Reddit mentions of Children of Hoarders: How to Minimize Conflict, Reduce the Clutter, and Improve Your Relationship

YES! Call APS.

And know that you ALWAYS HAVE A CHOICE. He has chosen his path. It is not your responsibility to compensate for his choices that you cannot control. You cannot take responsibility for a legally competent adult.

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As u/adherentoftherepeted said there are other options.


https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/family-affair/201506/detaching-love-0

https://www.counselingrecovery.com/blog-san-jose/detachment

https://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/articles/detachment-with-love-gains-new-meaning


There are resources for you too.

MYCOHP, Minor and Youth Children of Hoarding Parents, is a safe, understanding, peer support group primarily for tweens, teens and  youth living in hoarded homes.

It’s a place to discuss growing up living in a hoarded home, and to learn from others with similar experiences.  Older teens, university students and other young adults often struggle to gain independence from a hoarded home, you are most welcome here as are younger tweens struggling with these challenges. Learn more here:

https://groups.io/g/MYCOHP/wiki/home

I wish this book had been around when I was your age.

https://www.amazon.com/Children-Hoarders-Minimize-Conflict-Relationship/dp/1608824381

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There are so many resources now, but I don't want to overwhelm you. PM me if you are looking for more. Hang in there.

> I guess I was just wondering if anybody else experiences something similar during the holidays? I haven’t been home since the beginning of August, and I’m feeling quite anxious to return. For those who are living / have lived in a similar household, how do / did you deal with it?

I don't have any specific advice, but it might help you to read these articles:

• Jezebel.com: How To Survive a Christmas Visit With Your Hoarding Mother
  
• ChicagoNow.com: Loving/Living With A Hoarder- How To Handle It
  
• Gaiam.com: What to Do if You Live with a Hoarder
  
• OffbeatHome.com: 5 Ways to Cope with Hoarding
  
• NextAvenue.org: My Father is a Hoarder
  
  And listen to this podcast from Psych Up with Dr. Suzanne Phillips:
  
  Living With Someone’s Clutter or Hoarding: How Do You Cope?
  
  Finally, you might want to get your hands on a copy of Children of Hoarders: How to Minimize Conflict, Reduce the Clutter, and Improve Your Relationship by Dr. Fugen Neziroglu. The book explores strategies for communicating with hoarder parents, and outlines practical intervention skills. It also shows readers how to let go of the personal shame and guilt associated with being the child of a hoarder.