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Go pick up a microkorg or other tiny analog modelling synth. You can start to make your own patches, you can learn a couple triad chords, the vocoder is super fun, etc. You need to know how to play some songs. Don't listen to losers like deadmau5 when he says things like just draw in the chords and wait until it sounds right. He has a youtube ad for his "master class" and I can't stand when he says that he would play it if he know how to play. Learning to play basic triads is easy.

I can only speak from experience when I say these things. I wanted to be a huge electronic music guy. I wanted to be the next Daft Punk or Justice. Now everyone tells me I have my own unique style and I sound like David Bowie. People hated my stuff for years. I'm not super good at any instrument but I'm good enough now at guitar, bass, synth, and vocals.

Sometimes I might not work on music for a month or so. Last year I think I stopped for about 4 months and I was worried that I lost the drive. It came back with a fury. You're always better after a break as well.

You could even start a band. I'm not sure how well you know any instruments or not but it usually doesn't matter. Learn the basic structure for a song. You can do this by learning songs, or just by objectively listening to them. Most pop songs are going to be intro, verse, verse, pre-chorus, chorus, verse, pre-chorus, chorus, bridge, chorus, chorus. Or something similar.

If you're super new, get this book. Then just pick a key and start playing the chors. https://www.amazon.ca/Chord-Wheel-Ultimate-Tool-Musicians/dp/0634021427/ref=sr_1_1?rps=1&ie=UTF8&qid=1491270719&sr=8-1&keywords=chord+wheel

You only hate it if you suck at it. I'm just gonna say it again, get an instrument or two and learn some songs. Just start pumping out tons of songs. Eventually you'll create your own style, it might not be EDM. Then go play them at an open mic or something. That shit is fun. Once you can start playing some gigs you'll thank yourself. Even playing for like 20 hipsters makes you feel like a rockstar, it's awesome.

If you can't sing, start singing to every damn song you hear. You're going to suck for a bit. I'm a bit of a silly guy sometimes so I would always change the words in the song while I sang them. That way it didn't matter that I sucked because it was still funny. Then one day I could sing haha it was pretty cool. Also, karaoke is sooooo fun. It's a great date idea.

You can literally be a super amazing musician and never touch a computer. If electronic music is really your thing, do it the old school way and buy some samplers. Like I said, once you become obsessive, there is no turning back. Music is fucking amazing and it never ends. You will be in your 70s-80s and pumping out songs.

WOOOOO GO FUCKING MAKE SOME NOISE

EDIT: I totally forgot. Make videos as well and then make your own music videos. Pump out a song and video every couple months. Do everything yourself. You will stay busy ahaha. I went and bought a couple green screens on amazon and some cheap lights and set up a litter studio in my apartment. Then I just started learning how to use everything and playing around in After Effects. Last week I taught myself how to use Cinema 4D and 3D modelling. Now I'm going to make hilarious cartoon videos in stereoscopic 3D making fun of feminism while I sounds like Bowie when I sing. It's all because I learned how to do everything. I've just started to find that the most enjoyable part for me is the process.

Also bass guitar. That is soo much fun to play. I don't even learn songs I just make up all this weird stuff and I absolutely love every second of it.

English isn't my 1st language.

Ok so vyvanse is a stimulant. It the little brother of Adderall but you can't abuse it because the neurostimulant isn't in the pills. The pills work as a catalyze for you liver to produce the right amount of neurostimulant for you brain.

So if you have a lot of protein when you take your pills you will get a better boost of energy.

First month are like heaven. Limitless like... until it come to a point where you feel all the secondary effect. Depends on your body but me my skin was so tight, my teeth was sensible and I had to drink a lot of water...

Those effect are not strange to an overdose of amphetamine ... vyvanse is an amphetamine.

I stopped using it because the benefits didn't outweight the drawback.

I was put on concerta since then.

But a pills ain't a magical remedy you need to work on yourself and to understand ADHD.

ADHD is like diabetes ... instead of your blood lacking insuline you're lacking dopamine receptor.

This video will start you on understanding more ADHD/ADD : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LyDliT0GZpE

I recommend reading : Healing ADD form Dr. Daniel G Amen.

