(Part 2) Best products from r/OneY

I can see this as a genuine point of insecurity. While I do think you should do what makes you feel good, the fact remains that there are two phalluses at play and your partner's isn't the "superior" one. Even if the "competition" is inanimate, it's still a prosthetic that can serve as a stand-in, a potentially superior stand-in for his biology.

Imagine your guy had a set of silicone breasts to play with 'cause they feel good in his hands and he likes to fondle them while he masturbates. What if they're bigger than your breasts? What if they were a bit more lifelike? What if he kept a super tight fleshlight around?

I haven't read any of the five that made the list, but I absolutely recommend Fight Club and The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. They're both very good for anyone - man or woman - to read.

I have Ex Officios for when I go hiking and/or traveling. But these are like wearing a cloud; super soft and barely feel they're there. Great support too!

Yeah, physically active. I run about 3 miles 3 or 4 times a week.

That Ped Egg looks interesting. It gets pretty good reviews on Amazon.

I downvoted your comments here, until I upvoted them. Because they need to be visible, as I think there is some confusion about academic feminist studies and how it serves to underpin a lot of contemporary identity studies work in academic circles that work on cultural issues. That said, there's a lot of truth to what /u/aescolanus has said and I'm surprised to see it downvoted so hard on a sub that tries to foster a greater discussion of what it means to be a man.

> It's not unreasonable to argue that some feminist activists are anti-male, including some on this board.

> You seem to show a strong bias against male activists, and for feminist activists.

One of the problems here is that almost everyone in press release reaction pieces like these is labeled an "activist" on Reddit or other popular discussions of feminism or feminist theory.

Now, an activist isn't necessarily confrontational AdviceAnimal fodder. Nor is a scholar unable to be an activist, as if activism is something base and below their PhDs. But we're talking about scholars here. Things like this proposed center are not lobbying firms, grassroots organizers, or policy shops.

And it is very true that many of the fundamental premises of academic masculine studies are based in academic feminism. They are related. Academic feminism gives us the idea that gender identity and function can be thought of as constructed by history and society. This is an extremely valuable tool for inquiry. Without using this premise, how do we even talk about men's issues? What discourse do we have to explain that the idea of the Manly Man, the Patriarchal Man somehow can hurt those of us in the arts? Those who are short? Those who are sensitive? Those of us who are victims of abuse? Should we ignore the decades of work by philosophers, sociologists, psychologists and cultural critics just because they are "feminists"?

Now of course, many of the people on the board of directors for this center aren't academics, such as Steinem, Fonda, Gov. Kunin or Ensler. Why? Visibility. Connections. Networking. Read some of Kimmel's scholarly work, or David A. J. Richards, R. W. Connell, and other masculinity scholars -- men and women alike -- and ask what it would mean for someone like Steinem to be nodding in agreement with the work going on there (despite her stated beefs with academic writing and it's "obscure" language, which I think was more of a bit of rhetorical posturing than a genuinely valid criticism). Legitimacy is a big deal. And these individuals were huge movers and shakers who fit into a larger narrative of women's rights and civil rights that changed a lot of things for the better.

Read through scholarly journals and books published by University Presses and the like. Consider that the "Steinem-level" voice for men's issues (male or female) will likely be reading these works as foundational texts.

Want to read a woman feminist author writing what I think is probably one of the best masculinity studies monographs I've read to date? Try Cynthia R. Daniels, "Exposing Men". (And hey, she's at Rutger's too, dontchaknow.)

Seriously though. Before you bash this as a sham institute, please read deeply to see what the arguments are and what evidence is being used. Read critiques, reviews, and rebuttals by peer scholars. Institutes like these can offer the funding for young thinkers to take a risk in writing something new or being away from the classroom, and opportunities for fresh scholarly voices to publish things that might not fit elsewhere.

Feminism and masculinity studies have a lot in common. Perhaps it's hard to tell by the feminists or MRA's who march or picket on street corners or haunt online discussion boards, but then again we're talking about an academic center for study. Admittedly, unless you know where to look and have the library resources to find the relevant journals, you're likely not hearing any of this conversation. And that blows. For everyone. (So maybe Steinem was onto something...)

The traditional gift for the first anniversary was paper, and the new one is clocks.

So, here you go: http://www.amazon.com/Make-Your-Working-Paper-Clock/dp/0060910666

Do it together, draw a heart on it, write the date in the heart.

These. They look kinda funky but provide AMAZING support!

Oh, totally. They did an incredible job in making an ad that was funny and relevant to both sides, without being sexist, insulting, or patronising to either. Just an interesting example of "feminising the masculine"

I suppose you could also look at things like pinkification of traditionally male objects, like guns and tools..

And yet again on the other side, you have Kleenex for Men, which had bigger tissues and manly boxes.

The whole thing is interesting, and occasionally bizarre.

Sometimes its feet too... you usually point your feet towards something you like or something you want. Body language doesn't lie.


And yes, there are a lot of hoaky stupid books/sites about body language but if you find one that was written by someone credible the info is really awesome. I liked The Definitive Book of Body Language

> A circumcised dick is perfectly functional. Sex is fun. If you have a shitty unsatisfying sex life, it's not because you're 'mutilated' - you're just blaming your parents because it's easier than fixing the actual problems with your sex life.


