(Part 2) Best products from r/askgaybros

Hey so i made a throw away just in the hopes I could maybe help you out. I just went through this about 3-4 weeks ago. Virgin, 21, male, 5'8'', 150lbs, not feminine, using Scruff and Growlr. I used apps because I like older guys. It actually took me about a year to accept this is what I wanted.

So my first question is what have you done in preparation? Do you plan to top or bottom? I had been seriously thinking about my first time for a about 1-2 months prior. I was really nervous like yourself so I just looked at other guys profiles I was interested in while in an offline mod. I had a few people message me but I just stated that "I was not ready yet, sorry" or "thank you". I eventually bought lube and tried fingering myself (i think doing it with lube is easier than in the shower). It showed me how easy it was to fit larger things up there. I quickly moved to an anal plug set to prepare myself further. http://www.lovehoney.com/product.cfm?p=3539

I pretty quickly able to use the medium plug. Oh also I bought and enema and got used to using that (~3 times 2-4 squirts) http://www.amazon.com/Cleanstream-AA505-Enema-Bulb-Red/dp/B002SKG8GU/ref=sr_1_3_s_it?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1464369744&sr=1-3&keywords=enema

I used the plug for about 2 weeks, not every day, but I kept it in for 30min to an hour while just sitting at a computer.

I finally felt ready and put a photo up online and got messages from people. I was polite, but mostly talked about normal things. Interest on my profile or theirs. Returned or gave a compliment about how they look (handsome, nice face/smile/beard, strong, stud, etc). I never initiated any sexual talk. Exchanged pictures when they asked or if they did (and i was interested).

So now I'll continue with my first time and focus on what we talked about.

So since it seems like you dont have a problem meeting people I'll tell you that one of the people I had favorited messaged me within 2 hours of me putting up my profile picture (not bragging, just context). I didnt know if he was looking to hookup or date. We talked just like I said above. Compliments and a few interest. He gave me his number fairly quickly. Now I was still just shocked this was happening this fast with a guy I was really attracted to. I ended up using Sideline (a fake phone number app, it can send and receive jumbled messages sometimes but good for privacy). Looking back through the texts our first conversation was very casual (what are you up to? how did the day go? which lead into interests and opinions). I know that may seem vague but those two questions really made it easy to continue talking as long as you or he puts some detail into an answer. Then he asked what else I was into and I returned the question. We clicked really well, both of us making mild sexual puns to each other. My dick hurt while just texting him. Now I really liked this guy and didnt want to scare him away being an inexperienced virgin.

So before our first date I decided to meet up with another guy. He luckily messaged me, but I dont think it would have been hard to greet him. These message were much more straightforward. Still same basic stuff but much more down to business. After a little back and forth (flirty, not romantic) he asked what I was into. I straight up told him that I was a virgin, but I was ready and looking for someone to teach me. I think its good to be upfront so that they dont go too quickly for you and you stay relaxed. The key things to look for is someone who says they would take it slow and not teach/try everything right away (ie no anal first time, unless you really really want too). We talked a bit more but not a lot. We agreed to meet at Panera Bread and we talked for about 30-45 minutes. I was really nervous, but stayed calm. In fact, I got there first to just settle in. He seemed genuinely interested, nice, and not a creep. He drove me back to his place and it was slightly awkward, but we watched Jimmy Carr standup cuddled on the coach. Eventually I felt a desire to kiss him so we started making out and continued to do so for a while. Then it was slightly awkward as well again when I said I wanted to go to the bed room and we walked over. I laid on the bed first and we started kissing again. I cant remember if I undid my belt or he did but the pants came off, then his shirt, then mine, then finally his pants. We continued making out and I felt really relaxed. I kissed his neck, nibble/sucked on his earlobe and nipple. I wasnt really thinking about it being my first time too much, I just relaxed and in a sense trusted him. I just did what felt right. Now I cant remember if he sucked my dick first or sucked his. Either way when I sucked him it wasnt gross or that difficult. I had read about how to give a blowjob a few days before and the day of so I wasnt too nervous. I came back up and kissed him again then he sucked me again and I paid attention to what he did. More kissing. Be prepared to taste salt from your own pre-cum. Its more surprising than anything. I neither care for it or dislike it. But finally when we had messed around for quite a bit, sucking each other at the same time & kissing in different position & some dry humping, I decided to stay down longer and finish the job. I did swallow only because i didnt really know when it was coming and I didnt really taste it. Im sure it would have been fine to spit it out or ask him to jerk him or have him jerk himself when he was almost there. I was so pleased to get him off and when he said that that there was no way that was my first time. He then tried to get me off, but unfortunately I was taking a medication that made it difficult so he jerked me, yet i finished myself while kissing him. We laid together for a bit after, showered together, and then I asked him to take me home.

