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Release date | January 2013 |
Welcome to the sub.
If you haven't already, please take a look at this post:
"I Have A Hoarder In My Life--Help Me!" Your Hoarding Quick-Start Kit
It summarizes the research we've done on this sub to some basic steps. Hoarding is a complex disorder that is quite difficult to treat, so it's vital to educate yourself on it.
Now:
>I feel I cannot reason and use logic with him.
So the first thing you have to understand is that hoarding is a mental disorder. That means that--among other things--your boyfriend is not capable of being rational about his possessions. Which further means that you can't use logic and reason to talk him into cleaning up, because his hoarding doesn't arrive from logical and reasonable sources.
>I feel a lot of anxiety when I am in his apartment...I feel completely out of control. I feel that if I decide to have a family with him my life will be filled with anxiety. And we both suffer because of that: he because he wants to have many stuff and me because I want to have less...I feel he loves more his things than me. He knows that he has to reduce the amount of items if we expect to live together one day, but his progress is too slow.
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>On the other hand, when he comes to visit me or we stay at a neutral place, everything goes well between us. I love him very much. I would like this relationship to work but I have no idea how to navigate this.
Please look at the words you've written, esp. the ones that I bolded. Then look at what I'm about to write next:
Because right now? You're correct when you say that he loves his things more than he loves you. He loves hoarding things the way an alcoholic loves alcohol, the way a coke head loves cocaine, the way any addict loves the thing he's addicted to.
Your boyfriend loves you. He knows at some level that he needs to get sober in order for the two of you to have a healthy relationship. But until he commits to recovery, he will always choose getting his fix over you.
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