed rather unusually, but only because I like canes, tobacco pipes, silly hats, et cetera), from what I've been told most people feel that there is a lot of deception around this method.

    I've never studied any of that myself, I only know what friends have told me. Reddit does have a seduction subreddit, which may be of help. It's not the most active subreddit, IIRC. The Game by Neil Strauss is supposedly the best introduction. YMMV, I only know that it has helped some friends of mine. I believe you can find more info by searching for seduction, pick up artist, real man, peacock theory, mystery method. There appears to be a terrible stigma around all of this, so I stress that it should all be read with a grain of salt. There is no magic, no secret, as far as I'm concerned.

    One friend who did study it told me very proudly that he is finally proud of who he is, and no longer feels the need to hide behind his shell. I guess thats the point of all of it; breaking out of your shell.
u/RecklessSerenade · 0 pointsr/AskReddit

You might enjoy reading Guns Germs and Steel by Jared Diamond. He discusses among other things the evolution of languages and dialects and how they spread, specifically in Africa. The book tries to explain the reason certain people's from certain continents prevailed over others. It's pretty awesome read if you're into that sort of thing.

Or if you feel like paying

u/undercurrents · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

Any book by Mary Roach- her books are hilarious, random, and informative. I like Jon Krakauer's, Sarah Vowell's, and Bill Bryson's books as well.

Some of my favorites that I can think of offhand (as another poster mentioned, I loved Devil in the White City)

No Picnic on Mount Kenya

Guns, Germs, and Steel


The Closing of the Western Mind

What is the What

A Long Way Gone

Alliance of Enemies

The Lucifer Effect

The World Without Us

What the Dog Saw

The God Delusion (you'd probably enjoy Richard Dawkins' other books as well if you like science)

One Down, One Dead

Lust for Life

Lost in Shangri-La


True Story

Havana Nocturne

u/implante · 1 pointr/AskReddit

oh dear god yes. I bought this for a buddy's bachelor party (he and all of the other guys went to RPI). It was great success.

u/StickleyMan · 51 pointsr/AskReddit

A Rubber Band Shooting Pen

They've actually got quite a few cool things. None of them really useful, but definitely some awesome up in there.

EDIT: Also, a scalp massager.
"It makes you feel like your head is cumming." - /u/The_Horse_Yeller

u/NaturalLogofOne · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

Fun Toy that's not expensive. I have one and it's ridiculously fun:

Other Gifts: In thinking back on gifts I've really enjoyed from my dad, I would say books that he really loved and got for me. Even though I didn't read some of them until years later, I eventually was so glad I got them and we've talked about them on numerous occasions. One that comes to mind was Asimov's Foundation.

But also, helicopter. Fun!

u/Inherit · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

I've generally found that written and audio material by Leil Lowndes to be quite useful.

Her book How To Talk to Anyone categorizes different types of conversation (for example: one-on-one conversations, phone calls, dinner parties), and breaks down small conversational aspects of each category into discrete chapters (e.g. how to enter into a small group holding a conversation, how to ask what the group is discussing, how to start small talk, how to resuscitate a dying conversation, etc.). Each chapter also has a small TL;DR portion that summarizes the chapter's contents into a paragraph or two.

If you can get a hold of it, she has CDs under the "Verbal Advantage: Conversation Confidence" moniker with (mostly) the same information as in the aforementioned book. Although I'd still recommend the book over the audio CDs (as I believe it's probably cheaper and easier to reference), there's a specific set of CDs called Listening to Win which discusses the nuances of listening as a tool for more effective conversations.

u/doublegreyhound · 0 pointsr/AskReddit

Quit acting like a wuss-bag.

Purchase a copy of The Game by Neil Strauss

I'm not suggesting this book because it will help you become a pickup artist (it won't), but I highly suggest reading it in order to boost your self-esteem and awareness of how women work. Granted, PUA materials aren't completely accurate, and us men will never really know what makes the female member tick... but its a place to start.

I hope that helps.

u/drteq · 5 pointsr/AskReddit

As a computer nerd that grew up in front of a computer, survived the dot com bubble, struggled through many failures and is now independently wealthy, these are the best books you can possibly read.

Book - Audio | Think and Grow Rich - Napoleon Hill

Book - Audio | Thou Shall Prosper - Daniel Lappin

Book - Audio | How To Win Friends and Influence People - Dale Carnegie

Book - Audio | Unlimited Power - Anthony Robbins

Book | Influence - Robert Cialdini

And you're golden.

u/MrFantastic21 · 1 pointr/AskReddit

I'll keep it simple, go out and buy this

Not for the sake of becoming a super smooth ladies man, but there are a lot of anecdotes in there that will help you understand why you feel certain emotions and help you to overcome them. Its an interesting read and if nothing else you might learn a thing or two about the fairer sex.

I never had a problem immersing myself in a social setting or chatting up a woman that I was attracted to, and came upon the book purely by accident. Nevertheless, I've since read it 3 times and every time I do I learn something new about myself.

u/Boutros2x · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Replay by Ken Grimwood.
I really enjoy time travel movies in general, and this book has a fairly interesting twist on that premise. I definitely recommend the book, and would love to see it as a movie.

u/unbibium · 3 pointsr/AskReddit

Upvoted for differentiating proper behavioral therapy, but perhaps you could be more specific.

