(Part 2) Best products from r/LesbianActually

Of course, ill link the makeup I used for this look in the order i put it on lol, not all of it is super necessary, this isnt all of my makeup but the ones for this look specifically.

Primer

Eyeshadow Primer

Eyeshadow

Eyeliner

Mascara

Foundation

Concealer

Blush

Lipstick

Highlighter


hopefully im not forgetting anything

http://www.cancanconcealment.com/ These are for guns, but pepper spray will fit where the spare magazine is supposed to go.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B009KBDCX2/ This is small but it should be enough, it's what I carry

https://www.fnamerica.com/products/handguns/fns-series/fns-9-compact/ A nice 9mm

For sure go with the browns, because you brown shoes are more professional looking than your black shoes.

If you are looking for nicer shoes, consider these

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00SX5KRCU/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&psc=1

I have them and I get compliments on them all the time and they are comfy AF.

https://www.amazon.com/Liberator-Fascinator-Throe-Moisture-Resistant-Blanket/dp/B00EOXYQPE

It's a little pricey but a great idea. There are other companies that make waterproof blankets that are cheaper. They are marketed as picnic or beach blankets.
http://toymeetsgirlreviews.com/2014/08/review-mambe-waterproof-blanket.html

There's so much to choose from I don't know. It's easier to point out styles I don't like than it is to point out ones that I do. I think part of my problem is there's shoes I really like but don't think that I can pull them off. Fashion is hard.

Right now I'm most likely to get something like this but that's just cause I think it's the safe option.

Man, lesbian police much in this post?! Yikes. Sorry for these jerks! I think you're not alone here, sexuality is fluid, gender is fluid. I am really gay and only have dated women in my adult life, but once every 10 years or so I have an emotional crush on a guy. It happens. You do you, identify however feels true to you. All the haters are just dealing with insecurity, and it's really their problem, not yours.

I can tell you, all my exes have been women who presented much gayer than I and oftentimes were deeper in the queer scene. They've all told me they slept with a couple dudes at some point. When I used to hang out with more straight guys in college, they'd also often confess that they hooked up with a guy friend one time, or gave a BJ, etc. I guess they felt less pressure telling me since I was gay.

I think people just don't talk about it because they're afraid of being attacked (as happened here), and so it happens but people just never speak of it.

Also, I recommend you check out the book PoMoSexuals. It touches on just this kind of topic. Link: http://amzn.to/2wuX2ZV I found it super interesting.

As a sexual assault survivor who struggled with liking sex and dealing with the aftermath, I understand some of what you're going through.

Therapy helped me. It really did. Before I could bring myself to actually go, though, I read a book called The Rape Recovery Handbook that helped me tremendously. It let me work through some of my most difficult feelings until I felt comfortable enough to be vulnerable with another person.

If finding affordable therapy is difficult, I have a few friends that use TalkSpace and they swear it's a very good alternative. You chat with licensed therapists.

At any rate, I hope that you are healed from your experience soon. The path is rough, but if you and your girlfriend are committed, it can help bring you closer together.

This book might help. There are some others that are recommended that look appropriate as well.

https://www.amazon.com/Hate-You-Dont-Leave-Understanding-Personality/dp/0399536213

> Is it too late for me to come out?

No. It is "too late" when you are dead.

You are not the first woman to take a long time to realize she's gay and you won't be the last. There are a number of books I recommend because they're based on other women's actual experiences:

Dear John, I love Jane.
Living Two Lives.
Married Women Who Love Women.
Late Bloomers.

> Will I be taken seriously by other lesbians?

Are you worried that maybe since it took you years to come out to yourself, that your future dates/partners won't take you seriously? Yes, you will be taken seriously.

I love this bag.

Lol. This. From this book.

Ok, Imgur won't load pics, so here are some interweb links:

I am wearing these ones,

but these ones are my favs.

A coffee table book about tree houses! Really cool and in multiple languages :D This one, but I don't think my Mom paid that much for it.

So... this exists

And apparently works wonders. In case you still need a contingency plan.

Satisfier pro

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/reviews/B071CPR2V4/ref=cm_cr_arp_mb_hist_5?ie=UTF8&filterByStar=five_star&pageNumber=1

I went through a huge autobiography/memoir phase. One of my favourites was actually Cherie Currie's Neon Angel.

Very raw. There is one uncensored, disturbing part that was hard to get through. The only book that made me physically ill while reading. She is a strong woman.

Chuck Palahniuk is one of my favourite authors. Again, disturbing, wacky, out there stuff. A lot of great one liners. Check out Invisible Monsters.