But don't purchase is home healing kit it's retarded as fuck. His home healing kit are for stupid mom who put there kids too early on ritatin or think that because her boy's can't stand still and prefer to play videogame they must certainly have adhd.

Get a good psychologist. One that work with other ADHD people. I'm followed by one and it's like my self-development mentor. He's there to help you even if you need to pay him but it will help you. I see him really like on of the only person that I can talk about the struggle that I have with being productive or dealing with emotions. Like this subreddit instead of talking about sexual strategy you talk about self-development)

Clean your lifestyle.

Videogame or everything that come close to instant gratification when you day is just starting it's a no no ... especially at the beginning of your treatment. Your Dopamine is like your willpower. It isn't infinite. An ADHD person don't have a lot of it or can't produce at a faster rate. Everything that is instant gratification is your worst enemy in the long run. As said in the video : You're the most high-tech rocket on the planet earth with the most powerful computer... but you have no fuel. You can't move....


But you will say ( especially under vyvanse ) but dude i'm super productive I found all the info I needed for my paper way faster than before ... or some shit like that... You will start being productive at being unproductive. I was able to teach myself a shitload of thing about dieting/nutrition/fitness ... but I forgot to do my school assignment... I was productive at being unproductive.

What was the most useful to me at that point was getting good grades not reading about nutrition, that can come after I've done my task. It's like taking a shit but not pulling your pants down ... you get thing done ... but not in the logical order.

How do you know you're moving in the right way ?

Be accountable.

Start scheduling your life. Put the big rock 1st etc... This will give you an idea : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0VNmIxkyHd8

Be A-C-C-O-U-N-T-A-B-L-E

Ex : I keep a pen&paper log for my gym session ... multiple time I thought I wouldn't need it ... 2-3 day later I found myself skipping gym day. There is something that push me to go back and get stronger in writing down the number I just lifted.

It will develop a good quality that men's of today lack : Rigorousness and discipline.

The think is to have the habits of scheduling your day and start doing what you scheduled when it pop-off on your phone/agenda/computer/what ever. I had the bad habits of scheduling my day but pressing ''snooze'' on the even that keep popping up.

Summary : By scheduling you have more control over your life. More control = less anxiety and less screwing around. We ADHD can't see the consequences in the future. We have a great skill to see the big picture but don't feel it. I'm sure you are like this when you start a team project ... you wait before everything fit in the big picture before starting the 1st step ahaha. 2nd great skill is : You can be overfocused ( on the wrong thing ) and achieve thing faster than everyone else. By scheduling you gain control day by day instead of doing a sprint at the end. Life is a marathon.


2nd worst ennemy : " I don't feel like it"

I still struggle with this one.

You're weapon : you need to trick your brain.

Need to study or start the research for a paper or w/e ... ADHD have a problem with estimating time ... When people ask me how much time it will take me ... I DON'T KNOW ... It will take the time that it will take ...

So to trick my brain I schedule 15min ... yeah just that

What it will do :

• 15min is a short amount of time, it will control your anxiety before doing it because you brain can always say : I will do 15 min and close the book that's it
  
  In 15min you will have time to understand the problem you have in front of you. You will have the good informations to guess how much time it can take you to achieve your task, information that you didn't have prior to that. In 15min your anxiety will rise and plateau. That feeling of not being able to finish something and feeling of being overwhelm by the task will seem much smaller now. You gain control of the #1 survivability skill that your ancestor gave you : Connecting the dots.
  
  When the hunter saw the footprint on the grass he connected the dots between seeing the footprint but not seeing the prey, and estimating that there was something there and it's now gone. You're brain connected the dots from previous experience and future outcomes and came up with prediction... what we call instinct/guts in some case.
  
  When you start nothing you're in an illusion of control. You can't have feedback if you're not doing the actions and it's much simpler to imagine the outcomes. That is where procrastination gain is power, in the illusion of control. Much simpler to learn about stupid shit on reddit than to learn what you saw in class. The same "pathway of neurone" (By that I'm illustrating the fact that you brain gain the same satisfaction, you're brain is always developing himself) are used but one give greater outcomes than the other.
  
  You become stronger by Feedback Analysis Further reading on that : Managing Oneself by Peter f. Drucker
  
  
  BUT BE CAREFUL !!!
  
