(Part 2) Best products from r/bigdickproblems

Hey there, dick sucking Queen here (35f). I think you’re trying to do everything at once; don’t get too down on yourself, my dear. It’s about the journey. Listen, you’re an Amazon queen of the cock!! Be confident and it will all fall into place. Guys are NEVER as critical about this stuff as we are to ourselves. So, here’s my tips I’ve learned from playing with tips (heyyyooo).

First off, you really should learn to do the lips over teeth thing. I do that every single time. Get them wet. (Side note, always makes my lips look plumper and full the day afterwards!)

Next. Use your hands. Get them slippery wet with your mouth and spit shine that cock! Seriously, the best head is from using your hands AND your mouth. No shame here, trust me your man will not mind. But keep it sloppy. Also consider gently stroking his balls. There’s a spot you can rub behind the balls (before the ass) that some dudes LOVE, but others aren’t into it. The way I find it... I always aim to feel where his erection is, and rub it (not too hard) in a circular motion. Worth a try. 😘

Most important (I’ve found): Get a good rhythm and stick to it. Not too fast/frantic, but not super slow. As you’re going up/down a few inches, have one of your hands working in rhythm. It may take a few minutes, but you can tease out that climax, trust.

Also, you don’t have to deep throat every time. It’s cool and all, but don’t think that’s the only thing in your BJ toolbox. If you do, go slow. I’ve found it’s a good way to get some more saliva going to make it sloppy wet. There’s this thing I have learned to do with not gagging, I will sorta stretch out my neck, open my throat, and relax a bit. The same motion you make if you were swimming and then taking a big breath when reaching the surface. It does help for me to breathe in a little when deep throating. Though to be fair, I started training myself not to gag with things like brushing my teeth, by gently brushing the back of my tongue. It takes a while, but you can totally train yourself. But don’t feel you’re somehow not a fucking badass if you can’t nail it immediately.

The teeth thing. I’ve dating some guys who were literally like a soda bottle. You have to come to terms that sometimes deep throat isn’t going to work with super big cocks. They do have dental wax at grocery stores, which I would recommend over starbursts. But it’s ok if it doesn’t work.

Oh! Before so forget... You don’t have to have crazy suction to be amazing at head. Yeah, it’s cool. But super suction is only really possible with a little bit of the tip in your mouth. Sometimes I will put my tongue against the head while sucking hard and massage the head a little, but again not a deep throat thing. Just don’t do too much... think about it, too much action on your clit is uncomfortable, same with dudes.

I will say, I read a great book a few years back that might help in this department; it’s called Sex Tips For Straight Women from a Gay Man The best section on BJs ever.

Anyways. Watch being too aggressive with suction/deep throat. Once I literally bruised the tip of my ex bf from the hard face fuck he gave me once (which I totally was egging on). I even bruised my throat some too. But let me tell you, that would not have been possible without lips over teeth. Lol.

Best of luck, and happy sucking!

Stuff like http://www.fetishzone.net/store/fetish-zone-cerberus-k9-sheath-p-2201.html

and http://www.fetishzone.net/store/deluxe-vibro-erection-assist-hollow-silicone-strap-on-p-3746.html

or http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/strap-on-sex-toys/sp-hollow-strap-on-for-him-or-her-14461.aspx

Or stuff like http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/penis-enhancers/sp-cyberskin-penis-extension-8638.aspx and http://www.amazon.com/Mr-S-Leather-Stretchy-Cock-Extender-Sheath/dp/B0088PYTUG/ref=pd_sim_hpc_8

There's lots and lots of stuff like this around, just gotta look for it.

Personally, my favorite-looking one is http://bad-dragon.com/products/cocksheath but I'm most likely too small to wear one myself. Stuff like the sheaths FetishZone has (The cerberus I linked isn't the only one, look around!) is nice because you can get the adapter piece and cut it to perfectly fill up the empty space.

Honestly this topic would make more sense to post in /r/smalldickproblems or /r/sex, but... well, I don't know if that first one would be very beneficial. They tend to be a depressing bunch.