I think the major take away was just to relax and be with someone you trust. Youre being vulnerable and its difficult so if you cant relax it wont be enjoyable and awkward. Just give in to the moment. Also there really isnt a bad blow job as long as you dont use teeth.

Now I would have meet up with this guy to try anal, but I went on a date with the other guy and it was fantastic. We had another date where he stayed the night. Early the next morning we both wanted to have sex. I did not tell him I was a virgin, and was slightly nervous. Again though, I trusted him. He took the lead after we had similar foreplay as with the other guy. I told him to take it slowly while i was on my back with my legs up. When he entered I told him to wait a bit. We kissed and caressed each other. Then he began slowly and I told myself what my friend had told me "it may hurt, be ready. its natural for that to happen, but only to a certain extent. If its bad tell him to stop, wait 30 sec and try again. But if its too painful just stop". I also told myself "relax, relax, relax". To be honest it didnt really hurt, but it didnt necessarily feel great. I am told it takes a few times before you enjoy it which seems to have been the case so far. All in all I was freaking out a bit because I didnt know how long he would take or how long i could put up with it. He changed between fast and slow so there was a slight rest. Yet I still had to tell myself to stay with it because it did feel strange, but once it was over I was so happy. I thought that wasnt so bad. I dont think he even suspected I was a virgin and still doesnt. My second and third time were the same day at his place and I was much more excited for them. My fourth time up against a wall felt fantastic.

So sorry if this was long, but I read a few stories like these and it really helped me know what to expect and relax. thats the key thing I think, being comfortable and relaxing. Its not going to be perfect, but it should be enjoyable for the most part making out. Try not to overthink it too much. Prepare yourself mentally and physically before hand. Feel comfortable with the guy, not necessarily romantically attracted to but at least physically attracted to him. And again be relaxed, dont stress out too much. When just talking to someone intially before the hookup dont worry about it. Be yourself. Its just a meet up, not the actually act of sex. Be prepared for it to be kind of awkward. Just talk normally like you would to someone you just met, only at the end will either of you suggest to go back to someones place. AND ITS OK TO SAY NO. Even if he buys you lunch or something its your body and you dont have to sell yourself for a sandwich.

Hope this helps. Sorry if its jumbled or long, I didnt really re-read much because its so long and I just kept going. Good luck!

TLDR: relax, prepare mentally & physically, find a guy you trust

I got you boo boo!

My favorite method is to get a shower shot. This is the one I have and I love it, but it’s VERY easy to cause a bigger problem with a shower shot than you had to begin with (explanation below.) I bought my shower shot along with this shower head which I can discreetly unscrew the handheld shower head and screw in my shower shot when I need to use it and none of my roommates have a clue that I just rinsed out my butthole. It also allows me to control the water pressure on the shower head.

The better method to start with would is to go to the pharmacy and get some Fleet Enemas. Enemas or a Bulb Douche are the preferred beginning option because it’s easier to control how much water you’re using.

So, as a few other people have mentioned douching isn’t always necessary. If you have enough insoluble fiber in your diet, your body will clean about 95% of the debris out on its own. Insoluble Fiber helps to add bulk to your stool and hold it all together so when you go to the bathroom, there aren’t any little pieces left behind up there. Do not mistake that with soluble fiber which draws more water into your colon. I still prefer to give it a quick swish just for peace of mind, confidence, and comfort.

