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Ok, here's my assessment. It's not 'trying harder' that will get you the man you want, you've been doing your best, I'm sure. It sounds to me like you have done your best; what you could think to do so far. You've not gotten the results you want, and now are rationalising giving up. So be patient and try more and different ways to add value to yourself. I say that because a good prospective partner, generally speaking, will be snapped up eventually. You are in no way hopeless. There is plenty of reason to believe you can find someone if you adjust your approach to do more of what works.


It may sound a little harsh for the previous guy's post to say you're not trying hard enough. Maybe another way to put that is to say that there are things that you haven't tried yet, or simply that you need to expand your repertoire.


For example: your voice. That's a rationalization. Changing your voice is totally possible. A voice coach can help you more than you dream, if you do the work. There are good videos on youtube that you can use to learn a more pleasing voice if you don't want to pay a coach. I knew a woman who did this as part of a makeover and the effect was stunning. Couldn't believe my ears.


My acne responded really well to the the ketogenic diet: /r/keto



> both my father and sibling are antisocial, and have communicated to me that I am expected to look after them

That's what they want. Who says they must get what they want, and you DON'T get to have what you want? Where did that rule come from? That's a rationalization.



>I've been realizing that the idea of a woman willing to put her career aside and sacrificing a large part of her independence is not for me personally.


So your career means more to you than marriage/family of your own? I don't hear it in your statements. If you were really happy to be focused on your career to the exclusion of a relationship, you wouldn't have written this post - you'd be happily focusing on your career, not giving men a second thought. That's a rationalization.


Do you see how the next two comments contradict each other?


>sacrificing a large part of her independence is not for me ...


>a handicapped sibling and a disabled father to care for now. No one else will care for them, the obligation has fallen on me


Sacrificing yourself is not for you... that's why you are going to care for your father and brother instead of allowing someone else to care for them and having your own family? Wait, what? That's a rationalization.


>Just getting married and having children while serving in the military isn't an issue for me.


I don't understand. You mean, it's not an issue, because you could do it easily, but you don't want to? Or it's not an issue because you think it's impossible? That's possibly a rationalization, I need clarification.


>I began to date recently for the first time as a woman in her early 20s, and found nothing no men worthwhile in my accessible range.



Fixed that for you. Men are not 'things'. Could it be that you are objectifying men in revenge for them not choosing you? If there is no one in your accessible range, does that mean that you are not using a realistic relationship/sexual market value (RMV or SMV) for yourself ? If there is no one worthwhile for you, that may be a sign that you are setting your sights too high. Or that you are hoping that certain men will find you attractive, they don't, and so the ones who do find you attractive, you reject because you are angry at men for rejecting you, and it just feels good to think certain men are beneath you?


This totally sounds like hypergamy, or 'women marry up'. This is the dynamic that, in a woman with lower self understanding, leads to her getting herself knocked up by the Chad she fancies, then finding a chump to pay for the kid who, once his natural masculinity kicks in from having a woman, will eventually want to assert himself, but then he will realize he's been played for a fool when the woman is obviously not attracted to him. Another MGTOW is born. Or (speaking from personal experience not having an involved dad) in the worst case scenario, she's raising the kid with no father.







How many men have you tried dating? How many of the ones whom you turned down did you actually give a fair shake before writing them off? In John Molloy's Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others, a significant percentage of women in his research project who had written off various men for one reason or another went back through their phone books and gave the guy another chance, and wound up marrying him.


Some men can and will grow into the role of Captain - there are a lot of men out there who don't even know it's possible to be a Captain because of the way our culture devalues masculinity. That doesn't mean they can't ever do it. You'll feel pretty disappointed if you ever meet one you turned down who later grew into a stud because he had a woman believe in him. I have to wonder how many of the 'things' you turned down just need the love of a feminine woman to bring out their masculine nature?


>I love caring for others and finding ways to support them


Are you really as caring and supportive as you claim?


