Best products from r/AskMen
We found 203 comments on r/AskMen discussing the most recommended products. We ran sentiment analysis on each of these comments to determine how redditors feel about different products. We found 3,089 products and ranked them based on the amount of positive reactions they received. Here are the top 20.
▼ Read Reddit mentions
1. No More Mr Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life
- Running Press Book Publishers
- Ideal for a bookworm
- It's a great choice for a book person
▼ Read Reddit mentions
2. The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts
▼ Read Reddit mentions
4. The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts
- Northfield Publishing
▼ Read Reddit mentions
5. Merkur Futur MK 23C Long-Handled Traditional Double Edge Safety Razor - Excellent Comfort, Control, and Design - 4.2 Inches, Chrome Finish
- merkur 180
- long handle merkur razor
- safety razor
▼ Read Reddit mentions
6. Philips Norelco Bodygroomer BG2040/49 - skin friendly, showerproof, body trimmer and shaver
- 3D pivoting head allows the shaving head to closely follow your body's contours for the ultimate in skin comfort on your body
- High performance trimmer has rounded blades and combs to prevent scratching the skin. Select from from 5 length settings (up to 11/25 inch) to get the look you want
- Designed exclusively for men who want the ultimate body comfort below the neck: shaves and trims chest and abs, underarms, legs, groin area and back and shoulders
- Water-resistant casing and materials. Use wet (in the shower) or dry
- Get 50 minutes of cordless use with an 8-hour charge in the sleek store and charge stand
- Dual-sided design lets you trim and shave with just one product
- Built-in trimming comb with 5 length settings comfortably glides over the skin while trimming even the thickest hair
- Shave head prevents nicks and cuts while capturing long and short hairs in a single stroke
- 3-D pivoting shaving head closely follows your body's contours for a close shave with less irritation
- A great gift, the bodygroomer's maintenance-free blades self-sharpen to ensure a precise, even trim and shave every time
▼ Read Reddit mentions
10. Science Fiction: Stories and Contexts
- P-TRAP KIT: P-Trap keeps your home safe by preventing sewer gas from escaping out of your bathroom or kitchen plumbing fixtures or drains
- EASY INSTALLATION: Kit includes all of the necessary nuts and washers and utilizes slip joint connections for easy installation
- DURABLE: With its polypropylene construction, this P-trap is lightweight yet highly durable for long-lasting use
- MADE IN THE USA: Product is made in the USA for added quality and reliability
- ADJUSTABLE SIZE INLET: P-trap features a 1.5" inlet and outlet, and the inlet reduces to 1.25" when used with the reducing washer to create a perfect fit
- P-trap for lavatory or kitchen
- Inlet: 1-1/2-Inch Or 1-1/4-Inch
- With 1-1/2-Inch to 1-1/4-Inch reducer washer
- Outlet: 1-1/2-inch
- White polypropylene
▼ Read Reddit mentions
11. Vanicream Gentle Facial Cleanser with Pump Dispenser | Fragrance, Gluten and Sulfate Free | For Sensitive Skin | 8 Fl Oz
Free of dyes, fragrance, masking fragrance, lanolin, parabens, formaldehyde, formaldehyde releasers, and other preservatives.Oil-free, non-comedogenic (does not cause blackheads). Helps remove dirt, oil and makeup without drying the skinSulfate-free, Betaine-free, Gluten-free. Free of amines and ami...
▼ Read Reddit mentions
12. [KLAIRS] Supple Preparation Facial Toner, with Hyaluronic Acid, moisturizer, without paraben and alcohol, 180ml, 6.08oz
- Hydrates and calms sensitive skin post-cleansing and tidies the skin texture to smoothed while maintaining the optimal pH balance
- Plant extracts and soothing ingredients blended together for a calming formula, the non-irritating, super hydrating toner can be used for sensitive skin as well
- Faster absorption, enhanced hydration, Balance pH level, Calming formula, Non-irritation, 180ml, 6.08oz
- it is their viscous, essence or serum-like texture was what made them stood out from other toners in the market with main ingredients being beta-glucan, hyaluronic acid and centella asiatica that instantly calm & soothe the sensitive skin. In that sense, they are good enough to replace a serum from your skincare routine if they are layered multiple times using bare hands.
▼ Read Reddit mentions
13. Skin Aqua Super Moisture Gel pump (SPF50 + PA ++++) 140g
- 2 Inch Adjustable Height Increase - Offers up to 2 inches in total height
- Air Bubble Technology - Makes the LiftKits ultra comfy for long hours on your feet
- Adjustable Heel Lift - Half inch detachable heel piece allows the user to customize the height to their specific needs
- Orthopedic Design - Designed by a doctor to provide comfort and to help align the spine all while providing height
- One Size Fits All - Pre-Marked sizes on toe are perforated trim to fit Mens Size 7-10 for sizes 11 and up we recommend wearing the LiftKit under the original insole.
▼ Read Reddit mentions
15. Astra Platinum Double Edge Safety Razor Blades ,100 Count (Pack of 1)
- Model Number: ASTRA01
- Country Of Origin: United States
- Item Package Weight: 6.0 oz
- Item Package Dimension: 8.0" L x 1.5" W x 8.0" H
▼ Read Reddit mentions
16. She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman (Kerner)
- William Morrow Paperbacks
▼ Read Reddit mentions
17. Models: Attract Women Through Honesty
- The effect is comprised of three arrangeable pieces and is also available in yellow
- Product bears official Bluefin Distribution logo ensuring purchaser is receiving authentic licensed item from approved N American retailer
- Bluefin Distribution products are tested and comply with all N American consumer product safety regulations and are eligible for consumer support
▼ Read Reddit mentions
18. Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking
- Broadway Books
▼ Read Reddit mentions
20. Astor Bidet Fresh Water Spray Non-Electric Mechanical Bidet Toilet Seat Attachment CB-1000
- DITCH THE SCRATCHY TOILET PAPER AND UNSANITARY WET WIPES: The Astor Bidet is the sanitary, Earth-friendly solion that leaves you feeling cleaner than conventional paper and wet wipes.
- INSTALLS IN 10 MINUTES WITH ONLY A SCREWDRIVER: The premium quality bidet sprayer attaches to your existing toilet seat and doesn't use electricity or require special parts - everything you need is included in the box - making it a great value.
- AFFORDABLE UPGRADE TURNS YOUR TOILET INTO A LUXURIOUS BIDET: Using water pressure alone, the Astor Bidet provides a more comfortable, hygienic experience - you'll never want to go back to coarse toilet paper.
- ADJUST THE FRESH WATER SPRAY TO YOUR PREFERENCE: Your comfort is our priority - the custom dial lets you control the water sprayer pressure for the most enjoyable clean possible.
- ECO-WISE DESIGN: Besides saving toilet paper, the premium Astor bidet also works just as well when the lights go out. No batteries or electricity required: our engineering works purely on the pressure already existing in your water pipes.
I could suggest lots of stuff, but I want you to learn to be okay with bringing ANYTHING up. I've told my wife the weirdest stuff and she still loves me (probably cause of my rockin' bod and hairdo). Talking about this kind of stuff used to scare me, but take those baby steps and you'll be on your way!
