(Part 2) Best products from r/raisedbyborderlines
We found 21 comments on r/raisedbyborderlines discussing the most recommended products. We ran sentiment analysis on each of these comments to determine how redditors feel about different products. We found 81 products and ranked them based on the amount of positive reactions they received. Here are the products ranked 21-40. You can also go back to the previous section.
21. Crayola Oil Pastels, School Supplies, Kids Indoor Activities At Home, 28 Assorted Colors
EASY GRIP: Crayola oil pastels have rich color and creamy laydown Colors are easy to blend Pointed tips allow for detailed drawing Hexagonal shape makes them easy to hold and they won't roll awayAT HOME CRAFTS & INDOOR ACTIVITIES: Keep spirits high with creative art supplies! Simple and fun craf...
22. Canson XL Series Mix Paper Pad, Heavyweight, Fine Texture, Heavy Sizing for Wet and Dry Media, Side Wire Bound, 98 Pound, 7 x 10 Inch, 60 Sheets, 7"X10", 0
Use for: Sketching, drawing, light washes of ink and watercolor, collage, journaling, and moreErases well and blends easilyMicro perforated, true size sheets60 sheets of 98 pound/160 gramAcid free 7 x 10 inch paper
23. Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder
24. ZALALOVA Window Cat Seat, Cat Window Perch Hammock Space Saving Design w/1Pc Funny Cat Toy 2Pcs Extra Suction Cup Window Seat Cat Shelves All Around 360¡ã Sunbath Holds Up to 50lbs for Any Cat Size
- 🐱 INSTALLS in SECONDS: Package includes 1 x Window cat bed, 1 x Sisal funny cat toy, 1 x extra suction cup, easy to install and no need any tool. Perfect match gives your cats comfortable and fun seat in the house.
- 🐱 SPACE SAVING: The hammock cat bed provides your cat a front row view of nature, weather, people and more without taking up valuable floor space. Perfect for cats that like to bask in the warm sun or active cats that desire a high vantage point.
- 🐱 BIG SUCTION CUPS HOLD UP TO 50LBS: Extra strong and special designed big suction cup for this mounted cat bed window seat perch can hold up to 50lbs. Before the first actual pet use, put some other heavy objects (about 2KG) for roughly an hour, which will help the sucker to release tension and improve/stabilize the suction strength. After that, your pet can enjoy the seat more safely.
- 🐱 MACHINE WASHABLE COVER: Cat window seat mat is breathable and durable, easy to clean. Made of oxford cloth, cat's body temperature won't overheat.
- 🐱TIP: The suction cup is made of high-quality PVC material. It is easy to become hard and fails to work properly when the room temperature is too low in winter. As above suggested, putting into hot water for 2 mins will be helpful to regain the decent suction force.
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25. White Noise Sound Machine | Portable Sleep Therapy for Home , Office , Baby & Travel | 6 Relaxing & Soothing Nature Sounds , Battery or Adapter Charging Options , Auto-Off Timer | HoMedics Sound Spa
6 Soothing Sounds: Choose from 6 digitally recorded relaxing Sounds: White Noise, Thunder, Ocean, Rain, Summer Night, and Brook; The Soundspa's Sounds are Designed to mimic the natural environment to provide the most relaxing Experience possibleCompact & Portable FOR Travel: Don’t worry about Not ...
26. Ban Antiperspirant Deodorant, Invisible Solid, Powder Fresh, 2.6 Ounce (Pack of 4)
Provides 24-hour underarm odor and wetness protectionWith odor-fighting ingredients and Kihada extract, it targets and eliminates odor caused by bacteria breaking down sweat on the skin’s surface - not just covers it upSignificantly reduces perspirationPack of 4, 2.6 oz per itemAvailable in Unscen...
27. Arrid XX Extra Dry Antiperspirant Deodorant, Regular, Twin Pack (two 6oz. cans)
Over 30 years of trusted protectionConvenient applicationGoes On DryCrisp, clean scent of light citrus for an invigorating feeling.Two 6 oz. cans
28. The Gift of Fear: And Other Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence
- The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence
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29. The Attachment Theory Workbook: Powerful Tools to Promote Understanding, Increase Stability, and Build Lasting Relationships