Try giving care and support to some of those 'things' at whom you turned up your nose and see what happens. Maybe you are only interested in caring for and supporting a man who gives you tingles? What if one of those men just needs someone to believe in him and support him, to turn him into a more sexy version of himself? If any woman here can learn about RPW and increase her SMV/RMV, and the same is true of men in /r/marriedredpill, wouldn't it stand to reason that any unattached man could similarly raise his SMV? Or would that ruin it if you had to help open some guy's mind to his better nature?

Wow sorry about your loss but congratulations about your inheritance. The thing is, this is a big deal and both of you need to be ready for the internal mental change that needs to come with such a sudden increase in assets. Most people who win the lottery go right back to their original comfort zone because they just didn't know any other way.

You now have enough money to afford a really good financial advisor (and it will be worth paying for a good one). If you and your husband can get on the same page, meaning that neither of you really know how to handle this much money, then you can agree to both out your trust into a third party expert. This person is better equipped to tactfully tell your husband that $2.5 mil cannot simply sit in a savings account, and will give much better advice for how to invest it than you personally could either. And they will know how to honor a pre-nup without making it a trust issue.

You are a team, so don't let money get in between you, and remember that you need to trust your husband to be the captain and to handle big decisions with the finances. This being said, you can make it your mission to help you both get educated about wise ways to invest.

Edit: Also, I highly recommend you both read the book Secrets of the Millionaire Mind and even attend the free Millionaire Mind Intensive seminar. Best thing my SO and I have ever done for our financial success and really helps couples get on the same page. Wish they taught us this stuff (and TRP!) in school instead of all the other BS.

You already seem to have it pretty well together. Here are a few of my tips on self-improvement.

The general, most abstract idea is:

Identify your strengths, weaknesses and goals.

Give yourself and your life situation an honest look, and figure out what you're good at, and what not so much. Don't be overly positive or negative. That's counter-productive.

Goals are tougher. Most people have no idea what their goals are above "family and money" until way late in their life, and that is fine. But what are the details? Do you want a well paid but demanding career that fulfills you, or just an easy-enough job to pay your bills? Do you want to be stay-at-home mom, or work? Figure out the small stuff. Goals will pop-up from that.

In general, my rule of thumb is that until you figure out what you want to do, concentrate on making money and finding a good partner. They will make achieving any goals you figure out over time easier.

With that in mind, the second phase is:

Work on those strengths that will help you achieve your goals

Address those weaknesses that prevent you from achieving your goals

It's as easy as that. But something tells me you're looking for more specific suggestions.

Here are a few concrete things, that usually help the most people.

• Get fit. And I don't mean it in model-figure way. Build strength and endurance. Don't become just another cardio bunny. Touching those free-weights in the gym won't instantly make you "too muscular". It will help you live and think better. The good looks are just a side effect. Funny how that works, isn't it?
  
• Study. If you want to go to college, pick something that will pay for itself. Please no PhD in feminist dance therapy. College degree is not a guarantee of work any more, so make sure to do your research, and validate applicability of the education you're about to drop tens of thousands on for the job market.
  
• Meditate. You probably have a cliche idea peddled by Hollywood that meditation is achieving some kind of enlightenment, or woo-woo psychic powers. Yeah, no. Meditation will help you learn to control your mind. Like sport helps you control your body. That's it. It should help with the anxiety you're experiencing. Meditation for fidgety skeptics. Is pretty good start, but please don't treat meditation like some kind of nu-age bible.
  
• Meet new people. But not on a superficial level to collect Facebook friends. Basis of any kind of partnership, including friendship, is reciprocity. Identify people who are looking for genuine reciprocal friendship, and build your own social circle from them.
  
• Learn from people who had more time to think about things than you have. You don't have to figure out everything yourself. Human history has huge repository of human wisdom. Today, we have turned philosophy into an academic subject, but not long time ago, it was a method to discover what kind of life you want to live. I'm sure his name will come up in this thread eventually, but have a look at Jordan Peterson. You may have heard of him because of recent controversies, but the reason why so many people follow his works is because he does have some pretty down-to-earth suggestions on how to live your life. That being said, don't make anyone into your own personal guru. Your approach should be to take what you need from what anyone who puts forward good ideas, with good explanations. But don't be afraid to ignore, or respectfully disagree with the rest.