So, to bring it up I would just tell your husband that you discovered Love Languages today and that you found out yours is _____ and you would like to know his. You can do the quiz that's on the website, or you could even order the book.
If you are scared of him being offended, just reassure him that you want to be the best wife you can be and that you know he wants to be the best husband he can be. It'll tell you a lot about yourself and make you realize what exactly is important to you. Heck, I could even quiz you and probably help you discover your love language just in a few minutes here on Reddit. It's a simple concept, but will have huge effects.
I learned my wife's love language is Quality Time. I thought us being in the same room counted as that. I soon learned that it is much more than that. She doesn't care about being in the same room, but us having trips to ourselves, going out to do something special, and giving her my full attention. Similarly, my love language is Touch. I soon taught her that not all physical contact conveys love to me, so she now knows that instead of just patting me on the back, a kiss on the cheek shows love. There are many more examples so the stuff can get complex from a simple concept.
I think the best part about Love Languages is it gives you an easier way to bring this up. Normally you would probably say, "I wish you would do this more." If you guys read through the book or take the quiz and figure out your love languages it gives you a more scholarly (ie logical) approach to what you need rather than an emotional one. Makes the conversation easier. You could also make a game out of it and just ask him the questions and tell him the outcome and what it was for after you figure it out!
I'm sure that a lot of your complaints here are justified but one stood out to me and needs to be addressed. Obviously what I'm writing is only relevant if you really want to work to salvage things. If not, you've gotten some good advice elsewhere in this thread.
> "I don't feel loved." But I just brought you flowers and surprised you with a nice dinner.
As much as you'd like to believe otherwise, this is a legitimate concern and you are just dismissing it. Feeling loved is a complicated issue if you let it be. Or it can become really simple. Different people feel and express love differently. What might be meaningful to you and would make you feel loved might be meaningless to her. And that's ok. Everyone's different. But it is your job to figure out what "being loved" means to her and then it's your job to do whatever that is. The book The 5 Love languages makes this really easy. Figure out what her primary love languages is and then "speak" that language. It makes a huge difference.
I'm not trying to pick on you or make it out to be all your fault. I'm sure it's not. But this is one thing that you've mentioned that you do have influence over. When both parties in a relationship really feel loved it's crazy how many of those other problems can be resolved quickly and easily. And both parties feeling loved often starts with one person making the effort to make the other feel loved. I wish you the best of luck.
Just because you're LD doesn't mean you can't do gift-giving! Something I loved to do for my SO from time to time would be to give her little gifts - something I know she'd appreciate or enjoy, just as a sign that I was thinking of her, like a cheap meme shirt from some in-joke we shared or the like.
During LD, it seems harder to give gifts, since mailing's involved, but seriously - just plug her address into your Amazon account, and send her something from time to time. One of life's underappreciated joys is the thrill of getting a package in the mail you weren't expecting that turns out to be a thoughtful gift.
It largely depends on how your SO receives/expresses love, though. Shameless plug for Gary Chapman's "5 Love Languages," most of the ideas of which you can find with a google search, basically there are five "languages" in which your partner both expresses and wishes to receive love: words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch, quality time, and gift-giving. While any expression of love can be received well, when you're speaking their "language" it will be particularly impactful. If you want to do something really meaningful for your partner, figure out their language and cater to it. Do they express their love with words, and thrive on receiving words in return? Send a love letter they can look forward to. Quality time? Try a cyber-date, be it a Skype session or maybe a co-op game of Portal 2 (would recommend even if you're not gamers :P).
> I think I get just as much rejection as a guy would get
Doubtful. In Self Made Man, a woman lives a year undercover as a man. It's a really enlightening story, but one of the biggest realizations she comes away with is the massive amount of rejection men face. It blew her mind doing speed dating and things like that, being perceived as a loser and/or predator before even having a chance to open her mouth.
If you have approached 50+ men in a row and been laughed at, scorned, or ignored by every single one of them, you'll start to understand what it's like for many guys.
I'm really good at approaching women now, but it's because I spent decades trying and failing. I remember the first time I tried to cold approach a woman in a bar (she wasn't even all that attractive, I just thought she looked nice enough for me to get over my anxiety):
I walk up to her and her two female friends, timing it so that I don't just interrupt what they are doing but find a natural break in their interaction. Then I moved up close to her and said "hi, I'm /u/autopornbot."
She looked at me like I had just shat on her new rug and said "So?" and looked at me with such disgust that I couldn't speak. I just turned and walked away.
I had friends who simultaneously encouraged me to keep trying, and made fun of me for not wanting to. So over the years I kept trying. And for years, the most I ever got from a woman was a polite brush off. And this was when I was young (18-22) and in great shape, pretty good looking - I was told by women that I knew as a part of my friend circle that I was good looking and dressed well and a lot of them liked me - I had girlfriends, but they were all women I had met through work or through friends, so we knew one another for some time first and I never had to come up and introduce myself or anything.
Most of the guys I know have had the same experience. Most guys rarely ever go talk to a woman they don't know, because the fear of being seen as a creep are too high. Nowadays, I know how to walk up to an attractive women and strike up a conversation, and a lot of times it actually goes well. Doing this around most men will absolutely blow their mind. Simply walking up to a woman and talking to her for a couple of minutes is so far out of the realm of experience for most guys, that they act as if I have magical powers.
But that ability only came after suffering through hundreds of failures.
You are right, though. Women rarely do this. Of course the few that do don't land every hot guy they approach. But women are far more gifted socially than men, so they are a lot better to begin with, and most men are so happy to have any woman acknowledge their existence that attraction or no, they are pretty receptive to at least talking - though admittedly there are exceptions.
But do keep it up. Just having a woman come up and talk to us can make our entire week, even if it goes nowhere at all. And it's a really difficult thing to do - especially in a bar or similar environments where there is pressure to act really cool. It's far easier in friendly, daytime events and casual environments.
Hey Op, great question. One thing I heard growing up was that it taste like sucking on a nickel and that the inside of a vagina felt like a softer version of the outside of a basketball. There's some truth to that but I think there are better approximations and those descriptions always left me wanting.
Some folks suggested feeling the inside of your mouth, specifically pressing your finger against your cheek. That's definitely close, but the sensation doesn't feel right because you're also touching yourself. Like trying to tickle yourself isn't a good approximation of what it feels like to be tickled. Oddly enough, if you have bigger dogs, the inside of their lips are relatively close to the texture you might feel inside a woman. This area between their upper gum line and the inside of their cheek http://i.imgur.com/ZZ4z89Y.png Vaginas are like a wetter, slipperier version of that. Women also have different areas inside their vagina that will provide different textures, I find the g-spot to be closer to that basketball texture. The inside of dog lips are weirdly close, enjoy not being able to unsee that.
As for taste, if a woman has recently bathed than I would say that they taste close to tomato juice. And no, not V8. Try cutting a fresh tomato, you will see nearly clear liquid come out from these areas http://i.imgur.com/Osm5KaL.png Now if you took that, strained it so it was just the liquid and no particulate and then warmed it up to body temperature, that's about as close as you can get. Though some women depending upon their arousal and hydration are have juices that are a little thinner or thicker. For a quick test, just let a tomato sit out at room temperature, jam your finger in and wiggle it around, taste and imagine there's not tiny chunks of tomato pulp.
