(Part 2) Best products from r/bisexual

First, glitter.


Second, depending on how a person feels about the importance of orientation to overall identity and depending on community surroundings, people may naturally feel at different points they need to either fit in or stand out (which can even be a subconscious feeling).

Third, there is a really good movie called Do I Sound Gay? which talks about this topic you've raised about certain presentations like speech or clothes and what they say about people. It used to be free on one of the streaming services...but is also on Amazon to rent/buy. Too much of my high school was spent wondering this question because I can be higher pitched and enthusiastic and even occasionally dramatic.

Fourth, makes me wonder if there are some good memes about how to look like a bisexual.

In any case, best of luck being yourself and looking like you want to look!
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This isn't my specific area of expertise (I mostly study sexual orientations) but my understanding is that men tend to develop a more static "sexual repertoire" following puberty/adolescence than do women. Before this time, nearly anything can find its way into a man's repertoire -- so that if a guy (for instance) happens to begin his masturbatory life jerking-off to women's shoe catalogs, because it's one of the few sources of erotic stimulation available to him at such a young age - he may well develop an erotic attraction to women's shoes as an adult. This is to say, a shoe (even without a woman attached to it) can arouse him.

This attraction to an inanimate object or to an object (body part, animal, ...) that is not seen as sexual by the majority of others is a true fetish. We tend to conflate fetishes with paraphilias, which are any sexual act/attraction/... outside of the norm. This would include bondage, BDSM, role playing, fetishes, and other "unusual" sexual acts (urination, e.g.). Whereas a fetish, is strictly defined as a sexual attraction to a specific, often non-sexual, object (ex: shoes, underwear, feet, hats, bees, dirt, lightbulbs, ... penises--if you're a straight man). Therefore, a fetish is a type of paraphilia; but all paraphilias are not fetishes.

While many women enjoy and are turned on by paraphilias (dom/sub, e.g.) and may find particular parts of a lover's body enticing (a man's arms), we don't consider these true fetishes unless she can reliably be aroused by some non-sexual object (such as a pair of socks) even when there is no person in/around said socks.

Whereas many men will report that they are undeniably aroused by particular articles of clothing (stocking, panties, jock-straps, socks), body parts (feet, hair, wrists, penises), or other objects (food, plants, blankets, balloons) even when no other person is seen along with the objects or (as in OP's case) in spite of the attached person/man.
It seems that men's sexual interests/sexual repertoire "closes" at some point. That is, at some point near the end of puberty, a man is sexually attracted to anything and everything he will be sexually attracted to for the rest of his life. This isn't to say that he may not discover some lesser or less explored attractions later in life. But that is to say, that if you're 35 and have never been turned on by a shoe -- it's very likely you will never be.

[And to be fair, I'm not sure how sexual orientation fits into this model. That is, does a man's brain catalog male and/or female into the sexual repertoire or does it simply catalog "human?"]

Women's sexual repertoires seem to remain much more open throughout their lives, which as a bi-product means that fetishes aren't locked into their sexual repertoires in the same way as they are for men. This is usually cited as the reason why women seem to be more sexually fluid than men. (Although this is typically misunderstood to be about sexual orientation -- which as I noted is not necessarily true as such.)

There is a great chapter about this in Jesse Barring's book Perve if you're interested in reading more about it.

I know this isn't a high quality image of the book cover but OH WELL.
Here is a link to Amazon for anyone if they're interested in reading this fabulousness.

Also, I know it seems like this is yet another m/m book written by a cis woman, but it's actually a m/m book written by a bi non-binary person. Super great bi rep.


https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07J4LPZRN/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1

Yep! I'm with you! I've dealt with these same types of feelings. I am 5ft tall, very petite, and girly-looking; however, I always feel very masculine around my very feminine friends. And when you used the term "inferior", I can relate. You don't feel like less of a person, but less than a ...woman??
After I married a man six years ago, I had a real identity crisis in regards to my bisexuality. (We are exclusive and I no longer have romantic relationships with women.) A few books really helped me understand and embrace my bisexuality better. Maybe they'd help you out?

http://www.amazon.com/Bi-Any-Other-Name-Bisexual/dp/1555831745

http://www.amazon.com/Look-Both-Ways-Bisexual-Politics/dp/0374531080/ref=pd_sim_b_9

I wish you the best! You're not alone!

