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Confidence is one of (m)y biggest factors for sexiness, but it's very difficult to just become confident. I didn't get it for years, and the only confidence I gained was through observing true badasses and a general feeling of adulthood after finally getting my career and life on track.

Not giving a fuck is actually a really difficult thing to pull off, and many people given as examples of "how to not give a fuck" do it very poorly.

The fake-it-till-you-make-it adage does work, to some degree. When interacting with women (or whomever you're interested in), act as if you're already in a committed relationship - you don't need to tell people you're taken, just give yourself a little mental reminder that you're interacting with this person in a sex-free context. They have nothing you want, because you're already very happy. Almost immediately the way you act will change - at least, it did for me. Having nothing to prove to someone makes a huge difference in how the relationship works.

(The above advice worked for me, so I gave it. It won't work for everyone, and if executed improperly you can come off as one of those /r/redpill douchebags.)

Attractiveness is something that people incorrectly believe you're just born with. Part of it is genetics, I won't deny that - but even Vin Diesel could look like shit if he stopped taking care of himself.

Take some personal pride in your appearance, and stop focusing on the negatives. Physical things, even if it looks like you got hit in the face with a brick: if you've got clear skin, good hair, an easy smile and good posture you'll be far ahead of someone without those last four.

(A) Take care of your skin. Lots of dudes with acne would actually look pretty decent if they just took care of themselves. Figure out what kind of skin you have and learn how to take care of it. Stop popping blackheads and zits, the red bumps and bloody craters left behind are even worse than the zit was. If it doesn't pop from a hot shower and some exfoliating then it wasn't ready. Wash your pillowcases regularly, if you don't then every night you're grinding oil into your face.

(B) Take care of your hair. Use some goddamn conditioner already! And yes, that's every day. Even the super-cheap Suave stuff is better than nothing. I keep my hair short so I don't use any, but consider using some gel or mousse to keep your hair where you want it. If you don't know how or what to do, go to a salon and get a haircut. When you're done, ask them for styling tips.

(C) Practice facial expressions in the mirror. No, I am not joking. People will naturally gravitate to others who look genuine and happy. There really isn't any trick here, just look at some photos of yourself and smile in the mirror. Don't like it? Change it until you do, and then remember how that felt. Fake smiles are with the mouth only, a real smile also gets your eyes and eyebrows involved. Keep your eyebrows up to make yourself look interested and approachable. Keep your eyes open, it helps make you feel awake and a half-closed eye usually means you're tired, disinterested, drugged or plotting some evil.

(D) Keep your damn posture up! This is one of those from the bottom up sort of things that has synergistic effects with almost everything you do. Imagine you have a rope tied to the top of your head - now let all your weight hang from that rope. Your chin goes up, your back straightens, your shoulders roll back, your eyes look forward instead of down, your ribcage expands, your hands fall to your sides instead of forward, your feet put their weight on the balls instead of the heels. This is a huge thing you have just done. Do not stop doing it. Seriously, if you don't believe me then take some photos. There is a marked effect, and people notice it subconsciously.

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Drive is sexy. It's difficult to define, but that's because I've only recently gotten it. The best description I can come up with is being an adult. That sounds dumb, but it's a bigger thing than I thought it was.

Guys are stereotypically told they should mow lawns, hunt buffalo, be the primary breadwinner of the family, fight for their GF's honor, all that jazz. Those are all superficial representations of a strong, driven individual. Somehow this concept got turned into an aggressively sexist meathead jock ideal, so these last few generations of men have grown up without a strong leader role to look up to. That's how come we have so many manchild know-nothing do-nothing types like Will Ferrell, Seth Rogen, Jonah Hill, Michael Cera and all their buddies. None of them are sexy, and it's because they're all still children.

Having drive is about finding a goal and achieving it. Don't just do it once, do it relentlessly. Never be without a job, and always be giving an honest effort toward that job. Doesn't matter what it is, it's the ability to do things that makes you a driven person.

Don't like your body? Hit the gym - this is now your goal. Don't like your job? Get a new one - and no, you don't need schooling for that. Don't like your place? Clean it, fix it up, renovate it.

When I was a kid, I was a manchild. My dad kept trying to make me do jobs and work, and I resisted it because I didn't understand what he was trying to do. I thought it was about jobs that needed to be done. Yes, part of it is that - but the larger part is about the feeling you get when you have made reality your bitch. See that wall? Yeah, that wall is there now. I put it there. Framed, leveled, ran electrical, drywalled, painted and trimmed. Me. I did that shit, and from now until the end of the universe I will have left a lasting mark on the world.

This is why I've largely given up video games. Yeah, they're fun - but there's more to feeling good than just the heh, nice of a headshot. When you turn the system off, everything else leaves with it. There's no permanence, and eventually it just leaves you feeling powerless and inadequate. Why? Because nothing you've achieved has any permanence at all.

Drive is also something you have to be careful with. Several times I've been really happy with myself and how much I'm getting done - only to realize that people were using my get-shit-done abilities to their advantage. That's the point where you need to stick up for yourself and make your own decisions. This isn't about being unilateral or selfish, this is about YOU deciding what to do with YOUR time. Be jealous with your man-hours and use them on projects that make you happy, not enabling someone else's lack of motivation.

There's very little in the world more manly and fucking badass than being able to tell someone diplomatically and confidently: "You'll have to take care of that yourself, I've got more important things going on." Instant +500 manhood.

Change your pillowcase every night. Throw the dirty ones in with your laundry, grab a clean one nightly. You can also use a fresh towel over your pillow, but just having several pillowcases is softer, for my face at least.

You spend around 8 hours of every day rubbing your face into that pillowcase, it makes sense that it gets filthy with oils that can clog your skin.

If you have long hair, keep it off your face. If you commonly lean on your hand (I do this when I am reading or chilling in bed with my laptop), try and break the habit, or put something over your hand so you aren't rubbing the dirt and oils into your pores. Try not to rub your face too much, use a Buf-Puf (or something similar) gently when washing your face.

Apply a toner to your face in the morning and before bed after washing your face with a face wash. Apply the toner with a cotton ball.

Yep! Something like this. But you can get them at any drugstore.

You've had some interesting experiences! Aveeno is renowned for (typically) being better for sensitive skin, and bare minerals is sold at sephora, it's not cheap but not the most expensive by far. I used it for a long time, it certainly didn't make me break out, lol. It does have a lot of copycats, though, so maybe you had bought one of those?

There's definitely nothing wrong with sticking to drugstore/walmart/target brands, they've got plenty of good stuff too. I've been buying the same Maybelline mascara forever, Loreal nail polish is my favorite formula, and burts bees and EOS lip balms are pretty much universal favorites too.

Urban Decay is definitely a 'prestige' (spendy) brand, it just happens to be my favorite so that's why I used it as an example. Like my oily nose. /r/MakeupAddiction is probably the best subreddit for all the know-how you could ever want; if you take a look at their sidebar they have HG (holy grail) product lists for all different budgets and skin types, plus tutorials. The internet is a beautiful place.

Regarding your skin, if you typically only cleanse regularly and you've still got that dead skin shedding going on, you might try adding an exfoliator once or twice a week. I think most people use creams or gels for this (St Ives Apricot Scrub is classic, Target makes a generic version for like $2), but you can also get manual exfoliators like the Buf Puf. I think you've already read about how those pore strips are actually worse for your skin than most people think. Oh, and there's /r/SkincareAddiction for allllll the skin stuff, if you want to check that out. Whew! Best of luck in your journey! :)