When you douche as far as water is concerned, less is more. You ONLY want to rinse out your rectum. This is why Fleet Enemas are good because they’re designed to hold the right amount of fluid. You DO NOT want to use too much water as it can over-fill your rectum and spill into your colon. If that happens, you can douche until the water runs clear, and then 10 minutes later a brown slurry begins dropping into your once clean rectum and... it’s NOT GOOD! If possible, you want to douche, and later have sex, after you have a good solid bowel movement. So go bop bop, shower and douche multiple times with a few ounces of saline/water until the water you push out runs clear a few times. Then soap and shower as normal.

Do NOT have sex immediately after douching. Despite your best efforts, chances are there is still some leftover water/saline in your rectum which you want to give 30 minutes or so for your body to reabsorb what’s left behind or you might spring a leak!

Now, douching is great in my opinion BUT you do not want to douche all the time. Douching strips healthy mucuses out of your rectum which potentially could increase your risks of contracting STDs. Your rectum is also home to a whole biological ecosystem which is part of a healthy immune and digestive system. The general consensus from doctors that I’ve read is that if you’re JUST rinsing out a small section of your lower GI like your rectum, it’s probably not not much of a concern but why upset your gut biome at all if you don’t have to. Douching is great! But don’t over do it.

I think that about covers it! If I missed anything or you have any questions feel free to ask!!!

Hey buddy!

What are some things you can do right now to take care of yourself? Are you at home? What about:

• taking a nice, hot, leisurely shower
  
• putting on some comfy pajamas
  
• finding a new TV series or movie to start watching
  
• making (or ordering) some good comfort food
  
  We don't always have other people around when we're lonely, but there are steps we can take to take care of ourselves.
  
  Also, and this may sound silly but I stand by it, maybe get yourself a stuffed animal this weekend if you don't already have one. Given your username, maybe it'd be nice to have a stuffed bear, something to cuddle like this:
  
  https://www.amazon.com/dp/B007KALG8I
  
  I hope you can take some concrete steps to soothe yourself and have more warmth and comfort in your evening. Take care buddy 🤗😊

Lots of straight guys enjoy ass play, it's not like only gay guys' prostates feel good after all.

The Aneros product line mentioned by /u/vanisaac is a good option, but I thought I'd give you some others as well.

• If money is no object, the Billy by Lelo has an excellent reputation, and Lelo's build quality and warranty are outstanding.
  
  
• The Pfun Plug by Njoy is another higher-price/higher quality toy that is extraordinary. As is the Pure Wand, which is not a plug, but is great for ass and prostate stimulation.
  
  
• The Naughty Boy and the Rude Boy, both by Rocks Off are perennial favorites among gay men.
  
  
• Fun Factory's B-Balls are super cool, and great for long term wear or wearing during play. Their Boosty plug is a bit intimidating looking, but isn't really all that big and is very comfortable, although some folk find getting it in a bit challenging the first few times.
  
  There are plenty more, but those are a few options to look through. They cover the price scale from about $35 dollars for the Fun Factory products all the way to $150 for Lelo's Billy. In all honestly, I'd be reluctant to use anything much cheaper than $35 in my own ass. All the products listed here (including the Aneros products) are made out of high grade, body-safe materials, whereas there are some seriously skeevy cheap sex toys out there made out of mystery rubber that can potentially cause a wide range of unpleasantness, particularly when we're talking about ass toys.

> I've been in the closet almost eight years now.

There's a book called "Something like Autumn" that spoke to me about how little time we really have... how we could be gone in an instant, and that every second that we spend in our various closets, we are wasting by not being ourselves. Give it a read, maybe it will build your determination?

>Many important people in my life have been vocal about not liking gay people

$10 they know 0 gay people, and only think of the queeny stereotype. All kinds of things come bundled with that label, that you likely already defy.