  Do not become Rigid ... this is where discipline come into play.
  
  Rigidity in a lifestyle come from having your standard way to high. You need to hit the ball before scoring home-run.
  
  What do you do if you didn't start where you needed to start ? You reschedule in the hopes that the next time you will feel better and be more prepare or you try to use the rest of the time you schedule and try to use it as much as you can ?
  
  I struggled with that and I still do but I have a better control over it.
  
  I found myself skipping gym session because I didn't feel I would be able to do my Strength Set and after my Hypertrophy set ... so I didn't go to the gym...
  
  One is better than zero.
  
  Now when I feel exhausted or my anxiety is too high I say to myself : OK just go there and do your Strength set and call it off. So I go there do my set and.... magically my brain is in the right mood and I finish what I needed to do ! MAGIC ... not just science.
  
  Note : The program I'm using is 5/3/1 from JimWendler.
  
  In summary : Once your task is scheduled but you don't feel like it or there is an ''emergency'', Try to at least start something or do the One thing that give you the best outcomes. In my exemple : Strength is what build muscle, hypertrophy are just for aesthetic so I needed to at least do my strength set. Lower your standard so you don't feel overwhelm but the anxiety and start ASAP the task you needed to do.
  
  I lost my line of thought will post this for now and come with everything I feel is missing.
  
  I tried to write for an ADHD person and for a normal person. My english isn't perfect but everything seem fine.
  
  TL:DR : Hey you weaktards there isn't a TL;DR. Feel the pain of reading a wall of text or maybe you're just not that interested in learning more about ADHD and you can go back touching yourself over GW or liking Cat picture over imgur.
  

We found that our adult son probably has been dealing with Aspergers and we didn't fully realize it. Also, pretty sure my father does too, so I was raised by a man with these same challenges. My son is working through it, but after my dad just got married, he got a factory job and then abandoned hope of having friends, and pretty much stopped talking to people at 25-30 years old.

>people talk shit about me or just be nice to my face

This is not unique to you or to autistic people.

We all deal with it, but you are probably more "aware" that it is going on and in many cases you might suspect it's happening even when it isn't. Either way, these thoughts or observations are things that you have to learn to ignore or at least suppress because the reason people even do this is out of their own insecurities.

>I can feel the condescension and relegation of them.

There are things you can do, almost mind tricks to pressure flip.

It's difficult to answer without a specific instance, but one thing that my son has a hard time with is to assert himself in situations. For example, let's say you are at work and two employees have to watch and close a gas station. If you allow the dominant person to decide what to do, they will always say they will watch the till while you clean the bathrooms and sweep. What you need to do is start recognizing when these moments of decision are taking place and do something possibly very difficult, you have to speak up or actually be the person who decides what you are going to do first. Get used to push back and confrontation too. This new behavior will get resistance, so learn to stand up for yourself without being mean.

>I can't fit in anywhere I go

This is a basic human fear we all deal with.

If it weren't so, there would be no Red Pill theory to teach men "how to" be confident, alpha, manly, admired, and respected. This is literally why we are all here brother.

>I am starting to think I just have a shit personality.

You might, but that doesn't mean it has to stay that way.

You can learn to communicate better, lighten up, be confident, and relax. This actually is the crux of your issue. If YOU think you are shit, no one else is going to like you either. I suggest HIGHLY that you stick around this forum, and read the sidebar books and update your belief system as you learn and develop new patterns of behavior.

Things that have helped my son.

There are some great books out there that everyone can use to improve social skills and to cultivate a positive self image. Here are some I would recommend that either have helped ME develop a personality from being raised by parents like this or provided to my son to help him in his condition.

Don't Sweat The Small Stuff by Richard Carlson

Great tips and outlook to stop worrying about what people may or may not be thinking of you.

Top Performance: How to Develop Excellence in Yourself and Others by Zig Ziglar

Become the best version of yourself in the workplace and how to transition into a leader people want to follow.

How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie

This is actually part of the Red Pill side bar recommended reading and self explanatory.