I'm familiar with the David Burns model of cognitive-behavioral therapy, and the Albert Ellis model of rational-emotive behavioral therapy, and they're both very specific, and only partially depend on talking through things with a therapist. Feeling Good by David Burns is probably the best introduction, though there's also a handbook with lots of blank pages if you're the kind of person who does better filling out forms than writing in a notebook.

The idea is that it takes practice, and there are mental exercises with pen and paper that you can do every day, much more often than you could see a therapist affordably.

u/duble_v · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

A good book about how to maintain social interactions is How to Win Friends and Influence People (link to Amazon).

Not sure how old you are, but I've found Primer Magazine to be a cool website with all sorts of information, ranging from style advice, to how to find a job, investing, dating, etc.). It's targeted at post-collegiate men, but if you're younger than that, hey, you can be the cool dude among your friends.

u/orandomthought0 · 1 pointr/AskReddit

I taught myself how to live, and be myself, something extremely valuable and underrated; something extremely misunderstood.

In the end, all your knowledge and existence is moot unless you share it with others.

One of the things this community (reddit) hates is the study of relationships (the game / the rules). Dating and sex has been a huge passion of mine, both as a study and a hobby.

That feeling you get, the moment you put yourself out there for the acceptance of another, is a culmination of your life experiences and your self valuation. It's a thrill.

I took that journey with 2 of my friends and we all came out extremely content, and our life was immensely richer (in both financial and social aspects). Think of each element in your life as a spoke on a wheel, you can't take one further without the rest growing as well.

There are many bumps along the road and many set backs. You will think your life had much less pain and hardship before you took this journey, and you would be right, but you would also realize just how precious all those memories you have attained are.

If you are already very fulfilled as a person, by all means, ignore this post. But if you thirst for a type of knowledge that stretches to every other type of knowledge; you should start on this as soon as possible.

u/Aamuaurinko · 1 pointr/AskReddit

These. They're awesome; great price for great quality, just £17 from Amazon UK. Complete eargasm after the basic iPod earphones.

u/Churn · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

Never help someone more than they are willing to help themselves. Since he likes to read, give him a good book to read. One that sounds gimicky like he's used to but that actually gives good advice on saving and investing through out your life instead of get rich quick.

Example: I will teach you to be rich

u/lilgreenrosetta · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

Well there's the sequel of course: Superfreakonomics. And everything by Malcom Gladwell kind of falls into the same genre: The Tipping Point, Outliers, Blink... Then there's The Long Tail by Chris Anderson of Wired and Bad Science by The Guardian's Ben Goldacre....

A Short History of Nearly Everything is also absolutely brilliant 'popular science' but not as 'generation now' as the ones above.

That's just top of my head. All of these books are a few years old but still a great read. I'd say they're all typical Redditor reading if that makes sense.

u/HiggityHank · 1 pointr/AskReddit

I'm going to clue you into an amazing thing: The Safety Razor.

Yes, it's $30+ dollars. but it will last you the rest of your days, and unlike cartridge or disposable razors, blades are CHEAP. Like $0.20 a piece cheap, and they last (on average I get a week out of a blade)

There's a learning curve, which basically consists of "You won't get it all in one pass, don't be scared of a second" "let the razor do the work" "no pressure on the razor" and "For the love of god stop pushing on the damned razor! That's why you bleed!"

Once you're there, you'll get a better shave, for less money, and feel better for it (disposable razors fuck up my skin something fierce, safety razors do not 1 blade doesn't irritate as much as 2/3/5/11 blades.)

u/slash178 · 1 pointr/AskReddit

This is what I bought to start out. It is a bit of an upfront investment, but I appreciate shaving way more now (and I don't think it takes longer by much like people say).

DE Safety Razor

Now I took the plunge head first but you might want to get a smaller number of blades until you know its for you. I recommend an assortment though as the type of blade make a difference, and there's no way to find out what you like but to try it (for 2 weeks at least).

Read up on /r/wicked_edge for tips, or just the amazon reviews have a lot of tips. It does take some skill/concentration but I'm a clumsy idiot and I figured it out after a week or two.

u/Asmul921 · 4 pointsr/AskReddit

It is an evolutionary trait,

Women actually moan during sex to attract other sex partners, because its in her evolutionary interest to get as much semen in there as possible and then let the strongest sperm win. So back in prehistory it was in her interest to signal to other males that she is ready to preform the reproductive act, other males would hear her and think "oh boy a horny chick" and go fuck her after the first dude was done. Scientists have observed the same behavior in chimpanzees and bonobos (our closest genetic relatives) They call this "“female copulatory vocalization" and generally the more promiscuous the species of ape, the louder the female is.

If you're interested in human sexuality from the perspective of evolutionary psychology (and who isn't!) I highly recommended the book "Sex at Dawn"

Edit: If you don't want to go buy the book heres a link outlining the study. Or see #15 on their sites FAQ.

