(Part 3) Best products from r/TrollXChromosomes

There are a lot of good comments mentioning that you should first take good care of yourself and check if ADHD is an issue.

I consider myself to be on the neurotypical end of spectrum and here's what I got running currently.

Ok, first a word of warning. I have been trying to find different things that work with me for several years so the end result is kind of a mix and match of several things. These most definelty won't work for everyone so don't try them all at once and don't worry if they don't stick. Also, sorry for the wall of text.

At one point I was getting overwhelmed with work and started looking for help online and started with blinkist.com The site offers summaries and the main ideas of several books. I found some interesting ones and got the whole books in to my hands afterwards. I used the free trial to find the most interesting ones and copied them down in to a file for myself :)

The best books I have so far read that have helped me:

The now habit - Neil Fiore
This helped me a lot when I was way over my head any things started to fall out of my hands. It had some great things relating on how you should prioritize time to play and have fun. Actually reserving time for them on your calendar. It helped me with trying to focus getting the first draft done instead of aiming for perfect right away. I also had some good things about being merciful with yourself.

Getting things done - David Allen
A really extensive system. I picked some of the things for my own use but many of the things have fallen out.
The main thing I have currently in use is having categories for tasks and some of the task organizing. Also reviewing the tasks every once in a while is excellent for getting rid of those old tasks that have been hangin on for an eternity as you find that maybe they aren't important after all as you have gotten along quite well without actually doing them.

Your Memory How it works and how to imprve it - Kenneth L. Higbee
An interesting book about the things that affect remembering and learing things. A more recent thing I read and I am still trying to find ways to utilize it. I now know that I got a way to remember things that I abosultely have to but I still rely mainly on other things. By the way, googling the name of the book seems to offer a pdf version of the book.

I wrote some of the main ideas I got from the books for myself to read again if I need it.


Apps in use:

Onenote. This is my main tool with work. ConnieLingus24 mentioned it already and I would recommend it as well. I use the Onenote 2016 desktop app as it seems more stable and has nice add ons when compared with the app found in windows 10 store. I have each new task in it's own page with all the relevant information pasted on the page (the outlook integration is great), the pages are on their own sections grouped by project. I have a main page with a kind of kanban look with tables with links to the tasks. Took some time to set it up but it's infinitely easier to find the information related to tasks afterwards.
Also the Onetastic add on is extremely nice. The onecalendar by itself has saved me time a lot as it shows which pages you have edited in a calendar view. If I know I had a meeting last month I can just search for the proper day and see what pages I have fiddled with that day. I got so excited with the thing that I ended up training others in the office on OneNote.

Wunderlist. This one I use more in my personal life. My day to day things are in a bulletjournal, but all the lists that don't need to be dealt with right now or today but are more like just waiting for the proper time are located there. Also a bonus is that I can share the lists with my SO. We got our reading challenges and knitting challenges up there as we wouldn't otherwise remember what we bet on and what's the prize. Also if I have to run errands and I can't use my bullet journal I tend to write the things for today on wunderlist and check them off in my phone.

The main tool:
Bulletjournal. I tried using google calendar and other things but in the end this was the only one that worked with me. I didn't take all the fancy stuff like mood trackers and what nots on my bujo and I am not too worried about getting it looking pretty. I did but some pictures on the covers but the insides are filled with things I don't want to show others so it doesn't matter how ugly it is inside. No one else is going to see it anyway.
The best parts for me are the future log, monthly log, week log and day log.
I got plans for the long run in the future log, the next and ongoing month in the month logs and with the week log I am forced to see what is going to happen each week a bit in advance.
Each morning I start the day with writing the plan for the current day and it helps a ton. I know what needs to happen and the amount of mental stress from remembering everything is a lot smaller. The most help I have gotten to my productivity has definetly been just because of this. The feeling that things are somewhere down where I can access them without worrying about losing something important is a huge relief. My SO has also felt a lot happier as things we have talked about actually happen as I write them down and get the chance to do them.

TLDR;

Bullet journal is a heaven sent. Be kind to yourself and remember to reserve time for play.

One thing I have learned over the years is that while quality can be expensive, it doesn't have to be. Also, what one person loves and thinks is the "softest set of sheets ever!!!!" can feel like sandpaper to another person. (OK that's two things. Oh well.)

I have major sleep and texture issues, so I have spent a lot of years perfecting my bedding. After much searching and much cost, I ended up finding out that the Target UltraSoft sheets are my second favorite ever (to some discontinued Lands' End knit, their current knit is not the same.) I love that these sheets come in individuals, so you can buy just the ones you need. On the opposite end of the spectrum, I just got a new pillowcase from Sheex at Bed, Bath, and Beyond, and it is amazing. Someday I will get their Bamboo Sheet Set as my summer/alternate sheets.

For blankets, I'm a big fan of the warm fuzzy ones. Target again has some from a couple of their brands (Threshold and Shabby Chic) but I find they're not quite as good quality as they used to be. I have recently acquired a new SherpaSoft blanket from Bed, Bath, and Beyond which is amazing. It is thick, soft, and warm and happened to be on clearance plus I was able to use one of their coupons for it.