30. PetSafe Drinkwell Platinum Dog and Cat Water Fountain, Automatic Drinking Fountain for Pets, 168 Oz.
- LARGE WATER CAPACITY: 168 oz. water capacity is great for pets of all sizes or multiple pets
- ENCOURAGES DRINKING: Falling stream entices pets to drink more water
- FILTERED WATER: Includes replaceable carbon water filter that refreshes the water
- LESS REFILLS: Built-in reservoir increases capacity and extends time between refilling your fountain
- ADJUSTABLE STREAM: The pumps adjustable flow allows you to customize the water flow for your pet
- EASY-TO-CLEAN: Fountain is top-shelf dishwasher safe
- U.S.-BASED CUSTOMER CARE: Our pet product experts are here to help you and your pet and are available by phone, email or chat if you have any questions
- ESTABLISHED EXPERIENCE: PetSafe brand has been a trusted global leader in pet behavior, containment and lifestyle innovations for nearly 30 years. We help pets and their people LIVE HAPPY TOGETHER
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31. The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing
- This #1 New York Times best-selling guide to decluttering your home from Japanese cleaning consultant Marie Kondo takes readers step-by-step through her revolutionary KonMari Method for simplifying, organizing, and storing.
- Despite constant efforts to declutter your home, do papers still accumulate like snowdrifts and clothes pile up like a tangled mess of noodles?
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32. Rewire Your Anxious Brain: How to Use the Neuroscience of Fear to End Anxiety, Panic, and Worry
- KEEPS YOU WARM AT WORK – At 200-Watts and 682 BTUs, this low wattage mini space heater is ideal for use under the desk to keep your feet and legs warm. Best of all, because it’s low wattage, it won’t keep tripping the office circuit breaker every time you turn it on.
- YOUR PERSONAL SPACE HEATER – At 6 inches tall with a 4” x 4” footprint, this cute, small electric heater takes up minimal desktop space and is intended to heat up your immediate space at home or the office. Designed to warm you, not a large room. For that, we recommend getting a Lasko 1500-Watt tower heater.
- EASY TO USE – No assembly required. Simply take it out of the box and plug it in to a standard 120v wall outlet. This energy-efficient, indoor ceramic heater draws about 2 amps and turns on with a flip of a switch. Compact and portable, MyHeat comes with a 6-foot cord and a 2-pronged plug. It’s also easily stored when not in use.
- YEAR ROUND USE – Tired of always being cold at work in the winter? Is your cube right under the AC vent in the summer? If this sounds familiar, then this little heater is just what you need to keep you comfortable year-round. Produces a quiet, white noise that won’t disrupt your co-workers. MyHeat is available in 4 fun colors (black, white, blue, and purple) and makes for a great gift.
- TRUSTED FOR GENERATIONS – Lasko has been making quality products for over 100 years. MyHeat is ETL Listed and comes with Automatic Overheat Protection. The on/off switch lights up to let you know the unit is on. The self-regulating, safe ceramic heating element keeps the exterior cool to the touch – taking the worry out of using the heater for long periods of time.
- Energy smart- uses only 200-watts
- Safe ceramic heater with over-heat protection and cool-touch housing
- Low power usage helps to eliminate tripping the circuit breaker if multiple heaters are used in an office setting
- 3.8" x 4.3" x 6.1" tall. Fully assembled.
- ETL listed
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33. The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self, Revised Edition
- Basic Books AZ
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34. Mothers Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters
- Harper Paperbacks
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35. Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up's Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents
- Used Book in Good Condition
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36. I Hate You--Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality
I Hate You Don t Leave Me Understanding the Borderline Personality
37. Sonos Connect - Wireless Home Audio Receiver Component for Streaming Music - White
The simple streaming update to your stereo or receiver. Add connect to stream with your existing stereo then easily expand your Sonos system to more roomsEnjoy music, podcasts, audiobooks, and internet radio with your amplified audio equipment. You can also stream vinyl, CDs, and stored audio files ...
38. Calphalon Tri-Ply Stainless Steel 13-Piece Cookware Set
- Aluminum core between 2 stainless steel layers provides even heating for excellent browning and control of the cooking process. Non porous stainless steel cooking surface is safe for use with all utensils
- Elegant brushed stainless steel exterior on pots and pans can go from the oven or stove directly to the table. Reflective cook surface makes it easy to monitor foods as they cook and remains beautiful over time
- Clear tempered glass lids let you see food while it's cooking and are oven safe, so you can finish covered dishes in the oven or keep them warm until ready to serve
- Includes 8, 10, and 12 inch omelette pans, 1 1/2 and 2 1/2 quart sauce pans with lids, 3 quart chef's pan with lid, 3 quart saute pan with lid, and 6 quart stock pot with lid
- Long, brushed stainless steel handles stay cool on the stovetop. All cookware is dishwasher safe and carries Calphalon's full lifetime warranty
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39. Knock Knock This Week Pad, To Do List Notepad, 6 x 9-inches
- Purpose-driven pad lets you organize your daily affairs and monitor the big picture at the same time
- Get a jump on next week's tasks as you maximize efficiency over and over - and over - again
- 6 x 9-Inch pad with 60 sheets
- Perfect for the organized and disorganized alike
- Swell present for the office - or the home
- Knock Knock is an independent maker of clever gifts, books, and whatever else we can think up; our mission is to bring humor, creativity, and smarts to everyday life
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Just remind yourself that being angry is a totally valid and perfectly healthy way of handling something that upsets you - the line is drawn at acting on the anger.
