(Part 3) Best products from r/Advice

Best all around relationship book IMO is likely:
John Gottman PHD, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Don't let the title fool you it is good for more than just marriages.
https://smile.amazon.com/dp/0553447718/ref=cm_sw_r_other_apa_i_wkf3DbPJF7Z18

Also check out these authors:

• David Schnarch - crucible approach
  
• Midori - BDSM books mostly but if you're having difficulty with boundaries the BDSM consent model may be helpful.
  
• Emily Nagoski - a lot on intimacy and desire as well as expressing your needs.
  
• Gary Chapman - love languages, explains how different people communicate love for one another.
  
  If you PM me with more details I can suggest additional reading suggestions.

This stuff actually works. I like to mix it with my toothpaste.

Active Wow Teeth Whitening Charcoal Powder Natural https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01N8XF244/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_JdXaBbTH27QM0

It's always nice to offer a solution when bringing up a problem.

As lousy as things seem, your situation has the potential to be really positive.


1- Put all your affairs in order. Go through all your possessions, get rid of everything that's not essential, except for a few things with sentimental value. Living Will, Designation of Health Surrogate, Last Will and Testament, burial/cremation arrangements.


2- Examine your values. What's important to you? If tomorrow were your last day on earth, how would you spend it? If you had 1 month or 1 year, what would you hope to accomplish?


3- Explore and contemplate on the following:

• Stoicism http://www.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/
  
• Buddhism http://www.reddit.com/r/Buddhism/
  
• "Man's Search For Meaning" by Viktor Frankle http://www.amazon.com/Mans-Search-Meaning-Viktor-Frankl/dp/080701429X/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1409963199&sr=1-1&keywords=man%27s+search+for+meaning
  
  
  Please don't make any decisions while you are frustrated, frightened, angry or exhausted. Take a deep breath, follow my council, meditate, and then you can make a decision.
  
  
  If you have any questions, feel free to PM me.

so so sorry to hear this happened. not having your dog in your life daily is going to be a struggle without a doubt. she was probably such a part of your daily routine you must feel lost. i dont think there is anything that will help you except the passage of time. i lost my best friend/constant companion last october. he was also with me almost 24/7 as he came to work with me every single day. the loss is devastating, it leaves such a hole in your life and your heart. i have not been able to replace my lost companion but i did try to work through it with some outside help via a book:

https://www.amazon.ca/Heart-Dog-Surviving-Loss-Canine/dp/0996353305

It did offer some things to help me through the grieving process.

1. a grieving candle. whenever you are consumed with the grief of losing your pet, take some time and sit down and light the candle for as long as it takes to continue on with your normal day to day life. when the candle is gone, you can tell yourself you have honoured your pet through this grieving process.
   
2. i had a portrait done.
   
3. i had my pet cremated and have his ashes in an urn.
   
4. my bosses suggested a photograph on the wall at work
   
5. i made a donation in memory of my buddy to a charity specific to his breed (greyhound)
   
   It took me six months before i did not think of him daily. Then it was like a switch was thrown. I have still have moments/evenings where I miss him dearly and become emotional, as only another pet owner would understand.
   
   It gets better. Just hang in there.

If you really want a good idea on investments, this is a great book. It is no BS, and it gives it to you straight (like how you can't beat the market, despite what some people think). I think even just the introductory sections are full of great insight and analysis. It is also considered a classic in many circles.

https://www.amazon.com/Common-Sense-Mutual-Funds-Anniversary/dp/0470138130

Join a support group: https://afsp.org/find-support/ive-lost-someone/find-a-support-group/

Affordable counseling: https://openpathcollective.org/

Book to read: https://www.amazon.com/No-Time-Say-Goodbye-Surviving/dp/0385485514

Things will get better.

Hey. Just wanted to give you a quick guide on hyperlinking

This is your link

If you put [square brackets] around the text you want followerd by the link in (regular brackets). Looks like the below without the !!! in them.

The reds a bit much. If you can design the room so it's not so bright then I guess that's fine. I vote for white on black.


[This is your link]!!!(https://www.amazon.com/LifeStyle-Contempraray-Leather-Living-Black/dp/B01MYNOPX3/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1505598555&sr=8-5&keywords=BLACK+AND+RED+COUCH)

I don't know what sort of amount or strange shapes you may have in your posession, but here's a $20 lockbox that should do the trick (assuming you don't need a trunk):


https://www.amazon.com/Jssmst-Large-Cash-Box-Lock/dp/B072DWDNV9/ref=lp_1069380_1_4?s=office-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1567994057&sr=1-4


Happy moving!

You have given him multiple chances to change. He isn't. You have no control over that. And you have little control what someone chooses to do with their life.

Whether you did the right or wrong thing by leaving him is really up to you. Most people will tell you that you have to take care of yourself, but that's your own choice.

Do you want to continue to live as you are with him in order to keep him away from suicide? That's the only question you need to answer. Is taking responsibility for his life worth accepting his abuse and the sadness and pain you've been going through?

If it is, you have your answer. Again, it's your own life to use how you see fit.

If not, thats completely ok and acceptable. It's not wrong to leave a friend, boyfriend, spouse, or family member who is hurting you. It's not your responsibility to stay with them if they are damaging you- and make no mistake, his abuse is damaging you.

It's ok to leave to save yourself. It's ok to leave to find someone who will make you thrive, who will lift you up, rather than pull you down and smother you.

If you choose to leave, you have another 2 basic options.

First, you can completely cut ties and go. Maybe this will be the wake up he needs. Maybe it won't. Maybe he'll find another girl and treat her the same, maybe not. It's not your responsibility any longer, and you will never be to blame for his choices.