Smell can vary, but as Hump_My_Face said lick the back of your hand then wait a 10 seconds and smell it. Depending on when they last cleaned up, it will be somewhere in the realm of that.
And yes, what you eat/drink can absolutely be carried over to her smell or taste. The same goes for guys, so maybe hold off on the coffee, garlic, and asparagus if you're hoping for a girl to go down on you.
And if you're looking for some pro tips, I highly recommend this book. It's not your typical sex advice book, and will definitely add new ideas, techniques, and confidence to your bedroom play. http://www.amazon.com/She-Comes-First-Thinking-Pleasuring/dp/0060538260
The feeling of a vagina is like the inside of a dogs upper lip
The taste of a vagina is close to the natural juices left over after cutting a tomato
The smell of a vagina is what you smell after licking the back of your hand and waiting 10 seconds
Buy a Japanese onahole. Not only are they better, but the packages are usually labeled in such a way that you can't tell what's in them -- just make sure to check the length of them because sometimes they can be a bit on the small side for some people. They usually will say things like "Toys: Figurine" on the label, instead, so it's completely discreet. Usually on sites like otonajp, you can have them put custom labels on the package so you can have whatever you feel is easiest to explain away when they see the package and wonder what's inside.
You can also have them throw away packaging there, instead, so you don't have to worry about that lying around somewhere and them finding it. There are quite a few customization options to the shipping which help with keeping it secret. If you're determined to get one, it's the best way to do so.
Check out otonajp.com. (NSFW) You can also get some on Amazon as well. I'd recommend as a starter something like the Hiza Tsuki Nikku Tokki Ranbu by Ride Japan. It's durable, easy to clean, and has a good amount of stimulation. Here's the links to both otonajp's and Amazon's listing of it. (it's cheaper on otonajp only because it isn't factoring in shipping costs)
https://www.otonajp.com/hiza-tsuki-nikku-tokki-ranbu ( otonajp link ) (obviously NSFW)
https://www.amazon.com/RIDE-066-Hiza-Tsuki-Ranbu/dp/B016Y1H14Q (Amazon link ) (Also NSFW)
I haven't personally used fleshlights, but I've used onaholes and I've spoken with people that have used both and they always say that onaholes are better and that fleshlights are crappy. Onaholes are also usually pretty easy to clean, as well.
Additionally, if you're still concerned about them seeing a package, you can also have packages redirected to the post office and have them hold it for pickup so you don't have to worry about them delivering it your house. You could also ship it to a friend's house and then have them get it to you.
Copying from my previous comment from earlier in the thread:
Face lotion alone is NOT providing nearly enough SPF coverage. Come over to r/skincareaddiction! :) There are many sunscreens out there that feel like lotion but are highly protective. I personally use an Asian brand that is SPF 50 and protects against both UVA and UVB rays, something most standard sunscreens don't do. It's only $12 on Amazon and lasts me a couple months. After it dries, I can't even tell I'm wearing sunscreen.
My typical morning routine for my face is:
I also add sunscreen to any exposed skin on the rest of my body. This sunscreen is cheap enough that I feel fine using it for my full body.
I repeat this whole process at night (excluding the sunscreen). I also add Vitamin C serum after the toner, which also helps with anti-aging (promotes collagen growth).
The whole thing takes less than 5 minutes, plus a couple minutes between each stage to let it dry. Wrinkles are SO hard to reverse... the best solution is prevention while you're still young! Plus, as someone whose parents have both gone through cancer, skin cancer is not something I take lightly.
EDIT: I've had many requests for my exact products so I'm adding them here. Everyone's skin is a little different, so I would definitely advise doing your own research to find what works best for you. For reference, I have clear (little-to-no acne) skin, not too dry or oily.
For each product, make sure you do a patch test to ensure you don't have a bad reaction. They're all pretty gentle so you should be okay, but always good to be safe.
Cleanser: Vanicream Gentle Facial Cleanser
Toner: KLAIRS Supple Preparation Facial Toner
Moisturizer: Trader Joe's Nourish Oil-Free Antioxidant Facial Moisturizer (this is cheaper in store)
Sunscreen: Skin Aqua Super Moisture Gel pump (SPF50 + PA ++++) (takes like a month to deliver so I usually buy multiple at a time)
Vitamin C serum: Dr. Brenner Vit C parent (small bottle but a little goes a long way)
Yeah, it's definitely a YMMV thing.
I think a lot of the struggle is that there's a representation issue; we really only see the guys who are succeeding, so if they don't look like us it's easy to feel dissonance. I'd bet that if you looked at the experiences of white men at a larger level (or hell, even just browse some posts on reddit), you'd find that dating being hard as fuck is the normal experience.
As far as operationalizing that understanding into success, I think one has to reevaluate their approach to dating. Approaching random women in clubs is hard - and if you're black and fit "that" stereotype you're less likely to get a positive reaction than white dudes who don't (and still get complained about by women). Who are you trying to get with? Is the "you" you're presenting something that that demographic will find appealing? I've always liked girls who have a good sense of fashion, but it wasn't until I started paying more attention to what I wore that they'd give me the time of day. In the same way, knowing that a lot of white people still have (at the least) unconscious biases against black men, making sure that you don't come off as intimidating initially is really important. I grew up in a town with tons of educated people and as a result don't "sound" black. While that leads to stupid situations occasionally where I get told that I'm "articulate," it also means that the women I'm interested in feel more comfortable around me because I'm well-spoken and can communicate with them on a level they can appreciate.
Which isn't all to say that you need to change who you are in order to find success, but rather that the stereotypical strategy of casting a wide net is both inelegant and won't lead to much success if you're black. Instead focus on what you want and what the people you're interested in want; it takes much less energy for immensely better results.
Also, read Models by Mark Manson. It's a quick read and the PDF is floating around online, but it's honestly worth the buy. Book's a game changer.
I'll suggest both of you read a book that was recently passed on to me. While I don't agree with everything the author says, I think the overall message is an important one: different people feel loved in different ways.
The author breaks down five different love languages: words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch, quality time, and gifts.
From the sound of things, "words of affirmation" are important to you. You need to hear him say, "I love you!" and tell you that you're the bee's knees from time to time, right? Great.
My take on the problem is that "words of affirmation" aren't a big deal to him, so he has a difficult time understanding why they're a big deal to you.
I think the book does a pretty good job of explaining how it's important to express love in the way your partner appreciates even if it's not the way you appreciate it. It might help you both sort things out a little. If you don't want to splurge for the book, just googling "love languages" will probably provide some good material.
Hey boss. I pretty much went though the same exact thing you did a couple years ago. Dated a girl for 3 years while in college, thought I was going to marry her, ect. She broke it off for various reasons, and I literally thought I was going to die. I had no real social circle, much less any good friends. She was my entire emotional support network for so long and I had no idea what to do when she left. To make matters worse, she began sleeping with other (random) people almost immediately. Talk about soul crushing. It was a dark time in my life.
But you know what? It forced me to grow. I now have a great job, an awesome circle of friends and another great girlfriend who I live with. Here are some things I realized on my journey post-breakup.
