(Part 2) Best products from r/gay

> I am looking to be open to anal sex with a partner and was wondering what the best way to perform a "clean out" would be?

Eat fibre, learn your bowel rhythms. Some guys douche, but it's not always necessary. Probably a good idea for your first times. Practice with a toy so you're confident both of being clean and so you're not ridiculously tight.

> What is the easiest way to perform an enema in your opinion and is this the best choice?

Small douche bulb. A full enema is not what you want unless you're looking to get fisted or something...

IMO they're not usually necessary, but sometimes they are... go back to first point.

> Do LGBTQ members really stick together or is it more separated into everyone's own sexuality?

We tend to splinter along our romantic and sexual interests. Lesbians group together. Gender-benders and non-binary people group together. Gay men group together. Even gay men have subgroups -- femme and masc guys will form groups and mostly ignore the others.

> Are my friends even real if they don't accept my sexuality?

Probably not.

> Considering I am still in high school, should I be open with it only between my friends?

Don't come out if it isn't safe.

I know. I know you didn't mean it like that. Or, at least, I'm trying to know that--but, you know, after years of bigots and the ignorant proclaiming that the QUILTBAG community is dragging everyone down a rainbow-bricked road to hell, where we're blamed for hurricanes, and 9/11, and Boston, and the like, it's hard not to see that first paragraph and be, well, a little bitter?

Before I came out to my mom, on separate occasions, she told me that two things were American problems that never happened in the old country: serial killings, and gays. Never mind the fact that she was wrong on both counts. Just comparing the two, and terming them both as problems?

I'm pretty sure my mom doesn't think my preference for the company of men is as bad as if, say, I started murdering people en mass in real life. I'm pretty sure she doesn't even really remember saying those things, given that they were at least a decade and a half ago.

But I remember.

I'm not saying this to discount your... evolution on this matter. I'm glad that there are more people coming around on this, understanding that the extent of our gay agenda is generally no different from anyone's normal day or their hopes and dreams. I just wish there weren't comparisons with more horrible things out there.

Anyway, I don't know if you're one of faith (I'm not), but there have been some interesting books of late trying to bridge Christianity, well-known for its hatred of the queer community (perhaps not completely intentionally), which I think might be of interest to you?

-Torn: Rescuing the Gospel from the Gays-vs.-Christians Debate by Justin Lee. I don't think his theology requires as much gymnastics as some other modern interpretations, but I find myself still not being able to really understand why he wants to hold so fast to it.

-The Cross in the Closet by Timothy Kurek. He's the one with the Indiegogo campaign from a while back, pretty much doing Black Like Me or Self-Made Man, only as a gay person. It has all the flavor of being a witness, which again, completely escapes my grasp, but.

-Does Jesus Really Love Me? by Jeff Chu. I think he's far, far too gentle on some of the more odious sects, and far, far, far too harsh on those that decided to leave the faith. But it's an interesting journey, nonetheless.

seconded that you should try to suck it up for a moment and introduce yourself to people (yes it sucks, but you'll survive) - a few of the most helpful books I've ever read in my life were on small talk (How to Talk to Anyone https://www.amazon.com/dp/007141858X/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_yKc2Cb9TWNKGA)
search "small talk books" and breeze through one of two. it will dramatically improve your social life, work life, friend life! (whether you go and chat them up, or if they come and talk to you :) it has made my work life 100x better.

There's a perfect solution: all three of you need to discover polyamory.

Seriously. Check out this book: http://www.amazon.com/More-Than-Two-practical-polyamory/dp/0991399706

There's no need for anyone to sneak around or "cheat". You yourself said his new boyfriend is hot. If the guy you like is attracted to you, there's a pretty good chance his new boyfriend will be, too.

Now... you have to realize... even the most thoroughly well-adjusted non-jealous experienced polyamorist is likely to question the commitment of a new partner if he suggests having a threesome within literally DAYS of them becoming a couple (unless they were doing threesomes together even before they made their new dating status official... in which case they're probably soulmates), so you might have to wait a few weeks and let them enjoy their NRE (new relationship energy) without injecting drama or complications into it. Just fuck other guys in the meantime, try to learn something sexually new, practice your technique, and send him an open-ended text message every 4-6 weeks to remind him that you're still interested.

Read "The Velvet Rage" for one thing.