So maybe that tool you mention isn't a bad idea, especially if he isn't in any way sentimental. You might be (like me), and therefore think you need to provide something like that, but he isn't and recognizing that makes the "un-thoughful' gift, really thoughtful in it's own way. Maybe if money's tight and he's not prioritizing it, he might not get it even if he needs it, or he gets a cheaper one. And since you know he needs it, perfect.

As a handyman he might appreciate other useful tools, maybe something he can "edc" (every day carry, I think those make great gifts) like a Leatherman Multitool (though he might already have one). Very common tools men like to spend on and commonly even have hobbies around are: knives, flashlights, watches. Maybe his wallet is falling apart and he'd appreciate a nice new leather one. You obviously couldn't just blindly pick a random one of these, it will depend on what he currently has and what he needs as well as knowing his tastes slightly and research on your part (helpful communities all over Reddit) obviously don't get cheap stuff.

Shoes are a very hit/miss thing, so I wouldn't really go there unless you're super confident. But if you are... maybe something from the Red Wing heritage line as a kind of work shoe that still looks good (multi-functionality).

Possibly bourbon or scotch? If he is into that (do some research and get a nice one) A beer brewing kit?

Hell, maybe a real comfortable leather couch if he doesn't have one currently, would be an amazing gift.

These are just ideas, there might be something he already needs or wants but can not justify the cost...

Some of these MIGHT be too simple in themselves to probably give as an important gift though, so I'd say you can always get more than one (but remember it's better to give one really good one, than multiple cheap ones), or combine it with an experience.


A cabin trip, as mentioned, does sound like a good time, if he appreciates it, make sure he has wood to split, a fire to start :).

Speaking from experience, both my own and long, active involvement in the poly community.

One-sided open marriages are almost always a recipe for disaster. Your chance of success is staggeringly low. You also want to consider what open means to you as far as sexual and emotional involvement.

If he only wants ONS or pick-up play, he's going to spend a lot of time chasing it with lower chance of success. That means higher chance of frustration for him. If he wants a FWB or secondary partner, then that's a big change in relationship dynamics. Do the 3 of you hang out ever? How much time can he spend with her? Can she spend the night, and if so, which bed dues he sleep in?

He's likely to develop feelings for any FWB or certainly a secondary partner. If he's after ONS, then he's going to spend more time on the hunt - including potentially getting frustrated, sulky, etc. How will you feel about either of these?

What if the other woman/women are younger than you? Prettier? Thinner?

What about rules? Can he give/receive oral? Anal? Does he need to use barriers for vaginal and anal but not oral? Does he need to shower before coming home? Brush his teeth before kissing you?

Poly/open causes a TON of relationships to fail. This is in large part due to relationships that are already somewhat rocky trying to repair by opening up. This doesn't at all mean poly is bad. It's no better or worse than monogamy. But it's very, very different.

Now, if you want to experiment, first hire a sex worker for a threesome. You can go out, and like thousands of other newbie curious couples, try and attract a bisexual woman to come play, but you're likely to not be successful for a few reasons.

1. Bi women interested in joining an existing couple for no strings attached sex are so rare that they are nicknamed "unicorns," as in they are mythical creatures who don't exist
   
   
2. speaking as a former unicorn, we are so rare because we too often are treated like disposable fetish dispensers - a body to experiment with and expected to go away, with no regard for our pleasure or emotions. Entering into an existing couple means working within their relationship and all of it's existing nuances - including jealousy. And if all they want is a one time fling, or worse, the man has the stereotypical male wet dream of two women dying for his cock, then my chance of getting anything out of it besides being used and discarded is close to nil. This is extremely high risk with first time couples.
   
   
3. Sex workers know what they are getting into. They seek out with like this, they're amazing at what they do, and they are happy to focus on your pleasure. You don't need to worry about them. Have an amazing time, and process all of the emotions (and you especially, will have a ton) afterwards.
   