Basically all I can say it, you're gonna be alright eventually. You're doing the right thing by breaking off contact with her. Maybe eventually you guys can be friends, but focus on YOU for now. Hit the gym, and hit on some girls. In terms of getting back into the dating scene, the book Models by Mark Manson is amazing. Its not a scummy PUA (pick-up artist) book, but really teaches you how to find self worth in dating women. For your anxiety/depression, learning to meditate really helped me. This book is good for learning how.
Feel free to message me privately if you need any more help or clarification. I can also give some other book recommendations. Good luck!
It depends both on the guy and on the girl. There is a pretty well known book called The Five Love Languages that talks about how different people express affection in different ways, and how different people prefer their partner to show affection. Their 5 main categories are :
Depending on the guy, they might be most comfortable showing their affection in one of these ways. However, if you know that your partner really values a different way, then go out of your way to try to do that for them.
I strongly recommend Models: Attract Women Through Honesty. I listened to the audio book via audible and it really helped me understand why I personally had issues with women and was in a similar position. A lot of similar books take a more pickup artist side of meeting and attracting women, but Mark does an excellent job explaining why that doesn’t work in the long run. He goes through what works for him, and breaks down a lot of the issues men face and how deal with it from the ground up rather than just bandaid solutions. It’s a great starting point in understanding and improving yourself. You have to do some leg work in figuring and applying this stuff but I definitely recommend.
I can go into my experience if anyone is interested, though the real meat and potatoes are in the book, and it’s a must read/listen to for men who struggle with attracting women at any stage of the relationship or courtships.
Both of you might find these books helpful:
The five love languages This one is great for determining the ways you and your spouse like to give/receive love. It is a AMAZING book!
Not "just friends" This one is really for people who are going through an affair, but it is a good read to help "affair-proof" your marriage by learning about the dynamics that happen when affairs begin between platonic friends.
Congratulations on your upcoming marriage!!!!
Glad I could help.
The core idea of the 5 love languages is everyone receives love in a different way. For example, if I bought you a bouquet of flowers you may feel loved, and valued. However someone else may not want flowers - they instead would want me to take a walk for while holding hands, just being mentally present. Everyone is different, and the book presents these ideas and encourages couples (it's aimed at couples) to discuss how they can feel valued and appreciated. One of the major tricks is that what you need to feel valued and appreciated is how you'll likely try to express the same feeling - but that may not be how your partner receives value and appreciation. I'd highly encourage reading the book when you get a chance.
Awhile ago there was a woman who dressed up as a man - IIRC it was for like a magazine article or a book or something. But she documented her life as a woman, for a period of time - a week or a month or whatever it was. Then dressed up as a man and did the exact same things over again. Went to the same places, did the same things, etc. She even dated as both genders. She concluded that there are good things and bad about both genders so largely it ends up pretty even. i.e. - women had to put up with subtle (and sometimes not so subtle) harassment, but men couldn't get any special treatment like talking your way out of a speeding or parking ticket. The one conclusion that stuck with me (and the reason I actually remember any of this) was that dating in particular was harder as a man. As a woman she could dress up a little, go to a bar, and a couple of guys would buy her drinks and virtually all of them would ultimately ask her out. But when she did the same thing as a man she found it was a lot harder to get positive responses from women. She could dress up as a good-looking man, but just approaching and talking to women and buying drinks wouldn't guarantee her a date. Then, once on the date, a lot of pressure is on the guy to be a gentleman but not too old-fashioned or overly formal. Do you open her car door? Hold out a hand to help her out of the car? Open the restaurant door? Let her go in first? Help her off with her coat? Pull out her chair at the restaurant? Stand up when she gets up to powder her nose? Order a bottle of wine for the table? Order dessert? Pay for the whole check or take her up on splitting it? Help her put her coat back on? Hold the door again? Open her car door? Help her into the car? etc... And none of that even went on to the things that are traditionally seen as the man's responsibility to initiate, like the first kiss, sex, etc.
(sorry I searched for the source but couldn't locate...guess reddit will have to take my word for it)
tl;dr => There was an author/reporter who did this and found that in life male/female kinda balances out, but in dating men have it harder.
edit: found it - http://www.amazon.com/Self-Made-Man-Womans-Year-Disguised/dp/0143038702 - it was a book and she was "undercover" for 18 months
read up on cognitive behavioral therapy
i started reading this book ( https://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-New-Mood-Therapy/dp/0380810336 ) a while back but haven't gotten very far. that said, it is very helpful in explaining why you think the way you do, with examples. it's also in the first person from the author, so it helps that it sounds like someone is saying these things to you
you don't need to actually action on anything now. that can be daunting. but understanding why you have the internal monologue and why it's hard to get away from is a really good start
any remotely useful advice below will be better learned from reading the book
best of luck!
> I just need my space
I always felt that way, but I could never articulate why. I couldn't express it without hurting my girlfriends' feelings. Then I read this: Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking
As it turns out, I'm not a bad person, and there's nothing wrong with me. Nothing needs to be fixed or changed. Introversion is not a character flaw. I just need to date someone with a similar level of introversion in order to be happy.
What it comes down to ultimately is that introverts need time alone in order to recharge themselves, while extroverts recharge by socializing. When introverts and extroverts try to date, their needs conflict. If the two of your are empathetic and can compromise, it could still work, but it's possible neither of you will be happy.
Personally, I finally found the introvert of my dreams. She told me, "We're going to get married and live in separate houses." We got engaged a couple of months ago, and sure enough that's exactly what we're doing. :)
> I wanna do something simple and nice for my boyfriend
Are you familiar with the book "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman?
It suggests that each man and woman has a "love language" that speaks more to them,
one of these five: quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, or physical touch.
So each person in a couple could think about what is theirs, and let the other person know. For example, if a woman's "love language" is words of affirmation, she would consider a gift a nice gesture, but she'd rather hear the words of affirmation more often. If her husband is giving her plenty of gifts, she may still not feel loved.
A person sometimes expresses their own desired love language to their partner, assuming their partner has the same. So the woman may give her husband lots of words of affirmation, when really he is starved for some physical touch. If she learns what actually speaks to him, she can then express love in his desired form.
So, OP, consider or ask your boyfriend which of those five sorts of things would he most think shows your care for him. And while you're at it, let him know what most appeals to you.
My man - get yourself a safety razor and enjoy all of the luxuries that a single-bladed disposable razor offers without any of the downsides
The blades are so dirt cheap. Like they're 10 cents a piece if you buy it online.
Something like this: https://www.amazon.ca/Edwin-Jagger-Heather-Ladies-Double/dp/B00K6Z1R60/ref=sr_1_27?keywords=safety+razor+short+handle&qid=1567133206&s=gateway&sr=8-27
And blades like this: https://www.amazon.ca/Astra-Superior-Premium-Platinum-Double/dp/B001QY8QXM/ref=sr_1_5?keywords=safety+razor+blades&qid=1567133246&s=gateway&sr=8-5
The nice thing about a safety razor is when you want to clean out the hair, all you have to do is unscrew the top a few turns and it loosens up and gives you more clearance in-between the blade and the handle - the water washes the hair right out.
I go through about 1 blade a week, so my shaving bill is now literally 40-50 cents per month, and it is way better than disposables.
Trim and file your nails. If you cut her she will cut you.