Second, you can be willing to remain his friend. And try to help him.

You can tell him that the only way you will consider being with him again, since he is so desperate to keep you, is he has to get help. Tell him he needs to stop making excuses that counselors and psychologists wont work, and he needs to get help.

Whatever you choose, you need to make sure he knows and understands this:

The way he treats you in unacceptable. It is disrespectful. It is inappropriate. Tell him what he did wrong, and especially that he would promise to get help and change, but you feel he didn't. Tell him that he is breaking promises doing that, which makes his word untrustworthy.

Finally, something I try to recommend to everyone are two cheap books from Amazon that have changed my life and thousands of others. They have opened my eyes to what I need in a partner, why I act and why others act the way they do in relationships, how to pick a partner that will provide a good relationship, how to spot a partner that will end in misery, and how to fix problems before they end the relationship.

$14.11

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1585429139/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_BIPUBbW5W57E8


$9.16

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/0553447718/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_hKPUBb27R58J0

Could something like this work?

https://www.amazon.com/Jenia-Jewelry-Braided-Comfortable-Bracelet/dp/B01CYQ5L6A/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1539147791&sr=8-5&keywords=thick+bracelet

There are a lot of others like it if you look at the related products on the page, so I'm sure you could find one to suit your style.

https://www.amazon.com/ArtiGifts-Furniture-Lifting-Moving-Straps/dp/B07433KQG8/ref=pd_day0_hl_469_3/143-4713998-8870066?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=B07433KQG8&pd_rd_r=cb9efc38-7996-11e9-b1ee-5b598291dad5&pd_rd_w=OFf7S&pd_rd_wg=mdiMe&pf_rd_p=ad07871c-e646-4161-82c7-5ed0d4c85b07&pf_rd_r=7BDD6YDETY88P5SNFKST&psc=1&refRID=7BDD6YDETY88P5SNFKST

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Just found this 1 person shoulder dolly. It seems like most of the weight would be on my shoulders, but I do like the fact that it's specifically designed for 1 person to carry heavy furniture.

Would you consider your drinking more habit, genetic, or both? As a past alcoholic (7 years without a drop) I can tell you that understanding how you got to this point will help you overcome it.

Alcohol abuse is not your fault, that I can promise. It's either a behavior you developed over time (habit) or something you are genetically inclined to do. Sometimes a blend of both.

To not drink is simply a decision, believe it or not. The question is what prompts the decision to quit?

I spent a lot of time overcoming my own issues with alcohol. It compelled me to write a book. Check it out, you might find it helpful in making your decision.

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NO DESIRE TO DRINK

https://www.amazon.com/dp/1520136358

Child Safety Strap Locks:

https://www.amazon.com/Cabinets-Drawers-Dishwasher-Adhesive-Drilling/dp/B072KPZMMV

If it can keep a curious 2 year old human out of a garbage can, I'll bet it can keep a dog out, too.

You could read man's search for meaning. It's a great read.

https://www.amazon.ca/Mans-Search-Meaning-Viktor-Frankl/dp/080701429X

There's a strong correlation between what you earn for a living and the difficulty of the problems you solve (clerk vs. surgeon.) The more education the more prepared you become to have a comfortable lifestyle. Why not apply your intelligence as fully as you can to see how far you can go? Doors will open for you that you simply can't imagine at a young age. Start here.

In support of this comment, let me say this:


You adopted this animal. You agreed to take care of it and protect it and give it a good home. YOU took on that responsibility. These fuckers are now threatening this animal that. Even if you are not the person who takes charge normally, you have to pretend to be for this creature that is in your protection.

1. If your door locks...LOCK IT
   
   
2. If your door doesn't lock, buy a lock and bolt it on:
   https://www.amazon.com/National-Hardware-N102-855-Swivel-Staple/dp/B000BQO4YQ

No, don't get an HP lol, they're crap.. if you want something cheap and reliable I would recommend a chromebook

https://www.amazon.com/C302CA-DHM4-Chromebook-12-5-inch-Touchscreen-Convertible/dp/B01N5G5PG2/ref=sr_1_2_sspa?ie=UTF8&qid=1541360808&sr=8-2-spons&keywords=chromebook+asus&psc=1

Thanks -- is this what you have?

https://www.amazon.com/Audioengine-D1-24-bit-Digital-to-Analog-Converter/dp/B006IPH5H2/ref=sr_1_3?keywords=D1+audioengine&qid=1550248842&s=gateway&sr=8-3

Check this out:

https://www.amazon.com/Life-After-Lust-Strategies-Pornography-ebook/dp/B06VW1GQHS

https://www.amazon.com/Power-Habit-What-Life-Business/dp/081298160X/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1539967806&sr=8-3&keywords=habits

You need to find something more addicting, that's healthy, and "forget".

everybody!

I'm gonna buy https://www.amazon.com/COMFAST-1900Mbps-Wireless-1300Mbps-802-11ac/dp/B07MF2PD92/ref=sr_1_3?crid=C810HVJ5TDLH&keywords=wifi%2Badapter%2B1900mbps&qid=1562540061&s=gateway&sprefix=WiFi%2Badapter%2B1900%2Caps%2C419&sr=8-3&th=1 hopefully it works

yeah I bought drug tests from amazon and started testing myself around the 30 day mark, and every few days after that

https://www.amazon.com/Easy-Home-Marijuana-Single-Panel/dp/B00DVPS4IQ/ref=sr_1_3?crid=3JYHKZ51PUDBE&keywords=thc%2Bdrug%2Btest&qid=1563925932&s=gateway&sprefix=thc%2Caps%2C217&sr=8-3&th=1

Child safety straps for fridge