(Part 3) Best products from r/BDSMAdvice

okay so im thinking you mean something that penetrate the vagina and backdoor entry in the same time. Could also be something like a dildo with two ends or a trap-on that goes inside vagina.
you have choice depending on what you exactly want
there is the we-vide, this is a vibrator that could easily fit just in the vagina or could be put in double penetration and vibrate with a remote or a phone https://we-vibe.com/dual pretty that not what you whant but its easy to find.

There is the kind of belt with plug like this one who is more akin to chastity belt https://www.amazon.ca/Goods-Store-ca-Anal-Plug-Chastity-Removable/dp/B07HYT7B1W/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1538680647&sr=8-1&keywords=chastity+female+double
Its seem bad quality but its for example. this kind of thing is bulky and harder to find i have a couple of site that carry this kind of thing but amazon and Chinese selling site like hdgate sometime carry lesser quality stuff you must be aware of that still i have some link for you
http://www.wholesale-bdsm.com/chastity-belts-female-chastity-belts-c-137_138.html?page=1&sort=20a
http://www.wholesale-bdsm.com/vaginal-anus-plugs-c-140.html
https://fr.dhgate.com/product/female-adjustable-model-t-stainless-steel/182097374.html#cppd-3-5|null:103:r1522652181
You could also go with something like this kind of toys, maybe leather harnesses or tight jean could help keeping that in place.
https://www.sextoy.com/product/DJ5009-01/the-naturals-double-penetrator
https://www.sextoy.com/product/CNVEN-AE-WF-9933-2/triple-touch-massager-pink
https://www.sextoy.com/product/NW26192/amore-three-way-lover-purple-vibrator
https://www.amazon.com/Vagina-Female-Products-Stainless-Chastity/dp/B01N6I0NNO
If this thing don’t fit your need I have a massive site of shop and online store reference just dig what you need.
http://www.femdom-resource.com/bdsm-equipment/
Also you could simply find a good but plug and use kegel ball in the same time
try to keep us updated on the choice hope its help

Can second the idea of you coming along to the Pro Domme at least the first time to watch and maybe understand some, even if it feels super uncomfortable. In my marriage, I'm the kinky one, and he's vanilla. HE actually arranged for us to go see a Pro Domme together... so I could experience irl submission (yummy) and he could watch, learn (get hard, LOL). If she's a good Pro Domme, you can each talk to her in advance, if you like, and tell her some of what is going on. This context was helpful for our session, and she was almost like a sex therapist, too.

Going forward, the good thing about him seeing a Pro Domme is ... that she's a PROfessional. She isn't interested in stealing him from you, building a relationship with him, etc. From a fidelity standpoint, I think it's the safest option for him to fulfill these needs within your marriage.

There are a number of good books about carving out some sort of poly arrangement in a marriage, much like your husband described. One that I thought was good was "Designer Relationships" by Michaels and Johnson.

This is a really great question.

I'm seeing a lot of service type answers in the comments, and for that aspect, I think it depends upon the style of service that you and your dom enjoy. For my Dom, he has a very stressful job and would rather I just "make it so" with a lot of the assignments/tasks he gives me, so he can relax and think about other things. The tasks can be anything from making dinner, doing laundry, buying household items before we run out(tp, medication, lotion, etc.) to things like plan and prepare international trips including things like airfare, hotel, activities. Other people may assist their Dom, by providing them a choice of options and then the Dom would get final say. Of course, as with anything, there are lots of ways to provide service. If you're inclined towards service, I would recommend the book Real Service as it helped me and my Dom have the conversation of what kind of service do we like, what style do I tend to do, what is acceptable for us, the mindset behind certain styles, and gave us ideas on what is realistic for us.

More importantly how do you define soft or subtle dominance? How subtle are you wanting?

Plungers with an acrylic handle ( put a condom on top for sanitary reasons ) stay away from wood handled plungers.

Sharpie/permanent markers ( go to an art supply store they have the big ones ),

Screw drivers handles ( get yourself a hobby that requires a screwdriver constantly like building retropi for friends so they don't ask why the tools are always in your room.
You could buy your own and have a valid reason like the ones the family issues didn't work for the small screws)
Also if you work on Dell computers for example they used torx bits your family will rarely need them for something and the handles come in all shapes and sizes.
The handles of most tools will work in that sense.

Also sometimes non phallic items will work find something like a bed corner to grind ( an ex deformed her bed because she always used the same corner of her bed when she was horny).

You can get some very small toys on Amazon just ship them to an Amazon locker so your parents don't open your package by mistake.
This one is the size of a lipstick and my friend always has it in her purse along with some alcohol wipes ( go to a pharmacy and you can find the prepackaged alcohol wipes that come in a package similar to the wet wipes given out at barbeque restaurants/buffalo wild wings for cleaning it.

Novel Creations Sensuelle Joie 15 Function Bullet, Black https://www.amazon.com/dp/B018OXAGJ4/

This one isn't phallic shaped so it's easier to hide.

Crave Vesper Vibrator Necklace (Silver) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00PR3QK3G/

DM if you need any other suggestion I help my friends with this stuff all the time.

If you're looking to work up to larger toys, there are sets designed just for that. We have a set of silicone toys that are comfortable. I tend to worry about the same thing as you, and so I always get something with a wide base. Here's the set that I purchased most recently and it starts pretty small and works up to a decent, but not insane size.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01CU5AE0I/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_rE7NBbX630AB3

Somebody else suggested a plug with a tail, and they are definitely fun, however I wouldn't rely on mots of them to be used to retrieve the plug, and I definitely wouldn't take it out by pulling on the tail normally. They just aren't designed for that. Except for the ones that are designed for tugging. If you're interested in that, shoot me a message and I'll send you a link to one.