> I've been terrified to lose those relationships

The thing is, if they can't accept you for who are they aren't worth it. If your family really loves you, they will get over it. Believe it or not, you kinda want some excitement or anger, because people only get angry about the things they love. indifference is the real scary thing.

>I know i'm gay, 100% certain. But I am uncomfortable even saying it anonymously online.

If you have a sister, she knows already (don't... ask me why. They just always seem to know). otherwise, tell your closest friends. It helps to become comfortable with a support network.

>Cutting off the homophobic people in my life isn't an option. I won't risk losing those people in my life that I care about (friends and family) regardless of their beliefs about gay people.

If they love you, they will get over it. Just be careful to leave communication open, some may take some time to come to terms with it. You are still you afterall.

>I don't date (I just say I'm too busy) which has been the really sad part. I want to be in a relationship but I don't want to put someone through my mental baggage of me being uncomfortable with my own sexuality

We've all been there, and honestly it will be easier to come to terms with yourself internally if you know the people you love support you.

> let alone the fact I'm too afraid to even browse on tinder.

Gay dating apps are garbage in the bible belt, I'm in Arkansas, I know.

>I hate that I'm uncomfortable with who I am

Believe in me, that believes in you, who believes in me, to believe in you! You can learn to love yourself.

>I'm worried that if I don't do something soon that I may never be.

People come out at any age, if this isn't the best time then it's not the best time. New chapters of your life are coming, but don't wait too long... You might be the guy I'm destined to marry one day.

>Has anyone else been in a similar situation, and if so what helped you become comfortable with being gay?

Very few of us haven't... Try reading that book, the whole series even. There's a lot of good gay novels out there, that do a really good job of making the feelings you're having feel normal and okay. Out of Position by Kyell Gold is another good series... these are all on audiobook too.. They are gay without being "✨Gaaay✨" so it should fit what I perceive to be your internal feelings.

No matter what happens though, it's for the better. Living a lie sucks, and you'll feel better when the dust settles.

There are plenty of ways to make extra cash on the weekend, including remote jobs, uber, etc. Budgeting is key and really important! I highly recommend these books:


https://www.amazon.com/Rich-Dad-Poor-Teach-Middle-ebook/dp/B0175P82RA


Rich Dad, Poor Dad - one of the key lessons I learned here is to not rely on your salary or on one income stream. Use your deprivation (literal hunger) as a force to propel you into creativity that will allow you to unlock another income stream. Use your head, usually the answer is right under your nose.

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https://www.amazon.com/Think-Grow-Rich-Publication-Foundation-ebook/dp/B07P896HSJ/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?keywords=think+and+grow+rich&qid=1563042275&s=digital-text&sr=1-1-spons&psc=1


Think and Grow Rich - This is a great book that changes how you view yourself and money. It's very easy to read and it talks about mental blocks we have with money. By going through it, you'll be able to start thinking creatively on how to amass your wealth.

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https://www.amazon.com/Richest-Man-Babylon-Original-1926/dp/B06XTY4HP5/ref=sr_1_2?crid=Y7LFM0OW9NTZ&keywords=the+richest+man+in+babylon&qid=1563042291&s=digital-text&sprefix=the+richest+man%2Cdigital-text%2C187&sr=1-2


The Richest Man in Babylon Save 10% of your paycheck, always. Really good tips on general financial well-being.

It all depends on the person so I would recommend you try multiple toys to find the one you like best.

Since you don't have any experience with anal play then first try with your fingers, or maybe your girlfriend can use her fingers. (Yall can use gloves or something if you don't want mess). If you exclusively want a toy there are small toys like anal plugs and vibrators with cables that you can put inside with little to no practice. Those should be a good starting point and I bought mines for less than $15 on Amazon. I recommend you just browse there and see what they have available.