Power Hold'em Strategy by Daniel Negreanu

This isn't as obvious, but learning to play poker has helped my son a lot. This is a game where it's socially acceptable, even advantageous to be quiet, not show emotions, and to have extraordinary ability to read other people. Through this, my son has learned to like who he is and see how he has special ability. Also, he can practice small talk at the tables in little doses as he gets comfortable in the setting. We play in a free poker league here and after a year of playing in 2 tournaments a month, he's really starting to open up and enjoy the results he is getting at the game and more importantly at the social aspect of playing cards with some people he knows and with new people.

You are turning things around. One of the biggest mistakes we make as human beings is to wait or hope for an outside confirmation so that we may love ourselves. This might work for those who are 'lucky', but in the end they are even worse off because they start believing this trick actually makes them happy.

Truth is it doesn't. It only satisfies their ego, which leaves their inner selves permanently at a loss. A deep unfulfillable void that they do not understand and try to fill with external validation.

True happiness comes from tapping into your inner self and its capacity for love. All human beings have an endless source of love stored within themselves. It is once you love yourself regardless of any external factor that you will be able to truly exploit this resource and love not only yourself, but your life and everything (including other people in it).

The fact that nothing really matters comes to its true strengths through this notion. Not even your own external appearance matters, so don't let it impact your self love. The only thing impacting your self love should be you.

This book might be of use to you. http://www.amazon.com/Self-Compassion-Psychotherapy-Mindfulness-Based-Practices-Transformation/dp/0393711005/ref=sr_1_3?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1451060574&sr=1-3&keywords=self+compassion

Also meditation can help to work away your judgement of reality and become more present in the moment. This will help with breaking through conditioning and accessing your inner self.

Think of any one person in your life whom you love the most. Now imagine if you would love yourself and life like that. It might seem impossible, but it isn't. It's a way of living.

I didn’t ask you this in my previous post, but I’m assuming she’s a Christian. I don’t mean to question or doubt your girlfriend’s relationship with God, but how often does she go to church? Does she read the Bible everyday? Does she hang out with other Christians or have a lot of Christian friends? First, you need to see how much her Christian values are a part of her.

This is very essential with what you will need to do.
Now be honest. What is your intention with your girlfriend? Do you actually plan on getting married someday? Do you actually think she’s marriage material? Do you actually see yourself with her in 5 years? 10 years? 20+ years?
If not, then break up, but remember that this will scar her. Christians are taught sex is a gift from God. He never gave it to people to abuse it. God gave it to people so a husband and wife can enjoy their marriage and strengthen their relationship at a deeper level; not with some temporary girl or guy. This is why Christians teach that you should wait until marriage.

But it goes deeper than that. Sex is very, very intimate. It’s so intimate that you’re exposing a very deep mental, physical, and spiritual self to your partner. It’s like she had this most beautiful pearl in the world that was priceless. In fear of tainting its beauty or getting it stolen or lowering its worth/value, she had it locked up. She would dare not show it to anyone, but she does walk around in hopes to show it to someone one day and share that beauty with them.

A lot of people these days, don’t really treat sex the same way. They just sleep around and don’t think sex is highly valued or precious. I know a lot of men and women who has had sex to the point that they are only doing it for the sake of doing it. Some even implied it’s like a chore or just an urge that they would like to release.
I’ve also met a lot of Christian women and a few men who lost their virginity in the heat of passion and had to live with that guilt. Some actually believed they could never find a man/woman who would cherish them the same way if they were virgins.

Your girlfriend probably fits in that group. She showed you that “pearl.” She gave you that “ultimate gift”. If you leave just like that (especially with her all confused), that will affect her like all those other ones I know. She can even possibly blame you because you “led” her on and weren’t responsible enough to stop it. Yea, girls are like that. They get emotional and will start to shift the blame on men. Will she get over it? I have no idea. It just depends on how she handles it.

But now, I want to know what your position in life is. Are you planning on plate spinning or LTR? Given the society we live in, I don’t recommend marriage to many men and women. TRP is right that this society is so bad that when divorce occurs, everyone is just a man for themselves. They get so selfish that they have to extract as much as possible from their partner. They forget about trust, love, and commitment, and make it into a “me, me, me, me” battleground. They also forget that marriage has love and with love comes sacrifice. If you aren’t willing to sacrifice for her, don’t bother. If you can’t trust her when it gets bad or you lose a significant amount of SMV such as losing your job, then don’t bother.