I absolutely love a down comforter, but I'm allergic to actual down. I stumbled across the Pinzon Down Alternative comforter at Amazon, I have had mine for nearly 5 years and it is still in excellent condition. Duvet cover is super personal depending on style, but if you have a thing for flannel, I highly recommend the Pinzon flannel duvet cover as well. Another thing I've had for years and love, the Pinzon 190-gram is my favorite flannel, even above LL Bean and Lands' End.

Due to some surprise issues (hello, holes in my former (not the Target) favorite sheets!) I also ended up going on a spree and replacing some bedding basics last weekend. I have a memory foam topper on my mattress, which means I needed a cotton mattress pad/cover otherwise my topper turned into a heat-generating slab of concrete. I tried something from a local store that didn't work, ended up back at Amazon for the Zen Bamboo Ultra Soft Mattress Topper. Slept on it last night and it was fabulous.

And finally, after a couple of failures, I stumbled across this adjustable! pillow from Coop Home Goods on Amazon, which is absolutely amazing. I like a soft pillow but need neck support, but most pillows are too thick for me. I love that you can simply zip the pillow open and remove a bit of the fill, or add more if you like a firmer pillow (they sell additional fill linked from the pillow page.)

Congratulations on your new house, and good luck with your bedding shopping! A well-attired bed makes the whole experience so much nicer.

Yes! You can read the whole series for free as well! Playing with Power - Book 1

I know it's a shameless plug, but I'm so excited and proud of it. I've always hated those billionaire books where the weak woman is saved by some rich guy. I love the idea of people falling into a fantasy where the protagonist is strong, flawed, but trying.

Lauren is a clever programmer in New York City. She has an asshole boss, a great but less-than-understanding boyfriend, and dreams of creating something better for herself. Whatever happens in her life, she's making it happen.

> Prologue

> It’s difficult to pinpoint the best moments in life until after they’re gone. The fondest memories aren’t always announced. They don’t come with balloons and feasts and circled dates on the calendar. Instead, they’re a collection of everyday things we only miss when they’re gone or have irrevocably changed. Unaware how special each minute can be, people rush through their lives confident that the best is yet to come. Lauren was no exception. Not knowing it then, as their car sped down the highway, she was leaving the last vestiges of her adolescence behind. Years later, Lauren would look back to that trip with Nick and feel a bittersweet twinge of regret. She’d think, If only I’d known then how quickly things would change, I would’ve held on tighter, remembered more.
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> The roar of the open windows reduced the music to a loud, wordless melody. Lauren leaned against the head rest, her dark hair whipping in the wind, and closed her eyes. It was a day that felt somewhere between spring and summer, a clear blue sky with a warm sun. The traffic on the highway was light, a pleasant surprise as they drove into the city on a Sunday afternoon. Nick grabbed her hand and kissed her fingers, pulling his eyes from the road for a second to grin at her.
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> “You can’t fall asleep now, we’re almost at your favorite spot,” he said, his blue eyes sparkling.
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> “You can’t blame me. You barely let me sleep this entire weekend.”
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> “It’s not my fault I can’t keep my hands off of you! Stop being so sexy.”
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> Lauren reached her arms above her head and stretched. Two hours in their cramped rental car and she just wanted to be done. “It was really nice to get away just for a couple days. I never noticed how quiet the country is until we moved—or how dark.”
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> “You know, we could have that all the time,” he said coyly, tiptoeing around a topic he knew was volatile.
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> She sighed. “We spent all weekend talking about this. I’d really rather not rehash it. We made a decision together, remember?”
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> “I know, I was just thinking aloud, didn’t mean anything by it.” He slipped his sunglasses down and scowled. Lauren rolled her eyes and stared out the front, hating that he made her feel like a mother putting her foot down. Her bad mood didn’t last long because just over the next hill was something she’d been waiting to see for hours.
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> The New York City skyline slipped into view. Even if it meant going out of the way to get there, Lauren always made sure to enter the city from the same direction for just a glimpse. The whole of Manhattan stretched along the horizon. From the Freedom Tower on the right to the cluster of soaring, iconic buildings in midtown, to the void where she knew Central Park rested. The awesome sight made her feel significant and insignificant all at once. To be one of millions living in one of the greatest cities on Earth, struggling to make it, to succeed—the skyline embodied all that and more.
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> “There it is,” Nick said casually, as if she liked it for the same reasons everyone else did. Lauren knew he’d never understand. To her, that urban landscape was like an affirmation. It was where all her hopes and dreams would come true.
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> The road dipped and curved, the brief view now obscured. She didn’t know it but that would be the last time she’d look on that skyline with the hopeful optimism of youth. The next time her eyes fell on that outline, her life would be one big adult mess.

Even more Amazon reviews for the retractible version

> I accidentally grabbed one of these pens (the lovely purple one) out of my wife's purse and instantly got my period. Now I'm feeling bloated and weepy.