If she's not opposed to including toys in your play, consider browsing those sites and seeing if there's anything you both like. :3

Somewhat unrelated, but Amazon has a lot of Aneros products for a good deal cheaper than you can purchase them anywhere else, they're real nice on their own and I've heard pretty great things about them as far as sexual enhancement from including it during play goes too. And who knows, maybe your lady could enjoy the Evi, not to mention the health and sexual benefits from doing the kegels to make it work.

... No, I'm not affiliated with any of the companies I linked. xD

Standard disclaimers: Orgasm need not be the goal or end-state of sex; just a pleasant effect sometimes. Per the Hite Report and more-recent studies, around 70% of women won't achieve orgasm through penetration alone. Add to that that most partners are going to be different in some significant way or other (in size, angles, neural pathway/sensitivity, stamina, etc), and you're not gonna find a catch-all solution. That said:

1. Plain ol' missionary. Well, missionary with a slight bolster/wedge under her hips. Depending on your builds, this allows for your pelvis and lower abs to stimulate the clitoris through pressure while you're deep inside. Also allows decent access to the breasts, neck, and ears (good supplemental stimulation areas, for most.) You can lean back slightly with her legs around your waist, or lean forward with her legs over your shoulders to experiment with different angles and see what seems to work best for her and when. Great for 'dialing in' what does it for her. If you have an upward bend, great for g-spot stimulation. Lots of options for control of penetration depth. You're in control of a lot of factors, so great for lasting quite a while if you're doing your kegels and in tune with your orgasm cues.
   
   
2. Girl on top. I especially like this on a sofa where I can sit up. She's in control of stimulation, so it's a great opportunity to see what does it for her if she's not shy. Also: Breasts in your face, and her posterior is perfectly positioned for rubbing and/or other things if you're feeling adventurous. Hard for endurance, for me, since many girls tend to get wildest when I'm needing them to be still to edge off. May be rough on her knees, potential hazard to your shaft if everyone's too excited.
   
   
3. Lazy doggystyle. Like standard, but have her move her legs inside yours, and both lean forward until she's lying on her stomach or over a pillow with you still inside. Great for girls who aren't comfortable with your full length; you get a nice tight squeeze, she gets to not feel impaled, everyone wins.
   
   
4. Freestanding/against a wall. Because it's raw, powerful, and impressive as hell.
   
   Hope some of that was helpful.

Here are some things that work for me:

1. Norelco Bodygroomer - This is a great trimmer that can manage trimming and shaving. The shaving head is very mild and does not cause a lot of irritation. The trimmer does a great job as well. This is my go to for shaving the hair right above my dick... Where the skin is the most sensitive.
   
   
2. Gillette Venus razor - this is my wife's razor but it does an AMAZING job. It's super mild and I don't get nicks. I mainly use it on my shaft and testicles to get that super close shave. I get some razor burn if I use this razor for the area above my dick.
   
   
3. Shaveworks Cool Fix- This is a great aftershave for "down there." A little goes a long way. I love it.
   
   
4. Body Powder - I really like this stuff. Helps keep everything smooth and soft if you decide to shave down to the skin. It helps reduce irritation from clothing that your pubic hair helps prevent. This brand of body powder does not have talcum powder in it. There is some questionable evidence that links talcum powder with cervical cancer (only occurs in women). The data is not super convincing but I don't want to put my partners at risk so I use this band. BUT, the body powders WITH talc are so much smoother!!
   
   Hopefully that helps a little bit. I have found that pushing through a little bit of razor burn was worth it as my skin got more used to the shaving. But, from day to day, things tend to vary.

Just practice. Nothing seemed to work when I was in college but now I’m in my 30s and it’s easy. I do better with girls in their early 20s than when I was their age.

Also, I’ve read a lot of the books, and this one is by far the best (and most enjoyable to live by): Models: Attract Women Through Honesty https://www.amazon.com/dp/1463750358/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_.Hx-Bb60GWZHB

Yeah, the one you posted is made of a pretty stiff material and doesn't allow for much stretching (I have one similar).

Look into the 'Fantasy Xtensions' line of products by the company 'Pipedream'. Personal favorites of my wife and I.

You'll also want to look at the ones labeled as MEGA (looks better with girthy penises than the standard PERFECT toys). They come in +1, +2 and +3 inches. They are stretchy, very comfortable, have a great texture (for the ladies!) and come with a good bit of extra material on the shaft of the sleeve allowing you to cut it to size to fit your length.