For example: Don't get angry and daydream about killing your mom, then snap at your kids for being kids, or kick your dog, or tear your husband's head off for not putting the dishes away. But if you "embrace the angry" you're feeling, and enjoy "treating yourself" to some fantasy about her empty funeral and pigs disposing of her body - then laugh and play and enjoy your life like she never did, and hug your kids, and passionately embrace your husband/wife - that's perfectly healthy and acceptable, because you're not harming anyone by doing it.
You don't have to be perfectly in control of everything at every minute. You need to be aware of your surroundings, and not harm anyone if you choose to do something to handle your emotions in a certain way. For another example, I used to love oil pastels. I would beg mom constantly to buy them for me, she'd always lecture me about how ungrateful I was, and if I posted the issue then I'd end up beaten whenever I got home. That's a prime example of not handling your emotions properly, but more than that, it never taught me what to do when I'm upset about something because all I know is "don't be like her", so like you I'd try bottling it up and just not being angry. I exploded on someone one day because it was just too much and I still didn't have any "tools" to deal with anger, because as far as I was concerned it was a bad emotion and I needed to try harder to be a good person and just never feel it, ever. So last week, I explained to my therapist what's going on and what happened when I blew up last year and we were talking about how to handle it (I love this new therapist!), but he asked why I'd never bought myself a box of oil pastels. I didn't have an answer of course because it was essentially due to believing I didn't deserve them, which is totally bullshit, but I've been dealing with much bigger issues and the oil pastel thing was buried deep (I only had told the therapist by accident even).
So instead of snapping at people and trying to avoid being angry (which just isn't possible BTW, don't be hard on yourself for feeling angry) - but instead of dealing with any of that, I bought a box of Crayola oil pastels off Amazon, and a couple of first drawing pads (if you or anyone else reading this is an artist of any kind, do not look at those links in the context of "art supplies"). I got them yesterday (cause I've got no memory and forgot to order them for a week), and ripped them out of the box - which is also a phenomenal release (if you don't often o order from Amazon you'll see what I mean, it's like the Christmas you never had, sitting right at your front door!)... But the first thing I did was break the end off of the brown one because I scrawled out "Fuck You Mom!!!" in huge letters that took up the whole page.
It's not about being perfect, or acting your agree, or "keeping up appearances". Being angry is part of being human, and suppressing or avoiding that anger won't end well for anyone around you (trust me on that one, I still feel bad about my blow up and it was nearly 18mos ago! Thankfully everyone around me now is very good at forgiving and being kind and understanding, but I still feel guilty about having snapped in the first place).
Good luck, and please remember to be kind to yourself, be understanding and empathetic - to you as well as others. I'd like to offer huge, warm, sincere hugs if you'd like some.
Sorry again for babbling, I'm apparently incapable of not being verbose :)
I hope you get to do something unplanned and unexpected this weekend, that you want to do for once, and you surprise yourself with how much you enjoy it! (I "sucked up" my fatigue and pain from my MS a couple of weeks ago and went to the "dinosaur museum" with the kids and husband, it was so much fun - even though I spent thirty mins scrubbing their hands/arms/faces with Wet Ones cause I'm also paranoid everyone's walking Petri dishes...
Cheers :)
I'm just finishing Stop Walking on Eggshells. Not everything in the book is focused toward children of those with BPD, the authors include info for parents and SOs of those with BPD as well. They also provide the perspectives of those with BPD, via anecdotes sprinkled throughout the book, common situations you might find yourself in with someone with BPD. It's the only parts of the book I didn't love, but I felt like the book still explained that understanding why they do what they do doesn't absolve them of responsibility for their actions. Overall it's been an excellent source of information for me, as someone who had never heard of BPD until earlier this year (I especially appreciated the chapter on how to communicate with people with BPD). I'd recommend it if you want a starting overview of what BPD is, because it definitely covers that part well.
Totally fine! Here’s the link to the one I bought:
ZALALOVA Cat Window Perch, Cat... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07MMTBVZ1?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
It’s always on sale—I got it for about $15 USD and the twins love it. It’s also super durable considering Noxie (fluffy boy!) will eat everything in his path and hasn’t been able to even start to chew through the wires holding it up.
It make take your girlie a little getting used to, be prepared to have the thought “well that was a waste”, because, at least with my two, they definitely didn’t take to it right away, but they’re obsessed with it now.
