Reddit mentions of For Yourself : The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality

I have never had an orgasm, and I've seen a sex therapist about it. It was overall a positive experience, however not very helpful for me. So, here's a bit of the information I gathered from my sessions with her:

Books to read: Becoming Orgasmic and For Yourself. I found these books mostly relate to how to get over moral issues, if that's what is stopping you. Lots of exercises about getting comfortable with your body, touching yourself, and incorporating a partner.

As another user recommended, the Hitachi Magic Wand. Seriously. If you're buying a vibrator get this one.

Practice and Time. My therapist recommended scheduling an hour a day to masturbate (and not right before bed, when you're tired). Every day. Just focusing on pleasure and not the end goal.

Sorry if that's a bit jumbled, feel free to ask any questions.

There are self help books on this. Here's one. It's very old at this point but it used to be highly recommended. There are others.

Sometimes it's not the clit itself that is most sensitive. My magic spot is actually just to my left slightly up and deep under the skin next to the bone. Can't believe I didn't find it until middle age. But it's like pushing a button to have an orgasm. Not everybody's nerves are in the same place. Also I find it much easier to have vaginal orgasms.

While I never had problems with reaching orgasm I didn't become multiorgasmic until I learned to meditate. During sex I start doing deep breathing down into my core and empty my mind and BOOM they start coming in waves. So it's not just about physical stimulation. Some of it is relaxation and concentration.

Try reading "For yourself" if you get the chance. It might seem new-agey and silly but it's very helpful. I know you are OK with it and thats actually a good, and EXTREMELY COMMON attitude for women to have, despite what walkn9 says.

But just give it a read, take it seriously and I promise you wont regret it.

I would recommend looking into "For Yourself" by Lonnie Barbach. This book really helped me out when I thought I wasn't orgasming. It details the problems that other women have had, and gives you thoughtful ways to explore yourself and your sexuality. I really recommend it.

You have an emotional problem and it is in your head. Sorry to be blunt. Read: http://www.amazon.com/Yourself-Fulfillment-Female-Sexuality/dp/0451202007/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1290842955&sr=8-1

She may need therapy to sort through these complex issues. A young woman her age, who has no religious or moral objections, should have some sort of sex drive. If she is asexual or gay she needs to figure that out and let you know. Again, it all points back to therapy. I'd say you are both young enough to just move on; it's not a good fit and there's no need to force it. You can even tell her that this has become such a big issue for you that you aren't sure you can stay in the relationship unless things change. This might motivate her to seek help. If you can't get her to therapy, I'd recommend this book: http://www.amazon.com/For-Yourself-Fulfillment-Female-Sexuality/dp/0451202007