   Whatever you do, move SLOW. Go to poly meetups. Read books like Opening Up and The Ethical Slut. Read the poly subreddit.
   
   Be very aware of how dangerous this can be, and how amazing. Poly can open up a world of wonderful partners and amazing sex, but from one woman to another who never had any interest in being open but keeping my husband happy - 4 years later we got divorced.
   
   I was poly myself for a while, but in retrospect it was too try and balance out him. To try and make it so it didn't hurt so much. I can't split my attention, devotion, and love. I got physically and emotionally sick during those awful years, although I constantly lied to myself about how happy poly made me. I have emotional baggage from it. It feels as if I am recovering from adultery at times, but truly, he didn't do poly nessecarily wrong! He is truly poly, and I am deeply not.
   
   I'm now in a mono relationship, which a man who understands that while I can do shared play (foursomes, partner swaps) to an extent, we are far from truly open or poly.

I met my husband during freshman year of college and he was very much like this... the only difference is that he sorta had ambition / goals, but they were a pretty crazy starting point, akin to "I have to be a celebrity artist or it isn't worth me getting a job at all and I should go back and live with my parents". That was the more extreme side of it. But generally, when I asked him what he wanted for his future he would just talk about being an old man who was loved and well regarded by everyone and known for doing something great. But no practical idea of what that great thing would be and no attempt to actually do anything.

I'm not going to lie to you, it was hard. And I suspect the main reason we stayed together during some years was a combination of apathy and shared / familiar neurosis (we later discovered his parents were the exact same flavor of toxicity as my parents). Even when he really realized his problems and was self aware, much of the time he was paralyzed to pull himself out of it. And I stayed because a) I didn't want to give up on the "best of him" and b) he was too familiar a neurosis... we saw the world in the same ways and most people didn't experience things the way we did. Our childhood trauma / alienation was too similar and other people just didn't talk to each other the way we did.

So I did it. I did what everyone told me not to and I followed him into hell... and after burning away quite a few layers of stupid, youthful toxicity, we ended up coming out of it. We have a really strong relationship. And we're always improving (that's our motto essentially), and when one of us is falling back to old ways, the other is both sympathetic but also doesn't allow it to go on for too long.

We've been together 26 years and have a beautiful and successful 12 year old. And we hope to keep improving and growing.

But it really wasn't easy, and there were no guarantees. So I'm going to pose it the way famous writers and directors advise young people about going into their industry: if you can do anything else, do that. But I knew, this was who I wanted. I loved him and despite the scary woods he was lost in, he loved me. So we fought and it was worth it.

But expect everything you do to be delayed. We didn't get engaged until we'd been together 6 years (living together for 2). Didn't even try for kids until our early 30s and once we had our daughter he was in a crisis for much of the first couple years because how can he be a dad when he still feels like a 9 year old. So he wasn't helpful with the baby. He's an awesome dad with the preteen and he's getting better all the time.

At the end of the day, he put in the time and I put in the time and we succeeded. He's kicking butt in leadership at work, gives us as much of him as he can, and still puts in time working on his creative dream (it's just that needs to take a back seat to work and us sometimes). And our 40s have just been spectacular; we've built a great life together. So it can be done. But again, no guarantees.

Things I would suggest if you want to consider this path:

1. you guys need an agreement about talking truth. If he is absolutely determined to not stay in the relationship then you need to know now. Typical frightened male ambiguity is a different beast, but if he's sure it's a "no" then you need to move on.
   
   
2. Develop a language for problem resolution and taking care of business. It sounds unrelated, but if you can get this kind of really important adulting communication down, it makes all the personal stuff so much easier. We use the professional language of work, we have regular meetings every 2 weeks (we use the SCRUM process of project management for managing our "household"; this also includes social or personal things that come up).
   
   
3. Time box it all. Decide absolutely the longest that YOU willing to play this out with no guarantees. But don't tell him. It's not meant to be an ultimatum or pressure tactic (that won't be reliable or honest). This is for you; insurance. All he needs to know is that you are a human being who wants these things in life.
   
