Reddit mentions of The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child

My girlfriend of 13.5 years (known each other for 20+) is adopted. This right here has been a vitally important book for her: https://www.amazon.com/Primal-Wound-Understanding-Adopted-Child/dp/0963648004

Here's a pdf breakdown relating to the book:
http://adopta.hr/images/pdf/the_primal_wound.pdf

I highly recommend it for you.

Cheers, best.

Namaste,

There’s a book about the psychology of children who were adored at birth that would be helpful.

The Primal Wound

Easy read and insightful for abandonment issues in general as well

Edit: adored should be adopted

The view is that separating the infant from its biological mother/the womb the child was in is traumatic to the infant. There's also a book that I think they have some adoptive parents read, called "The Primal Wound" that discusses it more in-depth.

Just because adoption is right for you doesn't mean it's right for everyone else. Personally, I'm glad I was raised by people who wanted to adopt me instead of people who adopted only as a last resort and would rather have their own biological child.

I also highly recommend this book since you're planning to adopt. It has some great insight as to how a lot of adoptees feel and what our experiences are like.

You think they would make great parents, but it's not a proven point-- even leftist social science types concede that they don't have enough data to really conclude that boys and girls do just as well without mothers or fathers. I'll stipulate that there are gay people who could provide better homes for growing children than state facilities. This doesn't then mean that marriage needs to be redefined. Allowing gay people to adopt might be a reasonable policy choice in certain circumstaces, but that doesn't mean we should pretend it's no different if kids are raised by a mother and a father vs. a man and his boyfriend or a woman and her girlfriend. I know people like to think that adoption is great and that blood ties don't matter, but the sad fact is that people generally bond better to their own children than to adopted ones. The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child