Reddit mentions of The Love Dare

To give you a direct answer - biblically, she can leave if she wants:

But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife? - 1 Corinthians 7:15-16

I am so sorry you are going through this. If you want to fight this, there have been many marriages which have been saved in these circumstances. I've even seen a couple divorce, live separate for a while, and then get married again.

If you are looking for incredibly practical stuff to fight for your marriage, I'd check out the book Love Dare - it's basically something you can do every day for 40 days to try and save your marriage when it's on life support.

Also, if you are looking for support from Christians who are primarily married and can speak with a little more focus, /r/ChristianMarriage is a good community for that.

I've been through some nasty and hard stuff in marriage - I feel for you and I am sorry you are experiencing this. Happy to talk it out more with you if you'd like. Praying for you today.

I highly recommend The Love Dare The Love Dare https://www.amazon.com/dp/1433679590/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_tu2zCbCNZJJ52

It teaches the true meaning of love. While some may argue that empathy isn’t exactly love I believe that in order to have great empathy you must love and respect yourself. Only in this way can you project yourself in others.

Here is what you do. You throw out every single drink that you have in your house into one trash bag while she is out of the house. You put that in front of the house, or try to find a way for her to see it is done. You then clean up the house from top to bottom, make it sparkle. Go and buy a card that says you’re sorry (have it have LIGHT humor). When she comes home, you want to surprise her with a nice candlelight dinner (if you can’t cook, buy premade stuff and use your homeware for it. Don’t lie and say you made it tho). During dinner, have a serious talk about what happened. Say something like how you know you’ve said it, but you want to say it again that you are so sorry. That you would never in your right mind do that, and the thought of how it happened has tormented you ever since. Because of that, you vow off ever drinking again because you would rather loose that than loose the any love and trust from her. Have massage oils ready and offer her a foot massage followed by a whole body massage. Get the tub ready and allow her to have a nice hot bubble bath with some relaxing instrumental music. The next morning, make breakfast and use a handwritten note on it that says I love you. Also, I don’t know what your religious stance is, but if you are a Christian there is a great book out there called “The Love Dare”. Buy it and do it. Let her know you will be doing it. Once you do that though, DO NOT STOP until the very end. Praying for you!