Don't rush. There's no reason to go leaping toward the clitoris like a bull at it's gate. Take your time with her. Explore her body. Warm her up.
Talk to her. Tell her how sexy she is. How much you want her. Ask her how she likes to be touched. Have her guide your fingers in the motion she likes on her clit.
If something starts working and she tells you not to stop, don't stop doing whatever it is you're doing. I don't care if your hand feels like it's gonna fall off. Play through the pain. In my experience 90% of the work that actually feels good for most girls is going to happen without penetration.
Now, depending on the girl she may like a bit of g-spot stimulation. About two or three inches in her vagina on the upper wall, that's the bit that's nearest the clitoris, there may be a series of fleshy wrinkles. That's the g-spot. What you're gonna want to do here is make a sweeping sort of "come here" motion.
Start with a single finger, I like the middle one, and add more as she loosens up.
Here's some reading for you.
Just remember that the most important part of good sex is communication. Pay attention to what your partner is doing, saying, and feeling. GL HF
Oh, and dry = bad. Lube your fingers up.
These two books helped me:
A big take away is to stop worrying about impressing women with your niceness. Don't say or do things hoping to get anything in return, don't build a friendship hoping to turn it into something. Get some hobbies, work on yourself, and just be a real genuine nice person and things will turn around.
Two years ago I couldn't get a date to save my life. Now I date regularly. I attribute it to #1 not giving a fuck, #2 having more confidence, and #3 being in better shape. In that order.
My therapist recommended me this book: Feeling Good
It's not going to cure you or anything but I found it very enlightening. Firstly, it'll help you realize what you're feeling isn't completely foreign and can be understood. Secondly, it'll give you some quick and easy techniques to help change some of your thinking. I've always considered myself a very logical person but sometimes you don't realize how far astray you can get in certain areas.
I'd check it out, most local libraries will have it. It's a bit on the larger side but you can easily skip around to the relevant sections.
This is the purest and best way to go in my opinion. Not only will it make your romantic life better, it will make you better and more confident in all aspects of your life as well.
As for how to obtain it, I strongly recommend getting started with Mark Manson's book, "Models". It helped me through some tough times and built me up in a healthy way.
Mmm...I'd say 3 times a month or if there's a special occasion coming up.
I use this as my primary tool. The dual ends are pretty useful. I use the trimming edge on my chest hair, and use the shaving end to hut my tummy and pubes (I leave a train to the belly button though, and I trim that with the trimming edge).
I go over my pubic area with a razor after using the bodygroom though. It gets pretty close but not close enough, and the trimming edge will nick your perineal raphe,so I am gentle on the ball sack with the bodygroom.
For the most part my grooming is strictly personal preference. I'm not all overly sexually active but just feel like less hair appears and feel more clean.
Witch Hazel is the ingredient: it's a natural plant extract. You can get it at the drugstore, but unscented witch hazel smells a bit funky to some, so I would recommend one of the Thayer's varieties which smells quite pleasant, and also includes aloe vera and vitamin E for extra moisturizing.
If I sound like an infomercial for W_E, it's only because of how pleased I am with DE shaving since making the switch. It's transformed a painful chore into a hobby I enjoy. And if nothing else, you can save a ton of money: the blades I use are currently selling for 11 cents apiece on Amazon and they last about a week (4-5 shaves each). I spent $11 on two years worth of blades - how much did you spend on cartridges?
Here are a few books I would highly recommend for men (and women as well):
After that, if you have more specific issues in your story, like childhood trauma, there are more specific routes to go down. I also strongly encourage enlisting the aid of a counselor, therapist, and/or pastoral counselor if you or your partner are struggling with childhood baggage.
> So basically that would mean extroverts are rather at ease with taking risks?
Its not as black and white as that. Extroverts are often more motivated by their dopamine reward system. They get 'buzzed' more and the excitement at a potential reward is more likely to push them to overcome adversity. This buzz can drive them to act without considering the risks and can display as confidence and conviction.
Consider approaching a girl at a bar. If you just walk up to her straight away, you're more likely to act with confidence because you haven't had time to introspect on the possibility of rejection.
There's a whole bunch of different sliding scales of personality traits that are correlated, but not always present. This is why not all introverts are shy, not all extroverts are less sensitive etc etc.
The best starting book on introversion is the book Quiet. It also briefly covers high emotional sensitivity and high reactivity (which I think are pretty much the same thing; just a sensitive amygdala and nervous system). Theres also comparisons to extroverts and examinations of risk taking behaviour.
A good book on high sensitivity is The Highly Sensitive Person.
Both of these books talk about studies of infants who react more to stimuli who end up becoming introverts or highly sensitive later in life.
Edit: fixed link
Read this book! It is not about becoming a dick to others but learning to stand up for yourself
No More Mr Nice Guy by Dr Robert Glover
"Nice Guy Syndrome" trying too hard to please others while neglecting one's own needs, thus causing unhappiness and resentfulness. It's no wonder that unfulfilled Nice Guys lash out in frustration at their loved ones, claims Dr. Glover. He explains how they can stop seeking approval and start getting what they want in life, by presenting the information and tools to help them ensure their needs are met, to express their emotions, to have a satisfying sex life, to embrace their masculinity and form meaningful relationships with other men, and to live up to their creative potential.
I often recommend this book to guys who describe themselves like this. It's not going to solve all your problems, but it will definitely help you gain some much-needed perspective on what is keeping you back.
If you ask me, getting that perspective is all you need to start changing your life for the better. It isn't easy, but it's worth doing.
It isn't wrong to be kind - just be kind to everyone! :)
You start to push the "nice guy" barrier when you expect people to let you in their pants as a reward for your "kindness". Be kinda because you enjoy it, not because you expect some sort of reaction from others.
"No More Mr. Nice Guy" seems to be recommended around Reddit a lot. Might be worth a read.
I really identify with what you wrote, and I feel like two things that have helped me might help you and anyone else who reads this:
This is a great book on the topic: http://www.amazon.com/Models-Attract-Women-Through-Honesty-ebook/dp/B005EOTH24
I know people around here don't really like "pickup artists" but this book is very different from the stereotype. It's been a while since I read it, but the basic gist is that you should approach women in public in a very non-threatening, non-sexual, friendly way, just to have a small-talk type conversation about something silly like their computer or the book they're reading. You'd approach women the same way you'd approach a 60 year old man at a coffeeshop. If they're interested in continuing the conversation then you can go from there. If they're not interested, no big deal, the only thing that happened is that a stranger did not want to do small-talk with you.
It sounds really simple and it is, but I think the book is still worth reading because it expands on the ideas and helps instill the right mentality for doing this kind of approach.
Ready Player One was a pretty fantastic sci-fi book that was easy to read. I highly recommend it if you like SF books like Ender's Game by Orson Scott Card and Camouflage by Joe Haldeman (also two books I recommend).
Also, if you aren't sure what type of science fiction you might be interested in, get this book. You could probably find it somewhere else for much cheaper. This has short stories and excerpts from some of the best stories ever written in the science fiction genre, including Do Robots Dream of Electric Sheep, "Flowers For Algernon", and one of my personal favorites, Vaster than Empires, and More Slow.