TL;DR - Because we're horny monkeys

u/theorymeltfool · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Buy these books, and practice everything in them:

u/hamcake · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

I love my Koss Portapros and they're fairly comfortable.

And a really great set for the price are the Grado SR-60

u/DrMicky · 1 pointr/AskReddit

The last one is indeed a hypothesis however there is some compelling evidence (and many other interesting hypotheses) in it's favour which I recommend reading in this book ...

It certainly rang true for me on lots of levels.

u/poopinyourpants · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Apologies for this blatant attempt at hijacking the top comment, but this is a pretty decent book on the subject. I'm sure you can find a free pdf of it with minimal digging.

u/MorboKat · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

I haven't got to it yet, but I understand Sex At Dawn has some interesting postulates on human sexuality.

That being said, I don't care as long as everyone is adult and consenting. Monogamy, open relationships, swingers, polyamory, etc. It's all good. I know people in each type of relationship and they're all very happy.

u/Grammar_Buddy · 27 pointsr/AskReddit

Some of it isn't exactly correct but it is easy and fun to read and you'll definitely learn something:

A Short History of Nearly Everything

u/IHopeTheresCookies · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

I have this and it's big brother. I did manage to break a blade on the larger one but I found replacements for about $12. The little has more flexible blades so it doesn't seem like they'll break as easily, also it seems to handle better. It's actually much easy to fly / control than the bigger.

u/Shrikey · 1 pointr/AskReddit

A Short History Of Nearly Everything*
Science & history & personal anecdotes mixed to make for fascinating

Learn to laugh.

The Giving Tree
Taught me more about being a kind, friendly person that anything else.

u/pawingo · 1 pointr/AskReddit
  1. BugASalt - $30 - indegogo
  2. Syma s107 RC Helicopter - $17.98 - amazon
  3. Raspberry PI - $35 -
  4. Lego Prehistoric Hunters - $24.99 - amazon

    Might as well order one of those bugasalt. I'm sure you can put this to good use.. An RC helicopter is always a lot of fun. Try it during your work break. It makes the day go better.. I swear!
    It seems you have an interest in programming stuff, so you can't go wrong with a RaspberryPi. And who doesn't want a LEGO TRex!!!!!!

    Aaand crap... I just read Needs to be able to ship to Australia.
    I'm guessing pick one in this case...
u/resisttheurge · 3 pointsr/AskReddit

Thanks! :D

I base most of my opinions about these matters on a most wonderful and excellent book: Gödel, Escher, Bach. You should check it out!

u/callmejay · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Write it (whatever "it" is) out and take it to your doctor/psychologist/psychiatrist.

I'm not sure why your school has a position on medication or why it matters, but you can just go to your regular GP and get it. Generic medications are cheap. Also, your GP obviously isn't allowed to tell anybody about what you say to him/her.

There are some books by psychologists that are helpful. I recommend Feeling Good and Thoughts & Feelings.

Also, I don't know a lot about this, but you can probably work with your school to take a leave of absence or postpone your finals or retake your classes etc. and not lose your scholarship. You are undergoing medical issues (depression, anxiety) and they usually have policies about that sort of thing.

The good news is anxiety and depression are very treatable! You will almost certainly get much better once you receive the treatment you need. Hang in there. :-) hug

u/tialys · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Sennheiser HD 280 Pro -- Not super expensive, but amazing sound. Had mine since 2007 and they're still working great.

u/mechdelly · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

Habits are easier replaced than lost. Find something else you can do with your time and you'll forget video games in no time.

  • Go to the gym (im sure all that sitting around could be worked off, plus this helps with the next one)
  • Get a girlfriend if you don't have one, or a least practice the game. Girls know how to suck up a ton of your time
  • Get a(nother) job to get some extra spending cash
  • Play a sport

    Also, you'll want to make sure the games you were addicted to are far from reach. Uninstall, then put the discs up for sale on ebay or CL or if you're feeling generous, give them to goodwill or something.

    Finally, have someone you can call when you're feeling tempted to return to your habits. Maybe they can talk you out of it, or maybe you two can find something else to do together.

    Good Luck!
u/prophet178 · 1 pointr/AskReddit

I read the same advice in How to Win Friends and Influence People. It's a great book if you're looking to work on your conversational skills, even more so if you'll be applying it to business.

u/Atomyk · 1 pointr/AskReddit

If you're interested in in the fundamental disconnect between how men and women view sex I'd recommend reading Sex at Dawn which is an in depth look at how human sexual urges have evolved. Although it may not be the best read for your marriage. The authors are fairly adamant that monogamous relationship aren't natural for humans. Myself being very committed to a marriage that works and lasts this book helped my expand my understanding by challenging what I thought was true. Either way it's an interesting read.

