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Reddit mentions of The Art of Living: The Classic Manual on Virtue, Happiness, and Effectiveness
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We found 3 Reddit mentions of The Art of Living: The Classic Manual on Virtue, Happiness, and Effectiveness. Here are the top ones.
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| Height | 8 Inches |
| Length | 4.88 Inches |
| Number of items | 1 |
| Release date | September 1995 |
| Weight | 0.4850169764 Pounds |
| Width | 0.61 Inches |
Treat the good people around you very kindly and respect their (limited) ability to handle you. Give them a break. Be careful who you choose to unload your problems on (I had trouble with this). They can't cure you but they can listen when you're hurting. Remind them they don't have to fix you but it's nice to have someone willing to listen sometimes.
Sometimes you don't need to be cured, you just need a shift in perspective. Keep going to therapy and reading up on CBT for OCD. Pick a workbook and go through it for half an hour a night as your homework. Become an expert in how OCD works and what your particular sensitivities are. I like to say "keep turning the Rubik's cube" until you figure it out.
> shame from things I’ve done in my past and things not so long ago
Remember this is also part of OCD. Keep at that homework. Learn to forgive others but also yourself. Reach out into the future and pick a vision of who you would like to be. And make a plan, even a small plan, one or two sentences, that state how you will get there. And just take one day at a time.
> "perfectionist" attitude sends me spiraling.
Also OCD. Right? :) Be kind to yourself. Soften the self-loathing and shame (such a man's emotion! I have a lot of it too). My parents wanted me to be a lawyer. Let's just say that didn't happen. But they can't live my life, I have to. I have to want to.
> it tells me that I don’t deserve to be happy
This is the hardest one for me too. I feel all the time, especially when something great happens, I downplay it. I don't deserve to celebrate "that" because I have "all this stuff over here" (that's just all in my head of course." Still working on that but after doing homework for a couple years it's not so dire. I do hope to find an answer to that question though. I try to use Stoic philosophy. Most of the time it works, the problem is I forget it. I think that's my biggest challenge is finding a way to remind myself to keep looking at my inspirations, whatever they are. Sometimes it's just Groundhog Day Hang in there!
Give this a read; it'll be a good start.
The Art of Living: The Classic Manual on Virtue, Happiness, and Effectiveness
http://www.amazon.com/Art-Living-Classic-Happiness-Effectiveness/dp/0062513222
Happiness and freedom begin with a clear understanding of one principle: Some things are within our control, and some things are not. It is only after you have faced up to this fundamental rule and learned to distinguish between what you can and can't control that inner tranquility and outer effectiveness become possible." The Stoic philosopher Epictetus was born on the eastern edges of the Roman Empire in A.D. 55, but The Art of Living is still perfectly suited for any contemporary self-help or recovery program. To prove the point, this modern interpretation by Sharon Lebell casts the teachings in up-to-date language, with phrases like "power broker" and "casual sex" popping up intermittently. But the core is still the same: Epictetus keeps the focus on progress over perfection, on accomplishing what can be accomplished and abandoning unproductive worry over what cannot.