To me, it seems she might be a possible unicorn. Conservatism in women are rare, or any women of that nature.
One more important matter: if you do stay with her, can you actually accept the Christian part of her? You said your philosophy on life has changed recently. That Christian part of her can conflict with your philosophy. It can even make you guys fight and argue. If you had answered my questions earlier to something along the lines of “little” or “not often/many,” then she isn’t much of a Christian to begin with. Her philosophy on life may change especially being 20 years old so there is also the possibility her view on sex could change. But if not, her outlook on life has significant influence from Christianity. If you don’t like that, then don’t bother.

TL;DR It just comes down to support and accepting her completely. While she's sorting out her thoughts, you shouldn't touch her either.

Btw, I would recommend you and your girlfriend to read this:
http://www.amazon.com/Sheet-Music-Uncovering-Intimacy-Marriage/dp/0842360247/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1408888905&sr=8-1&keywords=sheet+music
It should help you both understand sex biblically, which should help you understand/support her.

Hey man, i hope you're ok. The fact that you're messaging asking for help shows to us all that you don't want to go through with this, but you feel that it's the only way out. So first it's great you're seeking a solution and I hope I can offer some guidance to you.

(Some context on who I am) I'm in my mid twenties, reasonably successful and heading in the right direction (it's not easy though). My background is in Psychology, I've provided counselling before and at one stage in my life I also contemplated kicking the bucket. In fact I set a date and gave myself a goal. "If nothing has changed by xxxx I'm calling it quits, but first lets make sure I've exhausted every option". I too had self image issues and it's completely normal.

There's a theory that depression is an evolutionary advantage as it allows you to access a state of mind that makes you avoid pain. It also gives you access to a greater mind of clarify, allowing you to be super critical on yourself. This is useful as you can outline your problems to work on them.

It's unfortunate that you've been given a shitty hand but it's also a blessing in disguise. I guarantee if you get through this, this is the lowest you will ever feel in your entire life. Nothing else will move you and you will be unshakeable. Knowing that you and you alone pulled yourself out of this rut will give you skills and a mentality that will be advantageous to getting what you want and dealing with shit times later on in your life better than everyone else.

I'm going to start with your recent breakup as i'm going to assume she offered you some happiness in your life and was a support structure to you. With her leaving it's made you feel extremely isolated, you've got mixed emotions and no more support but it was the right decision. You need to process these emotions and grieve for the relationship you've just lost. THE best way to grieve for lost relationships is to write 2 letters. One from you to her, this is where you say everything you wanted to say to her "I appreciate the time we had together, ill always remember xyz but also you're a massive cunt" (you get it). Then the second letter you write from her perspective to you and you write it as a response to your original letter "I'm sorry I was such a bitch, I should have been more xyz". This isn't some hippy bullshit, just do it. read it and anytime you feel sad about the relationship, re read the letters. Trust me on this one, it helps you get through the grieving process quickly.

Baldness How to look good if you're bald and How to prevent baldness

Career If you're struggling to get a job I don't mind you pming me your C.V. and I can revamp it for you. Other things to consider move to a bigger city, get a fresh start, the larger the city the bigger the opportunities. Ok, so what If you don't have money to move to a new city ? and what if you don't have an education to get the job you want. Don't fear, look for an entry level sales position as they don't require much experience, it will force you to become more social and you'll make friends and a lot of cash in the process. Butttt what if you don't want to do sales ? Learn Copywriting you can self teach, and hire yourself out/start your own business from just learning this skill. Also if they're no good, have a read of this.

Happiness : You should go to the gym for this alone. You mentioned you don't have much time so I'm recommending cardio. However you need to set yourself daily goals so that you can complete them and by doing so you get a feeling of self accomplishment. This ads to your self worth. By building up your self worth through accomplishments you begin to lay the groundwork to feeling happy again, as you're pushing yourself and you're seeing improvements.

You should be supplementing with Vitamin D3 (5K IU's perday) this will boost your mood, also eat a lot more bananas , protein and fat. Read Gorilla Mindset it's a short book, you could read it in 4 hours. This goes into how to "think" correctly and you will see improvements from day one. It also touches on how to supplement correctly to banish depression forever.

