(Part 2) Best products from r/RedditForGrownups

> Better late than never, eh?

Careful, you're starting to sound like an optimist. ;)

Also, I dk about the whole book. I would recommend a different one that covers similar ideas more with an predominantly practical rather than narrative approach. I thought the values exercise was topnotch, though.

I think there's more to it than the lists posted here, but my boyfriend doesn't do any of the things listed. I'm finally in a happy relationship, although I don't know what the future holds or if he's The One. (I thought my ex-husband was The One so, my mileage varies.) Interestingly, many of the things on the lists in this post are things my mother does.......

When I was separated from my ex-husband I read a book called "Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay" and it helped me see that the relationship was not going to be saved.

Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship https://www.amazon.com/dp/0452275350/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_V7L4ybGY7WW94

I really like David Richo's stuff. I read him in high school when I was trying to better my self esteem, get ready for life after moving out, and learn how to be a good partner. His book "How to be an adult in relationships" is really good.

Completely, late to the party. I recommend taking probiotics! It fixed my constipation! I have a cup of homemade butter milk and also take these probiotics:

PRO-15 Advanced Strength Probiotics recommended by /u/cyanocobalamin


Jarrow Formulas Saccharomyces Boulardii + MOS buy cool ship

Well, I dunno about "vintage" or "retro", but as I near 50, I'm amazed at how many everyday things I have that
are old. Just on my desk, right now, there's:

- A Cafe Du Monde coffee mug I use as a pen cup. I went to Georgia State, which is next to Underground Atlanta. There used to be a Cafe Du Monde there, and I'd sometimes get beignets as a break from the same old food at the student center. I think I got it in 1993, so 25 years ago.

- Inside that mug are pens from trips to the British Museum (2000) and V&A (2005), amongst others. And yes, they still work.

- There's a Gerber knife (exactly like this) that my late uncle got me when he worked for a knife wholesaler... in 1982, I think?

- I don't smoke any more, but I still have the "Genuine Zippo 1932 Replica" lighter I got in early 1989. I was sad because my high school sweetheart moved away, so my best bud took me on a skip day downtown, and I bought it as a souvenir of the day. Plus, it's square!

- Up until a couple years ago, I used a leather Eddie Bauer key ring I got in June 1989. I'd just graduated from high school and decided I needed something more "adult" than the plastic radio station keyrings I'd been using to that point.

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Thanks! There's a great book on negotiating jobs and other important things I'd really suggest you read right now. It will give you a lot of tools for advocating for yourself. It was written by an FBI hostage negotiator who inspire the Denzel Washington movies proof of life and others. It's a great book and will help you not settle but get what you want out of any work transaction.

http://www.amazon.com/Never-Split-Difference-Negotiating-Depended/dp/0062407805?ie=UTF8&psc=1&redirect=true&ref_=oh_aui_detailpage_o00_s00

Eighties John Hughes movies are the best - I read a book - You Couldn't Ignore Me If You Tried about him, his movies and the brat pack - great read!

See if your local store can't order this cheaper. It should run about 6 bucks in a store.

http://www.amazon.com/Savoies%C2%AE-Fashioned-Roux-Dark-16oz/dp/B007JB7ODY/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1425357507&sr=8-3&keywords=roux

As for seasoning...try something lke this:

2 tablespoons garlic powder

2 tablespoons dried oregano

1 tablespoons dried basil

1 tablespoon dried thyme

1 tablespoon black pepper

1/2 tablespoon white pepper

1/2 tablespoon cayenne pepper

2 tablespoons paprika

2 tablespoons salt


If you want it spicier double the White Pepper and the Cayenne Pepper. I halve this because most of my friends are not from Louisiana and can't take the heat. But if you like dah spice it's be fine to use a full tablespoon. This will make more than you'll need, and you'll need to add salt to the gumbo seperately. I cut the salt in this recipe down when I give it out so people can adjust it for themselves. This is a good generic base for any cajun recipe. If I were making rabbit gumbo I'd up the white pepper and thyme a bit. Maybe add a shake less basil and oregano.

http://blog.nola.com/judywalker/2008/04/the_louisiana_spice_palette_se.html

Down at the bottom of this article is another recipe that's a little peppier than mine. I don't like the cumin in my gumbo but it would be great in a rabbit etouffe or something.

Don't forget Groom and Clean and Bryl Cream! Both still sold at my local drug store. And if you're in an area with a large hispanic population, Tres Flores, which is like the Mexican version of vitalis. I love the smell of it

I have these - https://www.amazon.com/Comfortable-Computer-Reducing-Eyestrain-Eyeglasses/dp/B00BQ7KBV4

I love them, they really help a lot with glare and I don't ever get headaches like I used to

I strongly, strongly recommend the book The Five Love Languages. It's very short but very helpful.

Amazon link.

Amazing psychotherapist Esther Perel talks about this at length in her book Mating in Captivity (not an affiliate link). She's brilliant!!

I'm another in the same boat. In my case I'm double-fucked because I owe a colossal amount of student loans, which means I can't really take time off a steady job to go back to school (I tried to start my own business last year, but hated it and didn't make squat anyway). I actually have a disincentive to make more; my student loan payments are supposedly proportional to income, but it's actually relative to how far above the poverty line I am. So I had a 60% increase in on-paper pay more than double my loan payments, so that at the end of the day I barely make more than I did in my previous job.

I'm still not sure what the alternative is, although I'm actually gravitating more towards the arts now (writing, specifically) compared to when I was younger. I think it's a matter of more realistic perspectives; I care less about being wildly successful with it, but if it gives me a good way to occupy my mind while I'm doing my so-so job, that's something.

I don't know where your religious beliefs lie, but I found this book to offer some useful ideas. It's written by a Quaker, so definitely comes at it from a Quaker perspective of life, but I never felt like it was particularly preachy (but I'm also a Quaker, so obviously I may not where someone else could). There's a sample of the ebook on Amazon's site, if nothing else.

Any friends will be fine.

We love this for shoes:

https://www.amazon.com/Seville-Classics-3-Tier-Utility-Espresso/dp/B00336TY0K/ref=sr_1_4?s=storageorganization&ie=UTF8&qid=1506654508&sr=1-4&keywords=shoe+rack

It's basically about mindfulness but is very focused with techniques to deal with distractions, emotions, and other stuff. The best "manual" I've ever read about it is this: https://www.amazon.com/Mind-Illuminated-Meditation-Integrating-Mindfulness-ebook/dp/B01INMZKAQ/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1541742102&sr=8-1&keywords=culadasa

Learning to meditate and taking long brisk walks listening to audiobooks. Healthy for body and mind.

Some suggested titles (in no particular order):

Reboot: Leadership and the Art of Growing Up

Mindset

When Things Fall apart

12 Rules for Life

Let your life speak

There are some great podcasts too... listen and walk,... walk and listen

This book helped me immensly. Hope you give it a go and it does the same for you.

Yes, a shrink/counselor/psychiatrist, and also a book by one, written precisely for this purpose.