Reddit mentions of The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence

Most of us are taught to put other people's feeling's above our own. To diminish ourselves, to wait patiently for what we want, to not be insistent, to be happy with what we get, to share our sandwich, our toys, our clothes, etc, which is a good thing, in part. On the other hand, when we complain that someone isn't sharing their toys, their sandwiches, their clothes, we are told not to be greedy and be nice. Not to raise our voice, to be polite. "What is everybody going to think, look how dirty you are. No, you can't go play sports because your dress will be dirty. Don't go to the store with this hair all messy." Most of us are not encouraged to play competitive sports, but group activities based on solidarity and team work rather than competition, where again, we will have to shut up about our opinions and wants for the "greater need of the group." Basically we are told to be visually and emotionally pleasing all the time, and years of that usually takes it toll. Then when we get tired and start saying "this is not fair", we are trouble makers, the drama queens. Later on, we are the bitches. Fuck forbid we ever ask for a raise, that's greedy (share your sandwich, eat the smaller piece quietly, make everybody happy, even if you're not) Obviously, these are very simplistic, generic examples. I didn't want to give you my personal examples and my friends and 2X members experience because it can always be argued that my personal experience doesn't reflect everybody else's, which is true to a certain extent, and I don't want to tell you to "trust me on that one" either, but I am very surprised that this is news for anyone. So, if your question is genuine and you want more insight on the subject, I recommend this book.