Reddit mentions of Garnier Skin and Hair Care Fructis Marvelous Oil Deep Nourish 5 Action Hair Elixir for Dry and Damaged Hair, 5 Fluid Ounce

Okay, the voice of authority is speaking here. I know exactly what you're going through. Although my NMom would complain plenty about my hair, she never offered a single word of advice or help.

But never fear, I will eagerly impart to you all the knowledge I have acquired!

First, set aside your brush for the moment. If you have dry curly hair, brushing can be the worst thing you can do. It will only make thing worse.

Second, identify your hair hair type. In your case, your hair is likely dry or sun-damaged. Look for that type on the bottle of shampoo before you purchase it. You want a gentle shampoo that does not strip your hair of its precious oils. And guard against the tendency towards self-hatred you might have as the child of an N and don't overwash or overscrub because you think you are dirty or bad. You're not. Treat your hair gently; our curly or kinky hair is among the most fragile and can break easily.

Likewise find a conditioner that reflects your hair type. Coconut oil conditioners and shampoos are good ones, but go onto Amazon and find shampoos and conditioners that are both cheap and highly rated (the two do not need to be mutually exclusive) I like Dessert Essences coconut shampoo and conditioner.

Make sure you work the conditioner gently through your hair with your fingers. And then let the shower water rinse it out without you doing anythingmore than running your fingers through it. This will detangle it on it the spot and you won't need to comb it when you get out of the shower. When you do get out of the shower, bend forward, and let your hair come forward (if you have long or longer hair) and then in that position, wrap and towel around your still detangled hair. The towel will soak up the excess water.

Now comes the magic.

You use a de-frizzing product. Yup. They exist.

I would have Hermione hair without one simple product Now this may not be the exact one for you, but for me it's the best.

What it does is coat the hair in a some sort of silicone stuff, so your hair, when dry, is instantly silky. At the same time, it adds a little weight to your hair so it is no longer fly-away, fluffy or sticky-out-y.

Use a small amount on damp hair, maybe the size of a dime in the palm of your hand. Rub your palms together so you have product on both hands, and work it gently through your hair, making sure you are moving your hands down towards the ends of your hair. If you use too much you'll know it because your hair will be lank and greasy feeling in a day or two. You'll probably have to feel your way to the right amount and will make a few mistakes at first. ETA: TO BE PERFECTLY CLEAR, DO NOT WASH THIS PRODUCT OUT. This stays in your hair.

That's it. DO NOT BLOW DRY. You and I cannot do that. Maybe you'll want to put the towel back on.

The next day if you want to comb it, use a comb like this one Okay, that one's expensive but 1) it's wide tooth and 2) the ends of its teeth are rounded so they don't scratch your scalp or cut into any hair.

But my guess is that that you will not need to always reach for a comb, that running your fingers through your now silky silicone treated hair will be more than enough.

When you do go back to brushing don't use brushes with boar brush or plastic-y nylon brush on them, splurge and get a good one like this one It has wood tines/bristles that glide through your hair and don't tug and saw at it, the way brushy brushes do. They also stimulate, not scratch the scalp.

If as the days progress you feel things are getting too fly away, you can rub a very very very small amount of melted coconut oil between your palms and rub it through your hair. That will bring things back under your control.

I've tried to make these pearls of wisdom as uni-sex as possible, i.e. for both long and short hair, but if you have any questions let me know. Fly away hair is the worse, it makes you feel so not up to facing the day!

Hair Oil. Garnier's Dry version. I swear, it's a miracle to me. I work it into damp hair, let my hair sit in a towel for a few, then work a bit more into the ends before I blow dry. It cut down the time to blow dry, and my hair is really soft and less frizzy!

I also use a spritz of heat protectant when using my straightener/curling iron.

And once a week I deep condition with Hair One.

Edited to add links!:

http://www.amazon.com/Garnier-Fructis-Marvelous-Deep-Nourish/dp/B00I3BVYWG/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1414210195&sr=8-3&keywords=Garnier+hair+oil

http://www.amazon.com/Hair-One-Cleanser-Conditioner-Olive/dp/B001IMSIYY/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1414210222&sr=8-4&keywords=hair+one

I swear by this.