(These are 2 toys I have tried out and have been pretty good overall)
https://www.amazon.com/Great-Gift-Idea-Valentine-Attractive/dp/B00B2XTM1C/ref=zg_bs_17891898011_20?_encoding=UTF8&refRID=FR3CXFH8RFVGSE8XZ386&th=1

https://www.amazon.com/Vibrating-Prostate-Massager-Vibrator-Vibrations/dp/B01EMYJPWS


*Also remember to use lots of lube and to be as relaxed as you can!

Talk talk talk. That's the secret to any relationship - esp poly.

Poly means different things to different people. There is no one correct way. Poly is what you and partners decide it is. Everyone has different reasons about why they are poly.

Personally, I think that it is cruel to expect everything I want from one person. I have enough love to share and my lovers all have different roles in my life. I tired poly when I was not ready and got consumed by jealousy and relationship drama. We make mistakes and we learn. It takes a LOT of emotional maturity, patience, and trust to be in a healthy poly relationship. Poly is not for everyone and it doesn't need to be. Nothing wrong with monogamy if that's your thing.

I think people are more fascinated with the idea of poly. And reality is not always that glamorous. So many people want a quick peep into the lifestyle. The taboo is alluring. But many people also cannot get over the possessiveness and insecurity. No matter how secure you are in yourself and how strong your relationship is, being in a real life poly situation will bring up insecurities and challenge your relationship. If you both work on it together, you will become more close and trusting of each other. It can also drive a wedge between you both.

I would also suggest any of the the below books.

• Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships - https://www.amazon.com/Designer-Relationships-Monogamy-Polyamory-Optimistic/dp/1627781471/
  
• The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures - https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Third-Practical-Relationships/dp/0399579664/
  
• Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic - https://www.amazon.com/Mating-Captivity-Reconciling-Erotic-Domestic/dp/0060753633/
  
• Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships - https://www.amazon.com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295X/
  
• Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality - https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Prehistoric-Origins-Sexuality/dp/0061707805/

lol

If I was the other guy I wouldn't give 2 shits about razor burn on your ass. I mean if anything I'd think to myself "at least he's trying".

I'll also suggest (like the good fedora wearing /r/wicked_edge browser that I am) to check out a safety razor.

something like this:

http://www.amazon.com/Parker-99R-Handle-HEAVYWEIGHT-Butterfly/dp/B003NTHWLU/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1397576216&sr=8-5&keywords=safety+razor

Since I switched I don't get razor burn no matter where I shave.

>lol

>If I was the other guy I wouldn't give 2 shits about razor burn on your ass. I mean if anything I'd think to myself "at least he's trying".

>I'll also suggest (like the good fedora wearing /r/wicked_edge browser that I am) to check out a safety razor.

>something like this:

>http://www.amazon.com/Parker-99R-Handle-HEAVYWEIGHT-Butterfly/dp/B003NTHWLU/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1397576216&sr=8-5&keywords=safety+razor

>FOR ME, Since I switched I don't get razor burn no matter where I shave.

>I'm sure there is actual science and reason behind it, but FOR ME it's just incredibly smooth compared to a high-end disposable. FOR ME, I used to get it really really bad on MY neck. Like 6 hours after I shaved FOR ME it would be red with razor burn no matter what. I tried shaving in different directions, slowing down, aftershave. Nothing worked FOR ME. So I check out the safety razor and poof, all MY razor burn problems are gone.
FOR ME, If I really rush MY shave then I will often get little nicks but if I go at a leisurely pace and don't shave like a neanderthal then it looks great and it's dirt cheap compared to nice disposables.
FOR ME, I can shave every other day for 6 months with a brand new blade every time for only ~10-15$
http://www.amazon.com/Astra-Superior-Premium-Platinum-Double/dp/B001QY8QXM/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1397576947&sr=8-1&keywords=safety+razor+blades[1]
As for shaving on MY body, I will usually hack it down with an electric razor first, like a body groomer. Then I will just run the safety razor over the area dry. It might not be the best or smartest way but it works great FOR ME. I don't get razor burn and I don't even use a shave cream or anything. I could never do that with a disposable, even with lotion/shave cream/etc.
As for why, MY uneducated opinion is that I have 1 really sharp blade, not 5 sort of sharp (eventually dull) blades. 1 blade irritates MY SKIN less than 5 :D. That's MY broscience opinion.
Check out the /r/wicked_edge[2] wiki for some info
http://www.reddit.com/r/wicked_edge/wiki/index#wiki_will_this_help.3F

*Edited my post just in case OP thought I was giving peer reviewed evidence like some dumb fucks around here.