Friends : Fuck them, they did you a favour. Fuck them seriously. So how do you get new friends at 19 ? Join a contact based sports team. Yanno the way army vets always stay in touch with one another after wars ? it's due to this great thing that happens when you and your team are pushed into a conflict situation and you look out for one another, strong bonds are made. It's the same for contact sports and you could have a new best friend in a couple of months if you committed yourself . On top of that, you will also develop social skills and future job connections. It also gives you something else to occupy your time up with so you're not feeling sorry for yourself in your home. It's also very easy to speak to everyone as you all share the same common interest of the sport you play.

I hope this has given you some actionable advice, if you need someone to speak with then shoot me a PM.

love, affection, and like CAN be very similar, but they can also be very different. I don't show affection for chocolate ice cream, but I sure do like it! I don't show affection for my male buddies, but I sure do love 'em. With women, girls, affection should come LAST. If you want a different perspective that I think can still be considered "Red Pill," but replaces much of the misogynistic "hold frame" "dark triad" "HB8" verbage with regular words, there's a book called "The System" by Doc Love. The System - Amazon . There is no "holding frame" if you shift your focus. Shift it away from your own attitude and behavior, and towards their behaviors, and their attitudes. Isn't that how it should be anyway? Why is your focus on your emotions, your "frame," your feelings, your lack of feelings, your job stability? Maybe you should be critically, rationally focused on HER feelings, and HER attitude, cuz if she's not head-over-heels madly crazy in love with you, if she's not infatuated thinking about you 24/7 hoping every second of the day to get a text message or a phone call from you and only you, then how long will it last, before she's thinking about some other guy? If she doesn't feel that way about you, do you really truly want to be with her? Wouldn't you want to be with someone who DOES feel that way? And IF SHE IS head-over-heels crazy about you, THEN RELAX AND HAVE A FUCKING BEER!

In short, don't make her out to be your momma.

Is the problem more the light from the monitor, or the sound? If it's the former, a quick fix could be just using a nightmask. You can buy one on Amazon reasonably cheap; just tell dude he owes you the money back for buying one (at a reasonable price, nothing gold-embroidered here haha).

If it's the sound/noise, see if he would be willing to stick to using a headset, especially if it's a nice, comfortable one. Then maybe offer to pick up part of his bills for a month or something to let him buy one on the express condition that he USE IT, ALWAYS. Hell, draft a quick contract if you want and have him sign it, then take him to small claims if he violates it. Sucktacular but that's his problem isn't it?

I totally agree that you shouldn't have to endure sleep deprivation, which, let's face it, is even more necessary for you than a standard civilian (because military training is far more intense than almost anything us civvies do). That said, if simple/direct technological solutions can be implemented to make it a non-issue, well let's give it a shot right?

For ear plugs, you could try something like these (amazon.com) which, if you switch out once a week (it's ok to use the same pair for a few days in a row it isn't gross unless you wave it in somebody's face!), you can get away with $20 bucks or so lasting you about a year. There's probably even better deals if you look further. (Also, tip: with ear plugs, get the most comfortable you can find that also have the highest decibel reduction rating; decibels aren't a purely linear function, it's not 1+1=2 it's more like 1+1=5. Also, be sure that when you use them, you create a really good interior "seal" inside your ear. Twist them down really good then insert deep into the ear so you can feel it, then let them expand "outward" on their own while you keep your finger on the butt-end of it so it doesn't emerge from inside your ear, but instead expands to "fill up" your ear hole.)

Another possibility might be to use a white noise generator. I created a LPT thread explaining how I use this to drown out noise from construction and traffic (I work nights) that you can see here (reddit.com). Not the same use case, but you'll get the idea and see how you might be able to use that combined with ear plugs to drown out goober's late night WoW raids.

Good luck, and most importantly, thank you for your service!

Never directly address an issue with a woman like that. You can’t just straight up ask her why she wasn’t down. Did you think she’d tell you why so that it could then fix whatever the problem was? Women don’t function like that. Men like to try solving these problems as if they were logical puzzles, but genuine sexual desire can’t be negotiated logically like that. All you accomplished was coming off like a thirsty beta and torpedoing your chances.

The Desire Dynamic

The kissing during the movie probably failed to escalate to sex because you tried to jump on it too soon. If you’re watching a movie then finish the movie with her. If you stop 20 minutes in then she’s going to feel like sex is more of a priority to you than spending quality time with her.

