(Part 2) Best products from r/AskRedditAfterDark

I believe what you're experiencing is a well known psychological phenomenon. When people experience trauma, sometimes they repeat it over and over either in an attempt to understand it, "master" it, or whatever else. You can read about it here: http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Repetition_compulsion

Once there was a school bus that got buried with children in it (who all survived), and this "repetition compulsion" occurred with them. You can read about it here: http://www.amazon.com/Too-Scared-To-Cry-Childhood/dp/0465086446

I really, really recommend you find a therapist you like and trust and makes it easy for you to talk about it. Having recently gone through an incredible "round" of therapy, I can tell you from personal experience that you honestly don't know what you don't know: you may very well walk out of your initial session (with the right therapist -- feeling comfortable and that the therapist is making a difference is of utmost importance) feeling like the world has opened up. It's one thing to know a bit about psychology; to have a breakthrough in your own life is one of the most transcendent things you can experience. I understand you may not want to go to therapy now, or even soon, but I hope you'll remember this post some day and it will help boost your resolve. Because what you experienced was a major trauma, and that is not okay. I wish you the very best; please take care.

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If he's willing to let you peg him, chances are high he doesn't care what it looks like because it's attached to you, no matter if it's weird shaped, transparent, colored, or a mold by a famous pornstar.

Now, for the advice.

Size: start off small, I'd say 3-4 inches, maybe 5, average diameter, you don't want to ruin his first experience so soon and scare him out of anal play. Get a good quality one with a smooth texture on it. (Bad sex toys equals not so good sex).

Lubrication: more lubrication equals less friction which allows for smoother and easier penetrations. So don't hesitate to buy a huge bottle of lubricant if you find one, it'll be almost empty by the end of this adventure.

Enemas: anal sex is fun, but obviously due its nature, it can get messy. Enemas will cleanse his bowel of its contents when administered properly. Rear ending is fun when the fender is clean.

Mental Preparation/Communication: the hardest part of anal sex is opening the hole. Make sure he's relaxed, set a safe word, have him let you know if it hurts or if he wants more of you, if he doesn't speak during play, listen t the sound and noises he makes, you'll be able to distinguish between what's good and what's not.

Insertion: when it comes time to invade him, find a suitable position for angle and easy insertion. Don't force it open, let him guide you. Patience is key here because the rectum is a voluntary muscle, but he will most likely inadvertently keep it clenched closed, have him try exhaling a deep breath as you inch it in. If that doesn't work, try this method, I shit you not (no pun intended) it always opens me up: have him pretend he's dropping a big dump in the toilet (if enemas were properly administered, no need to worry about any chocolate droppings), this will cause the muscle to open. Once you're in, wreck that rectum.

Edit: I searched online for the strap-on my girl loves to use on me. If your bf turns out to enjoy being pegged and is willing to push the limit, this toy is perfect for him AND you

I'm in love with the candle/massage oil combo. There's something so sensual about it but I can totally get the candle fumes being overwhelming. Kama Sutra candles smell amazing. It takes about 15 minutes to get it to the right temp and with it being a one candle wick instead of 3 it leaves a nice amount melted instead of the whole thing liquefying (Making a mess). The other I like are Fuzu Candles
they don't have an overwhelming burning smell (Low burn) and has a nice silky feel when massaging (Not that thick sticky feeling).

As for massage oil Fox Envy smells good and feels silky without that greasy residue. I've used the Jo massage set but that is just all around sticky and it stains.

That’s right damnit! The most masculine thing is to be perfectly confident with what you like and who you are, regardless of whether it’s “masculine” or not. Theres going to be someone who makes fun of you for anything you do. Don’t dress nicely? You’re a lazy slob. Dress too nicely? Must be gay. Enjoy wine? What a sissy. Talk about how you’d rather drink beer than wine? You uncultured redneck.

Just do you the best way you know how.

Also, have you tried one of these?