Another resource to find some of best SF ever written is the Hugo and Nebula joint awards list. You could look at either list separately, but the joint list is probably more definitive.
Yes, this happened to me frequently. Best advice I got was to use a bidet to replace wiping. So happy I did. Water is the best solvent for this kind of cleaning and you don't have to use dry scratchy paper that never really gets it done. It was a game changer for me. I don't feel civilized without access to a bidet. Less than $30 on Amazon. http://smile.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B003TPGPUW/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1420015165&amp;sr=8-1&amp;pi=AC_SX200_QL40
New dad to a 1 year old here.
Talk to women. Talk to men. Talk to old women you have no sexual interest in about things that come to mind (yours or theirs). collect cool stories. Pursue hobbies for the sake of doing something awesome (more stories).
Hit the gym - a better body looks better and feels better.
I'm gonna list one book that has helped me tremendously in my life as far as confidence and being a man, its No More Mr. Nice Guy and it is a fantastic book that I highly recommend. The second book is by a guy who've I've read a lot of content of and he's basically a life coach. He just wrote a new book which I think is exactly what you're looking for, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life
well shit man, you're gonna make me cry. I've had a relationship very similar to this and I have to say there is nothing really like it. However as special as you might think this person is; just remember that part of that emotion can also be nostalgia. When it comes to our needs and wants as human beings in relationships. We tend to overlook the negatives for the positives because (depending on how much abuse we are willing to deal with) sometimes those precious moments of mundane life can be just as powerful if not more powerful than the heartbreak dealt in it's absence.
To be honest; ever since I was a kid I has a romanticized view of women. That through trial and error I would meet "the one". Someone who brings the concept of "kindred spirits" to the next level. They get your sense of humour, they don't disappear or mock when you do stupid shit; they understand your aspirations and dreams; but more importantly they deeply understand inner workings of your pathos while bringing their own interesting perspective and pathos along with them. To make a sort of intermingling of emotions; like oil and water shaken up in a bottle intermingling but never a carbon copy of each other; only complimenting each other.
The sad reality however is that this shit doesn't really exist..
Don't get me wrong; you can find close to this if you are lucky which is what you probably found with the girl you are describing. However the older I get the more I realize that the concept of "oneitis" only hurts you in the long run. What turns from a 2 year relationship; might turn into 2 later years of mourning of that prior relationship due to the concept of how "special" or "unique" this girl is. I know this feeling deeply as i've dealt with it a couple of times. The truth is that these girls aren't actually that "unique" or "special".
Of course everyone is unique in their own way and there are no perfect copies of anyone. However when you start to date a large amount of women the "unique" traits; become less "unique" and more similar. People aren't as special as they make themselves out to be. We have similar molds and the girl you thought that was like no other; probably has millions of very similar copies. I know this is making me out to be like a dick; but i wouldn't write this novel if I wasn't trying to pass on some painful knowledge that I received from previous relationships if I didn't relate to your struggle.
This last piece of advice is even going to sound more asshole-ish/nihilistic, but the way I was back in my other relationships (and correct me if i'm wrong about yours because i hate to project incorrect psychological analysis). I would generally put the girl on a pedestal and value what made her happy more than what made me happy. This is what ended all of my relationships in horrible ways. From cheating to 1 week breakups to flat out insulting rejections; a large portion of putting these girls on pedestals was valuing them more than myself. This comes from a position of broken self-esteem. The moment I started having less attatchment to the females in my life and started living for myself. The more girls i started dating and guess what; if you want to ever meet a girl that's similar to the experience you had with your SO. Then you are going to have to play the numbers game and I mean quickly. When i say this I don't mean sleep with as many women as possible, but meet and become on friendly terms with as many people as you possibly can and then select the ones that you connect with the most. This will not only make your dating life way better; but it will change the way you view relationships. You wont be so desperate to latch onto a girl, because you wont see the girl as angelic saint diety goddess. However as a person with their own attributes, idiosyncrasies and flaws. This is one of the most singular things that has improved my life; and since you seem to have shared a similar relationship past with mine I just thought I would share it with you.
Whether you take my advice or not, man
I wish you peace, brother.
Also if you want to dive deeper into why women are more attracted when you are less attatched/emotionally responsive read this:
It's PUA without being a complete narcissistic superficial dick.
My cousin is about 3 months along now and her husband had this on his coffee table.
I feel like he's handling it very well. Admits he's scared shitless and unsure of it all, but his friends and family are very supportive and he's thankful for it and takes any advice he can get from them.
Two things I've noticed to be miraculous:
I dealt with social anxiety issues in college which affected my grades and tanked my social life.
Once I graduated I decided to put a stop to it and pursued multiple customer service and sales roles. I ended up working in Banking as a teller when interest rates were abysmal and nobody trusted banks due to the mortgage crisis.
I also started reading a TON of books on social skills, psychology, dating, etc. The best book to help me be less shy and less anxious was [Models](Models: Attract Women Through Honesty https://www.amazon.com/dp/1463750358/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_BXmazb9EH2ZTQ), which is most commonly referred to as a Pickup Artist book
Now, I know the PUA community gets a bad rap (and deservedly so for some of it's advice/content), but I should point out that there are two camps:
The "inner game" is what "Models" is about and it helped me drastically improve my comfort in social situations and forge some deep friendships I wouldn't have previously.
This was my favorite “dad” book — funny, but surprisingly practical.
Make reading to your child part of bedtime routine. For my two, it played a big role in making books and reading a natural part of their environment later on, and the dividends of that pay off in school. Ditto for taking them to the library. Even when it seems silly reading to an infant, it’s a great way for them to hear your voice. And you can literally read them anything — newspaper, Reddit!
Spending time alone with a baby can get boring, so don’t be afraid to leave the house with them. I was a part-time stay at home dad for a few months, and I don’t know what I would have done if I never left the house with my son!
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts https://www.amazon.com/dp/0802473156/ref=cm_sw_r_awd_H8yAub19MAMFC
Not gonna lie, I read this and really enjoyed it.
What really surprises me is, well, how women view men. Whenever /r/askmen has threads asking the woman subscribers what they've learned, "that men have feelings/insecurities" is always a popular post. It's great to hear that they've learned that, but kind of worrisome to know that they had to learn it.
To quote from your /r/askwomen thread:
>That people are people, and men aren't these mysterious mystical terrifying powerful unfeeling creatures... they are human beings and not that different from me.
Which sounds beautiful until you realize that was the surprise. Here's what she actually thought about men:
>For a long time, I thought men were immune to that... that they didn't ever feel anything or care about people or women, and never were insecure or worried or anything like that.
I don't mean to pick on /r/AskWomen or that particular user. It's just one example of a common opinion about men. It also bothered me when reading about Self-Made Man. Norah Vincent says that she thought living as a man would be all about power, privilege, and freedom. So shocked was she that this wasn't the case she ended up in group therapy and ultimately cut the experiment short. Along with "men can feel sad too", she also had other revelations, such as "husbands love their wives". Thanks for the insights, Norah. I have always felt that the reason the author had so many difficulties and "revelations" during her experiance living as a man is that she went in with so much prejudice and so little empathy.