I'm the exact same way and it took me a while to realize this is perfectly OK and legitimate. Doesn't make your situation any better except I hope it validates your perspective a bit.

On a side note, check out 'attachment theory' for some knowledge that might be helpful. This book was an eye-opener for me about what I need to feel secure in a relationship:

https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=attached&qid=1563393106&s=gateway&sr=8-1

Naughty boy

I have this one, and I love it. Good size, easy to clean and it vibrates. Definitely recommended

Try to read some inspiration shit. Chuck Palahnuik always helps me. I'd recommend his novel Invisible Monsters- https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004SO5SD8/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1 . It was a great read and has some nice little tidbits I think you'd appreciate.

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“Your past is just a story. And once you realize this, it has no power over you.”
― Chuck Palahniuk, Invisible Monsters

I've seen this guide rated pretty highly. It's written for women, but the same principles should apply.

I don't shave my bum personally, but I'll shave my balls and I just use the Norelco Bodygroom which is kinda pricey but the whole "not drawing blood" mental health boost has been worth the price. Might be more tricky to do your bum (i.e. mirrors or a very close friend are probably needed), but it should work just as well.

Pure for men (https://www.amazon.com/Pure-Men-Cleanliness-Supplement-Proprietary/dp/B07CYJ8ZXJ) is like the greatest thing ever. I don't even need to douche most of the time since I started using it. Definitely worth a try

What kind of lube are you using?

edit: missed that line

Try this stuff or something like it. It's made by gays for anal specifically, and that makes a world of difference.

I'd spend some time riding him until you can get yourself relaxed. It doesn't take much to go from awesome to not.

I use the Norelco Bodygroom PRO on the shortest setting. I lay on my back with a pillow under my upper back/neck and put my legs up in front of a mirror. This is the best way to have a steady view of that area that I've found so far. Then I pull a cheek to the side and make slow, careful swipes of the body groomer (getting more careful the closer I get to my hole). If you go slow and use the blade guard on the shortest setting, the blade shouldn't touch your skin. If you have a portable light/lamp, I suggest pointing it at your butt for extra light.

I use this one. Fill up your sink with warm soapy water rinse and repeat until clear water comes out and boom your ready. Never had any embarrassing accidents
https://www.amazon.co.uk/OTBBA-Silicone-Certificate-Comfortable-Medical/dp/B01LYCAZI6/ref=mp_s_a_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1539524946&sr=8-2-spons&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65&keywords=Anal+douche&psc=1

ok. 50ml is too little. i use one of these http://www.amazon.com/Cleanstream-AA505-Enema-Bulb-Red/dp/B002SKG8GU .. that's 8oz and i use two squeezes of those at a time. i estimate about 300-400ml. and it takes me a about 4-5 rounds, sometimes more before water is clear.

i usually douche with something like... https://www.amazon.com/OTBBA-Silicone-Certificate-Comfortable-Medical/dp/B01LYCAZI6/ref=sr_1_4_s_it?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1485765442&sr=1-4&keywords=anal+douche

right before sex and use a quality lube like Gun Oil...
when i was with my ex, i wouldn't eat the 2 meals before meeting him (so unhealthy btw), but gave him the freedom to go hard right away and it was mess free... but there's a new supplement that keeps you clean, forgot what it's called though

>Make sure you're using a lube made for anal sex in particular. Makes a world of difference. I use this shit and haven't looked back since I came across it.

thanks for the tip! I have read so often that anything will do and we had so many difficulties trying with coconut oil and vaseline (it's difficult we both live at home and my parents are sexphobic) and even normal lube improved things.