   
4. If you are up for some deep reading, check out the book: The Problem of the Puer Aeternus by Marie Louise von Franz because I know that's what I was dealing with and I suspect you're looking at a case of it.
   
   Very long story short, these are charismatic men whose development is frozen in adolescence. They seem exciting, but have very real problems with learning how to be adults and they very much resent the regularity of an occupation. It is a psychological journey to contend with it. The book discusses it in depth (sorry, it's not an easy self-help, but more like an academic lecture) and you can get an understanding of the nature of the problem and what kind of solution strategies can help.
   
   And if you are talking enough truth with him, he may eventually want to read it. It had a profound effect on my husband. He had already started down the path of trying to improve, but this really helped him understand why he saw things so differently from other men.

I am a reader so I did a lot of my learning with books! My mom was not feminine at all, and I realized late in the game all the info I was missing. I freaked out one summer after being snubbed for my friend's super swanky wedding (oh GOD - I'm A MONSTER!) and read maybe 15 books about fashion, etiquette, and being feminine. Here is my run down.

Emily Post is the classic etiquette guide - and my go to wedding gift. Its HUGE but there are great chapters on thank you notes, table manners, greetings, etc. Super classy guide to life. I also read a few books about french fashion and manners - [Lessons from Mme Chic] (http://www.amazon.com/Lessons-Madame-Chic-Stylish-Secrets/dp/1451699379). The author is very feminine and I subscribe to her youtube channel [the daily connoisseur] (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCEnEnLT5wBVnK56QFRg_Iwg). Kate Spade has a few cute guide books about these things too. They were ok - nothing to write home about though. One of my favorite books about male/ female relations is [For Women Only] (http://www.amazon.com/Women-Only-about-Inner-Lives/dp/1590523172). Seriously helped me realize when I could be softer and gentler - and what men really crave to feel fulfilled. After reading it, I feel like I finally understand what men desire out of interactions, even non flirtatious ones.

Also I'm involved in church and I have found so many great women to look up to. My rough edges have softened - but I still am putting my principles into practice. Good luck friend! You can do it!

In the ideal setup of a stay at home parent, she does much more than just directly raise her children. It’s about turning her house into a home, a warm sanctuary, and keeping it that way, spending time to: care for herself (especially regular exercise), cultivate creative hobbies (such as playing an instrument), arts and culture, further her education in healthy, natural, frugal living, plan/execute the family’s cultural, social, entertainment and educational life, often help manage family finances, practice religious disciplines (if she’s religious), perhaps do some work from home if more income is needed, and also volunteering/being charitable in the neighborhood and community. All these things have a immeasurable positive impact on herself, husband, children and future progeny. And, time available for all these things increases once the children are in school.
This was the general stable pattern for eons until only several decades ago. Your SO is trying to point this out.
Perhaps this reading list can expand your perspective on what it means to be a homemaker. (Sorry if it seems like overkill, I just had all these saved up anyway, and the more voices, the better, IMO.)—
Why I Love Being a Homemaker
No One Asked Me if I Wanted to Be a Homemaker
How to Make the Transition from Worker to Homemaker
The Happy Housewife
Why I Don’t Regret Being a Stay-at-Home Mom
Housewives Without Children: Celebrating Life as a SAHW
The Two-Income Trap: Why Parents Are Choosing To Stay Home
7 Myths of Working Mothers: Why Children and (Most) Careers Just Don't Mix
What an At-Home Parent Is Really Worth
With kids off at school, how I answer “So what do you do all day?”
The Art of Homemaking
Being a Stay-At-Home Parent is a Luxury … For Your Spouse
Seven Habits of Highly Successful Homemakers
The 3 Daily Sacrifices of A Homemaker
Homemaking Help 101
Ten Secrets of Becoming a Perfect Homemaker
Practice Makes Perfect: Homemakers are Made, not Born
What Is It Like To Be a Full-Time Homemaker?
How to be a Successful Homemaker…When You Feel Like You Fail at Keeping House
The Benefits of Habits in Your Homemaking
5 Ways to Grow as a Homemaker
How to Be a Better Homemaker
Are you Feeling Frustrated as a Homemaker?
A homemaker’s real salary
Here's How Much It Would Cost To Replace Your Mom
Finding the Courage to Work as a Homemaker, Housewife, or Stay at Home Wife - Even Without Kids!
Why Feminism Wants to Dismantle the Family