I'd also recommend against therapy but a lot of people get really mad at me when I share my views in that area, just do what you think is best.

u/fromclouds · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Hmm..., I've read the interview and something about it rubs me the wrong way. I find it unlikely, even in primitive times, that love was as free or casual as the author suggests. I'm not an expert, but don't humans have high maternal mortality rates that would discourage such behavior among women? That's not to say that I believe monogamy is necessarily the default position for humans, but I have trouble with several things the author purports. (The first link you posted, for example, claims that foraging tribes don't suffer from internal parasites, which I find to be highly unlikely). I am probably just going to have to break down and read this thing >.>

Since you seem to be interesting in this sort of thing, may I recommend:

Yale's open course on global population growth, which starts off with a good discussion of our evolutionary heritage.
Guns, Germs, and Steel, which I believe provides evidence for why the humans of today little resemble the primitive tribes of yore, and:
The Red Queen, which directly addresses this topic from the standpoint of evolutionary biology.

Don't feel obliged, though! ;-)

u/DarthContinent · 0 pointsr/AskReddit

Introduce her to hilarious Amazon product reviews for stuff like Tuscan whole milk, might be fun to put them up on a big screen or projector and read through them at the party.

u/ruberik · 1 pointr/AskReddit

One thing that's cool about math is that sometimes there are easily-understood examples for even the most mind-blowing stuff. In my last sentence I mentioned something that's (probably) true, but cannot be proven. Weird, right? Example:

"This sentence is true, but cannot be proven."

It's true, but go ahead and try to prove it. If this stuff interests you, you should take a look at this book.

u/chakazulu1 · 0 pointsr/AskReddit

Not at all. What has been proven, has been proven. It exists as a base for progress until it is proven otherwise. It is funny that you mention 2+2 because math is axiomatic and can only be proven within a system. Even the most basic math is subject to scrutiny under different circumstances.

Here are a few books you might enjoy:


A Short History of Nearly Everything

They explore some ideas I think you might like. I'm not an idiot, even though it is clear you think so. I just don't like rational. It is boring.

u/My_soliloquy · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Nice dream, now read this and this and see your utopian dream go 'POP.'

Although your dreams could be based on this recent historical documentation.

Pleasant reading journey to you.

u/wagnerjr · 1 pointr/AskReddit

As far as the razors thing: go get yourself a double edge safety razor like this. It'll run you about 30 for the razor, 30 for the brush, but the blades are about 10 for $5. It'll save you a lot of money in the long run and give you a much better shave.

u/warrenyang · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

How to talk to anyone:

Gives you some tips on how to talk to people. The tips won't make you sociable but it will give you confidence on how to approach certain situations and the more practice you get, the better you'll be at it.

u/Pyehole · 1 pointr/AskReddit

I can see you are a huge fan of How to Win Friends and Influence People. Not so much a success story, but obviously a huge fan.

u/OnLikeSean · 1 pointr/AskReddit

I've had a paid of sennheiser hd-280s for about a year and a half now and absolutely love them. The sound quality is great and they are extremely comfortable, I can wear them for hours on end with no discomfort or anything like that.

u/tgjer · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

An old-school style safety razor, a pack of 200 blades, a good brush and some nice shaving soap.

Total cost: about $70 if you get the cheeper packs of blades. He will probably not need to buy any shaving supplies for at least a couple years, and when he does it'll probably be just another $12 pack of blades.

Plus you can get nice smelling shaving soap, and it all looks classy. Be a little cautious in how you approach your brother about the Hygiene Improval Project; kids that age can be really self-conscious.

u/runner2063 · 1 pointr/AskReddit

I've always liked these... good quality for a good price. I'd only advise against them if you have super long hair as the fitting mechanism can occasionally trap hair.

u/minutestomidnight · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

I've been there, man.

First of all, Adderall's a very dangerous drug and doctors overprescribe it. You build up a tolerance quickly, and the come-down is rough. I fell into a deep depression when I was abusing the 30mg XR's. I would find that as I was coming down, negative thoughts would surge into my head to fill the vacuum that was previously filled by the top-of-the-world feeling that Adderall gave me. I alienated myself from my friends during this time because I was so damn negative and I was a terrible person to be around. Once I realized that the feeling was physiological, I came to expect the feeling that came from this artificial drug that I was taking. I still take Adderall from time to time, but I cycle it to minimize its tolerance and I know very well how it makes me feel and I keep it under control (like by sleeping when I come down off of it).

I'm not sure if you are still on any prescription meds. Since you've been taking Zoloft since you were 11, it may be a good idea to see what it's like without the meds and I do think that anti-depressants are overprescribed as well. However, I only started taking an SSRI last year, and it has made a world of a difference to me. I've long believed that I could control my emotions by will-power alone, but being on anti-depressants finally allows me to curb my wild emotional mood swings. I no longer fight with everyone like I used to. The effects have been enormous. SSRI's like Zoloft are not made to make you happy. The "happy" feeling comes from Dopamine. What SSRI's do is they keep Serotonin flowing in your brain, so you can regulate your emotions. Many sources will attribute serotonin to "happiness", but it is not the same as the euphoric kind of "happiness" that dopamine gives you and many people are misled by this fact.