Fantasy Xtensions Mega 3 inch

Combination of pussy juice and spit can make handjobs feel really great, in my experience. If she can keep it nice and wet, she wouldn't have to spend as much time while she's giving you a blowjob with it actually in her mouth.

Obviously that's not ideal (although a good handjob can be really good, and sometimes I'd even take one over a blowjob, they're definitely not true replacements for each other), so you guys should do some research on jaw stretching and jaw massage techniques. It can help a lot!

Also, make sure she's well hydrated. Dehydration can cause issues like this. My ex girlfriend has a LOT of jaw issues and we had some pretty similar issues. I'm 6" by 6", by the way. She swore by that supplement that I linked you, and it definitely helped reduce the amount of problems we had with blowjobs (and her various muscular tension related health issues in general). A few drops in a small glass of juice or something is pretty great, I still use the stuff!

There are a few bigger dudes can do just because of, you know, science. Try standing up that puts more pressure and you and can be a huge turn on. Another is to have her keep her legs closed when you're on top. It really stimulates the clit for her, and adds a lot of sensation. That said, I forgot to mention above. Lube. You need it, it's your (and her) best friend. Foreplay is awesome. Foreplay and lube is better ;-) I use liquid sex http://www.amazon.com/Liquid-Sex-Forever-Silicone-4oz/dp/B002XSH1YU lasts a long time and feels great for both parties.

I don't know about silk, but the ExOfficio Give-N-Go sport boxers are all I wear now. They have an aptly named "junk pouch" which makes a world of difference for gentlemen like us. amazon link

I learned about these because going backpacking/hiking in boxers or briefs was uncomfortable so a friend recommended them. Glad I tried them, have made my life and my junk more comfortable.

As far as Jeans go, I've had the best luck/fit with Lucky brand, I can't remember off the top of my head what cut it is, but one of their styles has some extra room in the crotch-to-taint area which makes things a bit more comfortable, while still having non over-sized pant legs.

I don't have much of an answer, I'm a full grown adult and lucky enough to not have any genital dysphoria so I just rock the bulge. But I can definitely understand your situation, and especially at your age, of not wanting the world to easily spot your package.

Wearing tighter underwear can help keep things squished flat and in place. Personally I've never tried a gaff but I've heard they can be helpful for well endowed trans girls.

LeoLines on etsy makes custom underwear and swimsuits for transwomen with extra padding in the front to smooth out the crotch, they are definitely worth a look: https://www.etsy.com/shop/LeoLines?ref=simple-shop-header-name&listing_id=262671623&section_id=7199414

Also, are you into skirts at all? I've found A-line skirts that flare out a bit to be really great at completely hiding my crotch. This skirt in particular works really well for me on the rare occasions I want to hide my bulge: https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B07MSCGLQ9/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_image_o08_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Might not help for this weekend but this is what I buy.

https://www.amazon.com/Jorvet-J0109-J-Lube-Obstetrics-10-Ounce/dp/B006G2S17A

Medical grade, you can make it as thick or thin as you like, $17 for 6 to 8 gallons, use as much as you like, relubes with some water, doesn't stain. Only downside is it is a little stringy depending on how thick you make it.

I'm about the same size as you: I usually just wear bike shorts, Pearl or Canari. If your seat is giving you problems, get a noseless saddle or an ergonomic one. They look kinda goofy, but it's well worth if you intend to ride often.

Please try out something MUCH gentler for your first go. This silaskin does the right stuff without trapping your junk behind metal.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00973FUY2/

Research noseless bike saddles.

I've used Spongy Wonder and Ergo's The Seat, and both are great. If you want to go cheap, check out Hobson and Schwinn's No Pressure.

My number one piece of advice for anal is always more lube. You always need more lube than you think you need, and probably also more than you have. I actually bought a lube injector when I first decided to do anything anal, and it was a great idea. When you start using a lot of lube buying powder stuff and mixing it yourself starts becoming a better idea.

As for the stretching thing, I suggest buying a training kit. They usually look something like this.

Also, don't worry about the haters. They're just jealous that they can't understand why butt stuff is so fun.