Tip: it was just a little too big for my window with the bottom suction cups on, but it’s got enough leeway that you can actually just have the seat resting in the sill and it’ll still be nice and safe.
Hope she loves it!
> Thank you so much! And yeah, my fiancé says I don't know how to do anything in moderation 😂
Yeah, my husband is the same way. He has only one setting: Eleven! 😹
> I will definitely report back after all is said and done!
Please do!
> Ooooh, sounds like I should really look into one!
Definitely do! I have this one.
Wow, I'm glad you're OK. That's really scary. I'm sure its totally normal to feel hypervigilant after that kind of trauma, so be gentle with yourself. Talk to your therapist, maybe they have some suggestions of exercises to do? Positive self talk, telling yourself you're OK, you're safe, when you're feeling scared. Or maybe go the active route and take a self defense class? Whatever you do, it will take time to feel normal again. And that's totally normal.
There's a great book called The Gift of Fear. Check it out
https://www.amazon.com/Gift-Fear-Survival-Signals-Violence/dp/0440226198
Hang in there.
I can't think of any articles that stand out right now, but I'll comment here if I find any that are especially useful! I just got this workbook with guided exercises on understanding your own attachment style, identifying specific issues that relate to it, and "re-parenting" yourself to have a healthier one. I haven't used it much yet but really like it so far, and it's gotten really positive reviews!
https://www.amazon.com/Attachment-Theory-Workbook-Understanding-Relationships/dp/1641523557/ref=mp_s_a_1_1_sspa?keywords=attachment+theory+workbook&qid=1572050459
Oh! I also have a somewhat elderly cat. No kidney problems yet, thank goodness, but I noticed she wasn't drinking as much water and it got me paranoid. I got her one of these guys. They have smaller versions as well, and I bought a big value pack of the filters, and it's lasted me a good long while (I can't remember exactly when I got it, sorry). Both my cats love it, and it's saved me a lot of time not having to fool with their water every day. I wash it once a week, and refill it every couple days.
Edit: It's a cat drinking fountain. I need to be more descriptive about my links. >.<
thanks! i just started, but i've found it so helpful so far. it's very satisfying and inspiring. here's a link to the book: https://www.amazon.com/Life-Changing-Magic-Tidying-Decluttering-Organizing/dp/1607747308
Edited: forgot the book link. https://www.amazon.com/Rewire-Your-Anxious-Brain-Neuroscience-ebook/dp/B00QG5SW58/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1537210835&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=rewiring+your+anxious+brain This book has some great exercises, it's helped me a lot and I highly recommend. Also just plain meditating. Research has shown it can shrink the amygdala by up to 30%! I use this app to help me meditate: https://www.headspace.com/headspace-meditation-app?__hstc=249974297.341d0a87cecde931187b544fed73e3bf.1536192003170.1536192003171.1536192003172.1&amp;__hssc=249974297.2.1536192003173&amp;__hsfp=2025384311
I have a shelf full, but here are some winners for BPD:
Toxic Parents
Mothers Who Can't Love
Emotionally Absent Mother
Will I Ever Be Good Enough
Drama of the Gifted Child
Children of the Self-Absorbed
Also, let me introduce you to Knock Knock pads:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1601064993/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o06_s00?ie=UTF8&amp;psc=1
I use the orange "this week" one. I write the date on each day whenever I remember to do so that week. There's a limited number of lines for each day, so that has been good for pacing myself - it's super obvious when I'm overloading Monday or cramming things in at the end of the week, especially when I only get, like, one of the five things done. (Edit: and if my mind is pre-occupied by something happening later in the week, or next week, or next month, it's nice to visually see that "that's a tomorrow/next week/next month problem, even if it feels immediate").
If I get nothing done on a given day, I just put an "X" through the day, so at least I cross something off!
I've been saving each week so I can visually see my patterns, and I've found it handy to use the backs of pages for notes and lists too. (Edit: that way, those notes/lists are also dated to a certain week).
The feel of them is really really nice - I don't know how to describe it, or explain why that's important, but you'll see what I mean if you buy one.
I have this http://www.amazon.com/Skills-Training-Handouts-Worksheets-Second/dp/1572307811/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1464376228&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=dbt+handbook
It's a workbook. It's supposed to be group therapy type of class, but I could not do that (I went to a few sessions), because DBT is the recommended treatment for BPD, so I'm guessing there were people with BPD there, and the group sharing just set me on edge and didn't feel safe for me to share and heal.
Was it this book? https://www.amazon.co.uk/Stop-Walking-Eggshells-Borderline-Personality-ebook/dp/B004DNXGFQ/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1496670307&amp;sr=8-2&amp;keywords=walking+on+eggshells