As for the rest of the issues, you must seek therapy. Depression is best treated with a combination of anti-depressant medications AND therapy. The drugs will help you physiologically stabilize your mood, but since a lot of your problems are based on your perception of yourself and your problems, you will need to tackle them in your mind. Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy is the best option, by and large. If you want a good book on the topic, I highly suggest David Burns' Feeling Good. Your thoughts, or cognition, frames everything that you go through in your life. The majority of your statements in your post are marked by negative perceptions. One thing may be wrong in your life, but you stretch it out and extrapolate that negativity to all of these other aspects of your life. This is a flaw in your thinking, and it can be changed.

Our brain works by creating neural pathways that become denser and increasingly more complex depending on the things you do. The way you've been living your life, from every little thing like the routine of your life, your habits, etc. are connected to the feelings of depression that you have. This rut is fueled by the same feelings of failure and hopelessness that have plagued you throughout your life. If you keep everything else the same, you are not going to have the momentum you need to break out of the rut.

The single-most important thing in breaking out of a rut is hope. You have to believe that you can get out of it, and that no matter how much it seems like nothing has changed and that you aren't making progress, that the future is unwritten and literally anything can happen. You have to be able to take things for what they are, without placing a filter or frame on it.

I'm still fighting the propensity to relapse and return to my rut. It's on-and-off, and I used to hate myself for this. I used to have a week of absolute productivity, but when I would miss one day of my perfect regimen, I would give up for weeks. I had very little faith in myself. But then I would just stop whatever it is I'm doing, breathe deeply and slowly, and do something stupid that is completely new. Like brushing with my left hand, or typing a word backwards or something - anything. It reminds me that my brain is making new connections, and that there is always another path to take. Our brains are plastic, just like we are - we can change, and in a sense your past does not really matter at all. Both good and bad. You have now, and you will always have this perpetual now. Everything is possible in this now, and you can start now. If you fuck up, whatever, start now then.

A quote that I also find that helps me is this: "To become what one is, one must not have the faintest notion of what one is." Frederick Nietzsche.

u/voyetra8 · 3 pointsr/AskReddit

To OP: You should read Godel, Escher, Bach: An Eternal Golden Braid by Douglas Hofstadter:

It's a GREAT book. They cover this mental exercise, as well as a ton of others that would likely enjoy.

u/tuirn · 1 pointr/AskReddit

All non-fiction:

u/identicalParticle · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

I suggest one of these head massagers. They are pretty much the greatest feeling despite being completely nonsexual. I suggest that if you get him one, you use it on him from behind without telling him. You always remember your first surprise headmassager time.

u/Kirkster · 1 pointr/AskReddit

I read this book, "Getting Things Done", and it changed my life. I didn't realize I was ADD until fairly late in the game. I went from being chronically unorganized and being karmically smacked around for neglecting really important things, to being on top of all the stuff I have to do.

The best part is that it's really easy, as in it's hardly more work than doing nothing at all. "GTD" is basically tailor-made for us ADD types.

Note: no affiliation to the author, etc. - just a happy user.

u/JuicyBoots · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

Notice how a lot of these are about finances? Learn how to take care of your money now and your 60 year old self will thank you later. I recommend the book I Will Teach You To Be Rich. Also, nothing is more valuable than a good work ethic.

u/oh_no_its_shawn · 3 pointsr/AskReddit

Guns, Germs and Steel: The Fates of Human Societes

An amazing read if you like anthropology/geography. It very briefly recaps the history of human civilizations from evolutionary migratory patterns to civil conquests for land and so forth. The emphasis is on how western civilization achieved it's global dominance today. I would recommend this to everyone.

u/CodeOfKonami · 1 pointr/AskReddit

You need to read How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.

If you're being sincere about all this, then for your own sake and everyone around you, read the book.

u/NotLikeEverybodyElse · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

A Short History of Nearly Everything with the errata as annotations.

Also, The Hitchhiker's Guide series is awesome, so that's on the list, too.

Plenty more recommendations, of course, but those two are my go-to books.

Edit. To continue:

  • 1984 and Animal Farm
  • The A Song of Ice and Fire series
  • Thoreau's "Essay on Civil Disobedience" (even though it's not a book (and I am very disappointed that I can't find my copy)).
  • The Art of War
  • Ender's Game is good
  • Lord of the Rings, I guess. I rather enjoy the Silmarillion, as well. It doesn't matter, though; both have prose as thick as a dwarf's beard.
  • Any Vonnegut, though especially Breakfast of Champions, Slaughterhouse 5 and Cat's Cradle
  • I need to read Machiavelli's The Prince
  • And probably a bunch more, too, but I can't think of many more.

    Thanks for storing my reading list.
u/hatboysam · 1 pointr/AskReddit

This RC Helicopter

19.50 shipped, the greatest toy ever. Charges via USB and has a built in gyroscope. It is also indestructible, I crash it into anything and everything but it is also maneuverable enough that within my first hour of flight it got it to perch on top of an iMac. I showed my dad and he immediately bought 5 and gave them to his buddies, everyone can fly it and love it.

u/SnickRDoodle · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Give her Bill Bryson's a Short History of Nearly Everything. It's extremely interesting and well written...and mentions evolution in a thought out way that leads to the conclusion that its pretty much the only way it could have logically happened...not in a smug an explanatory way that just describes how the whole thing works so that its not a vague idea that can be readily dismissed.