Apart from a few aspects of menstruation, nothing I read in /r/askwomen was a surprise. I certainly disagree with much of what is said there, to the point of being an ass, but disagreeing has never prevented me from seeing their perspective. The biggest surprise about women over the past year has been about how they view men.
I never realized how alien I was to women. It's scary and disheartening, and I'm hugely appreciative to the women in my life that treat me like a human being after discovering so many assumed I was an unfeeling robot with a sex-drive. At the same time, it's made me hugely distrustful and unwilling to open up to them, emotionally. And as such I end up perpetuating the myth.
Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy
Huge leaps in understanding the human mind, great for anyone who wants to better themself.
I agree with this advice. Pick up the book, the 5 Love Languages ( http://www.amazon.com/The-Love-Languages-Secret-Lasts/dp/0802473156 ). Every person has a different way of communicating and receiving love.
Fight Club - It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything
Runner-up: No More Mr Nice Guy - take back your manhood!! Models is awesome too, someone mentioned it on here. I think these go well together.
For those that need to learn from a literal professional. Here is a nsfw video of Nina Hartley explaining how to eat pussy. https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5712f4fcadf9c
Take notes y'all.
For those who want a more scientific approach, there's a book called she comes first.
Breaks down the female anatomy, gives really solid advice.
Between that book, that video, and responding to my partners body (that's the most important key, be aware of your partner and respond to their body) I've never had a partner that wasn't amazed at how well it all went. Sometimes I tell them that I learned it thanks to a book and a porno. Sometimes I just act like I'm a sex god. Really I just know it's because lots of guys don't know even the basics of sex and so all I have to do is not be shit at it :D
Oh also, do kegels. And reverse kegels. When I'm going at it, I'll do reverse kegels, and if I'm about to finish, and don't want to yet, I'll pull out, and do kegels just a hold for about 10 seconds.
Models: Attract Women Through Honesty
Not because it revealed some great hidden secret or changed the way I thought about women or how the world works. It validated what I had been thinking for some time.
Best advice is buying and reading this book. BE PREPARED, is a quick read with practical advice like How to baby proof a hotel room in 5 min, what to pack in a Guy diaper bag. Be Prepared book
I recommend reading these 3 books: No More Mr Nice Guy, How to Get Out of the Friend Zone and The Disease To Please: Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome.
Merkur Model 180 Long Handled Safety Razor
Taylor of Old Bond Street Sandalwood Shaving Cream Bowl, 5.3-Ounce
Tweezerman Men's Shaving Brush
100 Astra Superior Premium Platinum Double Edge Safety Razor Blades
And some Jojoba Oil
Read this book and then ask him to do the same: The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts https://www.amazon.com/dp/0802473156/ref=cm_sw_r_awd_8nHIub1QFBKNX
Get a safety razor like this one by Merkur. You can even find kits that come with shaving cream, and a brush. The blades are super cheap too so you end up saving money over time.
They all kind of work the same, but this is the one I have. It is placed under the back of the seat and attaches to the fresh water supply coming out of the wall. It's amazing.
I use the Philips Norelco Bodygroom and it legit does wonders especially if you get hairy down there like me.
I actually got one after watching Conan and hearing him make fun of his producer Jordan for having one. It's really helpful and I prefer it over using a razor or anything else now.
Since I have a girlfriend, major manscaping every 2 weeks, light trimming before I expect sexy times
TOOLS- GET ONE OF THESE Norelco BodyGroom pro. Its works great on all below the neck hair.
Trimmed short around the base. Sack is trimmed short, not bald for sweat control reasons. Shaft is shaved.
you win 100 percent of the shots you dont take right
it's weird, but going up to a group of girls and chatting to them shows a lot of balls, granted you know how to hold a conversation.
check out this book models if you haven't already, might be helpful
It's like someone wrote an actual manual for babies. Best practical advice I found (and I'm the mom.) The book is geared towards dads but the advice is mostly for both parents.
Also an hilarious read - they included a chapter called Bidding Farewell to the Breast
When did using your words become a problem for people?! Is she deaf? Then learn how to sign "I love you" and be fucking done with it.
Want more than that? Then learn their love language and do that. Don't know what I'm talking about? Then Read a damn book!
Only people who have no clue who they truly are ask these sorts of questions, so now's the perfect time to find yourself. To be able to answer those lame questions people ask you. What did you do over the weekend? What kind of work do you want to get into? What are you hobbies? You get the picture. If you're slightly interested in snowboarding, buy a day pass. If you kind of like taking pictures, buy a used camera. If you've always enjoyed rock and roll, sell your soul. Learn to be passionate about something, anything. Girls have nothing to do with how you define yourself.
After my college relationship ended I made the mistake of dating people. I said the exact same thing as you: I have so much freedom! Dating is not as fun as you think. It's time consuming and it just doesn't work in my age group (I was 20).
> I do have a bit of apprehension over whether or not I missed something during a "critical period" in my life.
You probably did and you then again you probably didn't. Who knows? Maybe the "critical period" in your life is right now. Trying to relive the college days you lost is delusional; you can't go back in time. So bring yourself back into the present and start living!
That said, I can't stop you from doing anything so if you really want to go into dating I'd start with this book.
Also these helped me, maybe they'll help you.
IIRC it explains ways people who need admiration enjoy receiving it.
My trick is keeping my asshole clean so my butthole doesn't itch. This fucking thing is the best $26 I ever spent.
Learn to eat pussy really really good. She won’t care if you cum in 2 seconds or 2 hours, especially after she’s cum twice.
Pro Tip: Read this book... She Comes First: The Thinking... https://www.amazon.com/dp/0060538260?ref=yo_pop_ma_swf
I'm 28 and struggle with interacting in a non-platonic way (went on my first date at 25). There has been some improvement though - I don't have any major embarrassments because of reading about dating for so long, but people do judge you more harshly if you're older and awkward.
This book was pretty helpful for me.
If you are doing things for your SO expecting them to reciprocate you will have a very long wait. Perhaps in your next life. Not because they are selfish but because they value different things than you. Read this book, it is very popular, https://www.amazon.com/Love-Languages-Secret-that-Lasts/dp/080241270X
This book is pretty good:
"No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Dr Robert Glover
It is short and well worth your time even if you don't have the issues described and treated in the book.
Seriously the best book about oral sex ive read. I recommend reading the whole thing http://www.amazon.com/She-Comes-First-Thinking-Pleasuring/dp/0060538260
Generally you don't. But if you really want to try Here is the book that will give you the best advice.
Get a bidet attachment instead. It will quickly pay for itself in saved toilet paper and be much more forgiving to your septic tank.
Try one of these things: Philips Norelco Bodygroom Series 7100
I'm pretty sure the shaver side is engineered specifically for trimming your balls.
I've come to love this one! http://www.amazon.com/Merkur-Long-Handled-Safety-Razor/dp/B000NL0T1G/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1414821841&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=mercer+razor
I've had success with both a straight razor and the 'old school' Safety razor.
Blades are dirt cheap and you can afford to toss em away after one use. You can get a pack of 50 for about 5 bucks. Witchhazel as an aftershave as well.
If it's a money issue, I might recommend him getting a DE safety razor. I bought one for $20 (at an antique mall), and I get 100 blades for $10.
I pimp this book to people pretty often.