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The best tip I have about the Wand (no matter how you use it) is to attach it to a dimmer cord. Something like this: https://www.amazon.com/Lutron-Credenza-Halogen-Incandescent-TT-300H-WH/dp/B0000BYEF6/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1523382674&sr=8-3

There are only two settings on a Wand. Strong and STRONGER. With the dimmer, you can take it from zero to STRONGER.

Hubby and I got the 1001 places to have sex book. (Link below) We've been working through it. Helps keep things interesting and new! You just need to have a sense of adventure! We of course have lots of toys too but discovered changing up the scenery really helps keep things fresh! :)

https://www.amazon.com/001-Best-Places-Have-America-ebook/dp/B003YL4AIU/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1502482713&sr=8-4&keywords=1001+sex

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Girls I have been with have enjoyed a stinging smack on places such as the butt, breasts, nipples, face, inner thigh, pubic mound, and clit.

One girl really enjoyed having her pubic mound grabbed and pulled while thrusting.

Hand threaded in hair is a go to, you want it to feel like a pull of the head, but not individual hairs. Hand on their face, not gently, use your imagination but don't gauge an eye. Both hands doing the last two things can be real controlling and great for the climax.

Some girls like some slapping to the face as well or fingers in their mouth.

Try to find opportunities during sex to pin her arms to the bed. Careful about putting to much pressure on bone though.

Buy her some fishnets to wear during foreplay and as you get closer to wanting to have sex tear them apart to get to what you want.

Icicles makes an excellent whip glass dildo. Can hold her face down ass up and pound her with the glass part, then stand up and whip her all over. It is a very satisfying product to use. Especially for the price.

Ask her how she feels about dirty talk because you can get really, really raunchy. "Do you like that you dirty, fucking, cumslut?" "How's that feel in your worthless pussy?" "Cum for me, bitch."

> my best friends are naked

Is this maybe it?

Some of My Best Friends Are Naked

https://www.amazon.com/Some-Best-Friends-Are-Naked/dp/0963446606

Cool cool. For reference, the FDA limit I mentioned is 57mm wide at the base. Most wide condoms in the USA are 57mm, and Magnum XLs, believe it or not, are the same (they're just longer, and wider at the tip, but who wants that?)

I would recommend this starter pack if you're willing to throw a few bucks into "research." You get to try the 60mm, 64mm, and 69mm. You might find that going just a little wider than you're used to, for instance, the 60mm option, would be perfect. If not, it's a relatively small investment. And yes, they're much cheaper once you know your size and can buy them in larger packs.

I take a Bromelain tablet every day, it's a proteolytic enzyme that is extracted from pineapples. It makes my lady bits smell delicious and it's worked great for my sinuses.
It's $11 for 120 tablets on Amazon. Amazing Nutrition Bromelain Proteolytic Digestive Enzymes Supplements, 500 mg, 120 Tablets https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B00VU8SH56/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_WShEDbWRWZBAY

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Sexy immortal ballerina girl that is a sex slave for a secret society of men. Super kinky and super dark. But so hot. Not for everyone.

don't use a razor, get a simple trimmer like this

it's best to use a regular body trimmer first to knock things down before going in close

sauce: my egg rolls are pretty clean (I've posted pics....)

my wife loves the look of these on me. I love wearing them because they are the most comfortable underwear I've ever owned.

I'm in the same boat as OP. I finger my girl's ass every time we have sex and she loves it. Now she wants to try a plug (I couldn't be happier, by the way, as I love playing with her ass). She's left the purchasing up to me. I've done some browsing and I'm considering these two, mostly because they're aesthetically pleasing and they'll look cute in her, but she's a first timer. Are these too big? Should we try something simpler/smaller? Any input from the more experienced folks would be appreciated.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00I3BOHEI/ref=ox_sc_act_title_2?smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&th=1

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B017CMCO5W/ref=ox_sc_act_title_1?smid=A1WYG6XWJLW43Y&th=1