I'll look for anal specific once then.

>Ayup. Work up to getting a few fingers in at the same time. If you can slip three fingers into your ass, a cock should be easy.

I'll try this alone first then.

>By being on a dick. Take your time and get used to having it in you, roll your hips a little to wriggle it around some. I dunno, it's like telling you how to breathe. It's an internal muscular action, and that just takes exposure and experience unfortunately.

I'll practice with a dildo first and then hope he'll let me try.

Try that one Totally safe for the body hair trimming.

Hey this from amazon: Philips Norelco Bodygroom Series... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0037HP9OA?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

Use the black plastic end to trim down your bush.
Use the silver metal part for shaving the hair off your balls. Just be careful, it will snag if your hair is too long. I’d recommend trimming your balls with scissors, or even try the black part of this thing to start.

Ah yeah, not applicable til you have your own place. Try this instead: http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B002SKG8GU/ref=mp_s_a_1_9?qid=1426245970&sr=8-9&pi=AC_SX110_SY165_QL70&keywords=enema+kit

https://www.amazon.com/Pure-Men-Cleanliness-Supplement-Proprietary/dp/B07CYJ8ZXJ

You: "Happy Birthday, babe!"

Him: "wha- you know my birthday's not til A-"

You: "NO SHIT."

Like a razor, but designed for your body broadly, not just your face.

Example: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0037HP9OA/ref=mp_s_a_1_3_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1542947741&sr=8-3&keywords=philips+norelco+bodygroomer&dpPl=1&dpID=31IBS7ynxKL&ref=plSrch

Philips Norelco Bodygroom.

Nad's.

All you need.

> Norelco

This one?
https://www.amazon.com/Philips-Norelco-Bodygroom-Dual-sided-BG2040/dp/B0037HP9OA

Does the shave last long? And does it cause any ingrown hair?

I shave on a monthly basis. I use clippers and then smooth out using a Norelco Bodygroomer.

http://www.amazon.com/Philips-Norelco-BG2040-34-Bodygroom/dp/B0037HP9OA/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1421951644&sr=8-1&keywords=norelco+bodygroom

Usually done within 1.5-2 hours.

Non-mobile: http://www.amazon.com/dp/B002SKG8GU/ref=mp_s_a_1_9?qid=1426245970&sr=8-9&pi=AC_SX110_SY165_QL70&keywords=enema+kit

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I use this to aid in my manscaping and it has proved to be great.

http://www.amazon.com/Philips-Norelco-BG2040-BodyGroom-Pro/dp/B0037HP9OA/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1372272532&sr=8-1&keywords=body+groomer+for+men

I had my boyfriend shave my ass before anal (i'm a bottom) and this thing made it easy. Be careful not go to short on your lags and such, it tends to look odd.

But yes, doing it on your own is hard but i've done it before so not impossible. Be warned, if you shave it will grow back prickly.

this is what I use -- http://smile.amazon.com/Philips-BG2040-34-Bodygroom-Packaging/dp/B0037HP9OA/ref=sr_1_1?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1413857720&sr=1-1&keywords=body+groomer

I use the bottom end for trimming and the top end for the areas I want to shave bare (shaft, balls, and the random stray hairs I get on my shoulders)... no real issues with stinging or cuts.

> Okay and I read I should push out when he enters me, I can't push out enough.

So I've read as well. Never found it necessary, personally.

> The fingering would help with that right?

Ayup. Work up to getting a few fingers in at the same time. If you can slip three fingers into your ass, a cock should be easy.

> My hole also seems to vacuum inhale whatever lube he has on his dick but we'll use more.

Make sure you're using a lube made for anal sex in particular. Makes a world of difference. I use this shit and haven't looked back since I came across it.

> How can I do that though?

By being on a dick. Take your time and get used to having it in you, roll your hips a little to wriggle it around some. I dunno, it's like telling you how to breathe. It's an internal muscular action, and that just takes exposure and experience unfortunately.