Hey, just a dude who makes recipes with different proteins because I have been taking them every day for the last 6 years (at least for breakfast, but even 3 times a day for long periods of time).

The "healthiest" protein shake is hard to say because it all matters what you want to do. If you are looking for the leanest form of protein, a hydrolyzed protein (dymatize whey isolate is a good example) is probably what most would say is the "healthiest" because it doesn't have anything other than the protein, but it also is the fastest to break down, so it's probably not going to help. But since these bars have oats and chocolates, you're probably more interested in the best tasting protein.

I've tried probably over 50 different protein flavors. There are two that I think could be incredible in this recipe would be to give muscle milk "Cake Batter" or "Brownie Batter" a try. They have other flavors like "Peanut butter chocolate", but trust me, these two are the best flavors hands down. They have an extra flavor in them that's almost like butter and, I don't know, hard to explain. You won't believe the difference either of these might make over just vanilla or chocolate.

You can order them off amazon for decent prices, especially if you're ordering a lot of other stuff and get the 20% off bonus through subscribe and save if you start eating them enough to put them on a schedule. I am a constantly hungry person, so another way you can help your SO is helping get fat into his diet. Something like coconut oil on these (or maybe a MCT oil), would be extremely healthy, help with staying full, and would even add taste. Just don't go overboard on it, or it will work in the opposite fashion and make his stomach work too efficiently.

Don't use your phone to browse, especially while walking.

/u/teaandtalk Gave you good advice for how to behave on campus.

Classroom: Take notes by hand. Once, I started a conversation with someone because she had a gorgeous bujo (bullet journal). Good notes make you appear competent. Competence will encourage others to approach you and form study groups, which are easy ways to create a support network on campus. When you are unique (but not distracting) you stand out. Compliments are easy ice breakers in the classroom because they're quick but let you connect over a shared interest.

Transportation/Packing: This one is a big issue for me because my school has a behemoth of a campus. :) Always wear comfortable shoes. If you need to dress up, put heels in your bag for the meeting/event. Only carry the essentials. Invest in a tablet and download electronic copies of your books. Only bring your laptop when you need to use software that's not on a smaller device. Buy a good USB stick. Carry chapstick and water, and a travel-size deodorant and sunscreen. Baby wipes and bandaids are a good idea if you have space. I love JetPens because they have a lot of organizers and cases that are handy. You don't need more than 2 pens, 2 highlighters, a pencil, an eraser, and spare lead.

General: I don't know what year you are, but I recommend Cal Newport's book How To Become A Straight A Student no matter what point of your education you're at. Learn how to save time, because having leisure time means less stress which makes you appear more feminine to men and approachable in general. Practice good self-care and take care of your appearance. Never wear revealing/provocative, dirty, or weather-inappropriate clothes to school; they make you look unprofessional.

// , Men are no longer the keepers of commitment, either.

Rollo Tomassi has written about this, as well.

The situation has become far more intense than Helen Smith predicted: https://www.amazon.com/Men-Strike-Boycotting-Marriage-Fatherhood/dp/1594037620

Here's a link to Rollo's article on the subject, which surprised me a great deal:

https://therationalmale.com/2016/08/21/the-key-masters/

Excerpt:

>For obvious reasons, highly desirable women, women at the peak of their sexual market valuation, are always the least concerned with men’s capacity to commit. They largely have the luxury to be selective, but furthermore the time at which women are at their highest SMV is usually the point at which men are still building upon their own. Eventually, commitment only has an appreciable value to a woman when she is most in need of it; when her SMV is in decline.

