(Part 2) Best products from r/TopsAndBottoms

When that happened to me I would do the following:

• I would use my Bidet to clean after each stool.
  
• I would sit in a SITZ bath for about 30 minutes, twice a day. Use Epsom Salts with your SITZ bath
  
• I would use Hygienic Cleansing Lotion after each stool and each SITZ bath
  
• Use a stool softener
  
  In about 1 week you will be partially healed. DO NOT have anal sex yet. Drink half your body weight in ounces in water each day. This is important to keep your poo soft. Eat raisin bran cereal. Eat oatmeal. Eat anything with fiber. You will need at least 30 grams of fiber a day. This is to help keep your poo soft enough to pass through your fissure (Tear).
  
  In about 3 weeks or so you will be fully healed. Please, keep up the routine of fiber each day. Drink plenty of water each day. And for the love of GOD, use Lube. Use lots of LUBE!

A good rimming, some fingers, dirty talk and making sure he's relaxed and enjoying himself are the best approach, as you acknowledge. You can also try using a lube launcher, which will make sure you're following the old adage "you can never use too much lube."

If Gun Oil or Wet Platinum don't work for you, try Passion. My boyfriend and I bought some on a whim last month, and we have been amazingly happy with it. Don't have to use much of it, lasts longer than most other brands we have tried & comes in a nice, easy pump top bottle. :)

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B004OEBMAK/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o01_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

I once hooked up with a guy with the same size and he gave me poppers to try. I hadn’t tried it before then but it really helped. It helps relax your hole. Try not to go crazy on them though. I usually only do it once or twice if I need to during sex. Use plenty of lube. Like a lot. I prefer: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000IK2D7U/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_OQeTDbBQEMZDY

Brand wise, start by looking at:

• Tantus
  
• Vixen
  
• FunFactory
  
• Vamp
  
  All of them are top quality silicone.
  
  For specific dildos, you didn't talk about size. So I'll just tell you the dildos I'm currently mulling over:
  
  
• Uncut #1 and Anaconda by Tantus (recently bought the Anaconda, great thrusting toy)
  
• Outlaw by Vixen
  
• Magnum and Boss by FunFactory. Also, if you're a bi bottom like me, the FunFactory Share XL to get pegged with.
  
• Carina, Valentino, Talula G2 and Gianni from Vamp
  
  As you can tell, I like 'em on the bigger side. All of the above brands have more modest sized offerings that are great if that's you're thing. And if you want bigger than that... I'll leave you with Bad Dragon...
  
  
  For buttplugs specifically, when you get some experience, I like Boss Silicone Stopper series from Japan. No. 4 / No. 5 are what I'd classify as modest but not impossibly large (not for beginners, though). Numbers higher than that are insane. If you can find a
  
  Also worth a look, though I've never spent the money on them myself, are stainless steel toys from Njoy and the like.

Yes. You only need 100 mL for an enema unless you're going for super large toys. Exceeding this amount can lead to "never-ending" cleanout sessions.

Since you're not in the US, consider getting a catheter tip syringe. They're cheaper, almost as easy to insert with lube, and you can easily dispense a known quantity of water.

I'm a top.
But my ex got a bidet/hose thing that attaches to my toilet. I use it all the time post poop. It saves a lot of toilet paper. Plus, never had a problem with him being 'dirty'.

I highly recommend. It was like $30 on Amazon.
[This thing. It's also for babies. ](http://www.Cloth.com/ Diaper Toilet Sprayer Kit High Powered Hand Held Bidet Shattaf Brass Chrom Stainless Steel Hose T-Valve (7/8*) By "Baby-Touch" https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01HPMUBVI/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_NFyAzbQSBFYTY)

It's nothing special. Always shave in the shower so the hot water opens your pores, use a good shaving lotion or shaving cream, dont go over the same spot multiple times without any cream.

Shave with the grain first, and then if you need to shave against the grain. For coarse pubic hair you'll probably need to do the shaving against the grain thing.

It's not as scary as it seems. I rarely get any irritation, and red bumps shouldn't happen as long as you use a nice lotion like this after: https://www.amazon.com/Queen-Helene-Lotion-Cocoa-Butter/dp/B00F1OR45E/ref=sr_1_5?keywords=cocoa+butter+lotion&qid=1562418859&s=gateway&sr=8-5

After every shower, even if I don't shave, I use that lotion on my butt/thighs, general area around that.

Take the arm out of the equation: TOM v2 "The Other Man" Suction Dildo Mount https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00A52GCJG/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_Z8L1CbTXZSXYA

• this: WAS"Weight Attachment System" for TOM v2 https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01EIT62KA/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_w.L1CbB3TVH23
  
  I can regularly cum hands free riding on that mount with this dildo: https://www.shopdocjohnson.com/s/sex-toys/p/440296/doc-johnson/kink---the-perfect-cock-with-removable-vac-u-lock-suction-cup---105
  
  Best money I ever spent. I put a 5lb dumbell/weight inside the mount and another behind it to keep it from sliding instead of buying the weighted bags

For anyone that cares I think the term I was looking for to help with my search was "wand." The next time I see what I was talking about in a porno I'll post it to see if anyone can name it. This seems like the kind of thing I was looking for.

I use a Norelco Body Groomer 7000.

Works wonderfully on pubes and body hair in general (including hair around your hole) Can be used wet or dry. I use it dry with no shaving cream and I've never had an issue. Provides a nice clean shave.

No, I only wash linens once a week. I found these to be awesome sex blankets, so I just bought a few of those. I leave one as the top layer of my bedding because they look and feel fantastic.

I agree with /u/pornstach32.

You don't need to be locked up in it 24/7, but something soft and restraining like this or this, slipped on before playtime will essentially turn your dick into a clit.

Cover it with a cute jockstrap and you might even forget it (and your penis) is even there, lol. Then you can focus all your attention where it belongs.