Most importantly though, use lube and don't got for more than a few hours at a time with it in until you've been doing it for a while.

I went through a couple of shitty harnesses from the local sex shop and then discovered the glory of the Spare Parts harness. Very adaptable, fits all kinds of dildos, super secure — very much like a rock climbing harness. Certainly not the most aesthetic harness but, by far, the best. Both of my male partners like 8-10” dildos and I feel like I have lots of control. Only downside: no vagina slit so you can’t be pleasures vaginally or anally unless you insert something in advance: SpareParts HardWear Joque (Double Strap) Harness - Black Size A (20-50inch hips) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B002DOJR1O/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_yY75BbP5Z64S0

Hi, new here, just kinda looking around a bit. I came to see if this would be a good place to get advice on some questions (that's another thread) and so far it seems like a great community.

I have this (or something very similar we've had it for a while.) and so it works great. I can wear it and get very rough with my wife and nothing moves annoyingly. It's also very comfortable.

That said I don't have any other basis of comparison as it's the only strapon we've tried.

Yes, it very much a thing they even have accessories ... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00GXNPEJ0/

https://limitsunleashed.com/2017/01/05/pet-play/

Cat, dog, wolf and fox are of course the most common types, but I definitely know quite a few pig and cow play people.

There is also a whole different sort of pig play in Queer subculture.

Piggy play does sometimes involve messy eating, squeeling, and usually a fair amount of anal stuff. Along similar lines, cow play often includes a lot of breast play and milking fetishes are commonly mixed in.

You’ll definitely find it there. I thought I just liked being spanked, and it turns out I have a LOT of kinks that I wouldn’t have even known about otherwise.

When I was first beginning, someone here recommended this book by Michael Makai. It pretty much covers the basics.

And if you don’t know if you’re a top or a bottom then these two are good reads as well!

Here's my favorite set
3pcs Anal Butt Plug Luxury Jewelry Design Stainless Steel Fetish Large+Medium+Small Anal Stimulation Sex Toys for Unisex and Couples (Three-Piece Suit) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B075GWQJKG/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_xZu3Bb7BVY5WK

And here's a silicon set we have that we like (and gives you an idea.)we like the base as rather then a circle it's a line that sits better. None are as big as in the photo.

Anal Plug Silicone Butt Plug,Riodong Anal Sex Toys in Black (Three-piece Suit) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06XKCZ962/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_v7u3Bb2RJT7R0

Also for lube we just use coconut oil and have for years. It works best for anal we feel.

The time it takes varies from person to person, but I was surprised how easy it was for me.

I drank loads of water. I shot for a gallon a day.
I stimulated a few times a day. A lot of info says to stimulate each nipple a few times a day for 10-20 minutes, but I didn't find that to be necessary for me.
I also ate foods that are known to help production. I ate a bowl of oatmeal for breakfast most days and also bought a bag of flax seeds to put a couple tablespoons into my protein shakes.
You can also purchase nipple suction devices like these: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00A8D7CUU/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_hWd7BbYKWED57
That's actually how I got my first drop or two before I'd even started trying to induce.
And, lastly, you can take fenugreek. You can buy it OTC at most drugstores that have any kind of holistic choices.

With some patience, you should be lactating relatively quickly.

I purchased this shower enema and I've found it to be very useful! We use the rubber hose that it comes with which makes it very comfortable to insert. Something I'd warn about (being on the receiving end of this device multiple times) is to watch how fast the flow of water is. It can easily go from a simple cleaning out, to a "Oh my god, I need to spend the next hour on the toilet because the water keeps coming." I've only had it happen once, so there is that. Either way, they are super convenient, and as long as you don't have kids you can leave it setup all the time.

Option one... Practice. With your previous partner you practiced getting into subspace with these triggers, now practice not going into subspace with these triggers. Have a friend say the triggers while you practice doing the opposite of going into subspace (e.g. become more alert, more cautious, etc).

Option two... Hypnosis. Subspace is a trace state, and these triggers are essentially a hypnotic suggestion (which you can do through practice like you did; you don’t need a swinging watch like in the movies). Anything done by hypnosis can be undone by hypnosis. If you’d like to go this route I’d suggest vetting with great care who you’d use for your hypnotist to remove these triggers; there are many jerks, abusers, and ignorant people running around as hypnotists. If I found myself in your shoes, personally I’d ask Mark Wiseman (Mind Play, FetLife, Tumblr), or, if was busy or unavailable, someone else who is well known and presents at many hypnosis conventions.

My Dom is an authoritarian dominant. IE, he is a mental dominant. We don't do much of the physical, but mentally... *shiver*. Absolutely erotic to have a man that can dominate me mentally and be my intellectual equal.


If you are looking to know more about the lifestyle, I found these books by Morpheus and Nina Hartley to be helpful:

How to Be Kinky: A Beginner's Guide to BDSM

by Morpheous

How to Be Kinkier: More Adventures in Adult Playtime

by Morpheous and Nina Hartley

Take a look at r/DDlg and r/littlespace (if you’ve not seen them already!) 🙂

Also, this book The Big Book for Littles: Tips &... https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1535100818?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share is really good. My Little has it, and I’ve read a bit of it, and it’s useful for both Littles and Daddies 🙂