Also: Pokemon.

u/DrScoops · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

Who needs a girl when you can get one of these?

All joking aside, this thing is amazing. I know it looks like some weird brainwave concentrator, but it is seriously the best three bucks I've ever spent.

u/smile0my0friends · 1 pointr/AskReddit

It really depends on the psychiatrist. I've been to many and I'd say about 2/3 talk to you for half an hour and then hand out the drugs you need. However I have a separate therapist for hour long appointments. Oh I should also mention, buy "Feeling Good" for more on CBT (addressed to OP here), it seems to help a lot of people.

u/VikingCoder · 18 pointsr/AskReddit

Replay by Ken Grimwood.

Pretty dang good book, with pretty much this premise.

u/wheatin · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Most of the 'tricks' being mentioned here are described in Dale Carnegie's book How to Win Friends and Influence People. I highly recommend it. When I first read it I was worried it was going to be a cynical guide to manipulating people, but that's not really the case. It's more about putting yourself in other peoples' shoes and understanding how building up their egos a bit makes them enjoy helping you.

u/EatingSteak · 4 pointsr/AskReddit

I read a great book about exactly that a few years ago. Here's an Amazon link. Great book.

u/whalesalad · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

Nah dude. Life is a game. You learn to outsmart it then it becomes fun. Just enjoy HS, get laid, have fun, etc... don't let it get you down!

Oh and read this:

If I had a time machine, I'd go back in time and give it to myself as a freshman.

Or quicker, start lurking this subreddit: /r/highseddit

u/YourMatt · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Seems like a good idea, but it's $78 and doesn't even qualify for super saver shipping.

u/jthurman · 1 pointr/AskReddit

I thought this book was a great introduction to such things, with real practical advice:

And to address your concrete question: IRA simply stands for "Investment Retirement Account," which is any account that you're using to save for retirement. You're probably thinking "Roth IRA" when you say IRA.

The difference between a Roth IRA and a 401(K) is when they are taxed. Simply put, with a 401(K), you put money in the account before taxes, and you don't pay taxes on that money until you withdraw it - then you pay taxes on the money you withdraw.

A Roth IRA, on the other hand, you fund with after-tax money, so there's no tax deduction as you make contributions, BUT you don't pay taxes when you withdraw the earnings, so it's free money.

Smart savers will have both types of account, as there are advantages and disadvantages to both (think about employer contribution matching, for example).

u/TheBB · 1 pointr/AskReddit
u/GerbilPants · 7 pointsr/AskReddit

Guns, Germs, and Steel: The Fates of Human Societies

I'll throw this in here as well because I see it in just about every thread similar to this. Jared Diamond basically tries to explain why some civilizations on our planet have advanced beyond others by leaps and bounds. So if you're looking for a good overview of the past 15,000ish years that attempts to explain how civilizations advance, this is definitely a good one.

u/Solvoid · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Drive yourself sane

Godel, Escher, Bach

Geometry of meaning

Hypnotic Writing

Holographic Universe

Let me know if any of these sound interesting to you and I can refer you to more similar ones. These books have changed my life and helped me learn a lot, they are some of the best books I have ever read.

u/waitreally · 1 pointr/AskReddit

I got this book a few months ago and it has changed the way I use money, for sure. I highly recommend it. It's designed for people in their 20s and 30s, which is nice for a book on finance.

First, create a budget. Make sure you are spending less money each month than you are earning. If this isn't possible, you should prioritize finding a job that pays more, or find a way to cut down expenses.

What really helped me was paying off my debt in the order of smallest debt to largest debt. This is known as the debt snowball.

Hope this helps. Good luck!

u/concerned752 · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

Ramit Sethi's I Will Teach You To Be Rich is a good introduction to money for folks in their early 20s. I think he suggests putting the money in no-load index funds.

His blog of the same name is a fun read. Ramit also posts on reddit from time-to-time.

Ramit: I used your referral for that Amazon link. I expect a commission. ;)

u/ThePiemaster · 6 pointsr/AskReddit

Get one of these !

Only $20, they are completely stable and maneuverable in any direction. I've dropped it from over 30 feet and ran them into walls and it still flies like a champ. With blinky lights too! Not sure what else you could want in a heli.

u/diaspora · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

How to Win Friends and Influence People

The title sounds cheesy, but its IMO one of the most helpful books for life.

u/fweng · 1 pointr/AskReddit

I can't offer any realistic help, but you have to know it's irrational. Smells don't stick to you like paint does. In addition if you're depressed and you have this to worry about too, I strongly recommend Feeling Good - I'm reading it now and it's a wonderful book to use as biblotherapy.

u/jburkert · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

I'm gonna throw some book titles at you.

u/code08 · 20 pointsr/AskReddit

A short history of nearly everything

While it might not change the way he sees the world it'll definitely help him see it more clearly.

u/GOD_Over_Djinn · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Koss Portapro


They look crazy and cheap, but they are the most amazing earphones I've ever owned given the price. They are really really good. Seriously.