Make Brain: Sex > Quality Time

Female Brian: Quality Time > Sex

Also, if the movie itself was lame then she could have been in a weird mood due just to that. Women are very sensitive to their moods. Read my post here about how to get a movie lay. It doesn’t map exactly to your situation, but it’ll give you some ideas:

https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/9m9k7f/comment/e7d1mmv

Another thing to remember is that muscularity is a disproportionately huge attraction factor for very young women. They have no conception at all about what qualities make for a good long term partner. They give zero shits about your financial situation or your prospects for future success. They give zero shits about if you have your life together or if you’re going to be a burn out alcoholic. They just want the stereotypically hot muscular guy they see in media.

This changes in their mid 20’s after they’ve had a few failed relationships. At the moment though, just focus on getting totally jacked. If you’re young and you’re dealing with very young girls (23 or younger) then all you need to do is get your bench press weight up to 200lb and wear a skin tight shirt to show off your pecs. That’ll get you laid, guaranteed. You’ll want to be dating 23 year olds (or younger) even into your 30’s, so I can’t stress enough how important lifting is.

Just flat out ignore her mean texts. She’s attention whoring, trying to create drama, and trying to get you to get emotional like a beta. If you give her any attention at all she wins. Just go blackout silent.

Lift and game other girls.

Also, if you haven already read the entirety of The Rational Male blog, then I highly recommend the book versions. It’s the same posts, but arranged in a saner format, and with some useful front matter:

Volume 1

Volume 2

Volume 3

I'm currently in Monk Mode myself. I'm probably only going for at most a 3mo. term at this (Started Dec. 1st). It sounds like you have a good plan. I'm focusing on the following things:

• Meditating: the best way to re-program your brain IMO ("Wherever you go there you are")
  
• Teaching myself Jazz piano
  
• Diet (Here's my diet)
  
• Fitness (Here's my fitness bible)
  
• Career Development (This)
  
• Productivity & Time Management (too many books to mention, OP PM me if you want this list)
  
• Not watching Porn & Masturbating less frequently (Highly recommended /r/NoFap)
  
• No Alcohol
  
  For learning to cook I highly recommend this book.
  
  For addressing approach anxiety I recommend The Rules of the Game.
  
  This is an excellent book on habit change. (OP this is how you start to break down those "masturbatory" habits)
  
  Also, Monk Mode is basically an exercise in stoicism. This book is awesome.
  
  
  Since you'll have plenty of time to read here are some other Books I recommend:
  "No More Mr. Nice Guy"
  "Models: Attracting Women Through Honesty"
  "The Talent Code"
  "Man's Search for Meaning"
  "Flow"
  
  Final thoughts OP. 6 months is definitely a worthy goal however studies show that 90 days is usually what it takes to create new habits and routines. You have to be consistent though. Just food for thought.
  
  
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I am a professional chef and while watching people prepare food is entertaining and sometimes also educating I actually recommend you to buy books and learn the basics first.

You can then use youtube pretty well in order to watch how to do specific things, like i.e. deboning a whole chicken for a gallantine, or how to trim certain pieces of meat.

Start with french cuisine. Once you have understood how things are connected you'll actually understand everything else.

If you want something simple and entertaining for the start I'd choose Anthony Bourdaine's Les Halles Cookbook. It's amusingly written and the recipes are fairly easy and they are all legit.

Then there is Paul Bocus. Living legend with three long-term girlfriends.

And of course you want to have Escoffier at your home. Doesn't get much more classic than that.

If you want to get a sense of what drives a top notch chef, watch In Search of Perfection by Heston Blumethal. Very very good stuff.

And finally, if you want to learn something about culinary history I highly highly recommend Heat: An Amateur's Adventures as Kitchen Slave, Line Cook, Pasta-Maker, and Apprentice to a Dante-Quoting Butcher in Tuscany and to learn about our lifes as a chef you need to read the (admittedly exaggerated) autobiographicly Kitchen Confidential by Bourdain.

All this provided, you won't learn cooking without actually doing it.

Edit: Depending on your budget, I also heavily recommend Alain Ducasse's Grand Livre de Cuisine.