>I should also point out that men, the majority being Blue Pill Betas, are the most necessitous of a woman’s commitment when she is at her highest, his is an unproven commodity, and he appreciates the value of a woman’s commitment. Thus, most men look for a stable monogamy in their early to mid 20s, while more mature men who’ve had time to build their SMV into their mid to late thirties tend to be less concerned with monogamy. This is why we hear the constant drone of women bemoaning that highly valuable, supposedly peer-equitable men’s unwillingness to commit and settle down with women aging out of the sexual marketplace. Women are far less concerned with the commitment-readiness of young, unproven men who themselves would commit to even a women in the mid-range of her SMV.

>At the end here, I think it’s time Red Pill men disabuse themselves of the idea that they are the ‘gatekeepers’ of commitment, and rather employ their internalized Red Pill awareness and Game to be the ‘key masters’ of women. While I have no doubt that commitment can be a carrot on the stick for some women, the problem really lies in how that commitment is in anyway valuable and balance that knowledge with the fact that commitment, once given, becomes valueless and taken for granted when it’s established. The fact that you’d commit to a woman isn’t something that carries a relationship, no matter how badly she wanted it from you before.

>There really is no quid pro quo when it comes to commitment or value in believing you’re a gatekeeper of it.
~

Most veggies suck because they lack flavor. Here are 2 examples of things you can make in a pinch.

1. A "Stir Fry" of sorts using House of Tsang sauces. I mention them because they are pretty common and easy to find in just about all grocery stores. if not then Here is a 4 pack Sampler of the most popular ones. We love the Bangkok Peanut Sauce so I'll show the recipe for that since the others are pretty straightforward, as in pour it in at the end.
   
   
   Peanut Chicken Stir Fry
   
   1 Large Breast of Chicken or a couple of boneless Thighs, cut into cubes or thin slices (your choice)
   
   1 Red, Yellow or Orange Bell Pepper, your choice or color, cut into squares (little less than an inch or so).
   1/2 Yellow Onion cut up how you want. Sliced, cubed or those fancy mini-wedges.
   1/2 cup quartered mushrooms. That's like 5 or so.
   2 Scallions/Green Onions slice up all fancy like at an angle
   1 tbsp coconut oil or vegetable oil
   1/2 cup chicken stock
   
   Heat up a good sized fry/saute pan over medium heat. When hot add the oil and then the veggies. Saute for about 5-7 minutes or so, stirring often. After the 5-7 minutes, turn the heat up to medium high and add the chicken and stir around to coat. Saute all of it for about 5 minutes more or when you notice the chicken looks done. (Note: If you thin slice the breast it it will cook really quick. Sliced Thighs and cubed breast will take a bit longer, about 7 minutes.) At the end, add a good glorp (1/4 cup'ish) of the Peanut sauce and stir it in until everything is coated. Then add the 1/2 cup of chicken stock, stir around until you have a nice sauce going on. Let it reach a boil then turn back down to medium and cook for 3 minutes more.
   
   Done
   
   Serve over Rice.
   
   The other stir fry sauces are pretty strait forward. Saute veggies and chicken/beef/pork and when they are done dump in the sauce and coat.
   
   
2. Adding spice combo's such as McCormick's Salad Supreme.
   
   
   Yeah, I know, Salad Supreme makes bland veggies taste awesome when you saute them with it. That and some butter too. We usually do Green Beans and Mushrooms together or Zucchini cut into half moons or quarters depending on how big the thing is. Just add some olive oil, vegetable oil or canola oil. Heat to medium and saute away. Add the Salad Supreme at the beginning so it coats all of the veggies as you saute them. Something happens to the Salad Supreme when it gets heated up and the smell it gives off is really nice.
   
   
   Hope he'll end up liking them.
   