EDIT: just look at the reviews

u/jeeebus · -5 pointsr/AskReddit

Read The Game by Neil Strauss. It is incredibly well written and it will get your mind racing with all sorts of ideas to better your luck with women.

u/autunno · 3 pointsr/AskReddit

I recently purchased one of these:

The sound quality is very good, although it might sound vanilla to some people as it's a very honest sound; the only downside I could think of is that people often say that the plastic headband is not extremely durable. But even this issue doesn't seem to be that big of a deal, considering they replace it for you if it comes to it:

It's really worth for its price, IMHO.

u/haiku_from_nantucket · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

This must be terribly frustrating.

Perhaps the first step is to remove the compulsion, which may be more of a medical problem. Have yourself screened for depression and anxiety disorders. These are easily treatable these days.

Next step is to learn how to be with other people. Here's the "user's manual" for this important aspect of life:

Cheesy title, but golden guidance. Read a chapter a week and practice, then the next chapter, and so on. Stick with it and you'll be amazed at the results. But first get the compulsion under control.

Here's wishing you the best ...

u/Drodant · 1 pointr/AskReddit

This is the plot of "Replay' by Ken Grimwood. Wonderful book, also served as the inspiration for Groundhogs Day.

u/iggyma04 · 1 pointr/AskReddit

> The original claim is that anyone can be great at anything. It's wishy-washy feel-good bullshit.

keep believing this and you are guaranteed to never be great at anything.

> Just because you paint, doesn't mean you are a great painter.

you think anybody thought jackson pollock would be famous? he threw random paint all over a canvas

> Just because you play guitar, doesn't mean a stadium-full of people will pay to hear you play.

nickelback. creed. limp bizkit. billy ray cyrus.

> You can't get up tomorrow and decide to run 100m faster than Usain Bolt - no matter how hard you try, you'll never get there

have you tried? michael johnson ran every day for 4 hours or more.

> Practice all you want, you'll never play in a Superbowl-winning team

kurt warner was a grocery stocker and busted his ass in the arena football league to get his start

> ever make scientific contributions on a par with Hawking.

read this book. its filled to the brim with scientists who started out of their garage or workshop and did amazing things that changed the world

> The fact that you think the number of notches on your bedpost is in any way the mark of a great man

great men are made by trying, failing, trying, failing, and trying some more, and none of them had the ridiculous attitude that being great at anything for anyone is wishy washy bullshit. if that is really what you believe, then you have guaranteed you will never be great at anything

u/rockstaticx · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Anyone interested in this kind of concept should read the utterly fantastic Replay by Ken Grimwood.

Short version: Middle-aged guy has heart attack, then all of a sudden he wakes up and holy shit he's back in college. He gets to relive everything over again, from betting on the World Series to how he met his wife. And it gets much more interesting -- and thought-provoking -- from there.

u/thebestofme · 3 pointsr/AskReddit

Have someone use a head massager on your head. It feels good using it yourself too, but when someone else is controlling it, the pleasure is almost unbearable.

u/bubbal · 1 pointr/AskReddit

There are a few biology articles I could link to regarding the morphology of the genitalia, but the best summary of the research is a book called Sex at Dawn.

u/eighor · 1 pointr/AskReddit

For in-ear, Thinksound is awesome.

For over-ear, Gizmodo (and most everywhere I've looked on the internet) says good money on these

Le Giz

Of course, always search around for prices. Amazon is usually solid, just never buy at MSRP from the brand themselves.

Also, a lot depends on musical taste. I enjoy clear mids and highs more than powerful bass, but the two above are just a damn fine deal in any consideration.

u/jamiemccarthy · 28 pointsr/AskReddit

If this question interests you, you will very much enjoy Jared Diamond's book Guns, Germs, and Steel. His thesis is that the potential for cultural advancement is in many cases restricted by geography and climate.

For example, he looks at the habitat range of various domesticable animals, noting that Europe's horse helped the continent's cultures make huge advancements in civilization, while South America's (IIRC) llama, suitable for different uses, didn't offer the same opportunities in agriculture, transport, and warfare.

Pangaea would surely have mountain ranges and deserts, but on the timeframe we're talking about (tens of My) I don't think those limit the spread of land animals the way that oceans do. If domesticable land animals could spread everywhere, human culture likely would too. At the very least, what we call the colonialism of the last millennium would have played out very differently!

u/shrayshray · 0 pointsr/AskReddit

horse mask

Better yet, buy 4. The lolz will last a lifetime.

u/steveeq1 · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Currently only 1/4th through it, but so far it's the most amazing book I've ever read: Godel, Escher, Bach

u/shortyjacobs · 6 pointsr/AskReddit

A Syma S107 RC Helicopter. <30 bucks, and friggin awesome. I've been playing with mine for weeks.

If you wanna give money to Reddit, use the link, (and/or read comments), in qgyh2's post

u/tugrumpler · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Koss PortaPro They've been around for decades, are $33 and sound truly fantastic. Read the reviews.

u/grumpypants_mcnallen · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

No clue what should be there, but I'm pretty certain that 'The Game' shouldn't be one of them.

u/MANTISxB · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Im on my computer most when i mix or anything, and i use gaming headsets.