> For those who haven't actually tried this pen, it is easy to make fun of. I LOVE this pen. When I click on it, it sometimes releases an eraser-sized nub of chocolate. At other times, a Fabio-like voice in dulcet tones says "Math eez hard. But you can do it" or "Take a break. Ez time too watch Dr. Phil!". It really just gives me the extra motivation to go on with my day. Also, it has amazing built-in smart technology! When I see my patients using this pen, the pen automatically detects the awkward situation because it knows to say "Do not worry, the real doctor will be in soon." Thankfully, the pen then signals to my male colleague, who will arrive with his "For Him - Bic Magnum" pen, designed to write OVER "For her" scribbles. Lives saved. Thanks, Bic!!!

So, I'm not an expert or anything, but I can recommend to you what I did/bought when I was younger. Like you, I had a pap smear before ever having penetrative sex. It was not fun to say the least. Like another commenter said, vaginal walls can tighten when a woman is stressed out. They expand when a woman is relaxed/aroused.

For my first toy, I bought a small bullet vibrator. Whenever I was aroused, I'd use it on my clit. This kept up for a good while, and then one day I was super aroused and wanted to insert it a bit. It was so slim that I was able to do so without discomfort. I also took it slowly and went just a tiny bit at a time until I had almost the whole thing inside. I was so damn proud of myself.

This vibrator is pretty much exactly like the one I had. (It has since died. RIP) It was relatively quiet on the lower settings, too. There's nothing worse than trying to be discreet with a gasoline-powered, pull-start Cockinator 2000.

Much love and luck to you as you continue on your sexual journey. And don't worry about your sex drive being "low." It's different for everyone, and it fluctuates quite a bit throughout your life. As you continue to explore yourself, you may find yourself becoming aroused more easily and more often.

Would a vulva be off limits?

Yea? Bummer... Better check out something else like the Thug Kitchen cook book which is more really cool cook book than gag gift: http://www.amazon.com/Thug-Kitchen-Official-Cookbook-Like/dp/1623363586/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1459371336&sr=8-1&keywords=thug+kitchen

Or maybe poo poo pourri! I love these things: http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_c_0_7?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=poo+poo+pourri&sprefix=poo+poo%2Caps%2C430


Or maybe an inflateable unicorn horn for her cat!!!

They're like 3 bucks on amazon!! I have 2 of them. BEST feeling ever, and actually helps with my migraines!
What an investment! I'll take eight!!

I use this. It's pretty much the best thing ever. I found it at Walmart for like 10 bucks.

The Amazon reviews for those pens are pretty hilarious, too

Yeah, I like to wear shorts under my dresses because I'm both a bit taller than average and I have a big booty. Both lift hemlines a little higher and I don't want to worry about being embarrassed. I was really excited when I found tight ones with pockets because I can't wear my loose gym shorts under the tight dresses.

These are the ones I take for the purpose of growing amazing hair, even on my lip.

This book should be in her library. It's awesome and age-appropriate.....with pictures!

A few resources off the top of my head:

https://nutritionj.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/1475-2891-10-9

http://downloads.hindawi.com/journals/jobe/2014/983495.pdf

And books I found very helpful in fleshing out these issues:

https://www.amazon.ca/Body-Truth-Science-Obsession-Weight/dp/0738218820

https://www.amazon.ca/Body-Respect-Conventional-Health-Understand/dp/1940363195/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_14_img_1?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=XHXDHBK4DZWS3BPCTM27

Cue the "for her" items too, like Bic For Her pens. Major props to the trolls who wrote those hilarious reviews at the bottom

https://www.amazon.com/Farmacy-Moisture-Hydrating-Coconut-Cucumber/dp/B0178HZ8PO?th=1

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I found it. I was also curious, will buy some to see how much I'll look like Michael Myers.

I dunno what BearPaw boots are, but my mind went to [this](https://www.amazon.com/Fuzzy-Black-Bear-Slippers-Women/dp/B07CRB5NQ4) and I hope it's what you were wearing.

This stuff is amazing. Bonus: you can also use it as makeup primer!

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0012ZNSWE/ref=pd_aw_sim_hpc_1?pi=SL500_SS115

Bought this stuff, never looked back since :)

Yes! Or you get one of those fancy razors with a trimmer on the back...

Haha it's not like he's extremely against it or anything, I always send him links to random cat stuff that I argue Dany (cat) "needs," like ridiculous cat towers or this. It's more of me teasing him than anything else, though I am knitting her a scarf now. :]

But surely they can write down their own questions with their own pens so they won't forget!
I might have made up this super lame comment just so I could bring back the ridiculousness of this product, the hilarious questions in the Q&A section, and the crazy reviews.

The real deal, have your SO use this on your noggin, I've never made my wife make faces like she does when i use this on her (eyes roll back):

http://www.amazon.com/Scalp-Massager-Body-Back-Company/dp/B001IHXFQK

I've heard about them. Sounds worth checking out.

I'm not into anything jelly, though. This is the one I have now, and it's nice, but again, too much vibration.

Still available. http://smile.amazon.com/BIC-Fashion-Retractable-Assorted-Fashion-FHAP21-ASST/dp/B005YGLA5Y/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8

Don’t worry, BIC has you covered!!!

^^^psst ^^^read ^^^the ^^^reviews