Amen! Hallelujah! Finally someone agrees that if you are circumcised and have a difficult time enjoying sexual activities, it is completely your fault because you are not trying hard enough or are mentally crazy and need therapy. In fact, circumcision is completely healthy for a growing mind where he experiences necessary pain in order to not question those with power. Excellent to building a military organization, productive worker, or religious zealot.

Look at this book, it just filled with hate speech and liberal propaganda for imaginary claims to human rights. Since when do children have human rights? And how would they know that it was their circumcision? Should we stop vaccinating them too? Nonsense! As vaccinations have proven medical benefit just like infant genital cutting, though as a circumcised male, I believe vaccines are less effective than circumcision for diseases like HPV. And the USA has led high standards in preventing and curing HIV, where circumcision is one of the major key contributors. Don't let the leftist liberal media tell you otherwise!


As a circumcised male, I understand that all circumcisions are functionally perfect unless it is one of those extremely rare cases that potentially could cause death, removal of the penis, skin bridges, painful erections, and loss of sexual feeling. But those only tend to happen in less developed countries and not in western, more civilized nations. I am proud to be a United States business run citizen, who values individual freedoms like the choice for the parent to circumcise their son(s) to whatever manner they see fit. As property, kids do not have a say and this is a great freedom us parents enjoy.


As a circumcised male, I believe the foreskin to be a completely vestigial organ, outdated by the use of clothing. We, smart and logical, humans understand this unnecessary tissue and remove it for future medical benefits.

As a circumcised male, I have experienced MANY wonderful benefits from being gifted the holy cut against my will over the years:

• The need for lube. Can't masturbate without lube or in the shower because water washes off lube! It costs $15 every two months and some months I can't afford to masturbate! This is a great benefit to increase sexual frustration and frugality.
  
  
• There is hardly any sensation! I am missing the frenulum and banjo string. When I touch myself (not-aroused), it is like playing with my nose. Excellent benefit for those who hate feeling sexual response for lasting longer and longer until you are using blood for lube!
  
  
  
• Emotional instability! Ever wanted to have a trigger that makes you cry and cry and cry? Want to find your inner sensitive self? Well just chop off half your dick and find that even masturbating brings you to TEARS! Amazing benefit to overall world population. More suicides = less people = less CARBON EMISSIONS. See circumcision is environmentally friendly too.
  
  
• The ENVY of having a foreskin. Now all the uncircumcised men can feel better about themselves when they grab a couple of envious circumcised friends! Circumcision allows others to increase their own self-esteem! How thoughtless and nice!
  
  
• Oh, and last but not least STD PROTECTION! See, when you have such a hard time masturbating, you become a little misogynistic with attractive women! You don't want to hate them for making you aroused, but you at least try your best to avoid them. Because arousal is painful! So by remaining a virgin, you have 99% STD PROTECTION! GUARANTEED or your foreskin^^will ^^still ^^not ^^be back.
  
  
  And in conclusion, as a circumcised male, I do not understand this hatred for our kind. Similar to the deaf community, the blind community, the autistic community, I believe circumcision community is under attack from foreskin fetishists (eww how disgusting and unnatural, they just can't handle an inconvenient truth that circumcisions are superior). Our freedom to cut genitalia shall not be restricted by liberal hippies. We should unite with the Jewish and Muslim communities and lobby congress for protection in OUR individual rights of freedom for religion and parental pro-choice when it comes to circumcision. As I see no reason for a male to not love being circumcised, we shall decide when he is born to cut and only to cut. And I will not be raising a hippie, neck beard virgin who blames his (out of pure love) body modification for his lack of sex! Not in my house or he will get a beating of his life!

Ex Officio Boxer Briefs

These boxer briefs are the best I've ever had hands down. I have two pairs that I wash alternately each time I take a shower.

They're quick drying, wicking, and treated with anti-microbials, almost silky smooth, absolutely no chaffing, and they're supposed to last a loooooong time.

Every friend that I've told about them that put up the money for em has ended up swearing by them just the same as I do. I abso-fucking-lutely love them. Hands down. They feel exactly the same as the day I got em, maybe even more comfy.

Now, I know they can be on the side of expensive for some people, but honestly, if they're going to be your main pairs, they're worth it. Every cent.

I've recommended them before, but I like these boxer briefs a lot. So far they've been great for not losing support as soon as I put them on.

I really loved Iron John by Robert Bly. It's a book that tries get at old wisdom of what it means to be man through myths and mythology.

My therapist from a few years ago, who was a woman, gave it to me.

It's hard to put it into words what it's about as the book is mostly allegory and metaphor. But I still recommend it.

Would she be receptive to reading the book on Love Languages, and then having a discussion from there?

You've mentioned elsewhere that "advice from some dude on Reddit" isn't going to go over well, but advice from someone with a bit more of an authority might be helpful.

Plus, it might get her to open up on if there are other needs she has that she hasn't previously expressed to you.

I find that my Phillips Norelco does a pretty good job, so long as I clean it out with a brush after ever other use and use a shaving gel.

Hey, you might find value in this book: Running on Empty, the author also did a podcast episode recently so you can get an idea of what the book is about by listening to it. I also highly recommend therapy so you have a safe place to explore these things without having to worry about the other person.