Shame is something we all deal with -- and not in the obvious ways. The hardest part is that we don't get any emotional validation from our relationships (I mean, we do get compliments, expressions of friendship, affection, and even love... but we never accept it... like when your Mom tells you you're handsome... or if you're driving a friend's fancy car and get compliments; We've built up a facade since youth to hide what we really are, so what other people interact with, befriend, romance, etc... we don't own. It's the "friend's fancy car" and we can't take credit for it. We shrug off the good about us because deep down inside, we're afraid that by exposing our true self to anyone, they'll hate us.) So you're gonna need to come all the way out and start living your life. This is you. You are not flawed, you are worthy of love, and you are the only one whose validation matters in your life.

EDIT: Dude, I'm 33, came out at your age and it's been so much better ever since. So just saying. I did the half in, half out, and I hated it. Now that I can actually own myself, I've finally felt free.

Books are good but I suggest volunteering at your local LGBT community center or getting to know some gay people and making friends with them.

When we are no longer “they” and we have names a faces, you find out how little difference there is in humanity and what we have in common is far greater than what makes us unique.

Thank you for reaching out and growing as a human.

Not easy, but good. Yes?

As far as books go, read Tab Hunter’s book “Confidential”.

It will give you a fresh set of eyes.

https://www.amazon.com/Tab-Hunter-Confidential-Making-Movie/dp/1565125487

Always good to have nice stories like this. This is a good book to read if you need any help later on
book of happiness

I cum into a handtowel, its my rag per sé.

But to clean up I recommend getting a few bars of Margo Been soap. It's antibacterial, and dries a lot of lube and excess oils (great for acne too! Or in my case backne) its semi-fragrant and is easy to work into a nice lather to take care of any dirt or 'substance'

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Hey guys I introduced myself and the book on this sub a week or two ago. I just wanted to stop back by and share this article.

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YES. You can try Jay Bell's short stories for a taste on kindle, some of them free

Language Lessons by Jay Bell on Amazon Kindle

Like and Subscribe by Jay Bell on Amazon Kindle

I really liked Pop Salvation by Lance Reynald. I found it by accident, didn't even know it was a gay book... its not really a gay book. its just a story and the main character happens to be gay. just like gone with the wind isn't a straight book...

but oh my... I don't want to give it away. its just beautiful and sad and bittersweet and hopeful. and I guarantee you will buy Irish Spring soap for the rest of your life afterwards!

http://www.amazon.com/Pop-Salvation-Novel-Lance-Reynald/dp/B004JZWVRW/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1335651509&sr=1-1

Critics who are against gay marriage, but for social justice:
http://www.amazon.com/Against-Equality-Queer-Critiques-Marriage/dp/0615392687/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1345951108&sr=8-1&keywords=Against+Equality%3A+Queer+Critiques+of+Gay+Marriage

One cultural commentator who see gay marriage as a desire to conform:
http://www.amazon.com/Why-Are-Faggots-Afraid-Objectification/dp/1849350884/ref=pd_bxgy_b_text_y

One article against gay marriage:
Is the LGBT movement walking down the aisle to nowhere?
http://inthesetimes.com/article/13466/beyond_gay_marriage/

Another gay activist against gay marriage:
http://hivster.com/?p=6315

Personally, definitely born that way. For current research on the subject of the causes of homosexuality, this here's a good article http://www.vocativ.com/312971/scientists-destroy-anti-gay-arguments-about-choice/
Theres also a damn good book, "Gay, Straight and the Reasons Why" which you can pick up on Amazon from 7 bucks, I read this a little after it came out, and you'll find it real enlightening, I know I did http://www.amazon.com/Gay-Straight-Reason-Why-Orientation/dp/0199931585

Myself I am the youngest of three brothers, and there is a lot of research pointing to this being a significant factor;
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fraternal_birth_order_and_male_sexual_orientation

Here are some books I like on general life advice:

The Way of the Superior Man

How to Win Friends and Influence People

The Enchiridion - how a Roman slave overcame disability and used philosophy to survive harsh times, it's a short but challenging read

His diet and cleanliness are the primary factors. If he sweats down there, he needs a clean up too. There are actually bum freshener products you could try.

For example (not a recommendation) https://www.amazon.com/Intimate-Odor-Cleanser-Neutralize-Bleach-Free/dp/B00IY2AFHY