Its ostensibly about marriage relationships, but it really improved all the interconnected relationships in my family. Your dad might just not be a talky type. Mine rarely says "I love you" out loud, but he says it often in other ways.
Read No More Mr. Nice Guy
It's a great book showing how you're really not that nice. You've fallen for a shallow Nice Guy syndrome and you're doing more harm than good. I was like this - this book opened my eyes to how shitty I was being...
No More Mr.Nice Guy helped me a lot. Not just for romantic relationships but life in general.
I used to put my needs last while helping friends/family etc and feel a lot of resentment when they didn't drop everything and help me when I needed it. This book showed me that it was my own fault because the other person doesn't know what you're thinking unless you tell them. The other benefit is that it teaches you to not play it safe all the time, which helps people remember you.
There sure are a lot of Nice Guys on this site. Check out this book, it helped me a lot: http://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy/dp/0762415339/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1344531172&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=no+more+mr+nice+guy
Merkur FTW! http://www.amazon.com/Merkur-Long-Handled-Safety-Razor/dp/B000NL0T1G/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1459122717&amp;sr=8-21&amp;keywords=shaving+kit&amp;refinements=p_72:2661618011&amp;linkCode=sl1&amp;tag=addourscom-20&amp;linkId=6d423b293672e355131ea6bfe2cecb14
OP should read, scratch that, OP PLEASE read "No More Mr Nice Guy" http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0762415339?pc_redir=1405667687&amp;robot_redir=1 OP is exactly the type of guy this book was written for
20 for the razor
20 for 2 100 ct blades
If you were to shave everyday and swtich out the blade. That set up will last you 200 days. If you were to shave every other day, that set up will last you 400 days.
Price wise you cannot beat DA shaving.
Self-Made Man: One Woman's Year Disguised as a Man is near the top of my reading list. It's about a woman who disguises herself as a man for a year and tries to merge into "male" society. The reviews sound promising and I'm really interested in it.
I use a similar model and can't recommend it enough. I like the results of shaving with an actual razor better but it's easier to do with the electric razor and causes me less irritation. I have pretty sensitive skin in general so I always get a bit of razor burn when I shave with a real razor, no matter what part of my body it is.
Instead of a post, some free publicity for a book that basically answers that question
Here are some links for the product in the above comment for different countries:
Amazon Smile Link: get this book
This bot is currently in testing so let me know what you think by voting (or commenting). The thread for feature requests can be found here.
Actually, no, your sample size is small, and thus, prone to aberration.
Many dudes have less than 10% success rate. I think an attractive, assertive woman should have higher than that, but whatevz. The thing you might not grok yet is that when you're putting yourself out there, you're gonna get shot down. Women typically don't understand how much rejection men get, and how often, and how much we have to overcome it. If you're curious about the dynamic reversal, check this book out:
Read No More Mr. Nice Guy - and look for one his local groups or book some session with Dr. Glover.
Highly recommend her book Self Made Man
I highly recommend the book Feeling Good. It's therapy in book form.
Yes. I use this bad boy:
[A safety razor] (http://www.amazon.com/Merkur-Long-Handled-Safety-Razor/dp/B000NL0T1G/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1395519333&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=merkur+safety+razor). Seriously. You'll get a better shave and the blades are dirt cheap compared to the garbage sold by Gillette and Shick. And they last longer.
I installed this one ($25) just recently. Took like 20 minutes.
I have a few sources you can look at (mostly from the /r/sex wiki ):
on the subject.
I hope this gives you the info you need.
Norah Vincent interview for anyone who's curious. Skip to 9:25 if it doesn't do so automatically. The interview was about her experiences while writing "Self Made Man".
Read this book:
The techniques used in this book will teach you with coping mechanisms, it will teach you to differentiate between unhealthy and healthy thought processes. It will give you "homework" assignments, things to do when you are feeling down or depressed.
It's an amazing book.
But again, this is me and this is what I do when I reach my emotional breakdown. I spend a good 20 years of my life reading about psychology and philosophy. So, my mind instantly seeks out "understanding" and "knowledge" when I run into a problem. Recently I am also getting into sociology and meditation. The mind is an incredible thing and we only know so little of it.
Well I don't know about a week.....But here's a story of a lesbian woman who dressed up and pretended to be a man for a whole year. She also wrote a book about it.
no more mr nice guy from Robert A. Glover
https://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy/dp/0762415339 or get it form torrent .
Here is the one I got, its powered by water pressure and because of that there is no electricity and they last a really long time. Astor Bidet Fresh Water Spray Non-Electric Mechanical Bidet Toilet Seat Attachment CB-1000 https://www.amazon.com/dp/B003TPGPUW/ref=cm_sw_r_other_apa_rwh8ybK95BNM3
I know I'm late to the party, but congratulations. I only ever give two pieces of advice:
If you're new to things read this.
Also, get your hands on this book if you can
Have you read Self-Made Man? I'm reading through it now, and although I feel there are some feminist biases that the author has trouble seeing past, she does make some interesting insights and comparisons with regards to how the world expects men vs. women to act/think.
Here's a book from a certified therapist.
I was the same way, this book helped me out a bit.
Check out the book Models by Mark Manson. He discusses this in depth.
Buy this one
> Electric trimmer
It should be noted that there's trimmers specifically designed for ball shaving.
Philips Norelco BG2040/34 BodyGroom 7100
Here's an example There's a nozzle inside that you can adjust back and forth for a higher/lower aim. There are dials on the side that control force and temperature. It's just a stream with a little force. It's very controlled. I've never had or have known of any incidents where it went or sent somewhere or something it shouldn't have.
here's one for $27
I use a double edge safety razor like THIS. Most store bought razors can maintain their sharpness for one or two shaves, but this has cheap and changeable blades you buy by the dozens for the same price. It's easy to throw in a new blade and shave away each time. I stress that it is a skill that is learned and you will most likely cut yourself the first few times, but once you get the hang of it, it will outperform any mainstream razors (schick, gillete..etc) you can buy. I get 100 blades for about $24 US and that lasts me all year. I use THESE blades specifically.
For less messy amazon links you can extract the part after "/dp/" in
and make it:
Or via smile link:
Plz send any recommendations via PM
This might provide insight, since I've only ever been on one side of the fence.
Self-Made Man: My Year Disguised as a Man is a book by Norah Vincent
No more mr nice guy.... read it, it will help you more than you can currently understand. After you get done with that read When I say no I feel guilty. Neither of them are fun, but oftentimes its bitter medicine that cures the ailments.
>She's my princess.
She's not a princess. She's a person. A deeply flawed person. I suggest you read this, it changed my life:
Give this a read. Basically, the theme is to constantly be investing in yourself. There is no short answer, unfortunately.
It didn't help me at all, seems like the therapist just wanted me to keep talking and talking, without really providing a cure to my problems. It felt weird to spout my negativity and open my mind onto one person. Probably depends on your therapist though. My therapist was all smiles and happiness and it seemed off putting. I personally wanted someone who was hard on me, had me work harder to beat my depression.
I found what really helped was reading David Burns's book Feeling Good, which helped me realize that most of my problems were from me being too critical of myself. That book combined with good hygiene, healthy sleep habits, a gym routine, and hard work pretty much killed my depression.