Reddit mentions of Can't Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds

Good self-help books are underappreciated. They can provide the push needed to us in critical moments of our lives, e.g. to overcome short-term pain / excessive risk-aversion when making an important decision, and let us change the fundamental frames / instill useful mantras into our lives, changing our trajectories significantly. These two self-help books definitely changed my life, providing both motivation and timeless advice:

How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big: Kind of the Story of My Life by Scott Adams

Can't Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odd by David Goggins

I recommend these to all my friends and everybody who read them so far loved them (note that for max effect probably best to space them out and to first read Adams and then Goggins a few months later).

I'll comment (but still want /u/InChargeMan to also) because I'm also in a D/s relationship and we've traded notes. I'll give you my perspective.

>How do you do that with other men?

For me, it becomes a question of trusting their authenticity. In my D/s relationship with my woman there is an enormous amount of trust to be authentic and not try not to shield emotions or thoughts with ego. It's not always successful, but in the same way you wife can see through you bullshit of LARPing, we also can see men LARPing too. That's not really inclusive to a D/s lifestyle though.

>How do you define control in this context?

I expect truth, the only thing I can control with other men. It's partly why I posted in my last OYS about stopping working with certain men here at MRP. They'd be real the next moment, get it, then they'd put up a huge fake ego all over again in some sick cycle of attempting to be authentic with ego attached.

Now, onto Jocko. Mad respect for the dude. He's a fucking warrior if there ever has been one. He has balls of steel bigger than anyone in this sub. But I am starting to think that he is insulating himself for the losses he's experienced in his life. No doubt - most men here would break at sending a friend into battle to die, knowingly... and I am starting to contemplate that he uses self-absorption of fault to justify their choices.

You know, just how you wife chooses to be depressed and wallow in shit. You may be a shit farmer who can't produce anything but shit - but if you MRP the hell out of your farm you should at some point be able to look in the pigpen of shit and say, "Hey, pigs. You don't have to wallow in shit anymore. There's a whole big field to roam around outside here now in that I've built it.... and let me tell you - it's pretty beautiful out here. You've seen it, I know you have. I've been here a while growing new fruits and vegtables. You're likely to come over here and drag some stinky shit with you, but if you show the effort to get the fuck out of that stinky ass mess, I'll help you clean up along the way."

Just like Goggins - who's title of his book is "Can't Hurt Me". I mean, fucking shit dude - he is a madman for sure and is tough as fuck mentally - but do I want to live my life where no one can hurt me? That seems like a huge fucking shield that would never allow you to experience some of the best emotions that life has to offer. Granted, he had a lot of those emotions as a child - but again - he may be insulating himself from future losses.

Just my opinion of a guy who has attempted to follow the same mantra as Goggins and Jocko, and which MRP might advocate to an extent.

Listen to this audiobook, it's awesome:

https://www.amazon.com/Cant-Hurt-Me-Master-Your-ebook/dp/B07H453KGH

The one and only book you will ever need "Can't Hurt Me" by David Goggins. It is a NY Times Bestseller.

Link: https://www.amazon.com/Cant-Hurt-Me-Master-Your-ebook/dp/B07H453KGH

People are obsessed with this man, and it is well deserved.

Just bought it in Kindle form for 40% list price thank you, needed something new to read

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