   

As others have said, start small. I'm actually going through the same thing myself and here's what's worked for me:

I paid a pro to shape my eyebrows
I never knew how to groom or shape my eyebrows. I have always kept the strays in check, but they were never shaped and are a bit bushy. I went to a pro, told them I needed The Works and let them do their thing. the difference is amazing! I feel so much more groomed and feminine when I look in the mirror now! Now I have more motivation to work on my hair/makeup/skin because of how much of a difference that one change made, and because those fabulous brows demand a pretty face to go with them! :)

Changed my underwear
I've always tended toward the cheap, comfy undies, but I've realized that underwear can be a pretty powerful tool. I feel so sexy and feminine when I have on a nice, lacy pair of panties and a lacy bra! It changes the way I walk, the way I talk, and the way I act. It's magic! It can be challenging to find pretty panties that don't give you an atomic wedgie, but if you can find comfy ones, they are simply divine! Try getting just one pair and really observe how you feel/act when you're wearing them.

Slow cooker to the rescue
I've had THIS cookbook for a while, but didn't use it much. This week, I sat down for about 20 minutes, picked 3 of the slow cooker recipes, and made a shopping list of about 12 items from it. This will yield me about 18 servings of food for the week with minimal effort. My plan is to dish out individual portions, freeze them, and eat them for lunch and dinner all week long. I think using the slow cooker to get started is going to be really helpful. I don't have to worry about learning any new techniques or about burning it, but it will get me in the habit of cooking and it will improve my knife skills. Once I'm more comfortable, I'll move on to more complicated things. :)

Finances... um yeah...
I'm struggling with this one myself. The only thing I can say is to cut out things you know you don't need or are detrimental to your other goals.
Prime candidates:
Soda
Beer
Partying
Fast food
*Eating out (except with friends - that's investment in relationships)

Try to think of your spending in terms of investment. For example, I recently bought a retinol cream. It was about $20, and my brow shaping was $24. I used to feel bad spending money on things like this, but now I'm trying to frame them as investments in my future self. When you're about to spend money, think "What am I investing in right now?". If you don't have an answer, or if you know that you're actually doing the opposite - maybe you don't need it. I'm sure there are exceptions, but this is the rule of thumb I'm using.

Gym....
Struggling with this one too. I really like lifting. It helped me lose 30lbs once and I feel great when I'm doing it. Problem is that gyms here are expensive and my apartment gym doesn't have barbells.
Only advice I have here is to try a bunch of things and see what you like. Catch is, don't try them once or twice, try them for a month. I hated lifting the first couple times I went. I could barely bench the bar and I hurt SO bad a couple days after. I felt weak and miserable. If I had quit then, I doubt I would have lost that weight, and I wouldn't have discovered that I actually like lifting. It takes a while for your body to adjust. Don't give up too easily. :)

We're only going to start trying next year (January-ish), but I'm already preparing.

My diet is extreme, so you can just completely ignore me on that one. I switched from keto to zerocarb/carnivore last year and I intend to stick with it as much as possible. I love it, but it's not for everyone. I might dabble with keto once I'm pregnant, I'll see how I feel.

Exercise is getting the most attention, though. I spoke to my nail technician about pregnancy and labour today while getting my nails done. She's had two kids. She said that having strong abdominal muscles will help me so much. If you've got strong abs, your baby will be held high up, in a tight bundle. Weak abs will allow the belly to sag and hang low and cause more stretch marks.

I found that so interesting. I started pilates today and will be going three times a week. Strengthening your core muscles, including the muscles supporting the spine, will make for a far more comfortable pregnancy and delivery, or so I'm told.

My friend recommended this book to me, as well: https://www.amazon.com/Taking-Charge-Your-Fertility-Anniversary/dp/0062326031

Good luck!

Guy here. You might want to read Way of the Superior Man. Yes, it's for guys, but I know some women who've read it and liked it. In a nutshell, he talks about feminine energy and masculine presence. They attract and need each other. So if a woman is wondering what she contributes besides sex appeal, energy might be the answer.

I think of it like dancing. The man leads and sets the frame, but the woman provides the energy and flash that makes good dancers look like lovers in ecstasy.

Also, David Deida has another book called It's A Guy Thing: A Owner's Manual for Women. I haven't read it but have heard good things.