Okay, so first, what you're looking for isn't monogamous, it's polyamorous or polyfidelitous. The people at /r/polyamory could be a good resource for you as well.

Before talking to her, or maybe as you are, I'd recommend reading The Ethical Slut. There's a lot of very important information about how to communicate and navigate the weird waters of non-monogamy. It's also a quick read.

Good luck, play safe.

U/Fangirlhasnoreality - I just found them on Amazon for $16 and it did a 50% off coupon, so I seriously just bought some awesome Bi Pride shorts for 8 bucks!!! 😃😃

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07D8L4YXZ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_rOyOBbJPMKC0V

Honestly? Go for something more like this. Instead of something so loose this will keep everything in tact. Have fun!

Mens New Solid Black 2 Thong Swimsuit by Gary Majdell Sport Medium https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00D7EWLX0/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_Ur9Lzb2DCKG7A

Check out Rissa Blakeley's The King's Fate. She just published it and it is very good if you like paranormal romance.

https://www.amazon.com/Kings-Fate-Corvidae-Guard-ebook/dp/B01GOLONEM

I bought this, it's nice, fairly subtle, and just a cute little piece overall. The seller's also got some other designs which look really good.

My husband and I keep ours in a utility supply like case, I'd have to ask him for the link.

Edit: Got the link from hubby! 😊
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00EJZ4OPE/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o06_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Living in a Southern state, I find it difficult when the LGBT section of the library or the bookstore, when there is one, is two shelves of porn and one shelf of lifestyle subject matter. I can expect 1/3rd to 1/2 of what's not porn to be devoted to gay men and coming out, or just coming out stories.

While that is important, it's frustrating because I rarely find books supporting bi, trans, or genderqueer people. I may get lucky and find a history book of the lgbt rights movement. I was amazed when I found a book about Bi men for sale; just about everything else about our culture seems to imply that bi men just don't exist.

But one of the most aggravating problems about being lgbt in the South, and there are many, is the complete lack of resources for religious lgbt people. For many, coming out also means completely rejecting their faith since it will not support them; and this makes it harder to come out in heavily-religious areas. We just don't find books and resources to show that faith and lgbt life can function hand-in-hand. Instead we have families that kick their children to the street because they're "goin' to the Devil."

Soulforce.org has a really useful campaign where they address some of these religious issues and they have several pamphlets for coming out in very religious households; they have arguments backed up with Biblical passages explaining what the Bible actually has to say about homosexuality.

Some interesting books include:

• Bi Men: Coming Out Every Which Way by Ron Jackson Suresha and Pete Chvany
  
• The Bisexual's Guide to the Universe by Nicole Kristal and Mike Szymanski
  
• Hidden From History: Reclaiming the Gay and Lesbian Past
  
• Trans-Gendered: Theology, Ministry, and Communities of Faith by Justin Edward Tanis
  
• Becoming Two-Spirit: Gay Identity and Social Acceptance in Indian Country by Brian Joseph Gilley
  
• Two-Spirit People: Native American Gender Identity, Sexuality, and Spirituality by Sue-Ellen Jacobs, Wesley Thomas and Sabine Lang
  
  Sorry if my book list is a little dated; if anyone has any more books to suggest, I would be interested in reading them.

On amazon, it’s a pretty high quality pin!
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07KNDW2L6/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_t53XDb32Z9BMF

If you want it, It's $45 on Amazon. Just make sure, that if you get it, you get the one with the RGB backlight.

https://www.amazon.com/Redragon-K552-Mechanical-Keyboard-Equivalent/dp/B019O9BLVY/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_2?keywords=redrawn%2Bkumara%2Bk552&qid=1565329089&s=gateway&sr=8-2-fkmr0&th=1