Corsair Vengence 1500

Some of the best headphones i have ever used. Work well for gaming too.

For normal daily use i have my Beats or Sennheiser HD 280

u/odd_affiliate_link · 3 pointsr/AskReddit

RC cars are fun to play with. I got an RC18 a while back and it is a blast to bash around. If you want, you can get really into upgrading / modifying them. I kept mine stock, to avoid dumping too much money into it!

Edit: If you want something cheaper, this helicopter is pretty rad.

u/HoWheelsWork · 0 pointsr/AskReddit

Try wetshaving. It's not any more convenient, and it's certainly much slower than any other form of shaving. However the quality of shave I get from it, the way my skin feels, and even the process itself (which turns my morning routine into an almost meditation-like state), makes it almost addicting. Check this video for an introduction to wetshaving. While it's a bit corny, it's a good place to start. I've been wetshaving for a little over a year. I use a Merkur Futur, Proraso products, and a Tweezerman badger-hair brush.

u/evilbadro · 1 pointr/AskReddit

First, thoughts of suicide are something that should be addressed with a competent professional. If the free clinic does not open for several days, consider seeking other care. You may be able to find a competent professional who will agree to help you on an interim basis for free. Asking for a weeks worth of pro bono care when your life may be in danger doesn't seem like a request that's easy to deny.

If you are suffering from depression, have hope in the fact that it is a problem that often responds well to treatment. Depression often has a thought distortion component. Although it is not a substitute for professional help, you can work on eliminating thought distortions on your own. Avoid, amplifying the significance of things that don't go well. Eliminate all or nothing thinking. Focus on the positive etc. The book Feeling Good is inexpensive and very helpful. You need to set up a consultation as quickly as possible to get some advice on how to handle what you are experiencing. Consulting the book might help make the time until you have an appointment easier, but if necessary, go to the emergency room.

u/TwEE-N-Toast · 1 pointr/AskReddit

I've read this cognitive behavioral therapy, and there was some pretty good stuff in it.

u/abandonedangel · 5 pointsr/AskReddit

I think that both of your friends should combine the gift cards any buy a gallon of milk.

Believe it or not, you would need both cards.

u/Druubie · 97 pointsr/AskReddit

You and me are in the same boat. I have one of those fabled Internet jobs so dispensable money comes when I want it to. Here are some of the things I bought just yesterday.

LED light strips to accent stuff in your house, with remote control -Video example

Threadless shirts Seriously these shirts are sweet as hell. Look under clearance, too, the $10 ones are very cool. Nothing like those "LOL I KNOW MEMES!!" type t-shirts that litter most t-shirt sites.

Boon Glo Nightlight Completely, completely unnecessary and overpriced. But cool as hell. Unboxing video

Candy dispensers are fun

Sites like Woot and 1SaleADay post new deals on a daily basis, and they are often really sweet things. Bookmark them if you haven't already.

Buy yourself a sweet looking fish tank

Obligatory head massager post

Edit: Couple of you are asking about the job. I figured I had that coming. Please don't perceive this as dick-ish, but I'd rather not talk about it. Yes, it's perfectly legal and no I'm not flaunting my hot body for money, but there's some quote out there about keeping ingenuity a secret from others so...that. I will say this, though. You can make money doing ANYTHING online. Remember the used socks eBay AMA last year? That dude made thousands. Don't look at some TV commercial about taking surveys online for cash, realize it's a low paying scam, and give up. Those are shallow waters. Keep trekking!

u/sirnoobius · 1 pointr/AskReddit

I use Merkur 33C I got from amazon for $30 and Gillette 7 o'clock double edge blades I got on ebay.

for brush I use edwin jagger super badger (you can use Tweezerman for now. for soap go to riteaid and get vdh shave soap it's $1.30

this is all you need.

u/runningman16 · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

One Horse Mask and one jousting lance. Put on the mask while giving a friend a piggyback ride. Hilarity will ensue.

u/My_Other_Account · 66 pointsr/AskReddit

A Short History of Nearly Everything by Bill Bryson.

I haven't quite finished it (it's rather long) but so far it is fantastic.

u/baddrummer · 5 pointsr/AskReddit

Koss Porta Pros. Best you can find for under 35 dollars. Check out those amazon reviews if you dont believe me.

u/cynicalabode · 1 pointr/AskReddit
u/Studsmurf · 1 pointr/AskReddit

np, I'm halfway through reading an ebook version of How to talk to anyone. pm me if you want a copy of it.

Some of the stuff I already did unconsciously. A lot of the things in the book are extremely good, and I can already see results in both my confidence and in other peoples reactions.

Also there are a lot of stuff in the PUA (pick up artist) books like The Game but you should assume that they take it too far. If you do read PUA stuff I would remember the points and not the pointers.

u/christ_ · 1 pointr/AskReddit

The cheapest ways could be getting sunshine, running and trying cognitive behavioral therapy.
For the CBT I would say torrent ( or buy ) this book.

I tried the CBT before my other suggestions, and it kinda helped, I feel better nowadays.

u/tawood79 · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Replay It's like a cross between Back to the Future and Groundhog Day. One of my favorite books!